Monogamy Quotes

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Milan Kundera
“Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman are two separate passions, not merely different but opposite. Love does not make itself felt in the desire for copulation (a desire that extends to an infinite number of women) but in the desire for shared sleep (a desire limited to one woman).”
Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being

G.K. Chesterton
“There are no words to express the abyss between isolation and having one ally. It may be conceded to the mathematician that four is twice two. But two is not twice one; two is two thousand times one.”
G. K. Chesterton

Erica Jong
“We drove to the hotel and said goodbye. How hypocritical to go upstairs with a man you don't want to fuck, leave the one you do sitting there alone, and then, in a state of great excitement, fuck the one you don't want to fuck while pretending he's the one you do. That's called fidelity. That's called monogamy. That's called civilization and its discontents.”
Erica Jong, Fear of Flying

George Bernard Shaw
“Confusing monogamy with morality has done more to destroy the conscience of the human race than any other error.”
George Bernard Shaw

G.K. Chesterton
“Through all this ordeal his root horror had been isolation, and there are no words to express the abyss between isolation and having one ally. It may be conceded to the mathematicians that four is twice two. But two is not twice one; two is two thousand times one. That is why, in spite of a hundred disadvantages, the world will always return to monogamy.”
G.K. Chesterton, The Man Who Was Thursday: A Nightmare

Hugh Laurie
“We want different things. Men want to have sex with a woman. Then they want to have sex with another woman. And then another. Then they want to eat cornflakes and sleep for a while, and then they want to have sex with another woman, and another, until they die. Women,’ and I thought I’d better pick my words carefully when describing a gender I didn’t belong to, ‘want a relationship. They may not get it, or they may sleep with a lot of men before they do get it, but ultimately that’s what they want. That’s the goal. Men do not have goals. Natural ones. So they invent them, and put them at either end of a football pitch. And then they invent football. Or they pick fights, or try and get rich, or start wars, or come up with any number of daft bloody things to make up for the fact that they have no real goals.’
‘Bollocks,’ said Ronnie.
‘That, of course, is the other main difference.”
Hugh Laurie, The Gun Seller

Thomas Hardy
“Some women's love of being loved is insatiable; and so, often, is their love of loving; and in the last case they may find that they can't give it continuously to the chamber-officer appointed by the bishop's license to receive it.”
Thomas Hardy

“Being faithful and monogamous is not natural for human beings. It takes work. Deep down we all know that. We have all been tempted to stray at some point or another. Even when it was only a fleeting thought and we didn't act on it. Every time we acknowledge that someone of the opposite sex is "attractive" or "sexy" we are doing nothing other than pointing out that they would be a suitable mate. Not acting on that natural impulse to want to mate with a viable mating partner requires a conscious decision. It's a constant struggle between what your body wants, and what the civilized part of your brain says you should do, in order to avoid the negative consequences of cheating on your spouse and ruining your long-term relationship. That's why affairs, and extra-marital sex, are often referred to as "a moment of weakness.”
Oliver Markus Malloy, Why Men And Women Can't Be Friends

Milan Kundera
“Revolution in Love’. Can you tell me what you mean by that? Do you want free love as against bourgeois marriage, or monogamy as against bourgeois promiscuity?”
Milan Kundera, Life is Elsewhere

Donna Lynn Hope
“Have you seen what wolves do to their prey? But they do mate for life.”
Donna Lynn Hope

Mokokoma Mokhonoana
“When a man cheats, it is said it is because he is a dog. When a woman cheats, it is said it is because her man is a dog.”
Mokokoma Mokhonoana, Divided & Conquered

Jeffrey McDaniel
“Now I'm just like everybody else, and it's so funny,

the way monogamy is funny, the way
someone falling down in the street is funny.

I entered a revolving door and emerged
as a human being. When you think of me
is my face electronically blurred?”
Jeffrey McDaniel

Zoe Whittall
“When I tell her I feel like the other woman, she laughs, that's just learned sexist bullshit. We are all in charge of our own bodies and what we decide to do with them. We are all our own.

I believed it when she said it, like she'd opened up a new valve that had been stuck. I felt unconfined and open-minded and totally confused. Intellectually, non-monogamy made complete sense; emotionally, it felt like sandpaper across my eyelids.”
Zoe Whittall

F.H. Bradley
“When I hear that "Possession is the grave of love," I remember that a religion may begin with the resurrection.”
F.H. Bradley

James  Jones
“I cant take it like this much longer, Milt," Karen said muffledly into the big CKC shirt with its male smell, allowing herself the luxury of letting the bars all the way down for once, enjoying for just this moment the eternal degradation of being a woman.

"I cant take it much longer," she whimpered, tasting it, the eternally caught and held hard in the grasp of some man, the forever humiliated heavy weight it was impossible to squirm out from under, the forever helpless except for the mercy of him who always takes what he wants without any, and that all women learn instinctively not to expect [...] That was all they wanted. That was all any of them wanted. You give them the greatest thing you possess, the most intimate secret, and they --- just take it. Well, let them have it. Let them all have some of it. Let them root and rut and rowel, as if it was no more important than that why were they all so anxious to keep it away from each other?”
James Jones, From Here to Eternity

Nigel Slater
“I understood that if ever one wanted to live with someone you cooked for them and they came running. But then it is my idea of hell these days, living with someone. The idea of sharing your life with someone is just utterly ghastly. I know why people do it, but it's never a good idea.”
Nigel Slater, Real Cooking

Barbara Kingsolver
“That would be Axelroot all over, to turn up with an extra wife or two claiming that's how they do it here. Maybe he's been in Africa so long he's forgotten that we Christians have our own system of marriage, and it's called Monotony.”
Barbara Kingsolver, The Poisonwood Bible

“Anthropologist Donald Symons is as amazed as we are at frequent attempts to argue that monogamous gibbons could serve as viable models for human sexuality, writing, "Talk of why (or whether) humans pair bond like gibbons strikes me as belonging to the same realm of discourse as talk of why the sea is boiling hot and whether pigs have wings.”
Cacilda Jethá, Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality

Mokokoma Mokhonoana
“The forbiddenness of a fruit makes even the taste of a lemon sweet.”
Mokokoma Mokhonoana

Philip Roth
“And so now you will get rid of me? Overnight? Like that? After thirteen years?”

“I am confused by you. I can’t follow you. What exactly is happening here today? It’s not I but you who proposed this ultimatum out of the fucking blue. It’s you who presented me with the either/or. It’s you who is getting rid of me overnight . . . unless, of course, I consent to become overnight a sexual creature of the kind I am not and never have been. Follow me, please. I must become a sexual creature of the kind that you have yourself never dreamed of being. In order to preserve what we have remarkably sustained by forthrightly pursuing together our sexual desires—are you with me?—my sexual desires must be deformed, since it is unarguable that, like you—you until today, that is—I am not by nature, inclination, practice, or belief a monogamous being. Period. You wish to impose a condition that either deforms me or turns me into a dishonest man with you. But like all other living creatures I suffer when I am deformed. And it shocks me, I might add, to think that the forthrightness that has sustained and excited us both, that provides such a healthy contrast to the routine deceitfulness that is the hallmark of a hundred million marriages, including yours and mine, is now less to your taste than the solace of conventional lies and repressive puritanism. As a self-imposed challenge, repressive puritanism is fine with me, but it is Titoism, Drenka, inhuman Titoism, when it seeks to impose its norms on others by self-righteously suppressing the satanic side of sex.”
Philip Roth, Sabbath's Theater

Jennifer Nansubuga Makumbi
“But me, I was not going to sit around waiting for him to steal a moment for me once a week, once a month. In the end,' she said in English, 'I supplemented him.'
'You suppliwhat?' Kirabo responded in English.
Nsuuta was cynical. 'You know why you are shocked, Kirabo? Because women are brought up to treat sex as sacred while men treat it as a snack.”
Jennifer Nansubuga Makumbi, A Girl Is a Body of Water

Iain Reid
“The idea that we are better off with one person for the rest of our lives is not an innate truth of existence. It’s a belief we want to be true.”
Iain Reid, I'm Thinking of Ending Things

Chelsea G. Summers
“I always marvel at this sort of woman, the sort who accepts total, monogamous devotion like it's her birthright. To my experience, there's nothing that unites these women - they can be smart as pinstripes or dumb as fake fur, they can have classic beauty of a perfectly ripe Honeycrisp apple or the compelling plainness of pie. They tend to be skinny: perhaps their performance of appetite suggests comfort with deprivation. Maybe they dupe men into thinking that they, like air plants, don't need nourishment to survive. I suspect what makes these women irresistible is this: the women who impassion men are those who can maintain that tension between being in love and succumbing to it.”
Chelsea G. Summers, A Certain Hunger

“O poliamor não vem definido pelo número de relações, e sim pelo tipo de relação que têm os meta-amores entre si: se é de cooperação e cuidados mútuos, ou de confrontação e batalha pelo topo.”
Brigitte Vasallo, Pensamiento monógamo terror poliamoroso

“Romper a monogamia não é [...] pra gente normal, nem pra gente descolada. É a ruptura das fracassadas, dos perdedores, das que habitam a margem de qualquer margem, para aquelas que nunca vão encontrar um par com quem fazer um ninho porque não há ninho que nos contenha nem que nos queira conter. [...] Nós temos outras ferramentas, porque somos feitas de outra massa. [...] Só temos que acabar de romper com a fantasia, dar o último passo, soltar a última amarra, fugir da influência dos centros do desejo, sair inclusive da margem para ocupar uma mais pra lá, encontrar as nossas iguais, olhar em suas caras, nomeá-las. E nos pormos de verdade a construir outra coisa.”
Brigitte Vasallo, Pensamiento monógamo terror poliamoroso

Aldous Huxley
“But every one belongs to every one else.”
Aldous Huxley, Brave New World

Ash Gabrieli
“​Gaby: Calm down! I don’t believe in monogamy, okay? I don’t understand how you can be with one partner all your life. Love just the same person for the rest of your life, be committed to one person. ​Nathaniel: I can’t believe… This can’t be true. ​Gaby: Let me explain it in your language. It's like listening to the same song throughout your life. The same song every freaking day. Sooner or later you’ll get tired of it. Then those notes, that melody, those words will get on your nerves, and, in the end, one day, you will be done. That’s why there are people like me. We listen to everything, rap, pop, rock, country, even classical music. You must understand, you can’t get everything from one partner. I came back because I knew that no matter what, you will always be there waiting for me. You are giving me things others can’t give and vice versa. It’s easy.”
Ash Gabrieli, Petrichor

Ash Gabrieli
“Calm down! I don’t believe in monogamy, okay? I don’t understand how you can be with one partner all your life. Love just the same person for the rest of your life, be committed to one person… Let me explain it in your language. It's like listening to the same song throughout your life. The same song every freaking day. Sooner or later you’ll get tired of it. Then those notes, that melody, those words will get on your nerves, and, in the end, one day, you will be done. That’s why there are people like me. We listen to everything, rap, pop, rock, country, even classical music. You must understand, you can’t get everything from one partner. I came back because I knew that no matter what, you will always be there waiting for me. You are giving me things others can’t give and vice versa. It’s easy.”
Ash Gabrieli, Petrichor

“Calm down! I don’t believe in monogamy, okay? I don’t understand how you can be with one partner all your life. Love just the same person for the rest of your life, be committed to one person… Let me explain it in your language. It's like listening to the same song throughout your life. The same song every freaking day. Sooner or later you’ll get tired of it. Then those notes, that melody, those words will get on your nerves, and, in the end, one day, you will be done. That’s why there are people like me. We listen to everything, rap, pop, rock, country, even classical music. You must understand, you can’t get everything from one partner. I came back because I knew that no matter what, you will always be there waiting for me. You are giving me things others can’t give and vice versa. It’s easy.”
Ash Gabrieliieli

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