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July 12, 2022
You CAN’T do it Alone
You need people. You need to be able to depend on people. You need to feel safe around people.
We are biologically wired to be co-dependent. We are tribal beings.
Today you are told that you don’t need anyone.
That all of your needs can be met by yourself.
You CAN’T do it Alone.
“Well before brain imaging technology was developed, John Bowlby understood that our need for someone to share our lives with is part of our genetic makeup and has nothing to do with how much we love ourselves or how fulfiled we feel on our own. He discovered that once we choose someone special, powerful and often uncontrolable forces come into play. New patterns of behavior kick in regardless of how independent we are and despite our conscious wills.”
Excerpt From
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love
Amir Levine
Healthy co-dependency is inevitable.
We spend time with the wrong people, that makes us think that we don’t need anyone in life and that we are done with “humans”.
You just need to surround yourself with people that bring out good in you. Spend time with people that motivate you, help your soul heal and makes your life better.
Your life is as good as the people in it.
Choose wisely.
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July 9, 2022
Where you live matters
“You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
I’ve heard this statement so many times.
I believe it’s true.
What I recently observed though is that not only your circle but the mentality of the majority of the population matters.
There are countries, cities, and cultures that don’t have a growth mindset, tend to be negative, have health issues and etc.
On the other hand, there are cultures that thrive because of how consciously they choose to live, and there are countries that are wealthy because of the abundant mindset of the citizens.
There are cities where you go out and people will smile at you and there are places where people are eager to start a fight or an argument.
Where you live matters as much as with whom you live.
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July 8, 2022
Your Focus is your magic wand
Whatever you focus on, you give your attention to it.
Whatever you give your attention to grows.
Whatever you focus on is a green light for the universe to send you more of.
Your focus is like a magic wand, whatever you put it on will return to you multiplied.
If you give your attention to the negativity of the world it will grow and soon you’ll notice how everything and everyone around you is becoming negative.
Similarly, if you focus more on the light, on the goodness of people that’s what you’ll see around you.
Use your focus to create the life you desire and deserve.
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July 6, 2022
JUNE QUOTES
Here are some of my favorite quotes for the month of June.
Men argue. Nature acts.
Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.
True long-term thinking is goal-less thinking. It’s not about any single accomplishment. It is about the cycle of endless refinement and continuous improvement.
I don’t know where I am going, but I am on my way.
Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.
The most important decision you make is to be in a good mood.
Many receive advice, only the wise profit from it.
In true dialogue, both sides are willing to change.
Understanding means throwing away your knowledge.
I know only one thing: that I know nothing.
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July 2, 2022
Your Space
Your environment matters.
Look around and throw away anything and everything that you don’t love.
Only keep things that spark joy.
You can change your thoughts by changing your environment.
You can motivate yourself by having an organized tidy space.
Create designated areas for reading, working, eating, sleeping and entertainment. Even if you have just your bedroom, do it.
Your home/room should be your sacred space where you are excited to go and happy to spend time.
Make it yours, unique to your needs.
Create the space you love to be in.
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June 28, 2022
Learn To Say “No” To Yourself
We always talk about the importance of saying “No” to others.
But the most important “No” you’ll ever say is to yourself.
Saying “No” to others takes some practice.
While saying “No” to yourself takes courage, inner discipline and practice.
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June 25, 2022
Why do Some people drain you
There are people who are so simple, that it’s satisfying to interact with them and it’s easy to have them in your life.
On the other hand, we all have people, family members, friends, and co-workers who seem to take everything too seriously, we can never joke or have a light-hearted conversation with them.
What makes one person very easy to interact with and another draining?
I believe it’s all about how people “translate” the information.
If someone was raised in an environment where one was always insulted, shamed, or criticized that’s all they know. No matter what you tell them they always hear it as an insult.
Our upbringing becomes the subconscious programming that runs our life and that subconscious programing becomes a lens through which we see everything.
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are”.
A person who you like interacting with doesn’t translate your jokes as insults, your comments on their outfit as them not being enough, or your love for them as an attempt to manipulate them.
It’s because their subconscious programming is different or they have done some inner work.
Understanding people gives you power over your own emotions.
Understanding where people come from doesn’t mean you have to keep them in your life.
Just because someone’s behavior is understandable, doesn’t mean it’s justifiable or acceptable.
Being empathetic towards others will help you lead a more peaceful life for yourself.
There is peace in knowing that there’s nothing wrong with you. You are just surrounding yourself with people who aren’t your tribe. And maybe there is nothing wrong with them too and you are also not their tribe member.
Instead of pointing fingers and trying to show people “who they are”, find the people who you actually like.
It is that simple.
PS. Remember sometimes you are the problem, you are the challenge, it’s you and not them, it’s you that is hypersensitive, it’s you that overanalyzes everything, it’s you that takes everything as an insult and thinks everyone is out there to get him. Make sure you aren’t the negative influence in someone else’s life before you accuse anyone else of being one.
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June 24, 2022
Know Thyself
Building a relationship with yourself is the hardest part of the human experience.
You might be living with yourself but never build a relationship with YOU.
It’s like having a neighbor for 20 years and never saying hi to them.
Socrates said To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.
From Aristotle to Plato, from Nelson Mandela to William Shakespeare every great thinker, writer, philosopher or leader has talked about the importance of knowing thyself.
Maybe they knew a bit about life and maybe they all had gone mad and have said some crazy things.
But one thing is for sure you are born with yourself and you die with yourself.
All you really, truly have is you, and dying without getting to know yourself would be such a shame.
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Self-Trust
You can help a man who lacks motivation.
You can help a man who lacks structure.
You can help a man who lacks vision and knowledge and discipline.
But you can’t help a man who lacks trust in himself.
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Wisdom
A knowledgeable man isn’t always wise.
A wise person on the other hand is always knowledgeable.
Wisdom takes time, wisdom takes patience.
Wisdom is applying your knowledge to your life so well and so consistently that your knowledge becomes who you are.
