Page Turner's Blog, page 121

I Probably Don’t Know What Love Is, But I May Have Felt It the Other Day

Growing up, I’d often ask the people around me what love was. This started young, practically when I first heard the word. “Love?” some would say. “It’s… you know, it’s love.” Drawing out the word, making eye contact and nodding, as if that were supposed to explain everything.

Many times,  » Read more

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Sometimes a Relationship Agreement Has Marco Polo Rules

Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.

“Pooh!” he whispered.

“Yes, Piglet?”

“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.”

-A. A. Milne, The House at Pooh Corner

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Big Celebrities and Yellow Starbursts

Back when I attended the University of Maine,  » Read more

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Package Deal Relationships & Following a Friend in Your Car

“I wanted to ask you for a favor, if you don’t mind,” he says.

“What’s that?” I say.

“I need to pick up my car tomorrow,” he says.

“And you want to know if I can drive the other car home,” I say.

“Yes,” he says.” “Well,  » Read more

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PQ 25.1 — Do I have access to a social support system that is friendly to and knowledgeable about polyamory?

PQ 25.1 — Do I have access to a social support system is friendly to and knowledgeable about polyamory?

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My discovery that polyamory could be a viable way for people to do relationships and my very first polyamorous relationship happened quite close together, for a very simple reason: The friend who introduced me to the idea when coming out to me as polyamorous also dated me very soon afterwards.  » Read more

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PQ 24.7 — Does this person help me be the best version of myself?

PQ 24.7 — Does this person help me be the best version of myself?

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As I look around at the people who are in my life now, I can answer unequivocally yes every time. I’m surrounded by folks (a mixture of lovers and friends and some arguably in between) who bring out the best in me.  » Read more

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PQ 24.6 — Is there anything about this person I’m hoping will change?

PQ 24.6 — Is there anything about this person I’m hoping will change?

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As I wrote in another recent installment of this series, I grew up as essentially a social chameleon. A person who could get along with a wide variety of people. And blending in was an attitude that followed me into the way that I had romantic and sexual relationships,  » Read more

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Happy 2nd Birthday, Poly Land!

Two years ago today, I converted this site over to a daily publishing schedule. And I made a public commitment to myself — and to anyone watching at the time — that no matter what, I would publish a new article here every. Single. Day. 

For two years, I’ve kept that promise.  » Read more

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Consistency Is Such an Underrated Virtue, Being Reliable Is So Sexy

“It’s been a real process, becoming emotionally secure,” I say to him.

“You’ve come a long way though,” he replies. “You’re a different person than when I first met you.”

I smile. “Thank you. That means a lot coming from you.”

“It might be difficult for you to remember,  » Read more

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That Moment When You Know You’re in Love & the Time Before You Say It

I can clearly remember the first time I realized I might be in trouble when it came to my partner Justin.

We’d been talking back and forth in a group chat where we had mutual friends. I’d just lost over 100 lbs, and he was actively trying to lose weight. We both recounted our difficulties with the process.  » Read more

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Other People Are Happy to Shoot Down Your Ideas. It Doesn’t Mean They’re Right.

A little while back, a friend of mine was posting on social media about an old refrigerator they were planning to sell. It was used but still in good working order. In this status, they posted a picture of a cracked shelf and asked their followers for advice on what kind of material to use to fix it.  » Read more

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