Page Turner's Blog, page 63

Why Some Things Should Stay in the Past

It’s been a while since we’ve talked. Long enough that you don’t seem familiar to me anymore when we start talking. I can’t quite anticipate the rhythm of your words, your pauses, and find an easy place to dance with you in it.

I keep guessing and guessing wrong.

Which is wild to me.  » Read more

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Where Do We Get This Idea of Being Enough?

For a very long time, I asked myself one question over and over again: Am I enough?

I’d use the question to try to predict the future. Before I’d enter contests, I’d ask myself — am I good enough to win?

And if I thought the answer was no, I wouldn’t even try.  » Read more

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She Talks Really Fast Because She Expects to Be Interrupted or Ignored

She talks fast. Really fast.

It’s as though she expects to be interrupted, and she’s doing her absolute best to get as much out before it happens.

It’s probably a habit she learned in childhood. A childhood in which people were never really interested in what she thought. What she had to say.  » Read more

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Cheaters Judge Other Cheaters More Harshly Than They Judge Themselves

I’m scrolling through my Facebook feed when I see it. It’s a post from someone who’s not my friend but I have a lot of mutuals with. And because she’s set her feed on public, whenever my friends interact with something she’s written, Facebook likes to bring it to my attention.

And this time,  » Read more

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Women With Anti-Feminist Attitudes Are More Likely to Fake Orgasms

In an earlier installment of this series, we dove into how commonly women fake orgasms and why. Feel free to read that article for more information, but here are some highlights:

According to one study, 80% of the women involved had faked orgasms during sex and 20% of participants reported that they fake orgasms 90% of the time.

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Can You Be Happy Anywhere?

I used to think that you could be happy anywhere. That happiness was just a state of mind. Something I was in control of.

And that when it came to happiness that it didn’t really matter so much where I lived but that it mattered more how I talked to myself about where I lived.  » Read more

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Keeping Your Distance Doesn’t Mean You Hate Someone

While I’m a fairly easygoing person and tend to get along well with others, I have a confession to make: I have people I avoid.

People that I don’t talk to on purpose.

I do.

The exact reason why varies in each case. Some people are more draining than anything else.  » Read more

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Relationships Can Be Work, But They’re Not Supposed to Make You Feel Worthless

I’m happiest when I’m able to lift someone else up. To make them feel happy. Better about themselves. More hopeful.

This is true in general but especially so when it comes to those who are closest to me. When it comes to my romantic relationships.

I frankly can’t imagine getting into an intimate relationship and not having that be one of my major goals: To make that other person’s life better through my involvement in it.  » Read more

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Writing Meta Post: Working on a Time Delay During a Pandemic

I have been publishing daily articles on this blog for almost four years now.

I’ve talked about it on occasion, but I have a normal way of working that some readers don’t realize.

I’m not the kind of person who sits down and types up a contemporaneous rant and pushes send RIGHT THAT INSTANT.  » Read more

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Mindfulness Can Be About Accepting That You’re Struggling With Mindfulness

It’s late. We should already be in bed. But you’re working yet another long day. Doing your best to help. Like always. That’s always been you. No matter what, you feel better if you’re engaged, if you’re doing something. And especially if you’re helping.

It comes out in little ways, in everyday life.  » Read more

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