Page Turner's Blog, page 71

Who Is Most Likely to Be Prosocial?

While it’s easy some days to get swallowed up in negativity bias, an innate quality human beings have that make us overly sensitive to the negative (and look past the positive), I’ve always been an unapologetic fan of prosocial deeds.

So much so that one year, I actually made it my New Year’s Resolution to perform one random act of kindness per week —  » Read more

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Is It Really Interrupting… Or Is It Cooperative Overlap?

Interrupting. Ahhh… now, there’s a loaded topic.

I shudder involuntarily whenever the subject is broached. Not because I worry about getting interrupted. I don’t.

I have the other sort of baggage — where I worry I’m going to anger someone because I’ve inadvertently interrupted them.

What’s interesting is that I haven’t universally gotten this feedback from everyone I’ve known or anything.  » Read more

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Courting People in the Sims 4 Is Downright Creepy

As some of you may know, I love the Sims. I played the original game for quite a while before losing track of the series until the past few years, when I started playing the newest installment: Sims 4.

Yeah, I missed Sims 2 and Sim 3 completely. What can I say?  » Read more

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The Agony of Waiting for Attention From That Certain Person

Sometimes I think life would be simpler if attention were more straightforward. If attention were just attention, regardless of where it came from. And all attention were the same.

If when we were feeling lonely or unwanted, it were always a simple matter of having any human connection. If it could be fixed by someone —   » Read more

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You’ll Never Understand What You Mean to Me

You’ll never understand what you mean to me. That used to bother me quite a bit, but I’m starting to make peace with it.

Make peace with the fact that you look in the mirror and see some other person who bears no resemblance to the one I love.

That you don’t understand how capable and intelligent you are.  » Read more

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Beware of Self-Pedestalling, the Newbie’s Curse

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve spoken to someone who ventured out into brand new territory, found that they absolutely sucked at the new thing, and were devastated.

I’m here to tell you: It’s 100% normal to not instantly be great at something when you’re new to it.

Yes,  » Read more

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The Unappreciated, Accidental Romantic Upside of Being Solely a “Freezer” and a “Fawner”

I recently wrote an essay called “It Was Terrifying the First Time I Dated Someone Who Was Really Good to Me.” Here’s an excerpt:

I was used to being self-reliant. I had been conditioned my entire life to never ask for help because it meant being sharply criticized by others or told that I was weak for asking.  » Read more

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Anxious Attachment Linked with Lower Adherence to Safer Sex Measures

Back in high school, I was standing in line at the video store waiting to rent something. It was a long wait, as it usually was. So I was bored of course. Since this was way before smart phones, the natural thing to do was pick up VHS boxes and read the back of them.  » Read more

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Women Avoid Revealing Clothing in Order to Avoid Aggression From Other Women

A while back, I was talking to a woman who in general really liked her new mother-in-law. (As we noted in an earlier installment of these series, this is not uncommon; many women get along great with their mothers-in-law, in spite of cultural jokes that would suggest otherwise.)

However, the woman I was talking to had run into one hitch with her mother-in-law,  » Read more

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For Better or Worse, You Don’t Get to Control How Other People See You

I’m sitting in a pew, attending mass at the church I attended growing up.

It’s been 7 years since I went to a service here, on another visit to my hometown, but surprisingly little has changed since then.

Actually, surprisingly little has changed from 30 years ago, when I was a small child doing my best to remain quiet and tolerate the unending boredom,  » Read more

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