Page Turner's Blog, page 62

What Is Self-Serving Bias?

I’ve covered a number of topics since I started this series, Psyched for the Weekend, at the end of 2018.  I first started writing these articles after I finished the PQ series, a different weekend feature of just under 200 posts in which I publicly answered all of the chapter end reflection questions in a book on polyamory authored by someone else.  » Read more

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That One Time I Didn’t Give Up on Someone…and Regretted It

There’s a lot of advice out there about interpersonal relationships. And yeah, a lot of advice pertaining specifically to romantic ones.

The more advice you take, the less sense it makes. That’s because the advice contradicts itself. One author will advise the opposite of what another author will. Occasionally, an author will even contradict themselves.  » Read more

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Certain Love Languages Are More Difficult in the Time of Pandemic

Depending on your current situation, your love life could be affected a lot by this pandemic. Or not at all.

For example, my older sister is unhappily single. Gay and trying to date in a small town in the woods. That wasn’t easy even before the rise of covid-19. She keeps posting funny memes about how the pandemic has screwed up a love life situation that was already pretty hopeless seeming.  » Read more

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You Don’t Get Many People That You Can Tell Anything To

I can tell you almost anything, but I can’t tell you everything.

I wish I could. That it were that simple. I wish that I could just open up and tell you all of it. Everything that’s troubling me. Everything that excites me. The interesting parts, the boring parts. Everything in between.

But I can’t.  » Read more

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I’ll Get Over It, I Just Have to Be Dramatic First

“You’ve been in a much better mood lately,” he says.

“Really?” I ask.

“Really.”

“What about the other night when I cried and opened up about my pandemic fears? I was a mess,” I say.

“Yeah,” he says. “But that’s just how you work. You get upset all at once.  » Read more

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Safe Means Something Different Now

I have a routine every time I take out the trash. Because the trash goes to a shared recycling center. One that other people in my apartment building use.

I put on a new set of clothes. Open shared doors not with my hands but by using my shirt sleeve wrapped around the handle.  » Read more

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Having a More Melodic Alarm Tone Can Make You Less Groggy in the Morning

Some people are pretty quick to wake up in the morning. They open their eyes, and they’re basically instantly awake. True, maybe they don’t want to leave the bed right away for other reasons — say, because the blankets are warm and it’s cold outside, or because they have a nasty day at work ahead of them.  » Read more

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Playing Super Mario 64 Improved Executive Functioning in Older Folks

It’s funny. My parents are completely responsible for the fact that I play video games now. It was a huge event when they came home from shopping in Portland (not the one in Oregon but the other one, the largest city in Maine, about 2.5 hours south of where I grew up) touting a brand new Nintendo.  » Read more

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I Love Helping a Partner Transform a “Weakness” Into a Strength

Mario 64 was the beginning of the end.

When my little brother got an N64, I was pretty darn excited. I’d loved playing video games for years and years. On computer, Game Boy, Nintendo, Super Nintendo. It had all been great.

So naturally, N64 was very exciting to me. It was a bigger game than I’d ever seen.  » Read more

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When Everyone’s Hurting, It’s Not a Contest

Pain is fairly binary. While it’s true that some things can hurt more than others, even a relatively small setback at the wrong time can be devastating and painful. And honestly, as someone who suffered some fairly major setbacks as a young woman, I can tell you that there’s an upper limit to pain.  » Read more

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