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July 11, 2022
Express Your Feelings
Success has many enemies. Jealousy, envy, resentment, ridicule, and hate come with success. Never concern yourself with those who envy your accomplishments. Keep striving for greatness.
This week, I want to encourage you to learn how to express your feelings and stay focused as your haters show up on your journey.
In my studies, I’ve discovered one of the biggest regrets in life too many people have is not having the courage to express their feelings.
You would be amazed how many people suppress their feelings in order to keep peace with others. There’s going to be haters along your journey to living life effectively. However, you’ve got to get to the point where you learn to express your feelings in a healthy way and not allow others to suppress your feelings.
There are individuals who have settled for a mediocre existence and simply do not become who they were truly capable of being. Many develop illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they remained inside for too long. Please don’t do this to yourself. Learn how to express yourself regardless of what other people's opinions.
Do not let fear ever cloud your judgement.
Remember this: Suppression is a strategy that can backfire. It may reduce the expression of a negative emotion without reducing its experience.
TO EXPRESS YOURSELF IS TO BE YOUR TRUEST, AUTHENTIC SELF.
It isn’t merely about sharing a sob story, or giving yourself the chance to rant and rave. It’s about owning authenticity and aligning with a greater purpose, to not be like the rest. To answer a calling and do more of what’s fulfilling. It’s more about you being okay with you.
I am who I am today because I had the courage to express my feelings to every person who deserved it, to tear down my walls and let myself be known. I won’t die with the regret of having not done so.
UNEXPRESSED EMOTIONS WILL NEVER DIE. THEY ARE BURIED ALIVE AND WILL COME FORTH LATER IN UGLIER WAYS. Don’t bury your feelings. As you create the life of your dreams, learn to properly express yourself.
Your intuition is stronger than anyone else’s opinion. Don’t let the ridicule of others dim your light. If a friend or foe dares question, “What’s the point,” let those words ignite you from inside. Keep that flame burning and show them. Learning to express yourself is extremely healthy.
THE PRIVILEGE OF A LIFETIME IS TO BECOME WHO YOU TRULY ARE.
If you find you need help putting the pieces together to maximize your life, consider getting a life coach. I'm here to help you. Learn more about my one-on-one coaching program HERE.
This week, I want to encourage you to learn how to express your feelings and stay focused as your haters show up on your journey.
In my studies, I’ve discovered one of the biggest regrets in life too many people have is not having the courage to express their feelings.
You would be amazed how many people suppress their feelings in order to keep peace with others. There’s going to be haters along your journey to living life effectively. However, you’ve got to get to the point where you learn to express your feelings in a healthy way and not allow others to suppress your feelings.
There are individuals who have settled for a mediocre existence and simply do not become who they were truly capable of being. Many develop illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they remained inside for too long. Please don’t do this to yourself. Learn how to express yourself regardless of what other people's opinions.
Do not let fear ever cloud your judgement.
Remember this: Suppression is a strategy that can backfire. It may reduce the expression of a negative emotion without reducing its experience.
TO EXPRESS YOURSELF IS TO BE YOUR TRUEST, AUTHENTIC SELF.
It isn’t merely about sharing a sob story, or giving yourself the chance to rant and rave. It’s about owning authenticity and aligning with a greater purpose, to not be like the rest. To answer a calling and do more of what’s fulfilling. It’s more about you being okay with you.
I am who I am today because I had the courage to express my feelings to every person who deserved it, to tear down my walls and let myself be known. I won’t die with the regret of having not done so.
UNEXPRESSED EMOTIONS WILL NEVER DIE. THEY ARE BURIED ALIVE AND WILL COME FORTH LATER IN UGLIER WAYS. Don’t bury your feelings. As you create the life of your dreams, learn to properly express yourself.
Your intuition is stronger than anyone else’s opinion. Don’t let the ridicule of others dim your light. If a friend or foe dares question, “What’s the point,” let those words ignite you from inside. Keep that flame burning and show them. Learning to express yourself is extremely healthy.
THE PRIVILEGE OF A LIFETIME IS TO BECOME WHO YOU TRULY ARE.
If you find you need help putting the pieces together to maximize your life, consider getting a life coach. I'm here to help you. Learn more about my one-on-one coaching program HERE.
July 4, 2022
Stop Caring what Others Think
Today, I'm focusing on one thing that has been a great struggle for me over the years...caring about what others think.
I’ve learned that focusing on what other people think about you is bad for your mental health. I’m telling you this stuff is really, really not good for you. If you notice, happier people don’t even think about others. They focus on themselves and being better than they previously were.
If you find yourself spending mental energy on what other people are thinking, make a plan to distract yourself, like watching a funny video or snapping a rubber band on your wrist. Do what you gotta do, but please break the habit of overly caring about people‘s opinions about you.
This is not good on your journey to living life effectively.
YOU automatically place yourself in imaginary shackles when you worry too much about what others think of you. Start FOCUSING on what you WANT, LOVE and THINK, then follow that like nobody's watching!
Focus on yourself, your life, your career, your family, your real friends and most importantly your HAPPINESS.
It's fine to care about your reputation. The key is not letting that concern overwhelm you.
YOU CAN NEVER FULLY STOP CARING HOW OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU. I challenge you to hold on to these 6 principles as you move forward.
1. Remember: people really aren't that interested in you.
2. Tell yourself a different story.
3. Meet more people.
4. Focus on controlling your thoughts, not theirs.
5. Don't try to please everyone.
6. Know it's okay to care what others think.
The key is to not allow it to overwhelm you and paralyze you from maximizing your potential. Years ago a mentor of mine told me, “A person who is okay with being alone is a powerful person.” What this person is skilled in, is how to not worry about the people around them.
Disconnecting from people has the power to also help you learn how to not overly care about people‘s opinion of you as well. A few years ago, I discovered that I didn't need people around me. I was trying to learn how to be with me. Now I am okay being alone and I am okay being with people. There's a healthy balance.
BEING ALONE IS POWERFUL WHEN YOU DISCOVER HOW TO EMBRACE THESE 6 POINTS.
1. Being alone is better than being unhappy with someone.
2. Enjoy your free time being yourself.
3. You can figure everything out.
4. Being alone forces you to to learn about yourself.
5. You build focus when you learn to be alone.
6. You can go deeper in your meditation.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is pull back from the world and work on yourself in solitude. Please remember, being alone for a purpose isn't loneliness. The key to inner freedom is to care more about what you think of you than what outsiders think of you.
WORK ON BEING THE BEST VERION OF YOURSELF. Be the person you look up to.
Self-confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have.
I invite you to attend our Effective Living Workshop. I've designed a one day intensive to teach you how to be happy, healthy, and wealthy. This class will take place on Saturday, July 16, 9a to 1p, at the Hilton Rockwall. Learn more and register HERE.
I’ve learned that focusing on what other people think about you is bad for your mental health. I’m telling you this stuff is really, really not good for you. If you notice, happier people don’t even think about others. They focus on themselves and being better than they previously were.
If you find yourself spending mental energy on what other people are thinking, make a plan to distract yourself, like watching a funny video or snapping a rubber band on your wrist. Do what you gotta do, but please break the habit of overly caring about people‘s opinions about you.
This is not good on your journey to living life effectively.
YOU automatically place yourself in imaginary shackles when you worry too much about what others think of you. Start FOCUSING on what you WANT, LOVE and THINK, then follow that like nobody's watching!
Focus on yourself, your life, your career, your family, your real friends and most importantly your HAPPINESS.
It's fine to care about your reputation. The key is not letting that concern overwhelm you.
YOU CAN NEVER FULLY STOP CARING HOW OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU. I challenge you to hold on to these 6 principles as you move forward.
1. Remember: people really aren't that interested in you.
2. Tell yourself a different story.
3. Meet more people.
4. Focus on controlling your thoughts, not theirs.
5. Don't try to please everyone.
6. Know it's okay to care what others think.
The key is to not allow it to overwhelm you and paralyze you from maximizing your potential. Years ago a mentor of mine told me, “A person who is okay with being alone is a powerful person.” What this person is skilled in, is how to not worry about the people around them.
Disconnecting from people has the power to also help you learn how to not overly care about people‘s opinion of you as well. A few years ago, I discovered that I didn't need people around me. I was trying to learn how to be with me. Now I am okay being alone and I am okay being with people. There's a healthy balance.
BEING ALONE IS POWERFUL WHEN YOU DISCOVER HOW TO EMBRACE THESE 6 POINTS.
1. Being alone is better than being unhappy with someone.
2. Enjoy your free time being yourself.
3. You can figure everything out.
4. Being alone forces you to to learn about yourself.
5. You build focus when you learn to be alone.
6. You can go deeper in your meditation.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is pull back from the world and work on yourself in solitude. Please remember, being alone for a purpose isn't loneliness. The key to inner freedom is to care more about what you think of you than what outsiders think of you.
WORK ON BEING THE BEST VERION OF YOURSELF. Be the person you look up to.
Self-confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have.
I invite you to attend our Effective Living Workshop. I've designed a one day intensive to teach you how to be happy, healthy, and wealthy. This class will take place on Saturday, July 16, 9a to 1p, at the Hilton Rockwall. Learn more and register HERE.
June 27, 2022
Confront Destructive Habits
I heard Dr. Mike Murdock say, “What you refuse to master today, will master you tomorrow.” Remember, what you do habitually determines what you become permanently.
Make the decision to take a close look at your life and ask yourself, what’s not helping me, that I’m doing on a daily basis?
Go ahead and target one new habit to develop this week. Make a commitment to be very dedicated to create a new lifestyle with the new habit. It’s really that simple. All you have to do is specify habits you could apply to your life that will help you achieve your goals. Now, believe God will help you achieve them.
Remember you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.
Choose to develop the habits of winners. Start a new one today. Make a change in something you do every day this week. You will never really change your life until you change something you do daily.
Confront your problems today. Don’t go into this week avoiding your destructive habits that’s been keeping you back from living life effectively.
Please keep this in mind: A habit is any action, conduct, or behavior that you do repeatedly.
This means anything you do twice becomes easier. It is God’s way of helping you succeed. Some experts say when you repeat an action for 21 consecutive days, it will become a habit for you.
Allow yourself time to change. Allow yourself to create some new habits that will allow you to win in every area of your life.
I’ve come to realize, every man fails. Winners simply get back up, and begin again. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Breaking destructive habits are not easy but it is possible. Little by little, you will start tasting the rewards of change.
Discomfort is your first seed for eliminating destructive habits. If you need help, take advantage of my group coaching services or one-on-one coaching services. You can learn more, on my website HERE.
I want to teach you about being happy, healthy, and wealthy. You are invited to join me for the Effective Living Workshop on Saturday, July 16. This is an in-person meeting with very limited seating. Learn more and register today HERE.
Make the decision to take a close look at your life and ask yourself, what’s not helping me, that I’m doing on a daily basis?
Go ahead and target one new habit to develop this week. Make a commitment to be very dedicated to create a new lifestyle with the new habit. It’s really that simple. All you have to do is specify habits you could apply to your life that will help you achieve your goals. Now, believe God will help you achieve them.
Remember you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.
Choose to develop the habits of winners. Start a new one today. Make a change in something you do every day this week. You will never really change your life until you change something you do daily.
Confront your problems today. Don’t go into this week avoiding your destructive habits that’s been keeping you back from living life effectively.
Please keep this in mind: A habit is any action, conduct, or behavior that you do repeatedly.
This means anything you do twice becomes easier. It is God’s way of helping you succeed. Some experts say when you repeat an action for 21 consecutive days, it will become a habit for you.
Allow yourself time to change. Allow yourself to create some new habits that will allow you to win in every area of your life.
I’ve come to realize, every man fails. Winners simply get back up, and begin again. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Breaking destructive habits are not easy but it is possible. Little by little, you will start tasting the rewards of change.
Discomfort is your first seed for eliminating destructive habits. If you need help, take advantage of my group coaching services or one-on-one coaching services. You can learn more, on my website HERE.
I want to teach you about being happy, healthy, and wealthy. You are invited to join me for the Effective Living Workshop on Saturday, July 16. This is an in-person meeting with very limited seating. Learn more and register today HERE.
June 20, 2022
Nobody Owes You Anything
“You are responsible for your life. If you're sitting around waiting on somebody to save you, to fix you, to even help you, you are wasting your time. Only you have the power to move your life forward.”– Oprah Winfrey
You will find more success and happiness when you go through life without assuming anyone owes you anything. If you can capture this belief, it can be a game changer for you on your journey to living life effectively.
NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING!
As for your own attitude: You will find more success and happiness when you go through life without the assumption you are owed by anyone.
A long time ago I adopted the belief that it is best to live life with the mentality, NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING. Oh how it has helped me on my journey to creating a life I don’t need a vacation from.
This thought process also helps you to avoid the entitlement trap. It is critically important you learn how not to blame everyone for the negative results that are manifesting in your life.
Once you capture this truth, you will begin to understand that…
No one owes you success,
No one owes you a great family,
No one owes you phenomenal friendship,
No one owes you strong faith,
No one owes you a fun time,
No one owes you strong faith,
No one owes you work/life balance,
No one owes you respect,
No one owes you good health,
No one owes you a seat at the strategic table,
No one owes you … anything.
You have to work for each of these for yourself. You are responsible for managing your own life. This may feel stifling until you realize the great truth: You have the ability to choose the life you want.
With great power comes great responsibility. Everyday the power to change your life is given to you by your creator. Many have forgotten (or never realized) that we have the power to live however we want. With that power comes a responsibility, including accepting no one owes you anything.
IF ANYBODY DOES ANYTHING FOR YOU…IT’S A PRIVILEGE, APPRECIATE IT!
I invite you to join me on Saturday, July 16 for our Effective Living Workshop. This one day intensive will be held in Rockwall, TX. We are living life on our terms in 2022 - happy, healthy, and wealthy. You've got to join me to learn the principles for living life effectively. Learn more and register HERE.
June 13, 2022
Change Your Narrative
Change your thoughts, change your life. How you think and view the world around you effects your life's story.
This week’s, I want to dive in a little bit deeper and look at our particular narrative.
We often limit ourselves by deciding we can’t do something before we even try. These limiting beliefs may lead us to ask ourselves, “Why bother?” or tell ourselves, “This is silly.” When we do this, we are effectively telling ourselves the answer is “no”, before we even ask the question. When we do that, we’ve stopped our growth and our path towards success.
LEARN TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU. YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR NARRATIVE!
If you’re repeatedly telling yourself your worthiness is dependent on money or possessions, you will start to believe it.
It took me a long time to realize, the stories I tell myself matter. These stories construct who we are and how we live our lives.
I want to encourage you to change your story and you change your life.
If you feel your self-worth is connected to your net worth, stop telling yourself, “I am worth more when I have more money.”
Start telling yourself a new story, like “I am a good person, regardless of the things I have or don’t have.”
Right now, think about the story you’re telling yourself. Most people play the same story within their heads for decades and wonder why their lives never change.
If you don’t like the way your story is written, you have the power to:
⁃ Change the narrative
⁃ Change the style
⁃ Change the tone
⁃ Change the emotion
⁃ Change the focus
I remind my coaching clients to not dwell on your past. It’s your future that counts. You may need to remind yourself of this everyday.
REPLACE THE NEGATIVE NARRATIVE IN YOUR HEAD WITH A POSITIVE ONE AND WATCH HOW YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE.
What story have you’ve been struggling to leave behind?
I can help you change your narrative. I invite you to join me Saturday, July 16 for our Effective Living Workshop. This one day intensive workshop will be held in Rockwall, TX. We are going to be focused on being happy, healthy, and wealthy. Space is limited. Learn more about this event and register HERE.
This week’s, I want to dive in a little bit deeper and look at our particular narrative.
We often limit ourselves by deciding we can’t do something before we even try. These limiting beliefs may lead us to ask ourselves, “Why bother?” or tell ourselves, “This is silly.” When we do this, we are effectively telling ourselves the answer is “no”, before we even ask the question. When we do that, we’ve stopped our growth and our path towards success.
LEARN TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU. YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR NARRATIVE!
If you’re repeatedly telling yourself your worthiness is dependent on money or possessions, you will start to believe it.
It took me a long time to realize, the stories I tell myself matter. These stories construct who we are and how we live our lives.
I want to encourage you to change your story and you change your life.
If you feel your self-worth is connected to your net worth, stop telling yourself, “I am worth more when I have more money.”
Start telling yourself a new story, like “I am a good person, regardless of the things I have or don’t have.”
Right now, think about the story you’re telling yourself. Most people play the same story within their heads for decades and wonder why their lives never change.
If you don’t like the way your story is written, you have the power to:
⁃ Change the narrative
⁃ Change the style
⁃ Change the tone
⁃ Change the emotion
⁃ Change the focus
I remind my coaching clients to not dwell on your past. It’s your future that counts. You may need to remind yourself of this everyday.
REPLACE THE NEGATIVE NARRATIVE IN YOUR HEAD WITH A POSITIVE ONE AND WATCH HOW YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE.
What story have you’ve been struggling to leave behind?
I can help you change your narrative. I invite you to join me Saturday, July 16 for our Effective Living Workshop. This one day intensive workshop will be held in Rockwall, TX. We are going to be focused on being happy, healthy, and wealthy. Space is limited. Learn more about this event and register HERE.
June 6, 2022
Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
It’s the first Monday in June and as we reflect on 2022 so far, it is critically important we prepare to do the work with the remainder of the year so we don’t find ourselves regretting anything.
Living a life of regret is real. Unfortunately, so many people don’t stop to think about the negative impact of delaying the concept of purposeful living. If you don’t live life to the fullest, you are bound to live a life of regret.
A lot of people are dying on the inside. They are mentally destroying themselves everyday with constant doubt/regret. As you read this week’s blog, I want to remind you to trust that your greatest hardships in life make you stronger and who you are. My prayer is that you have learned the lessons from your past. Pain can be turned into something beautiful or even more horrific.
No one ever really knows what they would do in a life or death situation. But I assure you, if I was ever in situation where I have the power to prevent unnecessary loss of life yet sat around and did nothing, that would be a regret.
I once heard a motivational speaker say, “Life’s an ice cream shop, only a select few have the courage to try all the flavors. Most only stick to what they know.”
This week I would like for us to look at the top five regrets of the dying.
1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself.
2. I wish I had not worked so hard.
3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
You may be surprised to know this is common. Unfortunately, too many people don’t realize until the end that living an effective life is a choice. They stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. Only to find themselves living with these common regrets.
The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending in front of others, and to themselves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again and again.
You don’t have to live this way. You can decide now as you’re reading this week’s blog, that you are not going to live with these common regrets.
I challenge you to decide to make the rest of the year the best of the year; decide to make the rest of your life the best of your life. If you’re needing help contact me. I’m a life management coach and I’m here to help.
Start now to learn to live in the now and enjoy every minute. Let me know in the comments below what you’re going to do to make sure you don’t live a life of regret.
Also, if you have not purchased your copy of my book, Effective Living: Your Guide to Creating a Life You Don't Need to Take a Vacation From , now is a great time to purchase your copy. You can order it HERE, I'll sign it and get it to you as quickly as possible.
Living a life of regret is real. Unfortunately, so many people don’t stop to think about the negative impact of delaying the concept of purposeful living. If you don’t live life to the fullest, you are bound to live a life of regret.
A lot of people are dying on the inside. They are mentally destroying themselves everyday with constant doubt/regret. As you read this week’s blog, I want to remind you to trust that your greatest hardships in life make you stronger and who you are. My prayer is that you have learned the lessons from your past. Pain can be turned into something beautiful or even more horrific.
No one ever really knows what they would do in a life or death situation. But I assure you, if I was ever in situation where I have the power to prevent unnecessary loss of life yet sat around and did nothing, that would be a regret.
I once heard a motivational speaker say, “Life’s an ice cream shop, only a select few have the courage to try all the flavors. Most only stick to what they know.”
This week I would like for us to look at the top five regrets of the dying.
1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself.
2. I wish I had not worked so hard.
3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
You may be surprised to know this is common. Unfortunately, too many people don’t realize until the end that living an effective life is a choice. They stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. Only to find themselves living with these common regrets.
The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending in front of others, and to themselves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again and again.
You don’t have to live this way. You can decide now as you’re reading this week’s blog, that you are not going to live with these common regrets.
I challenge you to decide to make the rest of the year the best of the year; decide to make the rest of your life the best of your life. If you’re needing help contact me. I’m a life management coach and I’m here to help.
Start now to learn to live in the now and enjoy every minute. Let me know in the comments below what you’re going to do to make sure you don’t live a life of regret.
Also, if you have not purchased your copy of my book, Effective Living: Your Guide to Creating a Life You Don't Need to Take a Vacation From , now is a great time to purchase your copy. You can order it HERE, I'll sign it and get it to you as quickly as possible.
May 30, 2022
Embrace the Awkward
It’s okay to politely agree to disagree. Not all things mix and match well, and that’s okay, too. It’s the differences that keep the world around us from being deathly boring.
Today, I want to encourage you to embrace your uniqueness. Embrace your awkwardness. On your journey to living life effectively you want to discover and embrace that you don’t want to live life the way other people are living life.
There are so many people who are feeling insecure and not sure of themselves because they have been constructing a life to please everyone else but themselves. Pleasing your parents, pleasing your friends, pleasing your co-workers, pleasing everyone else but not the most important person in the world, which is YOU.
Please note, feeling insecure about yourself all the time can take a toll on every aspect of your life, from your physical health and emotional well-being to how you perform at your job. I want you to learn how to embrace you. Your awkwardness makes you, YOU!
The discomfort of growth and healing are gifts…so be okay with feeling a little bit weird while you’re trying to embrace your differences.
You do not have to carry it all, contain it all, or silence it all. Embrace your liberation even when it feels awkward, especially when it feels awkward.
On the other side of the growing pains is your new life. This may feel difficult at the beginning but it’s necessary. Change can be awkward and uncomfortable but the only alternative is familiar patterns that lead us back to the same old pits. Embrace the shift.
EMBRACE YOUR AWKWARD! It's okay to be silly and have FUN.
There are tons of people waiting on you to be you. As you discover the true you, life is going to give you a greater level of appreciation for your days.
⁃ Embrace your difference.⁃ Embrace all of your sides.⁃ This is your journey.
A life hack is knowing the difference between peace and happiness. Once you embrace peace in your life it’s hard to go back to the chaos. Most arguments, people, relationships and jobs aren’t worth altering your internal personality to be who you are not.
You get to enjoy another level of an incredible life when you discover how your awkwardness makes you valuable and more likable.
Consider joining the Effective Living Group Coaching program. Monday to Friday, I teach principles to help you create the incredible life you dream of. Let's work together so your dream can be a reality. Learn more and register HERE today.
Today, I want to encourage you to embrace your uniqueness. Embrace your awkwardness. On your journey to living life effectively you want to discover and embrace that you don’t want to live life the way other people are living life.
There are so many people who are feeling insecure and not sure of themselves because they have been constructing a life to please everyone else but themselves. Pleasing your parents, pleasing your friends, pleasing your co-workers, pleasing everyone else but not the most important person in the world, which is YOU.
Please note, feeling insecure about yourself all the time can take a toll on every aspect of your life, from your physical health and emotional well-being to how you perform at your job. I want you to learn how to embrace you. Your awkwardness makes you, YOU!
The discomfort of growth and healing are gifts…so be okay with feeling a little bit weird while you’re trying to embrace your differences.
You do not have to carry it all, contain it all, or silence it all. Embrace your liberation even when it feels awkward, especially when it feels awkward.
On the other side of the growing pains is your new life. This may feel difficult at the beginning but it’s necessary. Change can be awkward and uncomfortable but the only alternative is familiar patterns that lead us back to the same old pits. Embrace the shift.
EMBRACE YOUR AWKWARD! It's okay to be silly and have FUN.
There are tons of people waiting on you to be you. As you discover the true you, life is going to give you a greater level of appreciation for your days.
⁃ Embrace your difference.⁃ Embrace all of your sides.⁃ This is your journey.
A life hack is knowing the difference between peace and happiness. Once you embrace peace in your life it’s hard to go back to the chaos. Most arguments, people, relationships and jobs aren’t worth altering your internal personality to be who you are not.
You get to enjoy another level of an incredible life when you discover how your awkwardness makes you valuable and more likable.
Consider joining the Effective Living Group Coaching program. Monday to Friday, I teach principles to help you create the incredible life you dream of. Let's work together so your dream can be a reality. Learn more and register HERE today.
May 23, 2022
Taking the Road Less Traveled
Thank you reading my weekly blog. I am committed to helping you to become the best version of yourself.
I want to push the envelope and encourage you to not be afraid to take the path less traveled. Lately, I’ve been sharing with my coaching clients that our destiny lies on the road we’d rather not take. I want to encourage you to push through and persevere as your dreams take you on the path of initial discomfort.
The road less traveled is a scary road to take. Most people live within the confines of their comfort zone.
Negative people can’t stand positivity, because it challenges them to change the circumstances they’re constantly complaining about. It takes the pressure off of us and it’s easier to be a victim, in comparison to becoming a pioneer and a game changer as you create an amazing life.
The road less traveled is usually not yet mapped out. Therefore, the only thing you really have to go on, is your intelligence, your logic, perseverance, and some prayer, in hopes of reaching your destination
Previous footsteps have not worn a path for you. The brush has not been trimmed nor tended to, so you’re likely to get caught on a branch and stuck in places for a while.
The road less traveled has much richer plunders. Take the risk to make the journey. It will be well worth your trouble. If you want to make a real revolution, you have to do things differently.
5 truths about taking the road less traveled…
1. Life isn’t easy, don’t expect it to be.
2. The comfort zone is a trap. Your potential lies outside of it.
3. Master your emotions or you’ll become enslaved to them.
4. Pain is the root of growth. Seek growth.
5. Limits only exist in your mind. You can do more.
These days, I find myself taking the road less traveled but definitely enjoying the journey.
In a world full of people who want to take a path that appears fast and easy, take the road less traveled. BET ON YOURSELF! Be a game changer.
Remind yourself rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path.
This week’s life lesson: It may be scary to take the road less traveled, but it will lead you to the best rewards.
I'm inviting men to join me on Saturday, June 4, for our Brotherhood Masterclass. This one-day, free class, will be held in-person 11:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. at the Downtown Arlington Public Library. Due to the event being in-person, space is limited. Learn more and register today!
I want to push the envelope and encourage you to not be afraid to take the path less traveled. Lately, I’ve been sharing with my coaching clients that our destiny lies on the road we’d rather not take. I want to encourage you to push through and persevere as your dreams take you on the path of initial discomfort.
The road less traveled is a scary road to take. Most people live within the confines of their comfort zone.
Negative people can’t stand positivity, because it challenges them to change the circumstances they’re constantly complaining about. It takes the pressure off of us and it’s easier to be a victim, in comparison to becoming a pioneer and a game changer as you create an amazing life.
The road less traveled is usually not yet mapped out. Therefore, the only thing you really have to go on, is your intelligence, your logic, perseverance, and some prayer, in hopes of reaching your destination
Previous footsteps have not worn a path for you. The brush has not been trimmed nor tended to, so you’re likely to get caught on a branch and stuck in places for a while.
The road less traveled has much richer plunders. Take the risk to make the journey. It will be well worth your trouble. If you want to make a real revolution, you have to do things differently.
5 truths about taking the road less traveled…
1. Life isn’t easy, don’t expect it to be.
2. The comfort zone is a trap. Your potential lies outside of it.
3. Master your emotions or you’ll become enslaved to them.
4. Pain is the root of growth. Seek growth.
5. Limits only exist in your mind. You can do more.
These days, I find myself taking the road less traveled but definitely enjoying the journey.
In a world full of people who want to take a path that appears fast and easy, take the road less traveled. BET ON YOURSELF! Be a game changer.
Remind yourself rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path.
This week’s life lesson: It may be scary to take the road less traveled, but it will lead you to the best rewards.
I'm inviting men to join me on Saturday, June 4, for our Brotherhood Masterclass. This one-day, free class, will be held in-person 11:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. at the Downtown Arlington Public Library. Due to the event being in-person, space is limited. Learn more and register today!
May 16, 2022
Risk Investing in Yourself
This week is all about you again. Yep, as you’re reading this blog, I want you to commit to deciding to take a risk on yourself. It's time to make the investment in you. You are never going to live life effectively if you don’t learn how to believe in yourself.
Please note, investing in yourself is only a risk if you don’t believe in yourself and your ability to apply the knowledge you’ve been taught and are continuing to learn. You are smart. You are talented. You have so much to offer the world.
Here are a few questions I'd like for you to ask yourself.
⁃ Are you living purposefully and passionately, or are you just going through the motions?
⁃ Are you taking risks? Have you allowed yourself to be dumbed down, or even paralyzed, by fear?
⁃ Are you hiding out in a job and/or marriage for convenience?
⁃ Or, are you living passionately and with conviction?
To more deeply dedicate yourself to living your dream, to live your life and not some diluted version of winning everyone’s approval, you must begin to put more skin in the game. You’ve really got to take some time and answer those questions.
This is your life, your ride. You’ve got to make it count! Believe in it! Invest in it! Do the things that really matter! The rewards will be so much sweeter and last longer than getting people’s approval or just going through the motions.
Here are 5 ways to get more out of your life:
1. Ask yourself, what fears might be holding you back from investing more of yourself in your job, marriage, parenting, friendships, and career? Name them!
2. Next to each fear describe an action that would help free you from that fear and solidify your decision to risk something to get something.
3. There are big differences between “foolish” risks and “smart” risks. Looking at a situation in your current life, write down examples of each.
4. List three things you care about so deeply, or are so passionate about, that you’d be willing to risk it all for them.
5. If you are risk-aversive or risk-avoidant, describe three things you could do to build your courage and confidence.
It’s your life. Your world. Are you up for cultivating a new and wonderful vision of sustainability, compassion and peace?
Please remember, when you choose yourself over comfort, you're investing in your future. It can be a little scary but if you have been following the Effective Living platform for any amount of time, you know in order to live life effectively your have to take risks and invest in yourself.
You can't grow if you don't take risks - and choosing yourself is a risk. It's stepping out of the familiar, and into the unknown. It's stepping out of security, and into uncertainty.
I encourage you to make the investment in yourself and get coaching. I want to be your coach. We offer group coaching and one-on-one coaching. Learn more here on our website.
May 9, 2022
Sweating the Small Stuff
We have all heard that we shouldn’t sweat the small stuff. Well I want to remind you of the importance of this sentiment on your journey to living life effectively. Don't sweat the small stuff.
You have so much to offer the world. Position yourself to let go of the little things that can stop you. If not, you can find yourself living an extremely frustrated life.
Letting yourself get stressed out over the little things in life is one of the biggest ways to bring unnecessary grief into life’s path. Sometimes we simply must remind ourselves, this is just a moment in time and not your entire life.
We can avoid a lot of negative feelings, and even health problems, simply by learning not to let the little things get to us. Health problems such as heart disease, obesity, diabetes, depression, headaches, and low energy can all come from holding on to the wrong things.
As we’re all creating our lives..
⁃ Let’s smile and laugh a little louder than yesterday,
⁃ Let’s do something more challenging,
⁃ Let’s perform a different act of kindness,
⁃ Let’s think more positive and do more positive each day.
Just do more of the good stuff and don’t sweat the small stuff. I want to tell you something, this world is vast and it's going to open itself up to you a little more each day. Your goal is to learn how to embrace every day to the fullest.
Here are some tips to help you stay calm when it all feels too much:
1. Focus on the big picture
2. Remember that we all make mistakes
3. Forgive others
4. Forgive yourself
5. Ask yourself if it will matter in ten years
Don’t forget to start each day with a kind heart and positive attitude.
As a life management coach, I teach my clients, when something goes wrong, you have two choices. You can slip into a rage, or let it go.
Making the choice not to sweat the small stuff will bring you life-changing happiness, and you will be thankful for your own shift in perspective.
I hope you have a great week. Stay positive and be kind. May health and happiness be yours. Save your energy for the big stuff.
If I could change anything about my life moving forward, it would be to not sweat the small stuff. Life is a beautiful thing. I’m learning how to enjoy it every day.
I'm inviting men to join me for our Brotherhood Masterclass on Saturday, June 4 at 11:00 a.m. This FREE event will be held in person. Learn more and register HERE.
You have so much to offer the world. Position yourself to let go of the little things that can stop you. If not, you can find yourself living an extremely frustrated life.
Letting yourself get stressed out over the little things in life is one of the biggest ways to bring unnecessary grief into life’s path. Sometimes we simply must remind ourselves, this is just a moment in time and not your entire life.
We can avoid a lot of negative feelings, and even health problems, simply by learning not to let the little things get to us. Health problems such as heart disease, obesity, diabetes, depression, headaches, and low energy can all come from holding on to the wrong things.
As we’re all creating our lives..
⁃ Let’s smile and laugh a little louder than yesterday,
⁃ Let’s do something more challenging,
⁃ Let’s perform a different act of kindness,
⁃ Let’s think more positive and do more positive each day.
Just do more of the good stuff and don’t sweat the small stuff. I want to tell you something, this world is vast and it's going to open itself up to you a little more each day. Your goal is to learn how to embrace every day to the fullest.
Here are some tips to help you stay calm when it all feels too much:
1. Focus on the big picture
2. Remember that we all make mistakes
3. Forgive others
4. Forgive yourself
5. Ask yourself if it will matter in ten years
Don’t forget to start each day with a kind heart and positive attitude.
As a life management coach, I teach my clients, when something goes wrong, you have two choices. You can slip into a rage, or let it go.
Making the choice not to sweat the small stuff will bring you life-changing happiness, and you will be thankful for your own shift in perspective.
I hope you have a great week. Stay positive and be kind. May health and happiness be yours. Save your energy for the big stuff.
If I could change anything about my life moving forward, it would be to not sweat the small stuff. Life is a beautiful thing. I’m learning how to enjoy it every day.
I'm inviting men to join me for our Brotherhood Masterclass on Saturday, June 4 at 11:00 a.m. This FREE event will be held in person. Learn more and register HERE.
