Betty Dodson's Blog, page 19

Is It Wrong to Have Several Sugar Daddies?

Dear Betty or anyone else that can help me,

I recently sent a question in but did not receive a response which is completely understandable. I know many questions get sent in. First of all, I am a new sugar baby and I have a few dilemmas. First off, the men I will potentially get intimate with are all married! They say their wife knows about it but how true could that really be? I need to know if it's truly wrong to get involved with married men. I have few options and most men aren't single. I'm in desperate need of financial support so I turn a blind eye to it..

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"I Wanna See Some White Stuff"

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When the question “How can I make some white stuff come out of my vagina?” went to the top of our most popular list, I groaned. Immediately I know this is another example of kids viewing online porn for their primary source of sex information. Let me tell you, it breaks every sex educator’s heart. We all know it’s more difficult to unlearn misinformation than it is to master new sexual skills with the correct information.

Here’s the original question and my answer on D&R:

“I've been having sex with my boyfriend for months now and i love it. he does everything right but i think i've either masturbated too much or i dont know how to cum. he always says " I wanna see some White Stuff ... " What the hell is white stuff? How can I make some white stuff to come out my vagina?!”

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Sexual Fantasy is as Important as Genital Stimulation

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While I understand vibrators are here to stay along with other sex toys and porn, the younger generation seems to be overly reliant on technology. They forget our most potent sexual motivation is the human brain.

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Where's the Release?

Dear Dr. Betty,

My boyfriend and I have recently discovered clitoral stimulation. It is an absolutely amazing feeling, but after some time, it gets really intense, and I find myself wanting him to stop because the feeling is so overwhelming. The feeling is wonderful but it is just too intense that I have to stop him sometimes. I experience involuntary body convulsions mostly around my stomach/pelvic area and my thighs, my heart races, my breathing is fast and labored, I feel tightening around my abdominal/pelvic area, but that's it. Even if those things persist for a while, I feel no release whatsoever.

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Need Advice on First Time Anal Penetration

Dear Dr. Betty,

My bf and I are attempting to have anal sex. I've tried explaining to him that prepping is needed ahead of time. The only thing is he's going by what someone else told him and that is to enter all the way in to get the pain done and over with.

He's length is 6 and a half inches, and he's girth is 5 and a half inches. What would you suggest on how to go about this? Any advice would be much appreciated.

Dear H,

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How Can They Think Long Labia Makes Your Vagina Loose?

Dr. Betty (And Carlin):

Saw this post on Facebook that screenshot a comment on a picture. I agree with the words on the screenshot. But being curious, I looked at the comments. I feel so terribly sad for the women that have to deal with ignorant men that think that the size of their labia actually affect the tightness of their vagina. How in the world are Americans so ignorant when it comes to the female body? This just really makes me angry and sad.

I don't want young women with long labia minora to think they are strange or weird or they need to chop off their lady bits to have a compact pornstar looking vagina. https://www.facebook.com/WhoIsFatal/photos/a.501291586602481.1073741825....

M

Dear M,

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I Imagined Orgasmic Women Taking Control Where Joy & Pleasure Would Replace Greed & Violence

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What a weekend! And I’m not exaggerating.

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I No Longer Trust My Body

Hi Betty! First of all I really want to thank you for all the work you do for us women. I Discovered you through a swedish documentary about sex toys and must say I was so fascinated by you, and was very pleased to find this website a few days ago. You're awesome!

I'm from Sweden; A country considered to advocate sex and equality. Yet there is a long way to go. I'm 22 years old and female. Worth to mention is that I've always been very open about sex and masturbation. I've always liked my body very much and I feel no shame about any of these things and I think about sex daily; whether I have a time for myself, take nude photos or talk to friends about it.

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When He Touches Me With His Tongue I Feel Like I'm Going to Pee

Hi Dr Betty,

I'm 43, I've been married 22 years! My husband and I have a great sex life, up till about 2 years ago. My husband and I's favorite thing is oral sex. He loves to go down "there" and make me orgasm over and over and over. Well about two years ago like a switch, he went down and as soon as his tongue touched me I thought I was going to pee. I was very sensitive almost like a tickle. I made him stop. I finally said something to my Obgyn about being very sensitive, even in the shower when the water hits just right I pee a little. He ran tests sent me to a urologist, he tried me on two medications and ran several bladder tests.

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My Monogamous History

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In my twenties, I was a very traditional young woman. Once I had sex with a boyfriend, he had to promise to only have sex with me. Of course my being faithful was assumed. Thus began my mini-monogamous romantic sex affairs that lasted a few months to a year or so throughout the decade of my twenties.

Getting married at 29 made me to question a sexual practice that was taken for granted. After all, marriage is a contract meant to last a lifetime while all those mini-monogamies had an expiration date. Although I was on the rebound dumped by my last beloved, I was also exhausted from trying to survive as a commercial artist working free-lance while I longed to pursue fine art full time.

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