Page Turner's Blog, page 146

I’m Just a Hick Kid in Big City Clothing

I’m standing in a lushly decorated rooftop bar holding a drink that cost me more than I think a drink should. Although it’s a heavy pour, so that’s good. I’m dressed to the nines. Chic dress, lace pumps, suit coat. I’d spent hours earlier combing my wardrobe for the best pieces, looking for something that says “trendy businesswoman mixed with just a touch of first lady.”  » Read more

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PQ 14.3 — Is this agreement the only way to serve this purpose?

PQ 14.3 — Is this agreement the only way to serve this purpose?

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Human beings are prone to a delightful/not delightful array of onboard features. Some might call them bugs: Biases, cognitive blind spots, idiosyncrasies. How exactly these play out in any one person’s life varies. But for the most part,  » Read more

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PQ 14.2 — Does the agreement serve the purpose it is intended to serve?

PQ 14.2 — Does the agreement serve the purpose it is intended to serve?

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“So we got around to the Big Talk,” she says.

“Oh? The opening up talk?” I say.

She nods. “Been putting it off for a while. I was so scared at how it would go.”  » Read more

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Sex Work While Polyamorous: Possessiveness, Sex Bureaucracy, and Perception of Risk

I recently stumbled across an interesting article called “I Asked My Tinder Matches If They Would Date a Sex Worker Like Me.” In the piece, Hayley Jade shares how she got into sex work as well as what men said when she asked them on Tinder how they would feel about dating a sex worker.  » Read more

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Chemistry Is Obvious, Dealbreakers Aren’t

She’s looking positively fierce in a black gown that envelopes her slender frame as though it was made for her, standing with perfect posture. But as soon as he enters the room, her body language changes. She hunches over forward sharply, like anything that folds for storage when you kick in its joints. She turns towards him and stares.  » Read more

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Bye, Baby Bi, Hello: Dating Women New to Dating Women

“I’ve definitely had attractions to other women,” she says. “Had sex with them, sure. But I’ve never really dated one.”

I grip my coffee cup in my hands more tightly, feeling the warmth of the drink spread through my fingers. I idly think that she’d be a good girlfriend. She’s pretty,  » Read more

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Voyeurism as Exposure Therapy: How Watching Kink Scenes Made Polyamory Easier for Me

I’m watching them from across the room, leaning against the wall. Trying to be as unobtrusive as I can, so that I don’t spoil their energy. I’ve positioned myself so that there’s another scene partially obscuring my view: A woman pressed up against a St. Andrew’s cross, her partner flogging her back in time to the music filtering into the room.  » Read more

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Is There a Right Time or Way to Break Up a Relationship?

Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.

They previously contributed two articles to Poly.Land:

 “I Was Treated as a Disease Vector: Why There Are So Few Gay Men in Pansexual Polyamory”
“Being Single Sucks,

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PQ 14.1 — What is the purpose of this agreement?

PQ 14.1 — What is the purpose of this agreement?

Try Hard…With a Vengeance

The door flies open, smacking against the other wall.

“What is the purpose of this agreement?!” the intruder yells, pulling his machine gun to the ready.

Everyone hits the deck. Some dive behind desks.

“Drop that phone,”  » Read more

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PQ 13.7 — Can I renegotiate the agreements in my relationships? Can my partners?

PQ 13.7 — Can I renegotiate the agreements in my relationships? Can my partners?

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Change is hardest at the beginning, messiest in the middle and best at the end.

-Robin Sharma

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Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.  » Read more

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