Betty Dodson's Blog, page 20

Is It Possible to Mix 'Hierarchical' Work Relationships, Age & Sex?

Dear Dr Betty

First, many thanks for a highly informative and empowering website!

I'm a 45 year old woman, a mother of two young children and in a stable monogamous relationship, although I don't really believe in sexual monogamy. In my work I lead a small team of people and last year a very attractive young man, who's nearly twenty years younger than me, started working in my team. The attraction between us was incredibly strong, but nothing ever happened between us (even when we were away together for work and had the opportunity). I think we never dared because of the work relationship and because he knows my family, and perhaps because of the age difference.

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Betty's Memoir - Print Copies - Live on Amazon

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What began back in the eighties is finally off my computer - print copies of my memoir are available on Amazon.

While Carlin holds baby Grayson in her arms, I’m holding my 415 page book. Yesterday when the box arrived, I cradled my Memoir in my arms knowing it was my best effort to share my sexual life’s story. A project I began back in 1986 that had been in and out of the closet until NOW! I’ve been reading my own book like I’d just discovered it.

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Trying to Understand How to Trigger Multiple Orgasms

My name is D, and I`m a 35 years old Club Manager from Bucharest Romania.

I spent the last 4 years studying the female orgasm: how to obtain it every time, how to obtain multiple orgasms every time, how to obtain simultaneous orgasms everytime. At this moment I have a close to 100% success rate: everytime I have sex, my partner has multiple orgasms (usually more than 20), followed by a big simultaneous one when I come.

In this time I noticed two effects:

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Kids Keep Getting Fed Incomplete & Incorrect Information About Sex

Dear Betty,

First of all I'd love to thank you for setting up this amazing website and posting all those clips on YouTube with Carlin (I watch them every week!). I think it's wonderful how you're making all of this information available for the whole world. This brings me to my second point.

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I Sometimes Experience Bad Cramps in My Lower Tummy After Sex

Dr Betty,

I sometimes experience really bad cramps in my lower tummy after sex, especially when it's been a little rough. It can be very painful and my partner is worried that he did something wrong, however i very much enjoy rough sex. Should i avoid it altogether if my body reacts negatively to it after? Maybe i jump too fast from slow to rough sex?

Thank you for your answer!

Dear A,

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Finding Sexual Fulfillment is So Easy for Him & Difficult for Me

Hi Betty,

My (recent) ex engages in a lot of casual sex, & never has any trouble finding a willing partner whenever he wants. I feel *really* bitter that finding (at least some basic level of) sexual fulfillment is so easy for him, & comparatively so difficult for me. I'm convinced that the cards are stacked against me in a variety of (mostly gendered ways) - ie casual sex is a much riskier proposition for me (in terms of pregnancy as well as risk of violence), weeding out the misogynists is hard & exhausting work, a lot of straight men are selfish or just bad lovers, etc....&, in my opinion, there are just not nearly as many attractive men as there are attractive women.

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What Else Can I Do to Make My “Me Time” a Great Time?

Dear Betty and Carlin,

I am a 21 year old girl who just found out that women masturbate. Yes, shocker. I have always enjoyed sex, a lot, and I actually thought that my sexual needs were being fulfilled.

Every time I got horny I would get wet, and for me that was having an orgasm or coming. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months and our sexual activity has been very active and fun.

Last month we started playing around and he said he wouldn’t stop until I came. I didn’t understand why would he do that if for a woman to reach orgasm is basically impossible. This is when I found out that women do reach orgasm, and can also do it by themselves.

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My Clitoris is Shrinking

Dear Dr. Betty,

Hi I'm 48 years old and when I was 46 I noticed that my clitoris has been shrinking and the skin has started to become lose around the hood , it is not as big as it once was and also when I gave birth my baby ripped the skin there. My GYN says I have Lichen Scholerosus (sp)

I don't have itching or discoloration or any of the other symptoms I'm just losing my clitoris. I can still organism but I'm wondering if it's due to to much masterbating with a vibrator? What can I do? Is really small almost nonexistent.

Thank you A

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I Believe Sex is How People are Controlled Which Puts it at the Heart of Politics

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One of the most challenging aspects of my life has been going public with what I believe to be true based on observation, experience and information from sources I trust. I’m not sure when living out loud became my passion. Perhaps the biggest influence was my mother who always said, “Betty Anne, never hesitate to speak your mind.” She was an example of doing just that. Often I’d be embarrassed when she’d say the unspeakable, like the time she told our overly religious neighbor Mrs. Wright the Bible was just a bunch of stories written by a lot of different men.

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Should I Put My Daughter on Birth Control If She's Still a Virgin

Good morning,

I have a question for you please help I'm so worry about my daughter. My daughter an I have a great communication but I'm worry because she confess me that she and her boyfriend almost had sex but she told she got scared and thought of all the advised.

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