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Dominance and Submission and Being the Leader of the Pack

Bella & Floyd

Whenever I think about dominance and submission, my mind always strays to dog pack dynamics. I am a human pack leader to two amazing Pitbulls, Bella and Floyd. Before I adopted these two, I was terrified of Pitbulls. In fact, I didn't want Floyd (my first) at all, but was out-voted by my family. After we brought him home, I spent a very long time reading about the breed and about how to successfully command him in order to ensure I raised a healthy, productive Pitbull. What I...

Dominance vs Control

It is my personal opinion that dominance and control are two different things. To my way of thinking, the inherent difference is that a Dominant inspires the desire to submit, whereas, control is simply exerting one's will over another via various means.

For instance, I readily admit that there are times where I've allowed my actions to be controlled through fear or avoidance of a particular consequence. That did not mean, however, that I respected or wanted to submit to whomever was...

Choosing a Dominant for Submission

Ever since I was first exposed to the world of BDSM I have one serious question … how do you know that you can trust someone you're considering for a Dominant? Trust is a serious question in any relationship because betrayal is so devastating. In BDSM, however, there is potentially a physical danger and deeply psychological danger as well.

How do you know that the Dom in question has enough experience and empathy to take you where you need to go as a submissive, yet protect you from any real d...

The Art of Writing Smut

"There's nothing like writing a sex scene. You're writing a little slower. You're in a world that you've invented, and you're slowly describing it. It's a turn-on, no question. It's self-seductive." — Nicholson Baker, author

The New York Time published an article The Mad Scientist of Smut about Nicholson Baker whose newest release House of Holes is about a sexual theme park. Baker is not just an erotica author, he is also the author of several mainstream books and is an NYT best selling...