Betty Dodson's Blog, page 15

I Feel Physically Incapable of Orgasm

Hi Betty,

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As an Educator We Get Better As We Grow Older

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This past holiday was the best one of all. I made a decision not to go anywhere or have any celebration that was in any way related to Xmas or New Years Eve. It’s been my experience that most people are really stressed out over family and close friends with all kinds of expectations that it’s best to wait until it’s all over.

The day before the first of the year, Veronica Vera called and asked what I was doing on the last evening of 2015 and I answered “Absolutely nothing. Want to join me?” She’s on her way over now while I have a bottle of champagne chilling in the fridge. A new little place just opened two blocks away that specializes in Ramen. I just ordered several items on their menu to check out their food for our Japanese feast this evening of mostly appetizers.

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Experience a Sharp Pain While Masturbating

Hi Dr Betty,

I don't know who else to ask as I'd feel really awkward going to my doctor about this! So I'd be really grateful if you could provide some guidance.

First thing to mention is that I don't really masturbate a lot. I have never orgasmed either alone or with a partner. I've never really let that bother me too much, but my new boyfriend seems really hassled by it so I figured I should try.

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First Time Orgasm

Awakening the Clitoris

Betty's Rock 'n Roll Orgasm Technique

A Woman's Erection Needs 20-30 Minutes of Adequate Clitoral Stimulation

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Is It Too Late for Me to Orgasm?

Dear Betty,

I'm 64 years old and just found this site last night. Where were you 30 years ago?

I had a radical hysterectomy when I was 50. Before then I was never able to orgasm in my 30 years of marriage. I did find myself waking up at night with a clitoral orgasm which was great but I never figured out how I got there. I now am in a relationship with a very loving man and feel there may be hope.

My question is, is it too late. I noticed after my hysterectomy that my night time orgasms slowly left. I don't have them any more. My lover really arouses me and I am wondering what I can do to help myself become more responsive.

Thanks for your help.,

R

Dear R,

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Facing Hysterectomy...How Do I Stay Sexual?

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Awakening the Clitoris

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How Do I Explore My Bisexuality in a Monogamous Relationship

Dear Betty,

I'm 20 years old and have been with my current partner for 3 years. He is strictly monogamous and I think " I'm recently coming into my identity as bisexual as well and have been really wishing I could it explore it more. It's not that I don't love my partner and cherish the way our relationship is, it's just that I wish I could explore other relationships as well.

Do you have any advice?

Dear M,

Seems you answered your own questions. "I may be more of a polyamorous type of person. I've been feeling for awhile now like I'm missing out on the chance to date and be intimate with other people, especially being so young."

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I was Prescribed Saphris & Lost My Orgasm

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 45. I've been very sexually sensitive since I was 12. I could almost orgasm on thought alone. Four years ago I was prescribed Saphris 5mg, once a day. I was also diagnosed with hemorraghic cysts on ovaries one year ago. I have lost 95% of my ability to feel any pleasure at all. This happened 3 years ago. I still get wet and can feel small muscle spasms when I have intercourse, similair to when I had sex when I could feel something. I've noticed the hood of my clitoris had shrunk.

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The Combination Orgasm Saved My Life

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BN sent the following message:

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Betty Draws the Internal Clitoris

For Me, Vaginal Orgasms Without Clitoral Stimulation Happen Only at the Beginning of a Love Affair

Betty's Rock 'n Roll Orgasm Technique

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Should I Go Back to Masturbating & Watching Porn?

Hi Betty,

I am 27 year old male. I have been enjoying masturbation since I was 18. But recently I came across this phenomenon called Nofap and its benefits. So to see how it works, I stopped masturbating and watching porn. Lots of changes I saw within me. I craved for women a lot than before. I could only hold on to it for 20 days max.

I thought masturbation was the reason for me never having a girlfriend. I have had sexual experience with women but not relationships. Only thing I wanna ask here is, should I go back to regular masturbation and watching porn?

Dear A,

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After One Orgasm I Feel DONE

Dear Dr. B,

I hear all the time about the multiorgasmic capability of women. For me, after I come, I feel DONE. I'd love to be multiorgasmic, but the feeling of wanting to get off go away after I orgasm. I have pressure/tension orgasms (still trying to master tension/relaxation ones - my mom bought me a magic wand so I hope that helps!).

I have tried to continue to stimulate myself after an orgasm, but it just doesn't feel good anymore. Will I ever be able to have multiple orgasms?

Dear B,

Although you didn't mention your age, I'll assume you're a teen. First having one good orgasm is quite enough for most of us. One of the problems with so much sex information available is that we get piggy too soon and want it all NOW!

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We Understand Very Little of What is ‘Normal’ for Women When It Comes to Sexuality

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I have been a supporter of The Women’s National Health Network for more years than I can remember. Their information is so very valuable.

The last email to my friend Cindy Pearson who heads up the organization was a complaint about two columns on the back page “The G Spot and The Sore Spot.” At the time, the damn G spot was confusing both women and men about female sexual response. Porn had men diving inside our vaginas trying to find this magic “spot” which was disheartening. Seventies feminists had finally put the clitoris on the map and now we were back inside the vagina which is the birth canal.

The clitoris is our primary organ for pleasure and orgasms. Yes, there are many ways to “get off” but I’m speaking about the majority of womankind.

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