Passive Aggressive Quotes

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Nassim Nicholas Taleb
“Love without sacrifice is like theft”
Nassim Nicholas Taleb, The Bed of Procrustes: Philosophical and Practical Aphorisms

Adam S. McHugh
“When introverts are in conflict with each may require a map in order to follow all the silences, nonverbal cues and passive-aggressive behaviors!”
Adam S. McHugh

Criss Jami
“Anger's like a battery that leaks acid right out of me
And it starts from the heart until it reaches my outer me”
Criss Jami, Healology

Criss Jami
“Lingering, bottled-up anger never reveals the 'true colors' of an individual. It, on the contrary, becomes all mixed up, rotten, confused, forms a highly combustible, chemical compound then explodes as something foreign, something very different than one's natural self.”
Criss Jami, Healology

Edward M.  Hallowell
“To let friendship die away by negligence and silence is certainly not wise. It is voluntarily to throw away one of the greatest comforts of this weary pilgrimage." ~Samuel Johnson”
Edward M. Hallowell, Dare to Forgive: The Power of Letting Go and Moving on

Henry Cloud
“fruit of passive-aggressive people. These people resist demands by indirect tactics. They will not take responsibility for their own choices; instead, they turn around and blame someone else for making them do it. Or they will agree to do things that they don’t really want to do, and then gripe about the person behind her back.”
Henry Cloud, Changes That Heal: The Four Shifts That Make Everything Better…And That Anyone Can Do

Robert Louis Stevenson
“Although I express myself with some degree of pleasantry, the purport of my words is entirely serious.”
Robert Louis Stevenson, New Arabian Nights

Tiffany Madison
“[On Female Attraction to Men in Uniform] That male military persona feeds a subconscious, passive-aggressive female desire to dominate the warrior as he is perceived an iconic example of masculinity (particularly amongst traditionally warlike cultures). The damsel in distress theme always struck me as embodying this: the hapless, innocently beautiful woman unwittingly enraptures the heroic male so completely that he would risk all to submit to her at his own peril, and quite in spite of it.”
Tiffany Madison

Criss Jami
“Let our information and social technologies raise awareness and not propaganda, build connections and not passive-aggression.”
Criss Jami, Healology

Bill Maher
“Not doing anything is doing something and choosing to look away is a passive but no less mortal sin.”
Bill Maher, When You Ride Alone You Ride With Bin Laden: What the Government Should Be Telling Us to Help Fight the War on Terrorism

Bill Maher
“They" hate us because they feel--and "they" are not wrong--that it is within our power to do so much more, and that we practice a kind of passive-aggressive violence on the Third World. We do this by, for example, demonizing tobacco as poison here while promoting cigarettes in Asia; inflating produce prices by paying farmers not to grow food as millions go hungry worldwide; skimping on quality and then imposing tariffs on foreign products made better or cheaper than our own; padding corporate profits through Third World sweatshops; letting drug companies stand by as millions die of AIDS in Africa to keep prices up on lifesaving drugs; and on and on.

We do, upon reaching a very high comfort level, mostly choose to go from ten to eleven instead of helping another guy far away go from zero to one.

We even do it in our own country. Barbara Ehrenreich's brilliant book Nickel and Dimed describes the impossibility of living with dignity or comfort as one of the millions of minimum-wage workers in fast food, aisle-stocking and table-waiting jobs. Their labor for next to nothing ensures that well-off people can be a little more pampered.

So if we do it to our own, what chance do foreigners have?”
Bill Maher, When You Ride Alone You Ride With Bin Laden: What the Government Should Be Telling Us to Help Fight the War on Terrorism

Emily Brontë
“Is she sane?’ asked Mrs. Linton, appealing to me. ‘I’ll repeat our conversation, word for word, Isabella; and you point out any charm it could have had for you.”
Emily Brontë, Wuthering Heights

Mary H.K. Choi
“When Penny left a banana on her desk as an offering, Jude rejected it. She refused it by putting it on Penny's work chair, so when Penny went to write, she sat on it. As tiny passive-aggressive revenges went, it was adorable, and it killed Penny that they couldn't laugh about it.”
Mary H.K. Choi, Emergency Contact

Mary Crocker Cook
“When I consider the men (like my father) I have treated in psychotherapy, I recognize the challenge I face as a counselor. These men are in counseling due to an insistent wife, troubled child or their own addiction. They suffer a lack of connection with the people they say they love most. Chronically accused of being over controlling or emotionally absent, they feel at sea when their wives and children claim to be lonely in their presence. How can these people feel “un-loved” when (from his perspective) he has dedicated his life to their welfare?

Some of these men will express their lack of vitality and emotional engagement though endless service. They are hyperaware of the moods, needs and prefer-ences of loved ones, yet their self-neglect can be profound. This text examines how a lack of secure early attachment with caregivers can result in the tendency to self-abandon while managing connections with significant others. Their anxiety and distrust of the connection of others will manifest in anxious monitoring, over-giving, passive aggressive approaches to anger and chronic worry. For them, failure to anticipate and meet the needs of others equals abandonment.”
Mary Crocker Cook, Codependency & Men

“The Vikings thought they were big shots because they had boats. You know how obnoxious people get when they own a boat. They always want to go on the boat. "We're taking the boat out this weekend. It's supposed to be beautiful. Why don't you come? You never come. You're always working. You know how many people wish they would get invited to come on the boat? And you turn it down.”
Colin Quinn, The Coloring Book: A Comedian Solves Race Relations in America

Barbara W. Tuchman
“They resented the patronage they depended upon.”
Barbara W. Tuchman

“Trying to make her angry is like trying to find a corner on a bowling ball.”
Craig McLay, Village Books

“The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room.”
Frank Lucas, American Gangster

Natalya Vorobyova
“Fine! He is being passive aggressive with me, and it's gonna backfire; I'm gonna be active friendly.”
Natalya Vorobyova, Better to be able to love than to be loveable

P.L. Travers
“If I were some people,” she remarked acidly, “I’d mind my own business!”
P.L. Travers, Mary Poppins Comes Back

Leo Tolstoy
“Levin had long before made the observation that when one is uncomfortable with people from their being excessively amenable and meek, one is apt very soon after to find things intolerable from their touchiness and irritability.”
Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina

“Passive Aggression – Being covertly spiteful with the intent of inflicting mental pain.”
Ashta-Deb, Life Happens to Us: A True Story

Theric Jepson
“On the porch were the still-smoking remains of long-stemmed roses, evidence that someone angry and passive-aggressive didn't know Peter was out of town.”
Theric Jepson, Byuck

Jason Aaron
“Boys, tell your mother to shut her lying whore mouth before I shove the nearest apple down her throat.”
Jason Aaron, The Goddamned, Vol. 1: Before the Flood

“You speak to me in locked cages.
In open sentences with closed meanings.
In riddles I can never seem to understand.

Around you Nkem, I feel lost.
Un-at-home. Dismembered.

In many small bits.
And in tiny minuscule pieces.”
Ezinne Orjiako, Nkem.

Tarryn Fisher
“I was a passive aggressive coward. That sort of thing clung to your flesh like a smell, rot turned inside out. People could sense it on you; it caused them to be distrustful. It was hard to make friends when you had the smell, hard to keep them when you did make them. You held back from them and they held back from you, an even trade of nothingness.”
Tarryn Fisher, Atheists Who Kneel and Pray

“During the antiglobalization years at the turn of twenty-first century, I frequently found myself in baffling arguments about the use of "violence" in demonstrations with pacifists or others who self-described as adhering to a strict code of nonviolence. Many of the same folks who argued that we shouldn't do anything that could hurt someone else's property consistently yelled at their companions until they felt threatened, and engaged in intensely damaging emotional manipulations and passive-aggressive maneuvers in meetings and during demonstrations. Countless times, I saw "nonviolent" demonstrators physically hurt other protestors by attempting to drag them out of the streets for spray painting a wall or breaking a window.

Why do people feel justified in trying to pacify others--often with little context for one another? Such vehement attempts to try to contain other's rage and rebellion leads to an unnecessary escalation of conflict between those of us who should be able to struggle together instead of against one another. (Original Zine: Ain't no PC Gonna Fix it, Baby. 2013.
Featured in: A Critique of Ally Politics. Taking Sides.)”

“Why, a good evening to you, dear lady! Forgive the spartan accommodations; I was not expecting such honored company tonight, as you are manifestly aware.”
D.D. Webb, The Gods are Bastards

Laura Greenwood
“I can’t talk, I’m busy making you tea,” I grumbled. I flicked the kettle on, hoping the noise would drown him out.
William stared at me for a second, blinking slowly. “Are you passively-aggressively making me tea?”
Laura Greenwood, Fangs For All