Betty Dodson's Blog, page 28

How Can I Become More Comfortable Being Adventurous?

Hi Betty,

I have recently come across your website and think its great what you ladies are doing! Its not often you come across support like this.

So I have been with my partner for almost 2 years now and over that time I personally have become more confident sexually with him. I haven't been too adventurous sexually to be honest but now I want to try a few new things. He used to ask that we try anal but as I have never tried, I kept avoiding it, now after so long it's as if he has almost given up trying.

He also doesn't come when I give him head, although he seems to enjoy it, sometimes I just feel like I am bobbing up and down and not achieving anything!

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How Do You Keep the Rhythm Going & Keep Your Mind Focused on the Fantasy?

Hello Betty,

I have asked many a question on here and have received many a wonderful answer, so I am confident that you can help me with this: I am a female guilty of tension orgasms. I just watched your video on Too Many Quickies, and I am willing to slow down in my masturbation practice, but I only ask how do you keep the fantasy alive?

When I have tried you method of orgasm, I would focus on my breathing and body movement (which was good) but I would get distracted. How do you keep that rhythm going and keep your mind focused on the fantasy?

Thanks in advance, and I hope one day we can talk about sex without all the shame and bullshit. Viva Masturbation!

-E.

Dear E,

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Did My Vibrator Break My Clit?

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been having some problems with the sensitivity of my clitoris lately and hope you can give me some advice with my situation. I'm 21.

2 or 3 Months ago out of boredom I ordered some sex toys online. After some excessive trying them out and using too much pressure with a new vibrator on my clit and inner walls of my vagina, I noticed I got rather numb around that area after orgasm (nothing too unusual yet for me). But after a few days I felt that my clitoris sensitivity was almost gone.

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How Do I Get Comfortable with Intimacy?

Hi Betty,

Like many other young women on your website I am very grateful for the information you make available to us. It's great to get so many different opinions on topics that very few people want to talk openly about.

I have a question that isn't directly sex-related but I was hoping you might be able to give me some insight. I am 21 and and although I have been an active masturbator for some time, I certainly don't have the same history with relationships.

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I Can Only Get Aroused if I'm High

Hi!

I'm 17 years old and I'm from Brasil, so chances are my english is not very good, sorry about that. So I've done sex for the first time last year. At first I didn't know very well what I was doing, but after searching a little (and finding your videos) things got much clearer for me. It took me some time and self discovery to be able to have an orgasm and it felt great. But then I tried having sex after smoking pot and it felt like ten times better.

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Was it Wrong of Me to Hate My Pregnancy & Birth?

Dear Betty,

This is not truly a sex related question, but it does bother me quite a lot. I had a baby, a beautiful daughter, 5 months ago. She is the light of my life and I am so ecstatic to have her.

So, while I was pregnant, I spent a lot of time on the Internet, reading about mothers and mothers to be, and about their pregnancies and births. I have continued this activity still, including reading what Carlin writes about her pregnancy. All of the things I read said that the mothers loved being pregnant, that giving birth was one of the joys of life, how happy the were to be pregnant. And I feel extremely guilty.

Why?

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Viewing Your Vulva is the First Step to Becoming a Fully Orgasmic Woman

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One of my favorite moments in every private session and Bodysex workshop is viewing women’s sex organs. Just think: I’ve been doing this ritual nearly fifty years and never for one moment have I gotten tired of seeing the vast variety and beauty of vulvas. Each and every one is a unique work of art. This is when I appreciate my years of art schooling learning to draw the classical nude. There was no better way to sharpen my ability to see the over-all form as well as the smallest details.

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What a Joy to be Back in the Priestesses Temple of Pleasure

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Last August I was gifted a six day Xmas Cruise to the Caribbean sponsored by the Nation Magazine by my favorite couple in Door County. I’d be assured of meeting open minded folks who would be liberal in their political thinking. I also arranged to have my apartment painted while I was gone which was a great way to kick off the New Year.

ONE: My fear of traveling alone was the main thing I wanted to confront. After all, I’d had 10 years with Eric followed by 10 years with Carlin who both arranged and kept track of details on all of our trips. If I didn’t break through at 85, I’d be dependent on someone for every trip from here on in. To be honest, I was afraid to go. Fear continues to teach me important lessons. I was growing soft in my “old age.”

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I Think About Engaging in Mutual Masturbation with Another Woman

Betty,

I appreciate your straight forward, candid approach of breaking down all these barriers and just putting it out there like it is.

So as I am discovering, I am one of the more rare here. I will be 50 in a few days and just recently discovered the benefits and joys of enjoying myself. I have been married close to 30 years to the same man, only sexual partner, several children and never once had solo sex. Such practices were taboo growing up, it is probably the reason for having to deal with so many issues of low self esteem, poor relationship skills etc.

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He Can't Ejaculate When I'm Performing Oral Sex

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm not too sure where to start with my question, so I guess I'll just start typing and get to the question when i get to it.

My boyfriend and I are in a long-term relationship with a D/s dynamic. We both love the kinkier side of things ^_^

At one point early on, we both thought it would be fun for me to undertake a kind of training schedule...you know, getting used to anal play (which i do very much enjoy!), practicing with deepthroat, etc.

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