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Knowing And Freedom

If your context for a conversation was discovery,what would that make possible?

What if that was your context for every conversation you had for the rest of the year? Do you imagine your life might look differently?

Knowing is very heavy- and doesn’t seem to create much in the way of love.

Perhaps try one conversation a day coming from discovery- not only who the other person is- but who you get be,not already knowing.

Sounds like freedom to me.

@CoachMeDave

Life Lessons Learned Getting Sick in 2016

1- Silence in going to bed and waking up is very healing.

2- A few cookies hits the spot- not huge amounts.

3- Conscious eating or drinking leads to fullness.

4-Gratitude for every expectorating action creates a sense of healing and partnership with my body and higher self.

5- Eat slowly. Think slowly. Savor everything.

@CoachMeDave

I Am

I am vulnerable.

I am open.

I am ready.

I let go of my past- an identity based on shame, blame and guilt.

I allow love and abundance into my life without limits.

I allow expressions of generosity,divinity,intimacy and joy.

I allow money to flow into my life with ease and love from ever expanding sources

I allow fear to bemuse me and prepare me for what’s next-and to allow that too.

I allow mistakes to happen and delight in noticing them.

I allow the God in me to be.

@CoachMeDave

Inquiry

In my journaling this morning, I was intrigued by the relationship of expectations,standards and beliefs.

Is it my expectation or belief,that winning in life means a minimum of emotional,physical and psychological wounds/experiences/challenges/blessings?

Do I expect to live life always feeling comfortable ? Do I expect to be gifted in every area? What does carrying these kind of expectations create in my day to day life? What do I really think is the worst that could happen in any scenario?

And when did I decide that I was so fragile?

Hmmmmmmm…

Engage if you care to……..in terms of YOUR life.

#yaneverknow

@CoachMeDave

You Never Know………

You never know where extraordinary times and life altering insights will be found.

On Saturday I attended a gathering where each of the twelve or so atendees were asked to share something for three minutes that communicated – well-

“Be it vague or specific, this is your ticket for an evening of creating the future together. Share this vision by poetry, song, movement, art, wardrobe, music – it’s your choice. Showcase of this beautiful vision begins at 8:30 – please be prepared to share and take the stage! (3-5 minutes each)….

What that made possible was a space of vulnerability connection,fun,respect,and self expression- not typical– particularly when you consider that most folks only knew the generators/hostesses. #timewellspent

And then today I attended a memorial service for a man who had been a leader in one of the communities I had participated in from 2003-2014.

I had only met him once,and didn’t enjoy the experience.However many men and women I know spoke highly of him, so I came to discover who he was.

I liked what I heard. about him. I particularly liked two observations that were part of people’s sharing about what they had learned from him.

One man said that he had learned that “We cause what we crave.”

That line has had me look at what I might be unconsciously craving and causing.

The next line really struck a chord. In recalling an incident where he had criticized his young son at a community gathering, one man recalled that the leader had turned to him ,and said”When you criticize a child like that, the result is that because he loves you so much he believes you”.

It alerted me to similar incidents in my life that may well have been a result of a temporary bad mood or other circumstance rather than the dramatic, traumatic and incredibly defining experience I always held it to be.

It also gives me something to think about in the way I contribute insight to people who I love and who love me.

@CoachMeDave

Giving and Receiving

There’s a saying that it’s better to give than receive. I think that’s wrong.

Receiving is giving. Allowing others to give to you is a huge way of giving,and creates a balanced vibration energy wise. I am of the opinion that the Universe notices uneven nuances and creates circumstances that have us grow in areas we have been ,consciously or unconsciously ,doing our best to avoid.

Cultivating an identity as only a giver rips off everyone. Begin to really address what you resist allowing in . Check with your friends and family by asking – “What’s it like to try to give to me”? Listen to the answer. Shift.

And check in with yourself. What are the beliefs about giving and receiving you currently operate from? Are they really serving you?

I recently,as many of you know generated a successful crowd funding campaign for some major dental work. I brought honesty,vulnerability,and a core belief that I deserved love and support. If you only give ,you may be covertly communicating that you don’t deserve love or contribution or support,or are allowing fear of real balanced connection to be present.

Consider the alternative. Consider what might be possible.

@CoachMeDave

Assumptions and Discovery

The assumption that everyone is hungry for the same kind of positive reinforcement that you crave can cause problems. Be aware of the impact of becoming emotionally invested before you actually discover some basic core facts about the person, particularly in person. Profile photos are sometimes not a true current reflection- and physical, emotional, and spiritual connection/chemistry can be impacted by the revealing of habits, practices, stylistic differences or something as basic as the way someone kisses.

And for some folks, compliments can trigger feelings and memories of past experiences where such communication was only given as strategy or manipulation.

Want to say something positive? Be specific and consider that less is more.

Take it slow. Ask questions. Listen. And ask yourself-

Is who I’m looking for a reflection of who I am currently engaged in being & becoming? Or, is it based on beliefs from a much earlier time?

Breathe- and above all

Honor your core,your spirit, and your Higher Self.

Perhaps then we truly start to discover ourselves & each other.

Namaste.

@CoachMeDave

Accomplishment

Accomplishment born without context,and out of reaction or avoidance will almost always feel hollow. Accomplishment which emerges from context and creation allows for growth ,fulfillment and community.

Choose.

@CoachMeDave

Communication/Connection

Your truth about yourself is interesting. Your diminishing comments about a community or scenario you have no direct background or involvement with or real time experience in your life doesn’t really bring a lot of value to the table. Learning how each of us are impacted in real time- and what that issue is REALLY about could create mature,diverse connection and communication. It all begins with being willing to shift,and grow…..

Coach Me Dave