Betty Dodson's Blog, page 21

Widowed Mum: I Want Great Sex But No Commitment

Hi Betty,

Thank you for your website its great and empowering!

I'm 45 a widowed mum with 3 kids 11..13 and 16.

I have been single for 2 and a half years. I have been putting myself out of my comfort zone and have had amazing orgasmic sex but have not found a constant partner. Well other than a married man. He is beautiful physically and we are sexually on fire.

I have kept dating and sometimes we have a break when I start seeing someone else. He is fully supportive of me in this regard.

I think the trouble is that I'm finding is that I don't want to commit to anyone. When I start seeing a single man he wants me to see only him. I have been called a slut.

I am loving going out on a Friday night and meeting gorgeous young men who devour me and don't want commitment.

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Never Had an Orgasm With Someone Else. Afraid of Losing Control

Dear Dr. Betty,

Thank you for all the work you've done for women! I really appreciate your work and I'm a big fan. Your hard work for independent orgasm is just impressive! If I was in NY I would visit and and give you a big hug.

I was a woman with many problems, but thanks to your support I'm getting closer to my independent orgasm. Unfortunately I still have problems with my sexual life but I'm pretty sure you can help me to "speed up the process":

I am 30 years old, but I never had any orgasm with someone else as I am afraid to lose control.

Also I always have clitoral orgasm when I masturbate. I only had a vaginal orgasm once in my entire life(during masturbation).

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Is it Normal to be so Dependent on Clitoral Stimulation & Fantasies to Reach Orgasm?

Betty,

I have learned so much about my sexuality through you and the other writers on this website. I realize my questions may sound repetitive to you since these topics have been covered on your website, but I'm feeling confused and would love to hear your insight. There are 2 topics that I keep trying to understand and it is causing me more stress than necessary.

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Is Masturbation Still Considered a Sin?

Hi My Name is JB,

I am a catholic teenager who is wondering if the act of masturbation is still considered to be a sin.

I am 18 years old and I am somewhat late going through changes physically and mentally.. I do believe that it is a natural way to find out about ones body and how it can be used . I have heard that it is not a sin but a natural and healthy thing to do. I have also heard that it is a sin. I have heard mixed reviews I have heard that a vast majority of both boys and girls do it. I can understand if one does it while thinking about other people then it is a sin but if one is doing it to get rid of old stuff then does it count as a sin. I have done it recently and I am going through puberty.

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Should We Have Sex as a Couple Then Start to "Mix"?

Dear Betty,

I decided to find a couple to have sex with (let's call him) my sex friend and me. Both of us are pretty excited, but I have some doubts...do you think we could start with having sex as a couple and the couple does the same... in terms of getting comfortable ... and maybe then start to "mix"? or is it a weird idea?

Thank you

(BTW - thanks to you I convinced at least one man that a feminist is man´s best friend :) )

Dear E,

There is nothing wrong or weird about your idea of two couples having sex in the same room as a way to later swap partners. When I was in my twenties, my boyfriend and I ended up in a room that we had to share with another couple. During the night we all became aware that each couple was having sex in the darkened room.

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As I Get Older Concerned About Having the Privacy to Masturbate

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have been lucky to be a masturbator since I was a young girl. My mother would try and catch me at it and then shame me for doing it. Since I couldn't understand how something that felt so wonderful could be so bad I kept doing it--and learned to be a very good listener while so involved! I am about to turn 60 and I'm STILL masturbating, more than I have in years thanks to bio-identical hormones.

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What Advice Would You Give to Men Who Want Their GF/Wife to Go Braless?

Dear Dr. Betty,

What advice could you give to men that want there girlfriends or wife go braless?

Dear S,

I would advise you to consider how you would feel wearing tight pants that showed off your package! Unfortunately breasts have been turned into sex symbols that causes men to stare at them with hunger and longing.

I have never worn a bra since I got through the decade of my twenties. But I am limited to wearing dark clothes to hide my offending nipples that are heading for my belly button. It's really your wife's choice as to what she feels most comfortable doing.

Dr. Betty

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A concept that is important in partner sex is how we communicate.

We are told it’s important to talk with our sex partners about what we like during sex and to even demonstrate how we like it. For instance, when it comes to clitoral stimulation, we can demonstrate by touching a lovers arm with our preferred pressure. Or a guy can use his lover’s finger to demonstrate his preference for cock sucking. Any conversation that includes this kind of show and tell will improve every couple’s lovemaking.

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So Close to Multiple Orgasms Then It Just Dies

Hi there,

During sex with my partner I become very aroused and come very close to orgasm multiple (10+) times but have a very hard time finally reaching it. It's like seconds away from getting there every time and then it just dies...

We have tried vibrators, creams, different positions and they all feel amazing but would like to get myself able to orgasm every time I feel that close. What can help?

Thank you!

Dear J,

Stop thinking about your orgasms and focus on the good feelings that are happening. Chances are good that you are already having orgasms but that they do not fit your "concept" or "expectations" of what you think they should be like.

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When I Have Sex I Never Achieve Orgasm

Hi Betty,

I watched your videos and I've always admired your sexual liberation topics. I'm a 20 year old guy, just lost my virginity a few months ago. when I do have sex, I can never achieve orgasm. I thought it was an attraction issue, so I sort out very good looking escorts and went a long while without masturbating each time to increase the sensitivity. But still, It doesn't happen.

I often find out that during sex, I try as much to go for it and be in the moment but I'm somewhat disinterested tho I maybe really attracted to the girl. Have no problem achieving orgasms through masturbation. Is this asexuality or I just haven't found what sexually turns me on?.

Pls help.

Dear T,

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