Page Turner's Blog, page 86

To All the Petamours I’ve Loved Before

A new term has sprung to prominence recently, spurred on by a meme that’s going around. Petamours. The exact meaning of the term isn’t clear. It’s already being used a variety of ways. But from what I can tell, “petamour” is a term for a pet that is in your life because of your polyamorous social connections.  » Read more

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“Don’t Worry, I’ll Take Care of It”

“Don’t worry,” you say. “I’ll take care of it.”

I’m sick. Suffering from a hemiplegic migraine. The left side of my body has betrayed me once again by putting out its own lights. I knew I was in trouble the moment that the aura started. I did my best to close my eyes and relax.  » Read more

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How to Follow Your Gut Ethically

Every so often, an unpleasant cycle repeats. Someone new hits my local kink and/or poly circles, someone that I’ll meet and instantly have a bad feeling about.

Exactly why I’ll get that hinky feeling will change each time. Maybe this new person is a little too insistent and seems prone to pushing past people’s non-sexual boundaries.  » Read more

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I Never Realized How Often I Hold My Breath

I never would have noticed on my own, but I hold my breath a lot. The only reason I know this is because my partner has been pointing out to me when I hold my breath.

He’ll typically do this by saying something like “breathe” or “stop holding your breath.”

And apparently it’s a lot.  » Read more

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Who Gets Suspicious About a Partner’s Social Media Activity?

I recently featured a letter from someone concerned that their boyfriend might be conducting a secret affair based on their social media activity. After I featured that letter, I got a ton of response from readers weighing in on their thoughts.

Many of them were frankly surprised that someone could become so concerned based on their partner’s social media activity (in this specific case,  » Read more

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Apologies Are Far Less Helpful Than Not Offending Someone in the First Place

Very few social lives experience no conflict whatsoever. Chances are if you have enough friends are socially well connected enough you’ve run into a situation (or two or three) where someone has done something to offend someone else.

And once a social transgression has been made, it’s up to the parties involved to figure out how they want to make up —  » Read more

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I’m a Sucker for People Who Are Passionate About Learning New Things

So much has been made of tall, dark, and handsome. Or of having a certain ratio of measurements. But that’s not what makes my chest ache.

Instead, I find am a sucker for people who are passionate about learning new things. About random knowledge. People who not only absorb trivia or focus on minutiae —  » Read more

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FOMO, JOMO, and the Reality of Constant Comparison

FOMO: (noun) Fear of Missing Out. Anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on a social media website.

JOMO: (noun) Joy of Missing Out. Feeling of contentment due to staying in and disconnecting, can be considered an act of self-care

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Comparison.  » Read more

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Change Is Hard When It Means Rejecting the Self that You Were

Several years back, I woke up one morning feeling like my life was all wrong for me. It was a bit like I’d gone to sleep one size and woken up the next day having gained countless pounds but still wearing the same clothing I’d worn to bed.

It was my clothes (and my life),  » Read more

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Learning to Be Polyamorous Isn’t As Hard as Unlearning What You Were Taught About Relationships

Can you learn to be polyamorous? the reader asks.

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Yes, you can.

Well, sort of.

Because so much of the work I did in my early days as a polyamorous person wasn’t about learning polyamory but about unlearning what I’d been taught about relationships.  » Read more

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