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PQ 25.5 — What risks do I face — including personal, professional, or physical — in being public about my polyamorous relationships? Are these risks I can afford to take?

PQ 25.5 — What risks do I face — including personal, professional, or physical — in being public about my polyamorous relationships? Are these risks I can afford to take?

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The decision whether to come out or not is a deeply personal one. In my own case, I’ve been out for many years,  » Read more

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PQ 25.4 — If I am thinking about staying closeted, how will I feel about concealing my important relationships from people who are close to me?

PQ 25.4 — If I am thinking about staying closeted, how will I feel about concealing my important relationships from people who are close to me?

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2010

“You know,” I say to Seth. “I’ve been thinking I want to come out as polyamorous. On Facebook.”

Seth frowns.  » Read more

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What It’s Like Being Featured in Media Pieces About Polyamory

Hi Page,

I’ve been reading Poly Land for a while now (first the site and eventually the book). I originally stumbled onto you after you were featured in The Huffington Post in “12 Questions People in Polyamorous Relationships Are Sick of Hearing.” I’ll be honest. I was kind of mad when I saw the article after a friend shared it.  » Read more

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What’s the Worst Thing About Polyamory? Four Takes

It’s probably no surprise, but I think polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy can be downright awesome.

That said, every good thing has downsides. For this article, I had conversations with four different folks who are all happily polyamorous asking the following question: What’s the worst thing about polyamory?

Here’s how it went:

Take 1: There’s a Potential For More Let Downs

“Sometimes I feel like dating multiple people is an opportunity to let more people down at once,”  » Read more

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There’s Something to Be Said for Being a Good Sport

“You’ll be fine,” my dad said, as we waited in line for the roller coaster. “It’s not so bad.”

But the old man was tricking me.

My first clue was the screams that we heard as we waited in the enclosure. “They’re just being dramatic,” Dad had reassured me. “Some people ride these things just to scream.”  » Read more

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It’s Best to Clean Before the House Gets Dirty & Do Maintenance Before Things Break

I love the house I live in. My husband bought it when he was single, about six months before we started dating, as an investment, planning to flip it down the road. But I’ve been terribly amused by how much I love it. Our neighborhood. How it’s decorated. If I’d been with him then, I would have been excited about buying this house.  » Read more

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The Key to Effective Self-Help Is Knowing Where You Are, Relative to the Advice

“It’s really easy to find self-help advice nowadays,” she says. “It’s all over the Internet.”

I nod. “Sure is. I even write some myself.”

“That must be a real trip,” she says. “Just putting it out there and seeing how it’s applied.”

“It can be,” I say. “It does help that I don’t know most of my readership personally.  » Read more

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PQ 25.3 — Who in my life is important for me to be able to talk to about my relationships? Whom do I think it’s important for my partners to meet?

PQ 25.3 — Who in my life is important for me to be able to talk to about my relationships? Whom do I think it’s important for my partners to meet?

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“You know,” my mother says. “I really wish your brother would bring one of his girls home.”

“I guess he’s not at an emotional place where he wants to do that,”  » Read more

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PQ 25.2 — Do I feel like I have friends I can discuss relationship problems with who will not blame polyamory as the problem?

PQ 25.2 — Do I feel like I have friends I can discuss relationship problems with who will not blame polyamory as the problem?

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In my line of work, I get asked certain questions over and over again. This is understandable since while no two people are exactly alike, we do share a lot in common with each other (often more than we realize).  » Read more

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Ask Page: Whatever Gloats Your Boat

Hi Page,

I’m newer to polyamory, at least in practice. In theory, I’ve wanted to be in an open relationship for quite some time, but I only recently got into a relationship with a polyamorous woman. Things are going great so far. I can’t believe how cool she is about some things.  » Read more

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