Page Turner's Blog, page 70
January 29, 2020
I’m Sorry for Saying Sorry Too Much… Errr… Damn!
I used to be a chronic apologizer.
Ask anyone who knew me back in the day. The words “I’m sorry” were a reflex. I said them more than just about any other phrase.
Because I was sorry. I forever saw how I made little mistakes. Got in people’s way. » Read more
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January 28, 2020
What to Do When Someone Is Helping You & You Don’t Feel Worthy of the Support
It’s a mercy, really. I never know I’m devastated until the misery has lifted. Never know how much pain I was in until I’m starting to feel better.
There’s something about me that makes it so I shut down once I start feeling too much. The lights are on of course, but nobody’s home. » Read more
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January 27, 2020
Why I Always Think I Love People More Than They Love Me & Why I’m Probably Wrong
I’ve always been a person who feels things very deeply. Sensitive is one word for it — if a very general one.
Sensitive is one of those words that’s great since it’s top of mind and most people have heard it before. Have some kind of personal definition as to what it means. » Read more
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January 26, 2020
Do Women Actually Dig Beards on Men?
Man, I gotta tell you. I have a great love of reading research studies. But sometimes their native titles are a real hoot. Here’s an example. So I just read one today that basically is investigating whether women dig men with beards. Here’s what it’s called though:
“A multivariate analysis of women’s mating strategies and sexual selection on men’s facial morphology.” » Read more
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January 25, 2020
What Is Better-Than-Average Effect? Are There Factors That Make It More Likely?
Most people with any degree of familiarity with psychological research know that in general, when you look over a large enough group of people, you will find a fairly consistent pattern: The majority of people think they are better than average.
This is of course statistically impossible. But it happens over and over again and has for decades. » Read more
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January 24, 2020
I Am Who I Am Because of the People I’ve Known
I like to joke that my superpower is being impervious to compliments. But there’s truth there.
I’ve learned over the years that the best thing to do when someone compliments you is to either say “thank you” or smile and say nothing at all. Even if you don’t agree with what they’ve said or think that you deserve the compliment. » Read more
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January 23, 2020
Knowing Your Partner Is Most Important, Regardless of Exactly HOW You Get That Information
A month ago, I published an essay called “Not All Romantic Gestures Look the Same,” in which I revealed something a little strange I do out of love:
My partner is definitely not a morning person. He needs a bit of time to warm up before he’s ready to people. » Read more
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January 22, 2020
If You Want to Get Closer to People, Stop Giving Extra Credit Criticism
I’ve always been a person who dreams. And most of the time I remember them.
Supposedly, science says this means I’m a restless sleeper, that I wake up easily. You’re more likely to remember your dreams if you sleep lightly or wake up frequently.
This also scans, since I have a tiny bladder and a tendency to become absolutely parched right before bed. » Read more
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January 21, 2020
I Feel Guilty When Good Things Happen to Me
Life might be a great deal simpler if I were one of those people who feel like I’m owed good things. If I were a person who thinks I’m special by default and therefore should be granted kindness, comfort, and care.
But I’m not. And instead, I find it all too easy to feel guilty when good things happen to me. » Read more
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January 20, 2020
Thank You For Last Night
I have the silliest grin on my face because I was woken up twice last night.
The first time I’d been asleep for about an hour. I’d taken my medicine, brushed my teeth, and crawled under the duvet with a good book.
Read until my head started to swim.
Sometimes when I’m reading before bed, » Read more
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