Betty Dodson's Blog, page 27
January 28, 2015
Living at Home...Can't Order Sex Toys...How Can I Masturbate?
Dear Dr. Betty
I'm not a teen anymore, but I live with my parents. Unfortunately I don't believe they understand I have sexual needs as an adult because they still see me as a kid (because I'm still an University student and I never dated anyone before) so they wouldn't accept the fact that I do masturbate and need sex toys.
Thing is, I'm too shy to go to a sex shop all by myself and I can't order online because of my parents.
What can I possibly do? Thank you so much.
Dear A,
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January 26, 2015
Most Sexual Problems for Women & Between Couples Are How We Define Sex
want-to-have-better-sex-tonight-620x428.jpg Orgasm questions to Dr. Betty arrive at a steady pace… How can I be sure I’ve had an orgasm? How can I get a bigger orgasm? Or why can’t I orgasm during sex with my partner? What does an orgasm feel like? How will I know if I’d had an orgasm?
“I have never been able to have an orgasm with anyone; either with clitoral stimulation (although I've been close) and nothing with vaginal penetration. I thought it was only a matter of trust and letting it go, but none of my partners last more than three months.”
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January 23, 2015
Do You Only Have an Orgasm When the Clitoris & Vagina Contract?
Hallelujah for your site as I've been trying to understand my orgasm and why my partner seems to think I'm faking it.
I know when I masturbate myself I stimulate my g spot and clitorus until they both contract together, i then wait a few minutes and can achieve the same result, but I struggle to do this with my partner. I also have no problem ejaculating but my partner seems to think that this has to happen every time for him to think I'm having an orgasm (I think he's watched too much porn to be honest) but I don't like this all the time it's so wet.
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Betty's Rock 'n Roll Orgasm Technique
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January 22, 2015
I Felt Satisfied But Not Sure If It Was an Orgasm
Hello Betty,
First I would like to thank you so much for this site. There are several things I want to touch on and ask about. First some background about me. I am 28 female and was under the assumption I have never had a orgasm ( until I read a few articles on this site and your book how to orgasm). I never really masturbated. I have attempted before but didn't spend much time with it bc I got bored and felt I couldnt touch myself so it would feel good, someone else would have to.
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Betty's Rock 'n Roll Orgasm Technique
January 21, 2015
After IUD I Experienced Numbness in My Vagina
Hi Betty
Just over two years ago I got a IUD (cobber); it did hurt a lot to get up and afterwards I was about to faint. (I have no kids so I am very tight down there). On the way home after I had set it up, I felt a numbness in the vagina (and I had not even touched myself at this point); as if I had been stripped of anything down there.
When I had sex afterwards, the sexual feeling was really reduced, both in the clitoris, vagina, vaginal walls and labia - my sexual energy and feeling was just reduced enormous. I was so sad, and I told my partner. When I had sex with another guy at another time, I felt immediately that I almost could not feel that he was inside me; as if my vagina was just a stocking or a sleeve without senses.
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January 19, 2015
FDA Clears Caya Diaphragm...Available Over-the-Counter Next Year
SILCS_diaphragm.png I recommend the Caya as THE BEST birth control available today (it's also been marketed under the SILCS brand). When used correctly with spermicidal jelly and positioned to cover the cervix, it's 99% safe. (the 1% is when we forget to put it in). The video that's available makes the positioning very clear:
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January 17, 2015
How Can I Reconnect My Body & My Mind?
Dear Dr. Betty,
I am 58 years & I was sexually abused and also involved in child pornography by my parents and their siblings & their cousins. To say that I have an issue with my own sexuality is an understatement. I've been in therapy for over 20 years and am just now beginning my second attempt to find out about my own body including my clitoris and my sexual preferences.
I still have difficulty touching myself as I was punished for touching myself. I was continually told by my perpetrators what I liked when I was being abused. I didn't own my body, my perps did. It came to the point when I told myself they can have my body, but not my mind. This caused a total disconnect between mind & body which runs very deeply into my psyche.
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January 15, 2015
Will I Ever Have Stronger Orgasms?
Dear Dr. Betty,
This comes from a woman in her mid-sixties who is still having trouble reaching orgasm. I've practised faithfully for quite a while masturbating following your suggestions, like vulva massage, phantasizing, breathing, moaning, the rock-and-roll technique and using the Magic Wand....the best I have achieved was a very brief (blip, blip) weak orgasm and I really cannot get anywhere without using some pressure!
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Orgasms Back Stronger Than Ever, Thanks Betty!
January 14, 2015
Any Advice on Moving Forward with Vaginismus?
Hi Betty!
Firstly, let me say that my boyfriend and have enjoyed, basically devoured the videos you and Carlin post. I am so thankful that two smart, strong women are breaking down taboo barriers and are (as I see it) part of the force to empower women. I can't tell you how much you both have influenced our sexual dialogue, as well as my own personal sexual journey. So thank you!!
As for my question:
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January 13, 2015
What's the Best Vibrator Position?
Dear Dr. Betty,
Hi! Umm I use a vibrator and I can feel myself getting off but it's too intense and I just pull back, is there a position that I can keep it on my clit so I can have one..
Please and thanks!!
Dear M,
Like everything else, there is a correct way to use your vibrator. You have already discovered you can't just smash your sensitive clit with it's 8,000 nerve endings under a machine and expect pleasure to result from it.
Go into the website and start reading all the information available on vibrator sex. Warm up with a vulva massage using an organic oil. Keep your vibrator moving. Never put it one place or press down for more sensation. C'mon girl, stop being a brute and be good to your sex organ. Check out my Rock n Roll Orgasm.
Dr. Betty
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