Betty Dodson's Blog, page 30

Poly & Need to Help Female Partner with Jealousy Issues

Dear Dr. Betty,

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How Can I Learn NOT To Be Sexually Jealous?

Want to Open Our Relationship But I'm Jealous of My Husband Being with Another Woman

How Can I Ever Come To Understand Polyamory?

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When It Comes to Sex with Another Person My Libido Goes Out the Window

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a huge fan of your website and all the information you share, I forward it to all my girlfriends and it has sparked interesting and sometimes heated discussions over wine, dinners and group e-mails. I love that more and more women are talking about our own sexuality and masturbation and partner sex.

Here's my problem, as sexual a person as I am, or at least used to be, I haven't had sex with a partner for one and a half years. I don't feel like it's healthy for me, It's also never happened since I was fifteen years old (I'm twenty eight now). I've always had some form or another of sexual interaction, both with men and women. But I now feel like that silly girl after a break up (it really was an awful break up) who is afraid of intimacy.

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I Needed to Make Myself Vulnerable

How Do I Get Over my Sexual Inhibitions?

After Devastating Break Up I'm Faking Orgasms

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Is It Different Having Sex with an Older Person?

Hi Aunt Betty!

Hope everything is at the best it can possibly for you! I've written to you over the years and always get the advice I need, for this, I am eternally grateful. I do hope to join you and Carlin for a bodysex workshop in the near future!

The reason for writing is due to my recent involvement with an older man. I am 20, he is in his mid-60s. I worked at a coffee shop he'd visit every morning before work. I was always into elderly gentlemen, so I was attracted to him instantly. So you can imagine how happy I was when I learned it was mutual. He's a very sweet, charming individual who does a wonderful job of stimulating my mind.

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Met Someone Perfect for My First Partnersex But He's Older

Almost Exclusively Attracted to Older Women

Am I Too Young For a May-December Lesbian Fling?

How To I Handle Reactions to my May-December Relationship?

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Is There Some Way I Could Go Back to Needing Less Intense Pressure Directly on My Clit?

Hi Dr. Betty:

I have been using vibrators on my clit since I was about 20 (before that I was a dedicated squeeze/pressure/tension gal). I'm now 40. Over the years, I find that I have to bear down and apply more and more direct vibration in order to get any sort of stimulation that builds. I'm not after speed of orgasm here, just trying to find a way to get myself off/let a partner get me off. I'm reliably orgasmic - but only with enough firm direct stimulation. I'm the one who holds the vibe tightly and directly against my clit and wishes I could press it tighter - just to have a chance to feel something.

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Betty's Rock 'n Roll Orgasm Technique

Am I Ruined Forever From Too Much Clit Pressure?

Too Much Pressure and Too Much Thinking = No Orgasm

How to Best Use a Vibrator

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Is It Possible to Get ED From Watching Porn in Moderation During Masturbation?

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm a 35 year-old man living in Brooklyn, New York. I've constantly been on your site for years now and it's helped me out a lot. I've subscribed to DodsonandRoss on facebook and I recently purchased your book "Orgasms For Two": The Joy of Partner Sex"and I love it. It's difficult to put it down.

Anyway getting to the point, I have a question about masturbation and pornography. I watch pornography sporadically (2-3 times a week) and practice my come control whenever I masturbate to it. I'm able to go on for a long time whenever I masturbate to watching porn. I don't have a girlfriend yet nor a sex partner yet, but my main concern is, if it's possible to get ED from watching porn in moderation while masturbating.

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It Won't Satisfy You. It Will Only Jack Up Your Brain

Pornography Has the Power to Portray New Lifestyle Choices & Gender Roles

Am I Watching Too Much Porn?

How Do I Maintain My Erection?

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I Can't Let Go & Relax When a Partner Starts to Please Me

Dear Betty

I've recently delved into partnersex and I've run into a big problem. I can't seem to let go and enjoy what's happening.

I am aware my pleasure is worth my partners time and is every bit as important as theirs. But every time a partner of mine starts to please me, I can't let go and relax. I keep thinking things like: "Don't be selfish and only receive for too long, you musn't get greedy". I know this is silly, I should just enjoy their touches and kisses.

I don't know how to stop worrying about what they're thinking all the time and enjoying the action. I love to have sex, but sometimes it can start to feel like a chore because of this mindset. How do I change it?

Dear N,

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When Safety & Relaxation are Present, Sexual Arousal has a Greater Chance of Taking Hold

How Do I Relax During Sex and Orgasm?

How Can I Connect to Pleasure?

How Do I Help My Lovers Relax & Enjoy All Types of Sex?

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He Told Me His Brother Tried to Give Him a Hand Job & It Bothers Me

Hello Betty,

I'm 19 years old and I have a boyfriend of 1 and 1/2 years. I think of myself as open minded but something my boyfriend told me awhile back has really been bothering me. I'll listen and accept pretty much anything my boyfriend tells me no matter how weird it is. Except when he told me that his brother had tried to give him a handjob as a "I bet I can make you cum" bet when he was younger and his brother still lived in the house w/ him (His brother is 26 now moved out and has his own career)

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Kink is So Fundamental to Our Sexual Identity That It Has to be an Orientation

Are Incest Fantasies Normal?

I'm Devoting This Blog Post to Exploring the Subject of Incest

Feeling Guilty & Wondering if Childhood Sex Play was Abuse

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