Page Turner's Blog, page 147

No, Polyamory Isn’t Just for Rich People

It’s a criticism I hear fairly often of polyamory: Having multiple simultaneous romantic relationships is a classist idea. Some say polyamory is just for rich trust fund kids who have the scratch to go on twice, thrice, or four times as many dates.

It’s said that polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy are inaccessible to all but the wealthiest among us.  » Read more

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Flirt Sharks and the Wounded Heart

Page,

I read your recent writing, and I gotta say a girl like you deserves better than to be treated like that. If you ever want to chat, here’s my kik. 

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Whenever I post an essay that recounts a conflict in one of my relationships (past or present),  » Read more

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That One Time We Were Hunted by a Unicorn

“I was really happy to hear that you guys opened back up,” she says.

“Oh yeah?”

“To tell the truth, I’ve thought for ages that you’d be amazing to date.”

“Oh?” I say. “I never knew you felt that way about me.”

“Well, not just you,” she says.  » Read more

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How Do We Get Back to Okay?

My eyes are raw from crying. As I sit on the downstairs couch, I feel like there are bricks in my chest. If I think carefully through the last hour, I can actually retrace the series of statements that took us here. But he’s sitting upstairs in the bedroom angry and frustrated. Not in the mood to talk about anything.  » Read more

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You Might Be Far Away, But Missing You Is an Amazing Drug

It’s 4 in the morning. My body doesn’t feel like mine anymore. I’ve been up that long, trying to make the most out of every last minute I have with you, since I won’t see you for a few months.

We leave for the airport at the last minute. I’m taking the red eye back home.  » Read more

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PQ 13.6 — In what ways am I empowered in my relationships? What things help me to feel empowered?

PQ 13.6 — In what ways am I empowered in my relationships? What things help me to feel empowered?

The Power and Responsibility of a Blank Check

I absolutely love my current agreements. I have carte blanche with my anchor partner Justin (the artist formerly known as Skyspook). Carte blanche is French for “white card.”  » Read more

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PQ 13.5 — Are there specific things I can ask my partners to do for me to help me feel loved and cared for?

PQ 13.5 — Are there specific things I can ask my partners to do for me to help me feel loved and cared for?

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I’m sitting and having coffee with a friend of mine I haven’t seen in a while. She looks great. Lots of things are going right for her at the moment.  » Read more

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Anything You Ever Say or Write Can Be Weaponized. And Easily.

I recently presented at the Beyond the Love conference in Columbus, Ohio. One of the two classes Justin and I taught there was on managing boundaries in polyamory. As part of that topic, we used a model of control where everything falls into one of three buckets:

Things we can control.

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There’s No Force Field Around Married People That Makes Them Unlovable

“How are you doing?” I say.

“Honestly, I’m scared,” he says.

“Scared?” I say. “I promise I don’t bite.”

“Not without permission anyway.”

I laugh.

“I just don’t know how to process any of it,” he says. “I’m in love with a married woman.”

“Oh,  » Read more

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I Wish I Enjoyed Gift-Giving More. It Really Stresses Me Out.

It’s that time of year again. Everyone in my web is talking about what they’re getting each other for the holidays. Metamours and telemours hitting me up for gift ideas for Justin (a.k.a. Skyspook).

And me?

Well, I’m frozen in fear.

You see, I’m neurotic about gifts. Giving them,  » Read more

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