Top Five Blog Posts of 2014: #4
Tomorrow, we will share the #3 post of 2014, “4 Things Every Wife Needs from Her Husband”, a post Trisha wrote. Today, I’m sharing #4 which lists five things every husband needs from his wife.
I know there are more things to add to this list, but these are five things I think every husband needs from his wife.
1. Loyalty
Trish is the most loyal person I’ve ever met. The definition of loyal is “faithful”. She is faithful to God. She is faithful to her beliefs. She is faithful to her commitments. She is faithful to her vows. Often at the expense of her own feelings, desires and goals, she is loyal. The byproduct of loyalty is trust. I trust her. Every word she says I believe. Because of her loyalty I have never not trusted her. Every husband needs a loyal wife.
2. Encouragement
As guys, we underestimate our desire and need for encouragement. We think we can perform our way to encouragement. The reality is, ladies, when you offer us unsolicited encouragement it is fuel to our heart and seeps deep down in our soul. Your encouragement will inspire and empower us way more than reprimands and reminders of all we haven’t done.
In my darkest of times, in my lowest moments, Trish has a spirit of encouragement that lifts my head and helps my heart. Every husband needs an encouraging wife. It is a marriage changer.
3. Sex
I wanted to put this as number one on the list, but I wanted wives to at least read part of the post. If you know our story, Trisha writes a lot about the different ways she got this wrong during the first ten years of our marriage. Over the last nine years, she has done her best to understand God’s vision and purpose for sex, and understand my need and desire for sex. Her willingness to lean into this area of our marriage has completely changed the dynamic of our relationship. Every husband needs their wife to pursue them sexually.
4. Common Interests
We hear couples talk all the time about not having anything in common. Trisha has done an amazing job of making sure that will never happen. From the early years of our marriage till this very day, Trish has taken interest in what I am interested in. She watches sports with me. She understands basketball and knows players on different teams. It has meant so much to me over the years that she loves something because I love it. It has done wonders in her relationship with our boys too. Every husband needs a wife that loves something simply because he loves it.
5. Prayer
Trisha prays for me. She has read different entries of her journal to me at times and one thing that always stands out to me is her intentionality in praying for me. I don’t think we would be married today if she hadn’t prayed for me for the past 19 years. Prayer has allowed her to be faithful. Prayer has given her the right word of encouragement. Prayer has given her a sexual desire for me. Prayer has allowed her to be selfless and put other’s interest ahead of her own. Prayer has changed her heart to love me and forgive me when both seemed impossible to do. Every husband needs their wife to pray for them.
Those are my top five…what would you add to the list?
