Page Turner's Blog, page 83

Positive Childhood Experiences, the Flipside of Trauma

Just about everyone is familiar with the concept of traumatic childhood experiences, as well as how they can profoundly shape a person’s life well into adulthood.

What’s far less familiar is another, opposite concept: Positive childhood experiences.

A recent study dug into the prevalence of positive childhood experiences as well as their role in mental health later on life.  » Read more

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September 21 Is World Gratitude Day

Hey folks, a bit of an unusual post for a Friday.

Tomorrow, September 21, is World Gratitude Day.

Gratitude is one of those things that are utterly vital to our emotional health and happiness but entirely easy to miss in the midst of a thousand other concerns, responsibilities, stresses.

Remembering to say thank you and to appreciate the good people and things in your life is a bit like remembering to drink enough water.  » Read more

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The Fine Art of Being Happy When Other People Aren’t

Caring about other people’s happiness is often framed like a virtue.

Good people care that other people are happy. And they especially care that the ones they love are happy.

In fact, some would argue, whether you care about another person’s happiness could very well be what defines love.

The trouble with happiness is that it comes and goes as it pleases.  » Read more

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When Worrying, Remember You Don’t Get Credit for Time Served

I’ll let you in on a little secret: There are times when no matter what you do, an issue is going to be ambiguous. You’re not necessarily going to get clarity or answers that satisfy you completely.

Maybe you’re worried that your partner doesn’t find you attractive anymore. And maybe you’ll find yourself embarking on a fact-finding mission.  » Read more

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Even If the Words “I Love You” Are Magic, It’s Unclear Which Spell Is Being Cast

I can remember being a little girl and dreaming about what it would be like to have romantic relationships.

I was that kind of little girl. I longed to have someone with me at all times, who was deeply interested in me, what I had to say, what was going on in my life and in my heart (and I,  » Read more

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You Can Date Your Friends, But Don’t Date All of Your Friends

Sometimes people ask me how I got into writing books about relationships, blogging for a large audience, giving advice.

People always seem to be hoping for some backstory in which I had some kind of grand vision. In which I shot forward with the unbridled determination of an activist and an ideologue for kink and non-monogamy.  » Read more

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Flow State, Hyperfocus, and Losing Yourself in a Task

Have you ever been so completely focused on a task as you were doing it that you completely lost track of where you were? So absorbed in completing something that you looked up only to find that hours had passed?

I certainly have. During the most gratifying, fulfilling writing sessions and also during certain times when I was composing music.  » Read more

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Night Owls Start Having Sex at An Earlier Age and Have More Sex in General

If you know enough people, you likely know of ones who are on all different schedules, practically speaking as well as energetically speaking. There are some people who are night owls, who are fuzzy in the morning and find that they are more alert, awake, sharp and focused at night.

And there are others who are morning people.  » Read more

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The Idea That There Might Be Nothing Wrong With Me Is the Scariest Thought of All

“You have to be careful about what you fix….If you irrigate a desert, you might empty a sea. It’s a complicated business, fixing things.”

-Percival Everett, “The Fix”

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I’ve been told basically the same thing from a number of people in a variety of different ways: That there’s nothing wrong with me.  » Read more

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That Morning When You Wake Up and Different Music Is Playing

That morning when you wake up and different music is playing, you’ll feel lighter than you have in years.

Things will make sense. You’ll feel like you belong. But not in a way that you disappear by fitting in. You won’t just blend in with the scenery.

No, you’ll be a major character in the scene.  » Read more

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