Blame Quotes

“Be open in everything with your partner, because where there is secrecy, it can mistakenly come off as being sneaky; where you just may be innocently quiet.”
― Anthony Liccione

“In passing, also, I would like to say that the first time Adam had a chance he laid the blame on a woman.”
― Nancy Astor the Viscountess Astor

“This vacillation between assertion and denial in discussions about organised abuse can be understood as functional, in that it serves to contain the traumatic kernel at the heart of allegations of organised abuse. In his influential ‘just world’ theory, Lerner (1980) argued that emotional wellbeing is predicated on the assumption that the world is an orderly, predictable and just place in which people get what they deserve. Whilst such assumptions are objectively false, Lerner argued that individuals have considerable investment in maintaining them since they are conducive to feelings of self—efficacy and trust in others. When they encounter evidence contradicting the view that the world is just, individuals are motivated to defend this belief either by helping the victim (and thus restoring a sense of justice) or by persuading themselves that no injustice has occurred. Lerner (1980) focused on the ways in which the ‘just world’ fallacy motivates victim-blaming, but there are other defences available to bystanders who seek to dispel troubling knowledge. Organised abuse highlights the severity of sexual violence in the lives of some children and the desire of some adults to inflict considerable, and sometimes irreversible, harm upon the powerless. Such knowledge is so toxic to common presumptions about the orderly nature of society, and the generally benevolent motivations of others, that it seems as though a defensive scaffold of disbelief, minimisation and scorn has been erected to inhibit a full understanding of organised abuse.
Despite these efforts, there has been a recent resurgence of interest in organised abuse and particularly ritualistic abuse (eg Sachs and Galton 2008, Epstein et al. 2011, Miller 2012).”
― Michael Salter, Organised Sexual Abuse

“When the devil wants to punish his worshippers, he uses the trick of karma.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson

“You can blame people and situations for your misery, hunger, deprivation and illness, but you are the only person can be blamed for your illiteracy.”
― M.F. Moonzajer, LOVE, HATRED AND MADNESS

“Jesus is the perfect name!
He who put away his fame!
And persecuted in shame!
That you will never be the same!
It's because of you and I He came!
Believe him or have yourself to blame!
In the book of life, have your name!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes

“Before you point fingers at someone, clean them well. You better remove that log on your lens before you can see the speck on someone's own afar!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes

“Later times have laid all the blame upon the Goths and Vandals, but, however unwilling the partizans of the Christian system may be to believe or to acknowledge it, it is nevertheless true, that the age of ignorance commenced with the Christian system.There was more knowledge in the world before that period, than for many centuries afterwards; and as to religious knowledge, the Christian system, as already said, was only another species of mythology; and the mythology to which it succeeded, was a corruption of an ancient system of theism.

It is owing to this long interregnum of science, and to no other cause, that we have now to look back through a vast chasm of many hundred years to the respectable characters we call the Ancients. Had the progression of knowledge gone on proportionably with the stock that before existed, that chasm would have been filled up with characters rising superior in knowledge to each other; and those Ancients we now so much admire would have appeared respectably in the background of the scene. But the christian system laid all waste; and if we take our stand about the beginning of the sixteenth century, we look back through that long chasm, to the times of the Ancients, as over a vast sandy desert, in which not a shrub appears to intercept the vision to the fertile hills beyond.”
― Thomas Paine, The Age of Reason

“A leader or mentor gives credit to others when things go right, and accepts the blame when things go wrong.”
― Bill Courtney, Against the Grain: A Coach's Wisdom on Character, Faith, Family, and Love

“I felt like I needed to comfort both the little girl inside me and my mother, assuring them that neither of them could have prevented the rape. I didn't want my mother to blame herself and I didn't want to blame the little girl inside of me for not speaking up at the age of six.”
― Erin Merryn, Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness

“For most people, blaming others is a subconscious mechanism for avoiding accountability. In reality, the only thing in your way is YOU.”
― Steve Maraboli

“Stop blaming people for not helping you to solve your problems. The question is simple "are they the ones in the problem with you"? People may teach you, people may advise you, people may inspire you, but it takes YOU to go the extra mile and make an indelible impact!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes

“Some readers may find it a curious or even unscientific endeavour to craft a criminological model of organised abuse based on the testimony of survivors. One of the standard objections to qualitative research is that participants may lie or fantasise in interview, it has been suggested that adults who report severe child sexual abuse are particularly prone to such confabulation. Whilst all forms of research, whether qualitative or quantitative, may be impacted upon by memory error or false reporting. there is no evidence that qualitative research is particularly vulnerable to this, nor is there any evidence that a fantasy— or lie—prone individual would be particularly likely to volunteer for research into child sexual abuse. Research has consistently found that child abuse histories, including severe and sadistic abuse, are accurate and can be corroborated (Ross 2009, Otnow et al. 1997, Chu et al. 1999). Survivors of child abuse may struggle with amnesia and other forms of memory disturbance but the notion that they are particularly prone to suggestion and confabulation has yet to find a scientific basis. It is interesting to note that questions about the veracity of eyewitness evidence appear to be asked far more frequently in relation to sexual abuse and rape than in relation to other crimes. The research on which this book is based has been conducted with an ethical commitment to taking the lives and voices of survivors of organised abuse seriously.”
― Michael Salter, Organised Sexual Abuse

“Today, acknowledgement of the prevalence and harms of child sexual abuse is counterbalanced with cautionary tales about children and women who, under pressure from social workers and therapists, produce false allegations of ‘paedophile rings’, ‘cult abuse’ and ‘ritual abuse’. Child protection investigations or legal cases involving allegations of organised child sexual abuse are regularly invoked to illustrate the dangers of ‘false memories’, ‘moral panic’ and ‘community hysteria’. These cautionary tales effectively delimit the bounds of acceptable knowledge in relation to sexual abuse. They are circulated by those who locate themselves firmly within those bounds, characterising those beyond as ideologues and conspiracy theorists.
However firmly these boundaries have been drawn, they have been persistently transgressed by substantiated disclosures of organised abuse that have led to child protection interventions and prosecutions. Throughout the 1990s, in a sustained effort to redraw these boundaries, investigations and prosecutions for organised abuse were widely labelled ‘miscarriages of justice’ and workers and therapists confronted with incidents of organised abuse were accused of fabricating or exaggerating the available evidence. These accusations have faded over time as evidence of organised abuse has accumulated, while investigatory procedures have become more standardised and less vulnerable to discrediting attacks. However, as the opening quotes to this introduction illustrate, the contemporary situation in relation to organised abuse is one of considerable ambiguity in which journalists and academics claim that organised abuse is a discredited ‘moral panic’ even as cases are being investigated and prosecuted.”
― Michael Salter, Organised Sexual Abuse

“Instead of blaming yourself for something you cannot undo, let it define you.”
― Shaun Hick, The Ghost And Its Shadow

“One major way to avoid shifting blames unto other people is to accept and agree that the efforts that turn the loads of your self- improvement have to turn on your own pivot.”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes

“She had heard it was easy to blame others for one's own failures. But that wasn't exactly accurate. It was easy to blame herself for what had happened--hard to live with it. [...] It was hard to blame them, harder still to live with the need to blame them.”
― Frank Beddor, ArchEnemy

“I have found that as your wisdom and maturity develop, the number of other people you blame for your own circumstances shrinks.”
― Steve Maraboli

“The blame game is already a lost game, so don't attempt dressing up to play it! Blames create no change; winners don't apportion blames!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes

“Avoid the penalties of the blame game. You were born to be boss player, not a blame giver. Stop the blame!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes

“There's nothing more unattractive than a man who blames predestination for his own failures and a woman who blames men for her own vulnerability...

Blame thyself”
― Sanhita Baruah

“Maybe your right. Maybe I should blame myself… Who the hell needs that?”
― Nana Mary Roseanne

“Allegations of multi-perpetrator and multi-victim sexual abuse emerged to public awareness in the early 1980s contemporaneously with the denials of the accused and their supporters. Multi-perpetrator sexual offences are typically more sadistic than solo offences and organised sexual abuse is no exception. Adults and children with histories of organised abuse have described lives marked by torturous and sometimes ritualistic sexual abuse arranged by family members and other care-givers and authority figures. It is widely acknowledged, at least in theory, that sexual abuse can take severe forms, but when disclosures of such abuse occur, they are routinely subject to contestation and challenge. People accused of organised, sadistic or ritualistic abuse have protested that their accusers are liars and fantasists, or else innocents led astray by overly zealous investigators. This was an argument that many journalists and academics have found more convincing than the testimony of alleged victims.”
― Michael Salter, Organised Sexual Abuse

“The mass communications that could enable our politics for good have instead turned it into a bland conglomeration of stinted opinion cloaked in the occasional media frenzy of blame or denial.”
― Sara Sheridan

“Stop blaming people for not making you to achieve your dreams. The question is "are they the people having those dreams?”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes

“Maintain your integrity! Live life in such a way that when another person tells his or her truth, you'll not be committed for blame.”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes

“If you tempted a poor man with a fortune, who could blame the fellow for taking what he could?”
― Sara Sheridan, The Secret Mandarin

“Jesus' death & resurrection on behalf of everyone gives his true Followers blamelessness when we believe (Romans 10:8-12 at http://diigo.com/0lk6j) ...not faultlessness! ~ © gfp '42™ http://ow.ly/i/4RJcX”
― Gary Patton

“...failure promotes success only if you actually take the time to analyze your mistakes.." "Failure has to be separated from fault, and for many people that requires a bit of deprogramming, as we learn early on that they are one and the same." "In this framework, intention is extremely important.”
― Amanda Lang

“Cookies don't make us fat. They're not to blame for our obesity epidemic. You know what else isn't to blame? Fast food, chips, candy, technology, soda, or anything else. The choices we make over a prolonged period time determine the width of our backsides and size of our pants. No one food, company, or activity is responsible for our obesity epidemic.”
― Shawn Weeks, 344 Pounds: How I Lost 125 Pounds By Counting Calories