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10 Tips to Help You Write About Your Personal Life & Still Enjoy Living It

Hi Page,

I’ve been reading your blog regularly for a few years now. I love how much of your personal life you share. I would love to do that, but I’m afraid to really put myself out there like that. Do you find that being open with readers has overall been a positive or a negative experience?  » Read more

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The Polyamory Card Office Is Permanently Closed

In my line of work, I get a lot of questions that are phrased like this:

“Am I not polyamorous if….?”
“Does XYZ make me less polyamorous?”
“If polyamorous people do XYZ does that mean they can’t still call themselves polyamorous?”

And while I can honestly say I don’t mind answering these questions,  » Read more

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When You Have the Right Love Language But Are Speaking at the Wrong Volume

“You know, Page,” he says, “it seems like every time I turn around, I bump into someone who has just discovered the Love Languages framework, and they’re so excited about it.”

I nod. “I know what you mean. I can actually remember when I first heard of it about 10 years ago,  » Read more

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When First Night Effect Doesn’t Fade & Becomes Chronic Polyamorous Guilt

Recently, I answered a reader letter in an advice column called “I Have My Partner’s Blessing, But I Still Feel Like I’m Cheating. Is This Normal?”

In my response to that letter, I wrote about first night effect. Essentially, first night effect is a phenomenon that many polyamorous folks experience whereby they feel either guilt or shame after their first preapproved nonmonogamous encounter.  » Read more

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Ask Page: Is the Grieving Process Different for Polyamorous Breakups, and If So, How?

Hi Page,

My nesting partner and I opened up our relationship about a year and a half ago. For both of us, this was our first experience with polyamory. For a few reasons, including the fact that poly wasn’t a good fit for her, we decided to end our three-year relationship.  » Read more

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PQ 24.1 — Am I excited by the prospect of being with this person? Is he a “F#*& yes!”?

PQ 24.1 — Am I excited by the prospect of being with this person? Is he a “Fuck yes!”?

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Today’s prompt is referring to the premise of a blogging mega hit from Mark Manson, “Fuck Yes or No.”

These days Manson is fairly well known,  » Read more

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PQ 23.7 — What will I do if I don’t get along well with a partner’s partner? What do I do if one of my partners doesn’t get along well with another of my partners?

PQ 23.7 — What will I do if I don’t get along well with a partner’s partner? What do I do if one of my partners doesn’t get along well with another of my partners?

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One of the hardest part about polyamory can be that you will often find yourself in situations that you never saw people navigating.  » Read more

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Don’t Mind Me, I’m a Refurbished Model

It’s a rough day. I wake up sick. Nauseated and in pain. My world spinning.

I text Justin as a heads up just to let him know. In case I get a migraine and develop temporary aphasia. It doesn’t happen every time I have a migraine, but perhaps three-quarters of the time when the blood vessels swell and press against my skull,  » Read more

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Ask Page: I Don’t Want to Be Friends With My Ex. Does That Make Me Less Polyamorous?

Hi Page,

I’ve been following your writings and came across something in your “Wedding & Exes” piece. I’m looking for a bit of advice. 

In that piece, you mentioned a study which says that poly people are more likely to not cut off communication from their exes versus monogamous people.  » Read more

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A Sigh Can Set Off a Conflict As Easily as the Words We Choose to Say

I’m learning a lot about myself from him. From looking at who I am through his eyes.

He has that kind of hypervigilance you only get after years of dating women who set traps. Who modify their behavior ever so slightly as a test, to see if you notice.

Like those silent bargains I’d make with God as a kid: “If you really exist,  » Read more

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