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Apparently Men Are Less Likely to Recycle Because They Worry It’ll Make Them Seem Gay

I’m telling you… it’s a weird world out there research-wise. I feature a wide array of topics in this article series. And I’ve read a lot of research at this point in my life (even spent some time as a researcher myself). But I still managed to be surprised by research studies. Surprised at what the researchers are looking at,  » Read more

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There’s Nothing Quite Like an Emotional Hangover

There’s nothing quite like an emotional hangover.

There’s nothing quite like waking up the morning after I poured my heart out, only to have it met with silence. Because it overwhelmed you.

I get it. It overwhelms me. If I could get away from my heart, I would.

But it’s always there.  » Read more

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You Can’t Guarantee Entire Communities Will Be Good

This past summer I moved cross-country to a new area, leaving the community I knew rather well and landing somewhere where I basically knew no one at all.

At first I was pretty darn shellshocked. The simple logistical process of packing up everything we owned, preparing the house for sale, and living in it while it was being shown to prospective buyers…  » Read more

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Men Who Are Intimidated by Vibrators & Those Who Aren’t

Long ago and far away, I was involved in some pretty hot and heavy sexy-time banter with a guy I was dating and rather smitten with.

In general, he was pretty good at the dirty talk. Which was one of the reasons I liked him so much. Because we had good overlap there.  » Read more

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Are Cat Lovers Masochists?

I never know quite where you stand, and that’s why I’m so into you.

Your attention and affection aren’t readily available. Instead, they’re highly conditional. And those conditions are ever-changing, hidden from the rest of the world.

You play a game whose rules aren’t published anywhere. Because they fluctuate like Fluxx or Calvinball.  » Read more

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What Might Seem Like “Laziness” Could In Fact Be Different Priorities

As I mentioned before, I’m naturally fairly laidback about chores. I happily do them and pitch in wherever I can (and at times, I do something like 15-20 hours of chores a week). But I’m not someone that’s ever going to be automatically repulsed by clutter or a mess.

This is likely an adaptation based on how I spent my teenage years:

 …the short version is that in the 90s,  » Read more

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Online Dating and Rejection Mindset

In a previous installment of Psyched for the Weekend, I covered the paradox of choice. Basically, the premise is that more isn’t necessarily better. It’s just different. While generally people like having options, it’s possible that having too many choices backfires. And it can lead you to feel less satisfied with whatever it is you end up choosing.  » Read more

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Affective Presence, a Personality Trait That Measures How Easy You Are to Be Around

I’ve known some people in my life who could walk into a room and seem to make everyone seem more comfortable simply by being there.

They didn’t even have to say or do a lot, mind you. They just had a way of putting others at ease. A calm energy, if you will.  » Read more

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Forgiveness Doesn’t Have to Look Like Forgiveness to the Person You’re Forgiving

forgive (verb) – to stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake

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As I mentioned in another recent post, people tend to have a very expansive notion of forgiveness. They’ll often act as though forgiving someone means that you forgot what they did or that you allow your relationship with them to be exactly as it was before.  » Read more

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I’m Not Always Good at Forgiveness — But I Want to Be

As long-time readers know, on the weekends I run a feature called Psyched for the Weekend. Basically, I do brief takes on new studies or old psychological concepts I find interesting.

At the date of this writing, there are 142 articles in that series. Wow.

As with all my essays,  » Read more

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