Betty Dodson's Blog, page 18

I've Only Been Able to Orgasm One Time

Hey Betty!

I'm K, a 19 year old new England gal. I've been having sex since 18 with both male and female partners, and masturbating since 14 on my own and with toys. However, I've only been able to orgasm one time, with a Trans guy I slept with after an intense dramatic situation with him and my old roommate - and what he did to me was exactly one of the things I did to myself. I was only with him once.

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Candice Will be Missed by Many

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Candice will be missed by many. For the past few months, I'd been encouraging her to "Let go" and end the torturous radiation treatments. Several times recently we'd talked about death and dying. I shared how I saw death as my final orgasm that I'd embrace. After all, no one knows what happens after we die, so when it happens to me, I'll finally "know." I find this idea exciting.

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Should I Tell New Lover I Was Raped?

Dear Dr. Betty,

I was raped when I was 16. I never told anyone except my best friend and therapist. It was a very traumatic time and I was in a depressed state for most of my teen years. I had a boyfriend for a year but never had sex with him because I was too scared.

I'm 22 now and I'm in such a better place. Attending therapy helped a lot. I havent had sex since (I've had oral sex) and now I have the chance to hook up with a friend of mine (we both made clear its just sex) and now I'm not sure if I should tell him what happened? My concerns are that it will hurt since it's technically my 'first" time and that I wont know what to do. So my question is should I tell him? Do you think it will hurt a lot?

Thanks again.

J

Dear J,

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How Do I Explain My Preferences to My Sex Partners?

Hello Betty,

I am a 29 year-old African American heterosexual male and I came across your videos on you tube a few months ago and first I want to thank you for all you guys and gals do and your great work.

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What is Lust & Desire?

Dear Betty,

I must admit I have no idea how to express my problem. My friends masturbate a lot and as friends always do we share our experiences with each other. But I never felt any lust or desire while masturbating.  I tried several times but It did not seem to be my cup of tea. I cannot imagine what it feels like for my friends ,but it never felt well.

The main reason for my lack of lust is that there is nothing or no one who turns me on. I tried to fantasize about men who look really great, but for my pity does not exist (Thor, men in video games), but this was also fruitless...I am never turned on, wet and so on...

But I don't know what is wrong with me and it frustrates me.

C

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We'll Need Clear Minds for the Next Wave of Sexual Liberation

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I decided to post this email exchange with one of our bloggers, Bila. Everyone knows my feelings about antidepressants and I'm sickened by the FDA's approval of flibanserin. Here's our conversation on the topic:

Bila: I cringed when I read the news that the FDA recently approved the first prescription drug to boost sexual desire in women, especially concocted for those who report emotional stress due to a lack of libido. Addyi, Big Pharma’s Viagra-esque gift to women, had been rejected in 2010 and 2013 due to its harmful side effects including nausea, drowsiness, dizziness, fainting, and dangerous lowering of blood pressure, as well as lackluster effectiveness. During clinical trials, 14 per cent of participants dropped out due to adverse side-effects.

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Should I Visit a Legal Brothel to Lose My Virginity?

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm a 31 year old man who has barely any dating experience and am a virgin. I have a hard time talking to women and have been friend zoned so many times. I am considering traveling to Nevada to visit a legal brothel to lose my virginity.

Whats your take on that? Do you have any pro's or cons that I may not have considered? Do you think I should just be patient and try and talk to women more often?

Dear J,

If you can afford to make the trip, I'm all for it. I believe it's best for any young man (or woman for that matter), to have first time penetration sex with an older experienced partner. Two beginners stumbling through amaze of mis-information or no-information is often a disaster.

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Worried There's Something Wrong Down There

Hi Dr. Betty,

I'm 17 years old and really want to become sexually active. However I am worried that I am not 100% normal down there/ if there is something wrong with my vagina because to me it doesn't seem completely right; so I'm worried about having sex. I'm also worried about the pain of the first time.

I don't really know what to do and I am too embarrassed to talk to anybody about it. Do you have any advice?

Thanks x

Dear C,

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FGM Survivor Trying to Achieve Orgasm With the Love of My Life

Hi Betty,

So I am 25 years old and have been married to the love of my life. We've been married for less than 3 months and have really and desperately tried having sex. There are so many levels to this issue. I think I may have vaginismus that makes my muscles contract, which I have been experiencing.

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Do I Leave Behind a Life of Stability & Security for a Need to Explore My Own Sexuality?

Hi Betty

I have been in a long term relationship for nearly ten years. I m 30 years old. He is an amazing, kind loving man who will move the earth for me if he has too. However,if I have to be honest I m not sexually attracted to him any more. I have recently been seeing somebody else and the sex is off the charts. Do I leave behind a life of stability and security for a need to explore my own sexuality?

Please help so confused.

Dear M,

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