Page Turner's Blog, page 67

What Happens When a Rivalry Is One-Sided

I was 17 years old. On a trip to another school about 2.5 hours away with my high school jazz ensemble. The band director was friendly with ours. He had arranged some pieces for us to play. Nice guy, actually.

I had gigged with him occasionally and always found him nice to talk to.  » Read more

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Vagueposting Has Really Become an Inescapable Cultural Expectation

vagueposting: (noun) making posts on social media that either

Give off a vague feeling of sadness or other emotional issues to prompt others into asking what’s wrong and generally shower said poster with attention
Talk smack about someone without mentioning them.

(definition source: urban dictionary)

I Work On a Time Delay

A long while back,  » Read more

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What Meeting in the Middle Re: Love Languages Can Look Like

I wake up. Go to write. And it’s one of those sessions in which the words flow well. The words are making sense to me. I’m making sense to me.

It’s a markedly peaceful morning.

And then it occurs to me: Why aren’t the cats bothering me? They usually hunt me down,  » Read more

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What Are You Rehearsing to Be?

“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.”

-Kurt Vonnegut

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That’s one of my favorite quotes.

They say to “fake it ’til you make it,” and while that smacks a lot of people the wrong way,  » Read more

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They Tell You to Love Yourself First, But Support Systems Are a Huge Advantage

“If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else” is something that other people basically never stop saying. Only people with high self-esteem (positive self-regard) can truly engage in healthy, long-lasting relationships, people claim. The rest of the world is out of luck. Doomed to failed relationships and/or a life alone.

And like anything that gets said over and over again,  » Read more

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If You Believe Willpower Is Limited, You’re Less Likely to Help Your Partner

At this point in my life, I’ve dated quite a lot. Some of those experiences were great and others… well, not so much.

Plenty of course fell in between.

One thing I’ve found that people vary wildly on is their willingness to offer support to their partners. Some people I’ve dated seemed to thrive on findings ways to support me,  » Read more

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People Who Believe in “Destiny” Are More Likely to Ghost Romantic Partners

I’ve featured many articles on ghosting over the course of writing this blog, including this post on the 4 reasons why people ghost.

I’m sure just about everyone has heard of it by now, but just in case you haven’t, ghosting is the act of breaking off a relationship by spontaneously ceasing all contact and communication without warning someone or explaining it to them first.  » Read more

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What Happens When a Non-Participant Starts to Participate

“Look with your eyes, not with your hands.”

I can’t remember how many times I heard that growing up. Particularly as I walked through stores with my mother.

The warning was warranted of course. Stores were inevitably crammed full of things I found fascinating. And like most small children, I felt an urge to reach out and touch things that captivated my interest.  » Read more

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When Relationships Are Simultaneous, It’s Harder to Dismiss Your Concerns About Them

I recently posted an essay called “A Bad Partner Fit Can Make You Feel Like You’re Worthless.” In it, I contrast two relationships I’ve been in, not by discussing the qualities of the two different partners, but by sharing the different ways they described me: 

It’s easy to come up with differences between those two relationships.  » Read more

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I’ve Learned to Be Agnostic About New Experiences

I’m sitting in my very first ceramics class. It’s an orientation to using the shared workspace. We’re not even making a project yet. That will come later, in subsequent classes.

This is a small seminar about clay. The kilns on site. How projects are stored. That sort of thing.

Later I’ll be glad for the handout I’m given,  » Read more

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