Page Turner's Blog, page 143

Solomon’s Child: “It’s Them or Me,” When They Want You to Cut the Baby in Half

“I just wanted to make sure I reached out and thanked you,” she says.

“For what?” I ask.

“For talking to me so much about my breakup,” she says.

“Of course,” I tell her. “You’re my friend. You’d do it for me.”

“Well, you make it sound simple,”  » Read more

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Cultivating Compersion Can Be a Helpful Distraction from the Pain of Tackling Jealousy and Insecurity.

“Ugh,” I say.

“You okay?” he says.

“Yeah, my neck just hurts.” I rub the sore muscle, frowning. “No biggie. It happens sometimes.”

“Oh, mind if I help you with that?” he asks. “I can do a release.”

I’ve seen his training certificate on the wall. That he knows what he’s doing when it comes to massage therapy.   » Read more

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The Pool Is Closed, But It Looked So Lovely in the Brochure

Was there anything more disappointing as a kid than when you got to your hotel and the pool was closed?

It looked so lovely in the brochure.

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I grew up being fed a lot of stories about Love and Romance and Happy Endings. Mostly through TV and movies,  » Read more

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It’s So Easy to Admire Someone From Afar, Tough to Appreciate Them Up Close

It’s no trick loving someone at their best. Love is loving them at their worst.

-Tom Stoppard

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You’re really beautiful, the stranger writes.

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Honey, I know that you think so, and while I appreciate the compliment, I wouldn’t stake my house on it.  » Read more

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PQ 15.3 — What assumptions do I make about commitments in my relationships?

PQ 15.3 — What assumptions do I make about commitments in my relationships?

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We’re often blind to our own assumptions, at least until someone else points them out to us.

As I wrote in response to an earlier question in this series, PQ 1.6:

Commitment is many things.  » Read more

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PQ 15.2 — When am I open to taking new partners?

PQ 15.2 — When am I open to taking new partners?

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I’ve recently become polysaturated, for the first time in an awfully long time.

But prior to this, I’ve literally spent years being open to taking new partners — and yet doing so only fairly infrequently.

In some ways,  » Read more

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Why It’s Tempting to Fake Orgasms, But You Really Shouldn’t

“Let’s see how many orgasms I can give you,” he says. “My previous record is nine in one night. But I’d like to try and top that.”

I stiffen. He isn’t talking about me when he references his record. Whether he realizes it or not, he’s implied that I’m in sexual competition with some unknown mystery woman.  » Read more

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Poly Pitfall: The Invisible Puppet Strings of Poly Guilt

“I can’t say I’m a big fan of all the rules we have in place right now,” he says. “Or the fires I’m constantly putting out. The distress calls. It never ends. Everything I do these days is picked apart. I feel like I’m under a microscope.”

I nod. “You do seem really uncomfortable with the way things are.”  » Read more

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The Worst Threesome I Ever Had

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The worst threesome I ever had ended before it even started.

It caught me off guard how much I enjoyed kissing Derek.  We’d spent some months getting to know each other, but we were mostly just friendly. Social. Hanging out with the one person we had in common.

And now that we were here sitting on his bed,  » Read more

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As Monogamy Changes, My Monogamous Friends and I Agree More Often

“You know, it’s funny,” she says. “I’ve known you for what seems like forever.”

“Gee, thanks,” I say, smirking.

“In a good way,” she says.

I laugh. “Okay, okay.”

“Anyway, you’ve been poly now for what? 10 years?” she says.

“Something like that,” I say.  » Read more

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