Page Turner's Blog, page 66

The Golden Rule Is for Strangers. Use the Platinum Rule for Those You Know Well.

Pretty much everyone has heard of The Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

It’s in the Bible of course. In there multiple times actually. And it’s also a self-help super hit. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard it in my life. (Likely thousands.)  » Read more

The Golden Rule Is for Strangers.

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When We Get Close to People, We Overestimate How Effectively We Communicate With Them

“We finish each other’s–”

“Sandwiches.”

–Arrested Development (and later, Frozen)

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It’s kind of the best feeling… when you get close enough to a person that you feel like you know what they’re going to say next. When you can actually accurately finish their sentences.  » Read more

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Sexist Beliefs Are Linked to Dark Triad Personality Traits

We covered the dark triad of personality traits in an earlier installment of this series. Feel free to reread that article for a review. But here’s a recap. Basically, personality researchers wanted to find out if there were traits that could act as early warning signs for antisocial behavior.

After much toil (and warring back and forth with one another),  » Read more

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The First Step in Compromise is *Wanting* to Compromise

Sometimes I write pieces about how people who are coming from different places on something can compromise. Usually, this is in the form of sharing a compromise I made with someone else. A few recent examples of this:

What Meeting in the Middle Re: Love Languages Can Look Like
When One Partner Wants to Have Important Relationship Discussions Via Text &

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When You Find Someone You Love Sticking Up For

I remember the first time I ever stuck up for you for a simple reason: Because it was easy. It was the right thing to do.

But at the time, you were really surprised that I’d do that for you. You told me you weren’t used to other people sticking up for you.  » Read more

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It’s Important to Remember We Don’t Know What We’re Missing

Sometimes the Internet seems like Pandora’s box. It’s easier than ever before for disinformation to spread. It makes the early ages of yellow journalism seem quaint in comparison.

But even as I say this, I can’t deny how many benefits it’s simultaneously presented. Online shopping is hard to ignore, how incredibly helpful it is to be able to get practically anything you’d ever want shipped to you…  » Read more

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When One Partner Wants to Have Important Relationship Discussions Via Text & the Other Wants to Have Them in Person

“I liked your post today on love languages and meeting in the middle,” she says.

“Thanks,” I say.

“Have you written anything on meeting in the middle when one partner wants to talk about issues via text and the other wants to chat about those things in person?”  » Read more

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How I Stopped Being Overwhelmed By Everything I Had to Do & Got Things Done

I used to get so overwhelmed by anything I had to do that I’d freeze up. And instead of tackling what I needed to, I simply wouldn’t get anything done.

Just about every task seemed so big, so impossible. Because I’d try to work out the entire thing in my head before I even started.  » Read more

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Intellectually Humble People Are Better at Applying What They’ve Learned

As I’ve mentioned in previous installments of this series, Dunning-Kruger effect is a cognitive bias whereby the most unskilled or incompetent individuals think they are much better at things than they actually are. For more information on Dunning-Kruger, please feel free to read the following two articles:

Skilled People Doubt Themselves;

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Kinksters Report Fewer Sexual Problems & Higher Sexual Satisfaction Than the Vanilla Population

I remember when I first got into kink, got hooked into the kink community. My vanilla friends weren’t quite sure what to do with me. It was interesting in a way — since they knew that I was in an open marriage at the time. That my husband and I saw other people. That we considered ourselves polyamorous.  » Read more

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