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February 2, 2015
A Beyond Ordinary Give Away
Do you remember the hope you had the day you got married? Do you remember the vows you made—“ in sickness and in health,” “for better or worse,” “till death do us part”? Your marriage was going to be different. Your marriage was going to be special. Your marriage was going to be anything but ordinary.
Is your marriage extraordinary today?
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January 28, 2015
Why You Shouldn’t Say, “I’m Sorry”
For the first 10 years of our marriage I (Justin) avoided conflict at all costs. I didn’t like arguing. I usually lost most arguments and viewed any disagreement as failure as a husband. I equated avoided conflict as resolved conflict.
I was always first to say, “I’m sorry.” Sometimes I didn’t even know what I was sorry for. Other times, I wasn’t even sorry at all, I just wanted the argument to end.
Most of the time we view saying, “I’m sorry” as a sign of humility, but there are times saying, “I’m sorry” is way more about us than the other person. In those case it will make things worse, not better.
Here are four reasons you shouldn’t say, “I’m sorry.”
You’re more sorry you got busted than for what you did.
So often our pride hurts more than our heart. We often get offended for being called out or held accountable and so we apologize, not because we are remorseful for what we’ve done but more we are more resentful for being caught. When we aren’t sorry for what we’ve done, the odds are we will repeat it.
You’re saying you’re sorry to fix the person to whom you’re apologizing.
So often we want to fix the person and not the relationship. We are more concerned about the person being better or getting over being mad than we are about healing the relationship. When you are saying you’re sorry hoping to fix their dysfunction rather than resolve the conflict.
You’re manipulating the situation or person with an apology.
There have been so many times I’ve apologized just to get what I want. I know if I give in first, then I can manipulate the situation to go may way. When we are saying we are sorry just to get our way, that is the wrong motivation.
It’s about you feeling better not them feeling valued.
Saying your sorry to make yourself feel better might change your behavior for a few days, but won’t change your heart. If you repeatedly apologize for the same thing (over spending, losing your temper, being late, using harsh words) maybe you’re apologizing to make yourself feel better about you, rather than truly valuing the person to whom your apologizing.
“I’m sorry” can be the most powerful words you can say to someone. “I’m sorry” can also be the most overused and least potent words in a relationship. Your heart when you say, “I’m sorry” will make all the difference.
January 22, 2015
The Gift Part 2
In 2009 we shared our story for the very first time during a Sunday morning church service, completely clueless of the ministry God would unleash through us. As I shared in The Gift Part 1:
“That sacred Sunday morning would ignite a passion in Justin and I to create RefineUs Ministries to help restore hope and renew relationships. Through blogging, speaking and creating resources (including our book Beyond Ordinary) our hope was to create a movement of authenticity and help encourage others, regardless of their marital status, to move closer to Jesus.”
The gift of redemption taking place in our own marriage became a call to action to help others live out their own redemption story. Our ministry was an over-flow of who we were and who we were becoming. Our story was a gift not to keep to ourselves but to share with a hurting world.
Also in 2009, our family took another huge leap of faith, leaving the comfort of our Healing Place to take a pastoral position at Cross Point Church in Nashville, TN. Over the past six years, we’ve have had a front row seat to an explosion of church growth. Cross Point has grown from two campuses to six campuses. Cross Point gave Justin a second chance in ministry and also helped me find my voice as a writer, speaker and ministry leader. They have hosted more events for RefineUs than I can count and have helped us steward the gift of RefineUs along the way.
Our gift felt like we were living out a modern day version of the famous story found in Matthew 14, where Jesus feeds five thousand people with just five loaves and two fish. Our blog went from a couple hundred readers to over a million readers. We were signed by an amazing publisher to write a book where we have sold over 40,000 copies to date. We’ve had over 2000 couples go through MentorUs and 70 couples go through The RefineUs Weekend Experience.
But over time, stewarding the success of this gift in Christian circles meant our gift needed sponsors and blog comments (yes, lots and lots of comments) because those things would make the gift look better. It wasn’t good enough for our gift to be an overflow of who we were and what God was already doing. Our gift needed MORE, more shine, more bows, more hustle and more distribution.
No longer was our gift something to give away but rather a shinny box we felt trapped in. A box with walls that told us we can ONLY talk about the subject of Marriage. We can only speak at these types of events and only write these types of books. I remember sitting down with a well-known author and confessing to him the struggle I was feeling with the confines of our gift and his response was simply “that’s just the way it works”.
So just like in 2009, when we chose to step out in faith to leave our dream house and high paying secular job, we are choosing yet again to take another leap. Our hope and prayer is that our RefineUs community will take a leap of faith along with us! In 2015 we want to unwrap the gift. Unwrap the stories of the 1,000 gifts we are living today and not just the stories of ten years ago. Stories of parenthood, world events, leadership, and yes MARRIAGE! Because after almost twenty years of marriage we still have a lot to say.
Our mission is still the same…
RefineUs exist to help restore HOPE and RENEW relationships with the people God places in your life in the midst of your own story.
Is their risk in unwrapping the gift? Yes! Is there a possibility that we may fail? Absolutely! But I’d rather live a life unwrapped and fully alive than in a shiny box full of regrets.
January 19, 2015
One Man, One Dream
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. believed every life, regardless of color, economic status or belief system, posses the ability to LOVE. And through the power of love, racism and war could be eradicated, resulting in a world thriving in peace and brotherhood. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was just ONE man.
ONE man who decided change needed to happen.
ONE man who inspired a movement.
ONE man who empowered others to dare to dream along side of him.
Chris and Cindy Johnson have been friends of ours for over thirteen years. We have dared to dream many dreams together. They had a dream to start a family but after years of infertility their dream was slowly fading away. Until one day, Cindy began to dream about adoption.
Both unsure if adoption would be a wise path for them, the “what if’s” of doubt almost paralyzed them from making any decision. But after praying and doubting, they chose to step out in faith. Stepping onto the long and often heartbreaking path of adoption, eventually bringing home their precious son Noah from an orphanage in Russia.
For most of us when we dream, we chose a smaller vision of our dream. We hope to experience just a small part of our big dreams. But often times when we step out in faith, God blows our minds in the most unexpected ways! Although the Johnson’s only thought to dream for one child, God had other plans and just three years after bringing Noah home, they returned to that same orphanage to adopt their sweet Ally.
ONE couple saw through race, economic status and beliefs to believe through Christ any dream is possible!
Ally recently told us of a project she was doing at school about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and asked if she could write about Justin and me.
ONE girl, whose life was changed by ONE couple who chose to be brave and become her parents.
ONE girl who believes Justin and I are a modern day Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. because we too choose to believe in our own audacious dream.
ONE girl, who I believe, is the real hero living out Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s vision to LOVE beyond race, economic status and beliefs!
We wanted to take a moment to share her paper with you.
Justin and Trisha Are Making the World a Better Place
By Ally Johnson
We have some dear friends named Justin and Trisha Davis. They are pastors at a church in Nashville, Tennessee. They tell people about God and they also help people with their marriages. They had a very hard time in their life several years ago and they almost got divorced. Justin quit his job as a pastor and it was very painful for the whole family. But they asked God for help and they wrote a book about it. It is called Beyond Ordinary. Now they are famous. Their books are in all of the bookstores and you can order the book on amazon.com. They also made a video about their book. They didn’t write the book or make the video to become famous. They did it to make the world a better place and to help people find how to ask God for help when things are going wrong.
Their story reminds me of Martin Luther King Junior because he made the world a better place by all of the things that he did in the 1960s. He had a dream for all people to be treated fairly. His dream was for all blacks and whites to be created equally. He made it come true.
Justin and Trisha also work hard to make the world a better place and they are doing a great job. They travel around the country to tell their story and sell their books. It is hard for them to spend time away from their family to do this, but they have a mission and they have made it come true.
They have a wonderful family. They have three boys named Micah, Elijah and Isaiah. They are very good friends of ours and we try to see them whenever we can. We are very proud of what they are doing in the world and we are so lucky to be their dear friends. I think that Justin and Trisha are just like a current day Martin Luther King Jr.
YOUR life matters! Where can YOU choose to be brave and step out in faith to make the world a better place? Because it only takes ONE!
January 6, 2015
The Gift Part 1
Six years ago on this very stage, sat three comfy chairs occupied by a pastor and a married couple, all completely unaware what God was about to unfold.
A few weeks before, pastor Aaron asked if he could publicly interview us about our story. Honestly, my first response was an emphatic “NO”. He asked me if I would pray about it and the next thing I know I’m choosing to be brave with a nervous “yes” but with one condition…I would only share my story just this one time!
And so we shared.
We shared the raw, honest and messy parts of our redemption story. As words were shared and tears spilled from our eyes, we realized our story had less to do with a wayward husband who had an affair and more to do with two very broken people who found redemption through a grace-giving Savior. By going first, our story gave those in the congregation permission to go second. Their response was so overwhelming it caught both Justin and I (along with pastor Aaron and his staff) a bit off guard.
A congregation, filled with people fighting through their own mess, all asking the same questions:
How?
How do you forgive?
How do you tell the truth?
How do find hope and joy in the pain?
How do you trust God?
That sacred Sunday morning would ignite a passion in Justin and I to create RefineUs Ministries to help restore hope and renew relationships. Through blogging, speaking and creating resources (including our book Beyond Ordinary) our hope was to create a movement of authenticity and help encourage others, regardless of their marital status, to move closer to Jesus.
This past Sunday we went back to that very same stage exactly six years later. This time tears of uncertainty were replaced with tears of gratitude and a renewed since of God’s faithfulness. That stage gave Justin and I a panoramic view of a congregation filled with familiar faces and strangers alike, each recognizing that Jesus makes beauty from ashes. Ashes, we in our own effort and strength can do nothing with, but through Christ he makes all things new.
The gift we intended to bring Sunday was graciously received and then unexpectedly handed right back to us bigger and more beautiful than we could’ve imagined. Words of encouragement, wisdom and validation were spoken over us. Words confirming a new vision we have wrestled through over the past year for RefineUs Ministries.
This New Year our prayer for you, regardless of your marital status, is to remind you of the gift God longs to give to YOU. It doesn’t matter if 2014 was the worst or the best year of your life Jesus longs to restore His hope and His dreams for your life.
God’s plans for you aren’t limited to a date on a calendar but rather your willingness to say, “yes” without condition. A willingness to believe He is making all things new.
January 5, 2015
2 Fears that Over-Promise and Under-Deliver
One of the predominant emotions that characterized the first ten years of our marriage was fear. Fear is something we usually equate with traumatic events or circumstances. But fear grips more of our heart than we are often willing to admit. I lived most of my married life with a spirit of fear:
Fear of being found out
Fear of being rejected
Fear of being misunderstood
Fear of being proven wrong
Fear of being hurt
Fear of being let down
There is a reason that the Bible says, “There is no fear in love. For perfect love drives out fear.” Without allowing perfect love to drive out fear, we compromise intimacy in our marriage and relationships. Each of us have to decide if we are going to allow fear to set the limits of our marriage.
Here are two fears that prevent intimacy in marriage.
1. Most wives fear offering their husbands unconditional love.
If you offer your love without condition then what will defend you from hurt? If you offer all of your heart to your husband, without condition, then what if it isn’t reciprocated? If you offer unconditional love to your husband, then what move can you make to get revenge; to get your way; to be heard or valued?
Most wives offer their love, but it comes with conditions. Conditions give you leverage. Conditions give you power. Conditions give you rights. Conditions give you options.
The promise is, if you don’t love unconditionally then you won’t get hurt. But not loving without conditions is not loving at all.
2. Most husbands fear telling their wives the absolute truth.
If you share the truth with her, she’ll think less of you. If you admit your weakness then she’ll say she told you so. If you tell her about your porn addiction or your feelings for your co-worker, she may leave you. If you tell her that secret you’ve kept hidden for years, she may never trust you again.
Being partially honest gives you options. Sharing part of the truth protects you. Sharing half of the truth maintains your image.
The promise is, if you only tell the the amount of truth your wife can handle, you are protecting her and your marriage. But every time we compromise truth, we limit the intimacy we are capable of experiencing.
For the past nine years, I’ve come to a crossroads often: give into fear and withhold truth or overcome fear and be completely honest. Despite being fearful, I’ve shared brutal truth with Trisha. She knows the dark parts of me. She knows the weak parts of me. She sees the worst of me. I have been scared to do that at times. The cost of giving into fear was greater than the cost of being transparent.
Trisha has chosen to overcome fear as well. Unconditional love left her defenseless nine years ago. Fear of history repeating itself has crossed her mind more than once. Despite her fears, she has chosen unconditional love. She’s promised to love me no matter what. That love has driven out fear.
Our marriage isn’t limited by each of us withholding something from the other because of fear.
Fear tells you to protect yourself. Fear says withhold some of the truth, just in case. Fear says to love with conditions because you might get hurt. What if we admitted fear? What if we overcame fear?
Would we ever feel we had to withhold truth?
Would we ever feel we had to put conditions on love?
January 1, 2015
Top Five Blog Posts of 2014: #1
If you’ve been married longer than two hours, you know that marriage isn’t always easy. When Trish and I got married, we had this core belief: “We love each other; we love God, so we’ll have a great marriage.”
Man, I wish it was that easy.
The quality of our marriage isn’t a reflection of our intentions, it’s a collection of our choices. Great intentions have never improved our marriage.
No matter how good or bad your marriage is, I bet you’d like to improve it. But many times the way we go about improving our marriage does more damage than good.
Here are two huge mistakes we made as we tried to improve our marriage.
1. Changing my spouse will improve my marriage.
Trisha hates my driving. Like, I mean, hates it. Funny thing is, I’ve driven the same way, everyday, for our entire 21 years together.
When we were dating she had no problem when I looked over at her while driving. It was cute when I reached over and gave her a kiss and slightly take my eyes off the road. That hasn’t been cute in 20 years. In over 20 years together, she hasn’t changed me.
So many couples believe that if they can change their spouse their marriage will improve.
If I can get him to go to church
If she would stop spending money
If he would clean up after himself
If she would stop nagging me all the time
If he would drive better
If she would be on time
Here is the deal…those changes COULD improve your marriage…no doubt. But YOU don’t have the capacity to change your spouse. You can’t change a human heart.
You can’t argue, guilt-trip or cold-shoulder your way into a changed heart.
If you could- your spouse would have changed by now.
If you want to continue to have the same marriage you have right now, keep trying to change your spouse.
If you want to drastically and immediately improve your marriage, allow God to change you. As you transform, your marriage will change. It may not solve all of your problems and it may not change your spouse one ounce, but it will allow you to see them and your situation differently.
2. Stop trying when improvement doesn’t happen immediately.
I am 6.8 lbs into what I hope to be a 40lb weight loss plan. I have consistently gained weight over the past 20 years. I’ve accumulated a pound here and then a pound there. I’ve lost weight, then gotten off the diet and gained it back. I didn’t gain 40 pounds in a week, it just kinda happened over time.
I have an App that I use that helps me track what I eat and gives me a weight loss plan.
I wish I could lose 40 pounds tomorrow. But it took me 20 years to gain 40 pounds it is going to take me more than 40 days to lose it.
“This plan will enable you to achieve your goal by July 2, 2014.”
So many couples do the same thing with their marriage that I tried to do with my weight…improve it fast.
Why isn’t my marriage improving, I read a book?
It’s been two weeks since that marriage conference, and nothing has changed.
We’ve been praying together for 3 days and my husband still isn’t changing.
We’ve gone to counseling for 2 sessions and I’m about ready to give up hope…she isn’t changing.
There are some changes that can happen quickly. But most of the time, if it took you some time to get to that place, it will probably take you some time to get out of that place.
Would you keep trying if you knew you could reach your goal by July 2, 2014? Probably. But so many couples give up on April 2 or June 2 when they were so close to achieving the change they desire.
Give up trying to change your spouse. Don’t give up allowing God to change you.
Give up expecting transformation tomorrow. Don’t give up knowing that “He who started a work will be faithful to complete it.”
December 31, 2014
Top Five Blog Posts of 2014: #2
We have the opportunity to travel and speak a lot about marriage. Most of our content doesn’t come from information we’ve read in books or gained in a classroom. The majority of it has been learned through failure and experience. The thing we’ve noticed as we’ve spoke to thousands of couples, is that none of us are alone.
There have been times, sometimes seasons of our marriage that it has been a flat out struggle. Every marriage will struggle. It is the nature of relationships.
Conversations are forced. Decisions are difficult. Synergy is missing. Arguments are frequent. Resentment is high. Intimacy is non-existent. Struggle moves from something we experience to something we learn to live with.
Here are four reasons marriages struggle:
1. Our commitment to change isn’t greater than our desire to change.
Everyone wants to change. I have not met a person that didn’t indicate a desire to change. We all want to change. But when our commitment to change isn’t greater than our desire to change, we will stay the same. I want to lose weight. I’ve wanted to lose weight for five years. If losing weight was based on desire, I’d be at my high school weight…because I really, really want to. Losing weight is based on commitment, and my commitment hasn’t outweighed (pun intended) my desire, so my weight has gone up and down. If you want your marriage to change, you can’t just desire change, you have to be committed to it.
2. We want to be right more than we want to do what is right.
Saturday night Trisha and I got into an argument about money. As we were arguing, my rationale and my position was clearly off base. I made no sense. But I was tired and I was not going to lose. My desire in that moment was to be right…I wasn’t backing down. So often in our marriage, we choose making our point or being right in an argument over doing what is right for our marriage: admitting being wrong; forgiving; asking for forgiveness. Our pride and our ego create more and more distance between us and our spouse. Maybe you are struggling because you always have to be right?
3. When we are there, we aren’t really there.
This one hurts as I type it. Maybe our marriage struggles because when we are with our spouse, we are really with our phone. Maybe our relationship with our kids is hurting right now because when we are home, we are really still at work. Being fully present when we have time with our family is the greatest gift we can give them. Turning off our phone in the evening. Eating dinner together. Going for a walk. Those are things that help when we are struggling.
4. We ask God to change our spouse more than we ask Him to change us.
I know my marriage is struggling when I’m more concerned about what God needs to change in Trisha than I am in my own heart. When I begin to focus on all that is wrong with her; the things that get on my nerves; the things I wish God would change in her…I completely shut off the work that God longs to do in me. When I begin to pray for my Trisha and ask God to change me, there are times that He does change her. But He always changes my heart. He always answers that prayer. Maybe we are struggling in our marriage because we are really struggling in our relationship with God.
Struggle in any relationship is a given. Struggle doesn’t have be constant.
God longs for you to have an incredible marriage. An incredible marriage isn’t something that we drift into, it is something we choose.
December 30, 2014
Top 5 Blog Post of 2014: #3
I (Trisha) was 20-years old when Justin and I got married. I was deeply in love with this gorgeous man that asked me to be forever his. He was strong, funny, smart (did I say gorgeous?) and most attractive of all-he had a passion for the Lord.
As we approach our 19th wedding anniversary, I can’t believe how much we’ve changed, how much our family has changed and yet how much has stayed the same. From the moment I first met Justin, I knew when he loved something he loved it with all that he had. Basketball and Michael Jordan were some of his first loves. When he fell in love with me it was no different, he went “all out” in some of the most insane ways!
This leads me to the first of four things that every wife needs from her husband:
1. Pursuit
One of the things that made me fall in love with Justin was the way he pursued me. In college he drove three hours to my hometown just to bring me a gift and we weren’t even dating. When he proposed to me, although it didn’t quite go as he planned, every detail had me in mind.
I seriously could write for hours about the insane ways this man has pursued me but here is my point. It wasn’t just about what he was doing to pursue me but that he was simply pursuing me. When seasons of our marriage got hard Justin would choose to pursue me and in doing so, built a sacred trust. This kind of trust communicates to your wife that no one else on the planet can fill the role your wife does. When you pursue your wife you allow her to know that you value her and who she is matters. Pursuit keeps love alive.
2. Prayer
Guys, I know you are probably rolling your eyes… it’s okay. I can take it; but seriously read this. Maybe you’re at a place where you feel like you can never do enough, say enough or provide enough to make your wife happy. A lot of husbands feel that way…and prayer changes that!
When you take the time to pray for your wife God will bring the craziest things to your mind. He will prompt you to say things, do things and provide things that you could never dream up on your own. He knows your wife better than anyone else so when you choose to pray for her you are allowing Him the opportunity to give you intimate details of your wife’s heart.
If you really want to get wild and crazy pray with her! Trust me it changes a lot more than you think. When you pray with your wife and allow her to pour her heart out to God you are building sacred trust. When you pray over her you create a moment of intimacy, which means to be fully known. Prayer is the pathway to intimacy. There’s nothing more attractive to your wife than a trustworthy husband that knows her intimately emotionally, spiritually and physically.
3. Engagement
Have you ever been in a meeting where a person is talking, and talking and talking that you just stop listening? This happens in marriage all the time. Regardless if you’re a stay-at-home parent, neurosurgeon or pastor we all have daily commitments that demand our time and attention. We have our electronics, social media and TV shows. We have countless volunteer opportunities to serve other people. It’s easy to get distracted.
What becomes dangerous in a marriage is when we become hard of hearing from all the noise of our jam-packed life and we stop listening to those who matter the most. There will always be this tension to engage with the right people and the right things. It’s a balancing act. You have to daily choose to be engaged with your wife or other people and things will distract you. We give our attention to what matters most to us. Show your wife she matters.
4. Leadership
Leadership isn’t about being on a power trip or having all the answers. I love what Paul writes about leadership.
1 Corinthians 11:3 (ESV) 3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.
Your wife doesn’t need you to be a perfect leader. Your wife needs you to lead with the knowledge that you are a part of a sacred relationship with Jesus at the center of your life and love. God has given you the gift of Holy Spirit to HELP guide you. God’s leadership plan isn’t about authority for the sake of authority; but rather learning to lead with a selfless love in which those with whom He has in trusted you will also want to be a part of this sacred relationship.
Those are four things that I know I need from my husband. What would you add to the list?
December 29, 2014
Top Five Blog Posts of 2014: #4
Tomorrow, we will share the #3 post of 2014, “4 Things Every Wife Needs from Her Husband”, a post Trisha wrote. Today, I’m sharing #4 which lists five things every husband needs from his wife.
I know there are more things to add to this list, but these are five things I think every husband needs from his wife.
1. Loyalty
Trish is the most loyal person I’ve ever met. The definition of loyal is “faithful”. She is faithful to God. She is faithful to her beliefs. She is faithful to her commitments. She is faithful to her vows. Often at the expense of her own feelings, desires and goals, she is loyal. The byproduct of loyalty is trust. I trust her. Every word she says I believe. Because of her loyalty I have never not trusted her. Every husband needs a loyal wife.
2. Encouragement
As guys, we underestimate our desire and need for encouragement. We think we can perform our way to encouragement. The reality is, ladies, when you offer us unsolicited encouragement it is fuel to our heart and seeps deep down in our soul. Your encouragement will inspire and empower us way more than reprimands and reminders of all we haven’t done.
In my darkest of times, in my lowest moments, Trish has a spirit of encouragement that lifts my head and helps my heart. Every husband needs an encouraging wife. It is a marriage changer.
3. Sex
I wanted to put this as number one on the list, but I wanted wives to at least read part of the post. If you know our story, Trisha writes a lot about the different ways she got this wrong during the first ten years of our marriage. Over the last nine years, she has done her best to understand God’s vision and purpose for sex, and understand my need and desire for sex. Her willingness to lean into this area of our marriage has completely changed the dynamic of our relationship. Every husband needs their wife to pursue them sexually.
4. Common Interests
We hear couples talk all the time about not having anything in common. Trisha has done an amazing job of making sure that will never happen. From the early years of our marriage till this very day, Trish has taken interest in what I am interested in. She watches sports with me. She understands basketball and knows players on different teams. It has meant so much to me over the years that she loves something because I love it. It has done wonders in her relationship with our boys too. Every husband needs a wife that loves something simply because he loves it.
5. Prayer
Trisha prays for me. She has read different entries of her journal to me at times and one thing that always stands out to me is her intentionality in praying for me. I don’t think we would be married today if she hadn’t prayed for me for the past 19 years. Prayer has allowed her to be faithful. Prayer has given her the right word of encouragement. Prayer has given her a sexual desire for me. Prayer has allowed her to be selfless and put other’s interest ahead of her own. Prayer has changed her heart to love me and forgive me when both seemed impossible to do. Every husband needs their wife to pray for them.
Those are my top five…what would you add to the list?
