Page Turner's Blog, page 119

If I Had to Pick a Superpower, I’d Choose “Detect Empathy”

“I mean, the way I figure it,” I said. “The worst thing that happens here is that I take a risk, and I get hurt. No big deal. I’ve been hurt before. I lived.”

“Oh God,” she replied. “That’s the last thing I’d want to do. To hurt you. I couldn’t stand it.”  » Read more

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They Say, “If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say, Don’t Say Anything at All”

They say, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

They mean it, too.

And not just because most people have skin as thin as onions and would sacrifice 99% of the truth just to feel as beautiful and perfect as they did when they were young enough to have no self-awareness.  » Read more

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I Thought I’d Lost My Chance to Have a Fulfilling Relationship With a Woman, But I Was Wrong

Being a Young Girl Was All About Mixed Messages

When I was a young girl, it often seemed like I was toeing a very thin invisible line, walking through the most narrow passage opening, sandwiched between two hard rock walls.

On one wall was the pressure to succeed, and on the other side,  » Read more

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PQ 25.7 — Who else is affected by my decision to be out or closeted? Do I understand the effect my decision will have on them?

PQ 25.7 — Who else is affected by my decision to be out or closeted? Do I understand the effect my decision will have on them?

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Before I dive into today’s question, I just wanted to make a quick note that **drum roll** THIS IS THE FINAL ESSAY IN THIS SERIES!!!!  » Read more

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PQ 25.6 — If I am thinking of staying closeted, is it because I face genuine and serious risks, or am I concerned about being inconvenienced or losing status?

PQ 25.6 — If I am thinking of staying closeted, is it because I face genuine and serious risks, or am I concerned about being inconvenienced or losing status?

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Fear is a funny thing. Often it’s very binary, when you feel fear. You get that worry, that pit in your stomach.  » Read more

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It’s Tough to Pack Your Ego in Mothballs, But You Might Need to if Your Metamour Is Reluctantly Polyamorous

A while back, some friends of mine, Margo and Emily, had their first foray into polyamory as a couple. They’d already been sexually open for a little while, having occasional threesomes with another friend (who had an anchor relationship of his own). But neither of them had another ongoing relationship, nor a connection where there were strong romantic emotions.  » Read more

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I’m Waaaaay Pickier About Partner Selection Now That I’m Polyamorous

As I’ve said many times in the past, I don’t do a lot of online dating. I tend to be unconventional in the way I meet partners these days. I chiefly meet folks incidentally through friends or through friends of friends. But I do participate in online dating every so often (albeit rarely, the last time was for a few weeks several years ago),  » Read more

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Polyamory Life Hack: Gracious Partners and Metamours

It always makes me smile, every time it happens. When I find out from my girlfriend that my metamour has been sitting in the car waiting for our date to end so that he can come inside without interrupting us in the middle of whatever it is we’re doing. He’s been gone all night himself usually,  » Read more

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In Order to Be Polyamorous, I Had to Get Over the Idea That It’d Make Me a Bad Bisexual

I Kept Having the Same Two Conversations, Over and Over Again

Growing up bisexual, I’d end up in an unpleasant conversation every time I told a new partner my sexual orientation. And it usually went one of the following ways:

Conversation #1: 

Them: Oh, you’re bi? Next thing I know, you’ll be telling me you need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend,  » Read more

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I May Be Polyamorous, But I’m No Homewrecker

If it makes you uncomfortable, we can pretend it never happened.

That moment lives in a hazy part of my memory anyway. The place where things that don’t seem real when they’re happening live. Those moments when it feels like reality is shimmering.

We’re standing in my office with the door closed.  » Read more

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