Page Turner's Blog, page 144
January 22, 2018
It’s a Different World for Bisexual Women
Nearly 20 years ago, I lived for several months with my friend’s drug dealer. He was 13 years older than me. I didn’t want to date him in the first place, but back then I had a hard time saying no, and he was very persuasive.
Besides, he paid me kindnesses, things that would seem trivial now, » Read more
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January 21, 2018
PQ 15.1 — What are my existing commitments? How much time do they leave for new partners?
PQ 15.1 –What are my existing commitments? How much time do they leave for new partners?
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“How do you manage it all?” she says. “You’re dating three people. And you work a lot. You’re always writing.”
“I’m definitely full up right now,” » Read more
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January 20, 2018
PQ 14.10 — Is this agreement serving the people involved, or are the people serving it?
PQ 14.10 — Is this agreement serving the people involved, or are the people serving it?
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He’s just gotten done telling me about his relationship agreement. Complaining, really. About what he doesn’t like about it. And there’s a lot.
“I get where you’re coming from,” I say. “Have you talked to your partners about changing your relationship agreement?” » Read more
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January 19, 2018
Work Trips & Date Nights: “Isn’t It Weird for You When Your Partner Is Out?”
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“Oh my dear Pageling,” Hilda said. “Don’t be so sad.”
I suddenly came to. Realized I’d been staring straight ahead with an unhappy expression on my face. My housemate Hilda and her friend Crock were sitting in the living room with me, gabbing as always, about mutual acquaintances. Pet peeves. » Read more
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January 18, 2018
I Don’t Understand New Shiny Syndrome…and I Wish I Did
“I think the worst thing about my ex,” she says. “Wasn’t that he treated me badly. He was actually pretty good to me.”
I nod. “It always seemed that way, from the outside.”
“It was that he didn’t treat me any better than anyone else,” she says.
“Are you talking about his other partners? » Read more
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January 17, 2018
If It Isn’t an Official Relationship, Is It Automatically Friends with Benefits?
I still think fondly of Jay.
I met Jay at a student pagan gathering. When I’d called the office asking if atheists were welcome (how I identified at the time), I was assured that they were completely interfaith. Even practitioners of Abrahamic religions were encouraged to attend.
But I noted as soon as I arrived that I was surrounded by Wiccans. » Read more
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January 16, 2018
The Problem with “You’re Just Jealous” as a Conversation Ender
“I wish you’d just own up to what’s really going on here,” he says.
“What?”
“You don’t really think it’s a bad idea. Admit it,” he says. “You’re just jealous.”
I don’t know what to say. I settle on, “That’s not what this is about.”
Because it’s true I’ve had my insecurities in the past regarding him but not to an unusual magnitude. » Read more
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January 15, 2018
Visible Polyamory: A Public Display of Triad Affection
“I’ll be right back,” I say to Justin and Eva as I leave our table at the jazz club to seek out the ladies’ room.
We’ve been there for a few hours, having drinks, eating dinner, the three of us all out on a date together. I’m so in love I can’t stand it. » Read more
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January 6, 2018
PQ 14.6 — Can the agreement be renegotiated?
PQ 14.6 — Can the agreement be renegotiated?
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One of my favorite things to do in order to slow down, unwind, and gain some perspective is to star gaze. Sometimes it’s in the backyard fighting the light pollution of the city, but, more ideally, I find solace in the relative blackness of a dark sky park, » Read more
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January 5, 2018
Odds Are You’ll Break My Heart, But It’s Worth It
Mamihlapinatapai: (noun) A look shared by two people, each wishing that the other would initiate something that they both desire but which neither wants to begin.
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I know I shouldn’t stare, but I can’t stop looking at her.
I want to cup the slope of her neck in my hand, » Read more
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