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The Surprisingly Long History of Polyamorous & Non-Monogamous Films in Hollywood

Today’s piece is a guest blog post from KC James. One half of that kick-ass wedding Page wrote about recently, KC studied filmmaking and is an avid collector of analog film media. His regular online haunt is Popcorn Logic: Film & Television where he writes about film and TV trivia.

And check out what he wrote for Poly Land today:

The Surprisingly Long History of Non-Monogamous Films in Hollywood

Since their introduction in 1895,  » Read more

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It’s Possible to Care So Much for So Long That You Run Out of Caring

It’s something they warn all new therapists about, the plague of people in the helping professions: Compassion fatigue.

Compassion fatigue is also sometimes known as secondary traumatic stress disorder or vicarious stress.

It’s a lot like it sounds. Compassion fatigue occurs when you spend so much time taking care of other people,  » Read more

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Barnum Effect, Or Will I Ever Find My Ramen Patronus?

“What kind of ramen are you?” Facebook asks me and then perkily suggests, “Take our quiz to find out!”

“What kind of… ramen am I? ” I wonder.

It had never before occurred to me to ask myself that. It wasn’t as though I’d been frantically pacing the soup aisle at the grocery store,  » Read more

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“That Doesn’t Need to Be a Word” Is an Incredibly Boring Hill to Die on

Someone: Wow, here’s a cool new term.

Some Cranky Person: Oh c’mon now, that doesn’t need to be a word.

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For as long as I can remember, I’ve enjoyed learning new words. While other kids groaned at the thought of vocab assignments, I was excited about them.

When I was young,  » Read more

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Sneakiarchy, Secret Hierarchy & Dishonest Egalitarianism

In polyamorous circles, hierarchy can sometimes be a dirty word, depending on your audience.

Some folks will get offended at even the mere mention of the word. “I don’t believe in hierarchy,” they’ll say. “It’s always unethical. Always.”

And typically, they’ll stick to this position no matter what anyone else says to them.  » Read more

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Undead Lovers: A Poly Land Field Guide

Poly Land is by and large, a beautiful, magical place. There are a number of benevolent creatures that inhabit its wilds.

However, just like anywhere else, Poly Land has a dark side. And creatures who don’t mean nearly as well. Who are out just to get what they want and screw the consequences.  » Read more

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The Rest of Your Life Needs You, Not Just Your Controversy

Why do you waste so much time writing about things that aren’t controversial?

I stared at the question on my screen. It had come from a reader. An excerpt, actually. The rest of the message went downhill from there. And ended by calling me a name.

I resolved to ignore it.  » Read more

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Polyamory Doesn’t Actually Need to Be Easy to Be Something Worth Pursuing

There are some people who say that polyamory is objectively way easier than monogamy (or, the less far less commonly used term monamory, the desire or practice of having a single intimate relationship at a time, which is perhaps a more accurate opposite).

They insist that polyamory more closely mimics our natural state or that it’s simply easier to manage.  » Read more

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Skilled People Doubt Themselves; The Unskilled Are Confident

The first rule of Dunning-Kruger Club is you do not know you’re in Dunning-Kruger Club.

-Internet Meme

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The fundamental cause of trouble is that in the modern world the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.

–Bertrand Russell, 1933, lamenting the rise of Nazi Germany

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I have written 11 books,  » Read more

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You Can Become Addicted to Anger & Not Even Know It

Every so often, when I tell someone that I have a professional background in psychological research, they’ll immediately start talking to me about Sigmund Freud.

And inevitably I’ll end up conveying the same information: Freud’s a famous guy, and a lot of people’s “picture” of psychology — but he wasn’t a scientist. He formed a lot of hypotheses,  » Read more

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