Attachment Theory Books

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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love (Hardcover)
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avg rating 4.13 — 117,833 ratings — published 2010
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Attachment Theory: A Guide to Strengthening the Relationships in Your Life Attachment Theory: A Guide to Strengthening the Relationships in Your Life (Paperback)
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avg rating 3.94 — 1,238 ratings — published
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Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (Paperback)
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avg rating 4.09 — 6,395 ratings — published 2012
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The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships (Paperback)
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avg rating 4.27 — 2,941 ratings — published 2019
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Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (Hardcover)
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avg rating 4.12 — 21,915 ratings — published 2008
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Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families
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avg rating 4.34 — 610 ratings — published
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Attachment in Psychotherapy Attachment in Psychotherapy (Hardcover)
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avg rating 4.36 — 1,810 ratings — published 2007
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Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love (Paperback)
by (shelved 7 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.24 — 1,405 ratings — published 1994
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Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It (Paperback)
by (shelved 6 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 3.93 — 2,458 ratings — published 2014
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Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy (Paperback)
by (shelved 5 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.36 — 15,547 ratings — published 2020
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Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair (Hardcover)
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avg rating 4.54 — 136 ratings — published 2016
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Attachment in Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics, and Change Attachment in Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics, and Change (Hardcover)
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avg rating 4.33 — 69 ratings — published 2007
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A Secure Base: Parent-Child Attachment and Healthy Human Development A Secure Base: Parent-Child Attachment and Healthy Human Development (Paperback)
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avg rating 4.24 — 1,008 ratings — published 188
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Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime (Hardcover)
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avg rating 4.51 — 2,572 ratings — published
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Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner
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avg rating 3.81 — 650 ratings — published 2014
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Attachment Attachment (Paperback)
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avg rating 4.16 — 647 ratings — published 1969
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Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love (Hardcover)
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avg rating 4.03 — 3,708 ratings — published
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Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends (Hardcover)
by (shelved 3 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.05 — 7,860 ratings — published 2022
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Anxiously Attached: Understanding and Working with Preoccupied Attachment Anxiously Attached: Understanding and Working with Preoccupied Attachment (ebook)
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avg rating 4.15 — 34 ratings — published
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The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (Hardcover)
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avg rating 4.36 — 267,554 ratings — published 2014
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The Attachment Effect: Exploring the Powerful Ways Our Earliest Bond Shapes Our Relationships and Lives The Attachment Effect: Exploring the Powerful Ways Our Earliest Bond Shapes Our Relationships and Lives (Paperback)
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avg rating 3.92 — 616 ratings — published 2018
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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Paperback)
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avg rating 4.12 — 48,849 ratings — published 1986
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The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation (Hardcover)
by (shelved 3 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.10 — 769 ratings — published 2011
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The Courage to Trust: A Guide to Building Deep and Lasting Relationships The Courage to Trust: A Guide to Building Deep and Lasting Relationships (Paperback)
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avg rating 3.82 — 136 ratings — published 2005
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The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life (Paperback)
by (shelved 3 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.22 — 1,633 ratings — published 2000
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The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are (Paperback)
by (shelved 3 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.30 — 1,782 ratings — published 1999
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Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships (The Dr. Sue Johnson Collection, 2) Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships (The Dr. Sue Johnson Collection, 2)
by (shelved 3 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.09 — 2,668 ratings — published 2013
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Healing Trauma: Attachment, Mind, Body and Brain (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) Healing Trauma: Attachment, Mind, Body and Brain (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
by (shelved 3 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.16 — 165 ratings — published 2003
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Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive (Paperback)
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avg rating 4.16 — 5,545 ratings — published 2003
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Adult Attachment: A Concise Introduction to Theory and Research Adult Attachment: A Concise Introduction to Theory and Research (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.44 — 16 ratings — published
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No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind (Kindle Edition)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.26 — 24,478 ratings — published 2014
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The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.28 — 101 ratings — published 2022
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Attachment Across the Lifecourse: A Brief Introduction Attachment Across the Lifecourse: A Brief Introduction (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.29 — 111 ratings — published 2011
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Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.29 — 595 ratings — published 2020
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Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery: Simple, Safe, and Effective Practices for Therapy Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery: Simple, Safe, and Effective Practices for Therapy (Hardcover)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.57 — 35 ratings — published 2017
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Addiction, Attachment, Trauma and Recovery: The Power of Connection (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) Addiction, Attachment, Trauma and Recovery: The Power of Connection (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.28 — 119 ratings — published
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Handbook of Attachment: Theory, Research, and Clinical Applications Handbook of Attachment: Theory, Research, and Clinical Applications (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.21 — 112 ratings — published 1999
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Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 3.90 — 1,291 ratings — published 2014
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Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.07 — 3,204 ratings — published 1989
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The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.05 — 30,042 ratings — published 1979
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Attachment, Trauma, and Healing: Understanding and Treating Attachment Disorder in Children and Families Attachment, Trauma, and Healing: Understanding and Treating Attachment Disorder in Children and Families (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.06 — 71 ratings — published 1998
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Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 3.80 — 1,133 ratings — published 2016
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The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.22 — 855 ratings — published 1996
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The Whole-Brain Child: Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind The Whole-Brain Child: Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind (Hardcover)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.27 — 57,281 ratings — published 2011
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Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 4.29 — 19,291 ratings — published 1999
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Baby Matters: What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Caring for Your Baby Baby Matters: What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Caring for Your Baby (Paperback)
by (shelved 2 times as attachment-theory)
avg rating 3.77 — 62 ratings — published 2001
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“Attachment exerted an invisible but powerful pull on the child, just as heavenly bodies are connected by gravitational forces. But unlike gravity, attachment makes its presence known by a negative inverse square law: the further the attached person is from their secure base, the greater the pull of attachment. The 'elastic band' which constitutes the attachment bond is slack and imperceptible in the presence of a secure base. If the secure base becomes unreliable or the limits of exploration are reached, the bond tugs at the heartstrings.”
Jeremy Holmes, John Bowlby and Attachment Theory

“Approximately 15 to 20 percent of the population has a nervous system wired to be more sensitive. These people are more attuned to the subtleties of their environment and process that information much more deeply compared to others without this trait. While being more observant might be a survival advantage, it can also be overwhelming. Someone who is constantly aware of the subtleties of the environment and of the people around them can quickly experience sensory overload. My clients who consider themselves to be HSPs [highly sensitive persons] often report experiencing a certain type of disorganized attachment because the world itself is too much. Due to their increased sensitivity, even normal everyday events can feel too intense, too chaotic or too stimulating, leaving little respite to feel settled, safe and secure. In relationships, HSPs are often unclear as to whether what they are feeling has its origin in themselves or if their partner's feelings are creating that 'one foot on the gas, one foot on the brake' experience in their nervous system. They want to be close to people, but being close can be a sensory assault that is confusing or that dysregulates them for days.”
Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

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