Vivienne Craft's Blog, page 11

Quickie #4

Sooooo……….I found out another one of my friends thinks I’m stupid. And I am so giddy about it.  When people think you’re stupid no one asks you to do anything. I really have no idea how I pulled this off.  I mean I do so much in my life (that requires like thinking and stuff) that I really don’t know why this new friend thinks I’m dumb.

So here’s how it all went down. I was talking to this friend on chat and I carry on several conversations at once. Sometimes I will delete a conversation so I don’t have to see it. I have a thing about deleting things (I blame it on my OCD). Anyhoo, when I went back to respond to the one friend I had deleted the convo and had no idea what I was talking about.  SO what do you when you are talking to someone and have no idea what to say……You respond “Yup.”

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO Okay so this works about 82% of the time but this time Yup was not the answer to the question.  So the response I got back was one maybe you would tell a three year old when they tell you a story and you want to encourage their imagination.  Then later on I just happen to see a post where in the comments they talk about “friends” who may not understand you because….they can’t.

Now I may be reading too much into things but….I don’t think I’m going out on a limb when I draw the conclusion they were talking about me. What do you think?

It’s just plain out funny to me because now I have no obligation to give advice or have a conversation on a subject I care nothing about.

Happy Happy Joy Joy

~VC

False Advertising

So men are NOW complaining that women are performing some kind of voodoo sorcery by perfecting their makeup game. These the same dude’s that promote a Kim Kardashian. That chick looks like she’s a member of the Nosferatu family without makeup.  Okay maybe not that bad but….close? (She’s beautiful otherwise)

Makeup isn’t a tool of the devil. It’s just an enhancement. Why should a woman have to walk around looking like she just got released from being held hostage for two years so that a dude on the internet can not talk about you? Again….these same dude’s will have a chick wearing a face full of make up (fake ass, boobs, hair and nails) and be sporting her like some new J’s.  Why hate? Congratulate. That shit takes talent.

In fact, I love the transformations. I wish I could get my make up on fleek like these women. (That was the first and last time I will use the word ‘fleek’)

This is amazing to me!!!

Ah May Zing!!!

I love it.  I don’t know. I just think there is so much stuff out there to help you feel good about yourself. All these people hating on weave and makeup and getting your nails done and dressing up and so on…what do they want? We might as well not shower and never go to the gym because that is also altering your natural state.

Me personally? I do what I want (as I think every woman should).  Now take that and fry it up like some chicken.

Just Sayin.

~VC

What about your friends?

So this happened….

A friend of mine told me he and his wife were expecting a baby. I’m all happy trying to fight my own baby fever so I ask how far along she is. He gives me some nonsensical answer that didn’t mean anything. I ask if she’s showing. Another nonsensical answer.

Fast forward two months and the wife has the baby. I’m all over here like waaaaa??? First off she was good and preggo when you triumphantly break the news and secondly I still don’t get a text, call, or nathan? I find out through social media??? And someone else’s social media at that?

You ask why this makes a difference to me? Because he is a LONG TIME family friend. If I had done that and the situation was reversed he would swear I was the devil. And then unfriend me in real life.

What happened to people being friends? Like real friends? To each other not just one way?

I have since woosah-ed and let it go but in the end I have also let the friend go.

*sigh*

~VC

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Thanksgiving is a thing!!!

I don’t know what happened but people have straight skipped over Thanksgiving this year. I LOVE Thanksgiving! Love it. I cook and break out the fat pants and eat!!!

Although, last year I barely ate anything because I was so busy cooking and cleaning. I was pretty upset about it too.

But this year, I’m doing everything ahead of time. I already have my table set and the house clean. I start cooking everything tomorrow and  Wednesday and then I’m set.

I just don’t get how all the Christmas music, commercials and even Christmas trees are already up. I mean I saw decorations going up the day after Halloween. Really?!!

Whatevs!! Happy Thanksgiving!

~VC

You iz snarky, You iz stupid, You iz unimportant

So….the internet has made people think they are smart, cute, and clever. Let me be clear (Stephen A. Smith). One day he is gonna sue me for that. But anyway…Let me be clear. I am not talking about errbody. I am just talking about those folks who think they have to jump on every post, comment on every blog or sarcastically point out every error.

I used to get mad and confused when I post something (in my personal social media) and one of my “friends” felt the need to tell me how much they hate something I have just said that I love or try and post some snappy comment on something that I have posted directly to another person. Every time it happens I think “Who invited you to the party?” Or  “I don’t think the person I was sending this to appreciates your sour ass input.”

And then when they try to say something to prove their intelligence….Man I just laugh. In this age of Google, people think they are intelligent because they have access to information but intelligence is not only the capacity to obtain and retain knowledge but also the APPLICATION of that knowledge. And guess what? I didn’t have to Google that. I lernt it in skool.

But my all time favorite is when someone is trying to show someone up being cute and smart and important and they are dead ass wrong.

This happened to me recently…Let’s be honest this happens to me all the time really. Someone was trying to be a little sarcastic puss and they quoted a statistic that I will just have to say was made up and pulled straight from their ass. I have no idea why they thought I wouldn’t look it up……That was a bad move for them. LOLOLOLOL

Anyhoo, If you know someone who is a constant unsolicited smart ass then please let them know They iz snarky, They iz stupid and They iz unimportant.

 

I enjoyed this post.

~VC

Because I wanted to be a Bloggie

Well by now you know that I blog. But I started doing it for two reasons.

1. My friends and family always hounded me about doing a blog.

2. I wanted to promote my books and build a new audience

Okay but I had no idea what I was doing or how to go about doing it but so far so good.

There is so much to learn about blogging. First of all like the whole negative blogger thing. There are so many negative bloggers ranting and raving about this thing or that thing that newbie bloggers are doing wrong. This I will probably never get. I have enough people in my life trying to tell me I suck. I need to go find someone to tell me I suck.

Then there are the blogs that are just someone else’s blog. I mean either they just copy and paste it or kind of rearrange the words but stealing it none the less. If you don’t have something to say then why blog?

Then I have started to notice the blogs of people who have a how to blog blog but never actually get to the good information. And that’s their whole blog. Interesting.

My point is that these blogs have a lot of followers. Is that what the masses want? I’m still a newbie at this and I’m grateful for all of my followers and people who took the time to like my blog. I’m getting there slowly but surely and I enjoy taking you for the ride.

~VC

Racism is still a thing

So earlier this week I shared a story about a Missouri female football team playing in black face on my personal Facebook page. Mainly, I shared it because the people involved trying to say it was an innocent mistake.

These girls weren’t five year olds. They are older teenagers. Anyway, the story was that they always paint their faces to intimidate their opponents but when the girls all gathered their supplies they only had black paint. So they proceeded to paint their entire face black. Not just a design or half a face (Braveheart style) but they went full blackface.

Anyhoo, one of my FB friends who is white responded with this comment: Not trying to take away from this incredulous act but racism is kept alive by both sides the ones creating it and the ones bothered by it in any form they were wrong to do that but instead of outrage shouldn’t the world laugh at their ignorance there by condemning the ignorant as being ignorant instead giving credence to their inequity and bringing attention to this despicable creation and giving it life to be aprocreated in another ignorant mind held by a sheeple?

Here was my response: There is a time and a place for outrage. If you laugh at these incidents of racism then racism itself becomes a laughing matter and therefore acceptable. No black person should be made to feel like what these young women did was acceptable. The girls themselves shouldn’t feel that it was acceptable. Outrage doesn’t give it credence. Having them play an entire game with not one adult telling them to take that shit off gives it credence. Them feeling comfortable to take pictures and post it on social media gives it credence. Outrage got the facepaint banned from future games so that ignorance won’t happen again.

I have a brother who is in his early twenties that once told me because he grew up with people of all races, racism doesn’t exist. I damn near slapped the blackness off him (Not really but I wanted to shake some sense into him) Just because the black people before you fought and protested and rallied and were beaten and intimated and killed so that we can all be counted as equal doesn’t mean that the bigoted ideology that is racism somehow magically floated away.  We have progressed. And that is always a good thing but I’m sorry my good people racism is still a thing.

I’m so glad that my FB friend is thinking about how to fix the problem but getting rid of the outrage is not the way. Otherwise, when egregious acts of racism happen people will just accept it and move on and nothing changes. Outrage brings attention. Attention brings discussion. Discussion brings a plan. And a plan can bring change.

Outrage does not mean violence, although, violence can be a result of it. We have to follow up the outrage with something meaningful.

On the bright side–Me being able to have this conversation with my friend and then sharing it with my rainbow coalition of peeps shows just how far we’ve come. But these girls thinking it was okay to play a football game in blackface shows just how far we have to go.

It’s just my two cents…

~VC

If you were interested in the story that inspired this blog….Here it is.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanhatesthis/outrage-over-accidental-powder-puff-blackface?bffb

 

 

 

Nope…I’m not flirting

I have always been that girl that gets accused of flirting with a guy no matter what. Once, while eating dinner in with my husband, I met eyes with a guy across the room. I smiled and nodded and he did the same. I went back to eating with my husband.  I got up to go to the restroom a while later not even thinking about the brief encounter. The guy’s girl gave me THE dirtiest look on the planet while at the same time cuffing her man. I just wanted to scream, “I DON’T WANT HIM! I was just smiling because I’m nice and now I’m going to pee.”

Like for reals tho….I don’t want him. I barely want mine. (But I love you Hubbs)

And with the invent of Facebook, this phenomenon (of women thinking I’m flirting with their guy) had risen 1000 fold.

All it takes is a dude to like one too many of my pictures, or like a post, or heaven help me if they comment on something I posted. Hell, I might as well shut my page down if I comment on something the dude says. I often want to say “Relax ladies! It’s just Facebook. I like a lot of guy stuff and I watch a shit ton of TV. These are conversation starters.”

Besides I can’t help if your dude likes one of my pictures. I can only guarantee that I’ll probably never see him in real life (because I’m a shut in) or if I do my husband will most likely be with me.  *Kanye Shrug*

For now, I will just deal with the not so random friend request from a girl I don’t know….by hitting delete.

Just know that I’m not interested. For reals.

~VC