Betty Dodson's Blog, page 22

I Discovered the Bottom Line of Sexual Repression

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When I self published Liberating Masturbation I had no idea how dramatically my life would change. Over night I became a spokesperson for this basic activity that America had demeaned, condemned and religions named a sin. Oh, I was a sinner alright, but being raised by atheist parents, I paid little attention to organized religions.

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"Masturbation Is Not New to Me. Empowered Masturbation Is"

Betty Dodson Took Me Back to the Purity of My Childhood Masturbation

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How Do I Help Her Understand Consent?

Dear Dr Betty

I found your website about a year ago and have tried writing many times. (None of which I have sent). You and everyone who contributed there has helped me accept myself in so many ways and I cannot thank you enough for the wonderful work you do.

I actually have two questions for you. The first one is concerning something my friend did that I have mixed feelings about and another is about the new BDSM lifestyle my partner and I are trying out.

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Is It Anti-Feminist to Get Breast Implants?

Hi Betty,

Like many women in today's society, I struggle with body confidence. Through the internet (and wonderful sites like your own), I'm able to see many more women's bodies than what the media portrays which admittedly has helped my confidence. However, I struggle with something most women probably don't even know about. I have a mild(ish) condition of tuberous breast deformity.

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What Do You Think About Nurturing & Gender Roles in Hetero-Adult Relationships?

Hi Betty,

I know that this blog is about sex...and what you have to say about it is mind-blowing and paradigm-shattering, for me. Because of your unique viewpoint, I would love to hear your opinion on a question I have about women's roles.

What is your opinion about the role (if any) that nurturing should play in a woman's relationship with her (male) partner? Once, after I had been with a partner many years, (and things were already getting rocky) he said, jokingly,' that it was my job to keep him from getting anxiety and being anxious. I was surprised at the honesty I was hearing, and immediately I knew that was wrong. I am no longer in that relationship.

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Can We Subvert the Mechanisms of Violence by Turning Them into a Game?

Dear Betty,

I am so happy I found this website. I have been pouring over it for the last few days and found it very helpful. I only wish I found it sooner.

A little about me before I get to the issue I am having difficulty with. I am male, 26, polyamorous and bisexual. Understanding my sexuality and my desires for all kinds of love and affection was the most difficult struggle I have had to get through in a life full of struggle. It has been three years since the pieces started to come together and I am finally coming out to friends and I can't wait to tell my mom when she comes to visit in May. (strangely the bi part is easier for most to digest than the poly)

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I'm Going to Stop Jacking Off to Porn

hi aunt(dr.) betty,

i'm new to the dodson/ross site here. i came here through the FB fan page. i'd like to comment on the situation regarding ED and porn. i watched gary wilson's ted talk "the great porn experiment" and after denying for some time now, conducting my own experiment, really, i'm going to stop that stuff. jacking off to porn.

i'm soon to be 60yrs. young and have not had a steady woman in my life for 5 yrs now.i didn't feel the need nor the desire to be with one and discovered recently that i've got more than enough symptoms to say i'm counter-dependent. but solo sex gets me through times when there's no woman available. i'm sacrificing the sex to avoid the relationship. OK, so far? well not for me.

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The Most Frequently Asked Sex Question: "How Will I Know If I've Had an Orgasm?"

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After years of answering questions from women and girls around the world via the internet, most frequently asked is “How will I know if I’ve had an orgasm?”

For many years the standard response was, “If you have to ask, then it hasn’t happened,” the assumption being that she’ll automatically know when she does. This is no longer true as the vast majority of girls and women asking today are holding unrealistic images of what an orgasm will feel like thanks to our access to multi-media with books, films, magazines, television and the latest venue of online pornography. As a result of these artistic exaggerated and fanciful images, we end up with all kinds of crazy expectations that some cataclysmic force will consume body and soul with a mysterious yet divine ecstasy called orgasm!

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Looks Like My Clitoral Hood & Labia are Shrinking

Hi Betty,

I'm 38 years old and I have noticed in the last few years that intercourse has become less stimulating and it is more difficult for me to orgasm when it never was before. I have read your site and I was happy to discover that I learned the rock and roll method to orgasm all on my own and it worked like a charm until about 3 years ago, when I began to need direct stimulation to my clit to get me off.

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How Can I Keep My Vagina From Expanding During Sex?

Dear Betty,

I am 23 and have have had chronic lyme disease for five years and it caused me to have a loss of sensation in much of my lower body. It was finally diagnosed last year, and now that I have been treating it, the feeling is coming back. I also have been on antidepressants for the past four years and recently stopped taking the main drug. Within a few days of stopping I suddenly have a much easier time getting aroused. While this sounds great.. it actually has become a problem.

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We Figured Out a Position While F*cking that Allows Us Both to Orgasm

Hi Betty,

My boyfriend and I have successfully figured out a position while fucking that allows us both to orgasm. I'll lay down on pillows in order to create a raised surface and stimulate my clit while he pumps in and out of me while he's upright on his knees. I love this position, because I get a lot of sexual pleasure out of it and consistently orgasm with it.

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