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Owning the Courage to Live In Courage

Have you noticed the landscape in the outer world has changed?

I know y’all, I have been beating the drum about a massive shift coming and I wanted you to be prepared to own the courage – to live in courage. To be able to adapt with fortitude in shifting times. The world as we knew it is a shadow of its former self.

A physical, mental and spiritual conundrum is just beginning.

I tell you this, “You ain’t seen nothin’ yet.” Not to frighten you, just to let you know that when worldwide shifts occur, there is always fallout. Good and not so good. It’s important we adjust our mindset and perspective in regard to what was, and what will be. You may not believe it, but this point in time was inevitable – and a long time coming.

There will be changes in politics, science, education, access to quality air, water, land, and food/nutrition, health care, finance, and more. All of which affects each of us on a smaller to larger scale, depending on our personal circumstances. This all ties in to living a courageous life and owning it. Supporting family, friends, and those who may be confused, frightened, angry, or just in need of a listening ear. Kindness goes far and means the world to those in need. Share your wisdom, inner strength and fortitude with others. We have long been preparing for this, and the time has come.

Think of yourself as a Change Agent

Being here at a critical time in history is an extraordinary gift. We have work to do, so get your house in order my friends. It’s go time! Many of the changes I listed above we have control over, some we do not. Every personal choice we make affects the whole. It’s important to choose wisely if we hope to make a difference in our own lives, in our communities, and out into the world. We do ourselves a disservice thinking of ourselves as separate from others. What affects one, affects all.

Connect with people and mentors who strengthen your desire to make a difference. For example, my husband Cody and I place a high priority on where our food comes from and how it is grown. We research and connect with farmers of integrity, searching for the highest quality food and supplies. It’s taken me some time to find our sources, and the search continues. My monthly Living in Courage Newsletter, has a section on Health Hacks, where I share links to these fine sources, ensuring optimum health and well-being for you and your family. If you haven’t already, I invite you to sign up for my newsletter and share it with family and friends. This is one way I can be a change agent and support you. I express gratitude to all my subscribers and readers. Together – Strong and United. Divided we fall…

The Nature of Reality & Being Pushed to Your Limits

oWe Are Primal Beings

When pushed to our limits we react in a variety of ways. Fight back, flee, or freeze? After some ‘hopefully’ non-reactive thought, we choose how we will respond. Having been through a great deal in the last few years, choosing a personal path to follow has become the norm. As people reach their limits, many struggle to maintain balance—some find ways to grow and excel, while others face significant challenges. Throughout history we have witnessed the best and the worst in people.

The psychological chess game of life rules the world, and we are the pawns. Sheer perseverance has gotten people through much of the quagmire. As they say, “Whatever gets you through the night!” On the flip side, consider the rise in mental health issues – anxiety, depression, and burnout. As people reach their limits, many struggle to maintain balance—some manage to adapt and thrive, while others face significant challenges.

Crisis Can be a Catalyst for Transformation

A persons true nature shines through during a crisis, stripping the facade away. It’s when we become the ‘observer of self’ that things get interesting. We may see ourselves become stronger, finding inner courage we did not know we were capable of. Resorting back to old habits can wake us up to adopting healthier habits, or new ways of adapting to life. How wonderful to become kinder and more altruistic. Crisis brings change, any way you look at it. I like to think that societal pressures can push people to come up with creative ways to reshape the future.

Illusion of Control vs The Nature of Reality

Illusions often shatter. I, like many of you, am living in a chaotic, unpredictable world. The strong system I was taught to believe in has become very fragile. Over many years, I have become much more discerning, questioning everything. What is true, manufactured, or illusion? How do I find comfort when I am out in the world when it’s like observing an episode of the twilight zone? What do I believe about the outer world, and how do these beliefs affect my inner reality?

I ask myself about the nature of reality. We have immersive virtual reality worlds, gaming, social media, AI, and a digital world some think of as the nature of reality in their world. Are we living in a computer simulation? Many say we are. The nature of reality for my husband and myself, is living and communing with nature throughout the day. As the world spins out of control, we find peace in each other, at home, in nature, and in the sanctuaries we create. I remind myself that feeling at peace wherever I am is VIP. It’s not easy, but as the saying goes, “Wherever you go, there you are.”

Being Pushed to Your Limit

There is extreme polarization everywhere. In families, communities, social media, economics, politics, and in outer society worldwide. This definitely pushes people to the limit. A division that for many will never be healed. I find this “us vs them” mentality terribly sad.

Back to social media and the media for a hot minute. Our stress and anxiety levels rise when we are constantly exposed to negative aspects of reality. Living in a world of algorithms interferes in every aspect of our lives, leaving less time for real life. This can create judgement, fear, chaos and separation.

I agree—social media brings many positive aspects we all enjoy, from staying connected with loved ones to discovering new interests and communities. However, it’s important that our use of it doesn’t interfere negatively with our lives or distract us from what truly matters.

Hope is a Path Forward

I ask people, if we don’t have hope, what do we have? I love the word hope-ium. When things are challenging, hope keeps up moving forward. I want to trust that things can improve in the outer world, communities, institutions, and organizations people have believed in, and many have lost faith in. Who to trust and why?

Our future is fragile and needs to be resilient – for all of us. Grassroots movement and collective action is a start. Helping our neighbors out, supporting each other, not judging which ‘side’ we are on. In times of crises there is potential for positive change. This world can be better, we can be better.

What’s the Conclusion?

We all feel a sense of urgency at this moment in time. I like to think most people carry hope in their hearts. I believe we are more resilient and adaptable than we know. The nature of reality can feel fragile – yet, in this fragility there is potential for transformation, a clearer sense of purpose to navigate our lives, and the world we live in and share.

In the midst of a chaotic world, it is only by living fully in the present that our intuition sharpens, our decisions align with deeper truths, and we rediscover the transformative power of gratitude, anchoring us with a profound sense of mental well-being. We’ve got this!

Fearless by Design: Building a Life of Courage and Strategy

Courageous living in the modern world

I was thinking about the one thing that separates people in a significant way. I concluded it is – a difference of opinion. Think about anything that unsettles people. It’s a different opinion or point of view individuals are unwavering on. This includes relationships, work, politics, social media, money, health, or anything you can come up with. It wasn’t always as it is now. Social media has become a big distraction, and for many, an unhealthy obsession. Over the years I have loved social media for business, keeping up with family and friends, as well as new friends I’ve met around the world. Too often lately, I witness negativity and fear. Two things that do not feed our soul or bring us joy.

I find this sad and unsettling…

A difference of opinion and spirited debates are the age I grew up in. People would banter back and forth, enjoying the differing thoughts and ideas presented. Much like a chess game is played. Critical thinking, imagine that! CT people keep an open mind. Listening and learning from ‘the other side’ of the fence, so to speak, uniting people rather than dividing them. If you understand both sides (even if you do not or will never agree) you become well-informed and wiser for it.

Strategy is the world we live in now

I see strategy everywhere, in everything. It’s a game of chess, not even well played. Keeping people at each other’s throats tears unity apart. As a human race, we need to pull together, not apart. Think about trying to get a child to eat something they think they don’t like. The resistance is steadfast, yet it becomes their favorite food later in life. They may even say, “I never knew until now.”

I feel like I am living in a land of  ‘trigger, trigger, trigger,’ and I know for certain that to discourage critical thinking is not in anyone’s best interest. I for one, will not participate, nor will I fight it. Why? Some people are going to do what they are going to do. It is a waste of time and energy that I can spend on something productive that feeds my body, mind, and spirit. I choose to live my life by design, fearless and courageous.

Many have come to the conclusion to keep their outside voice quiet while their inner voice is yelling, “WTF!”  Others shout from the rooftops to anyone who will listen. I wonder, how do you feel? It’s an information war out there with lines drawn in the sand. As I have always said, “Do your homework” to ensure you know both sides of a situation before making a decision you may regret in the future. Have a blueprint of your own to guide you. It’s useless to fight against someone whose mind you cannot change. But, just like the child who will not eat his ‘peas’ – they may one day change their mind.

People are tired, confused, and in fear right now

Living in courage isn’t always easy, but it is a requirement if you wish to build a fearless life by design, (through these tumultuous times) in peace and calm. The reason I built this Living in Courage website was to assist others dealing with loss, grief and overwhelming challenges. My husband and I came out the other side of the loss (forever loving those we lost) we experienced in a short few years. We pulled together, filled with love, strength, courage, and peace. Soon after, I wrote my book, “Change Your Movie, Change Your Life: 7 Reel Concepts for Courageous Change.”

Keep in mind, courage is not about doing everything on your own. Seeking support and inspiration from those you trust can help you maintain higher levels of courage and resilience. Others my need your wisdom, no matter the situation or outcome they are experiencing. Be the calm in the storm, my friends. Strategic, fearless, adaptable, and courageous in the face of anything life throws at you. We are all in for a bumpy ride. If you happen to experience motion sickness, remember that it is only temporary and will pass!

The Shock of The New – How to Adapt to Unexpected Situations

Adaptability is a key component to mental and physical survival.

Life flows more effortlessly when we stay flexible, yet keenly aware. My question to you is, “How well do you think on your feet in entirely new situations?” Change is a natural part of life. When we do not accept  and adapt to change, life can become quite cagey – literally. The same old, same old, can hypnotize us into feeling safe.

Change is stressful for many, while others embrace change without a second thought. When new information comes your way, do you consider it, without automatically throwing it out of your mental field? You and I might learn something valuable if we stay curious and open-minded. I admire this quality in my husband Cody. He listens, investigates, delving deeply into past and present activity, to learn how things work on our little planet Earth. We have both found ourselves connecting with people who do the same.

The world we live in is changing.

Knowledge about our world and ourselves is changing and rapidly evolving, making adapting even more challenging. Our futures seem to be in the hands of a host of players. Their narratives are all over the place and changing daily. We are living in a confusing and arduous time, and trust is hard to come by. Our lives have been upended, demanding more of our attention and consideration.

For years (online and off) I have harped on the fact that we need to do our homework, by investigating and digging deep. Yes, this will take us down rabbit holes. The search for truth and integrity is a long road. I know…a daunting task to be sure, but what is the alternative? We (Yep, I’m going to ‘should’ on you) should not sit back and listen to those who are not truth tellers. Those leaders who have our highest and greatest good in mind, are the one’s to lend our ear to. The writings on the wall, it’s blatantly obvious, but many people can’t read…

How to adapt when you are in fear – uncertain of your life and future?

I cannot express how important it is to take care of ourselves when feeling anxious, stressed, fearful, disappointed, or overwhelmed. Change requires us to change. Think about how hard is it just to break a habit, but through the process, many positive shifts can occur. When things change quickly you need to operate like a jet ski, not an aircraft carrier. You have to be able to course correct on a dime. I think of this process as problem solving, like a puzzle to be worked out.

Emotional agility is the ability to let go of past narratives. Old self-identities that no longer serve us. Flexibility is a valuable tool, teaching us to bend, not break under the stress, and to assist us to become more resilient, less fearful. I like the idea of being able to bounce back courageously from challenges of any size and shape. Granted, we like our comfort zone and I agree, it’s lovely to roam around in that space. Yet, growth and expansion requires us to step outside the ‘comfort zone door’ for awhile, and explore what’s on the other side.

At some point we become wise enough to see the limiting walls we have built around ourselves. Taking action to release all that does not serve our life takes courage and inner strength. These walls of resistance are sometimes invisible, even to our own eyes. It’s easy to look at another persons life and see why things are not working out for them; yet, when we look at ourselves, we often miss what limits us.

– Debra Oakland

Tools for adaptation when our brains yells, “Danger, danger!”

* Re-wiring our brain for change is a daunting task. We love stability and want to know why change is happening, when it will occur, what it means for our lives, where we go from there, and if there are risks involved. The W’s come into question first, then the how. As we implement the how, we may worry what others may think, how these changes may affect certain people in our lives, and what will be the ultimate cost of these changes, even if they are of a positive nature.

* If you need support, ask for it. Talk to others who can offer support and positive encouragement. Preferably one or more people who understand the in’s and out’s of change and resiliency.

* Try not to resist things you are unable to change. Implementing change when and where you can gives a sense of inner power and achievement.

* Think about the many shifting times you went through in your life. Times that required courage and resiliency. Moving to another state, becoming a parent, losing a loved one, changing jobs, income shifts, digital and global shifts. How did you adapt? Use to your advantage those life lessons that powered you through shifting or uncertain times.

* Realize your ‘comfort zone’ can cause stagnation if you rest in it too long. Depending on the situation presented to you, ask yourself what you stand to gain by change, not what you stand to lose. Don’t Ass-ume  (you know the saying) the worst outcome.

* Change, especially if it is something we weren’t prepared for, requires a shift inside ourselves to go through the necessary stages to move forward, or embrace new beginnings. In other words harnessing the opportunity for growth.

* Our daily routines are a source of stability, so continue doing the activities that bring you comfort, peace and joy.

Living in courage is a journey, but one that can be well traveled…

Mavericks: Life’s Purpose with a Dash of Courage, Bravery, and Laughter

I recently heard someone say…

“If you have no purpose in life, what’s the sense of it all?” I mulled this over for awhile. My feeling is this, “What’s the sense of it all without love, courage, bravery, common sense, and laughter?” We come here to experience novelty. You can call it God, Soul, Billy Bob, or whatever lives and breathes in you. There is a deeper part of us, which I am very grateful for, that guides and directs us. This guidance is available if—and only if—we pay attention. My dad was a bit of a maverick in his own right. He used to say, “Common sense, it’s not so common.” I agree wholeheartedly.

I truly admire people who make a bold impact in the world

My admiration and respect for these people is given if the impact they make is ‘purposefully backed’ with integrity, truth, courage, and the intention to do no harm. No matter if the action is big or small, the outgoing and incoming stream of ripples affects everything. No two people are exactly alike. Each of us has a unique individuality. The more time you spend on this earth, you realize the world is like a movie. Only the actors and scenery change over generations, but the overall story remains the same. Nature just keeps doing its thing, perfectly in tune with Earth’s rhythms and cycles. Meanwhile, humans are frantically trying to manage everything, including nature herself—our greatest teacher. I can only imagine her rolling her eyes at our antics.

Novelty deep within us wants to experience itself in different ways

We search for love and laughter, longing to be brave – courageous. Simply by living on planet Earth, we experience much which requires us to live in courage, (the reason this website was created) and in many cases creates our purpose. I admire people who find their one true purpose in life. I have too many varied interests that have called to me over my life. People talk about living a purpose driven life. There are courses everywhere to help you figure out your ‘true’ purpose. I firmly believe that ‘purpose’ is a deeply personal and unique experience, residing within each of us. This purpose may express one way or 50 different ways. There is no singular right or wrong path. As humans, we like to think we know what is best for others, and may not approve of their choices. We really can be judgemental assholes sometimes.

Mavericks – we tend to put them on a pedestal

I know my inner Maverick is alive and well. I am sure yours is as well. In a world of uncertainty, much of it lacking integrity, decency and honor, we may need our inner Maverick to step ‘out’ to be brave and courageous. It’s just a seed I want to plant in your mind. I’ve written extensively over the years about challenging times to come. I believe we are here now. Over the years many people have told me one of their purposes in life is to be strong, brave, and courageous when times get rough and tough, and others cannot do it for themselves. Providing kindness, emotional support, encouragement, understanding and compassion to others, not a bad purpose, don’t you agree? A dash of courage, a BIG dose of laughter, and a hug. I call that a winning combination.

There is a Maverick living in each of you, so embrace it, and let it loose when the time is right…

10 Important Steps to Stay Calm in The Face of a Chaotic World

Whether you realize it or not

We are facing very uncertain times – worldwide. We live in a world of secrets that are unraveling across the globe. It’s scary, no matter how tough you think you are. Of course, there are wonderfully happy times in life, great people, laughter, love and peace. This article is about the tough times hitting people around the world. My wish is to encourage hope, courage, inner strength and resolve in all of us.

In today’s turbulent times, tension runs high

People clash over the smallest issues while others strive to remain calm amid the uncertainty. Political factions—right, left, and center—vie relentlessly for power, and their actions ripple through all our lives. Who can we trust? Who is deceiving us? Here’s my advice: don’t just listen to what people say. Watch their body language, scrutinize their actions, and most importantly, get busy and verify the facts for yourself. The answers are out there because many people took the time to document the truth.

Yes, it takes time and effort

To sift through the chaotic mess of the world, but if you don’t, you’ll be left in the dark. Sitting idle, hoping things will improve while ignoring the truth, won’t serve you, your family, your community, or your life. Take control—seek the truth, challenge falsehoods, and shine a light on the reality around you. Only then can we hope to build a better future for all.

With a better future in mind

How can we remain calm in the face of chaos and uncertainty?

Here are 10 powerful suggestions that I hope resonate deeply with you.

1. Limit Media Consumption: Constant exposure to news and social media can increase anxiety. Try to limit the time you spend on these platforms and be selective about the sources you follow. Also, who controls the media? Do some research.

2. Focus on What You Can Control: Instead of worrying about things beyond your control, focus on what you can do. Taking proactive steps in areas where you can make a difference can empower you. Encourage others to do the same.

3. Routine and Structure: Establishing a daily routine can provide a sense of normalcy and control amidst chaos. Having set times for activities like waking up, meals, family time, YOU time, work, and exercise can create stability. Break down tasks into manageable steps and prioritize them. Having a clear plan can reduce feelings of being overwhelmed.

4. Healthy Lifestyle: Eating well, getting enough sleep, cutting down on online activity, and using blue blocking glasses to protect your eyes and brain. If there is an excessive use of alcohol and caffeine, cutting down can help maintain emotional and physical balance. De-cluttering your physical space can clear mental clutter and bring a feeling of calm and peace.

5. Stay Connected: Maintain relationships with family and friends. Positive social support can provide comfort and perspective, helping you feel less isolated. Volunteering to help others provides a sense of purpose and can also shift your focus away from your own worries.

6. Exercise: Physical activity can reduce stress and improve mood. Even simple activities like walking, walking your pet, stretching, going to the gym, getting out in the sun, grounding yourself to the earth barefoot. Nature is healing. Do activities that make your body happy!

7. Engage in Creative Expression & Hobbies: Doing things you enjoy can be a great way to relieve stress and find joy, whether it’s reading, putting puzzles together, gardening, painting, music, dance, pet therapy, or any other activity that brings you pleasure. Learning a new skill engages the mind and gives you a sense of accomplishment.

8. Practice Gratitude: Taking time to acknowledge and appreciate the positive aspects of your life can shift your focus away from stress and negativity. Engage in mindfulness and meditation practices, journaling, visualization, or breathing practices that bring you calm and peace.

9. Set Boundaries: Learn to say no and set boundaries to protect your time and energy. Avoid over-committing yourself to activities that cause unnecessary stress. This is a big one for many people!

10. Professional Help: If anxiety or stress becomes overwhelming, seeking help from a mental health professional can provide strategies and support tailored to your needs.

Thank you for listening to my thoughts on staying calm in a chaotic world. We are not out of the weeds yet – by a long shot. In the weeks, months, and years to come, we will undoubtedly face new challenges and uncertainties. It’s important to remember that maintaining our composure and resilience is crucial. By continuing to support one another, practicing kindness, and adapting to changing circumstances, we can navigate through these turbulent times with strength and courage. Stay focused on what you can control, and find solace in small moments of peace and positivity. Together, we can overcome whatever lies ahead. I am grateful for you.

“Somewhere in the fear and chaos, there is a clarity that few will ever experience.” – Travis Pastrana

The Courage to Change Your Mind

What do we do when we outgrow our views, opinions, conditioning, and stubborn unwillingness to change?

This conundrum compels us to reevaluate the life we thought we knew. Many people discover that much of what they grew up believing is false. Look at the world around us; you will see this truth in action. Internal consistency is deeply rooted in humans because it makes us feel safe.

Much like a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly

Priorities naturally shift over time. If we make a full stop and choose life-altering change, it’s like meeting ourselves anew. Embracing or accepting change can be difficult and frightening for some, like giving something up – a feeling of loss. Inner strength and courage are required. On the other hand, some embrace change with open arms. The reasons for these different reactions are varied. Consider this: Change necessitates giving something up to allow something new to emerge. Caterpillar to a Butterfly. As our world expands, new horizons intrigue and call our name.

Imagine your life as a book or a movie

You start at the beginning with a rough draft full of potential and unknown paths. There are many revisions along the way. Trust me, when writing my book, “Change Your Movie, Change Your Life,” I ventured into rabbit holes I could never have imagined. As you write your story, revisions shape your journey in unexpected ways. Like a writer, you constantly revise, shift the narrative, and edit. Life, much like a movie, is an ongoing process of editing. Letting go of what no longer serves the movie of your life and welcoming new people and experiences. Consider your characters: are they always the same at the end as they were at the beginning? Not likely. Embrace the evolution. Change your movie, and you change your life.

What we want and desire changes as we continue to grow

Change can be as simple as moving on to a new interest or phase in life. But the real challenge lies in the question, “Are you courageous enough to change your mind when you find evidence that something you honestly believed to be true is false?” This disorienting experience, where you prepare for a shift in perspective, is a testament to your strength and self-awareness. In the face of truth, you may feel you can’t continue as you were and are ready to change your future. I can’t tell you what that falsity or untruth is. But you know it’s time for change when you are presented with evidence supporting your suspicions. Remember, there is no judgment except the judgment we impose upon ourselves. We all have blind spots in our lives. Embrace them, for they are the tools that empower us to become better versions of ourselves.

Focus on the growth process rather than the end resultMeaningful change requires courage.Be patient with yourself throughout the process, as it’s natural to feel a range of emotions.If there is new information to process, take your time.Understanding the reasons behind false beliefs or lies can help you process change more effectively. Consider how this new information affects your life and your future decision-making.Letting go is not always easy, so take it easy on yourself.If the false belief has affected others, be honest about the discovery and its implications.As many grandmas used to say, “Some people couldn’t find their way out of a paper bag.” Not everyone has eyes to see and ears to hear.Live your truth and lead by example. You will make a difference in people’s lives.A great thought to keep in mind is that being wrong is a part of the human experience—an opportunity for learning and growth, especially when approached with courage, curiosity, open-mindedness, and resilience.Onward we march, moving forward. We’ve got this!

When Life Backs You Into a Corner

If you are on this planet with the rest of us

There are moments when it feels like life has backed us into a corner. We face hardships, and yes, sometimes life honestly sucks. But just as rain clouds pass, so too do our trials. The sun emerges, shining it’s brilliance on us. A reminder of our resilience, the ability to direct our own path. I understand; gratitude, happiness, and peace can seem elusive when life disappoints. Yet, within us lies an innate capacity to bounce back, even when it feels impossible. Embrace this resilience, for it is our beacon of hope in the darkest of times.

“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
Harriet Beecher Stowe

In the game of life

We often find ourselves at a crossroads, faced with a critical choice: will we emerge as victors, or succumb to the role of victim? Imagine life as a giant pinball machine, with obstacles and challenges at every turn. The pinball, aimlessly ricocheting off barriers, represents those who relinquish control, allowing circumstances to dictate their trajectory. They bounce from one setback to another, feeling powerless and defeated.

But then there’s the paddle—the embodiment of empowerment and direction. The paddle doesn’t merely react to the chaos; it navigates it with purpose and determination. It steers the course, deftly guiding the ball through the maze of challenges. This is where our power lies—in our ability to choose our response to adversity.

Consider the moments

When life throws its toughest curve-balls—loss, rejection, failure. It’s easy to feel like the pinball, tossed around by the whims of fate. But therein lies the test of our resilience and courage. Will we surrender to the chaos, or will we seize control, channeling our inner paddle to navigate through the storm?

Choosing to be the paddle isn’t about denying the existence of challenges; it’s about embracing them as opportunities for growth and transformation. It’s about reclaiming our power in the face of adversity, refusing to be defined by our circumstances.

So, I urge you to reflect…

In the game of life, will you be the pinball or the paddle? Will you surrender to circumstances, or will you rise above, steering your destiny with unwavering courageous resolve? The choice is yours, and it holds the key to unlocking your true ability to direct your own path.

Batman Quotes“It’s not who I am underneath, but what I do that defines me.”“The training is nothing! The will is everything! The will to act.”“I wear a mask. And that mask, it’s not to hide who I am, but to create what I am.”“The night is darkest just before the dawn. And I promise you, the dawn is coming.”“I have one power. I never give up.”

The Extraordinary Power of Nature vs Technology

Wow, have we humans gotten off track

We have been directed and maneuvered into a life that resembles a sci-fi movie. Leaving behind that which soothes, rejuvenates, and heals the savage soul. Oh, that would be nature, if you are wondering.

If you don’t believe me, take a deep look around with OPEN eyes. Technology is usually somewhere on or near everyone’s body. The energy emanating from these devices affects everyone and everything. You see people rushing around, faces buried in their smart devices, or taking selfies. When attention is distracted, unfortunately eye contact and smiles (human contact) are few and far between, especially with the young crowd. Cities are a constant source of distraction and easy targets are everywhere. Most big cities are some distance away from the gifts nature has to offer.

Too many parents allow smart devices to be used as a babysitter

Do you think these parents understand they are continuing to give their children the dopamine hit they learn to crave at a very young age? It’s hard to believe most parents are unaware of this simple fact—just one of many dangers, especially for young developing brains and bodies. Have you ever tried to take one of these devices away from a child? They lose their shit and fast. Teenagers do the same thing. Parents punish their kids for wrongdoing by taking away their devices – Why? Because children and young adults crave what they want most. To take away something they love or are addicted to is a form of punishment – in the hope of ‘teaching’ them to behave. Get your gets out into nature and you will find, they will immerse themselves in it.

Parents should educate themselves

There are dangers in technology devices. Parents can learn how to mitigate the damage. They should follow up by teaching their children to be curious and ask questions, especially regarding their health and well-being. The lesson would go much further than using it as a ‘time out’ because the child did something the parent told them not to do. Unfortunately, Communication and critical thinking are slipping away in a changing world that is moving too fast to keep up with. Yes, I understand this is a different age; the new era of technology is expanding quickly and will continue to do so, but take the appropriate precautions for yourself and your family. The health implications are far too long to list here.

Steve Jobs died at 56 of a rare form of pancreatic cancer, and also had a liver transplant along the way. Jobs limited his kid’s use of his company’s most remarkable products – the iPhone and the iPad. So the next time an advertisement, your child, grandchild, or family tries to convince you that life is lacking without their latest little device, remember that the man who started it all believed somewhat differently. Steve Jobs said he and his wife didn’t let the kids use iPads; he said, “Actually, we don’t allow the iPad in the home. We think it’s too dangerous for them in effect.” 

I find this telling: Two of the most prominent tech figures in history, Bill Gates (who did not give his kids cell phones until they were 14) and Steve Jobs, seldom let their kids play with the very products they helped create. What did they know about their products that their consumers don’t? They knew what they had created. That should make you think.

Researchers at the University of California Los Angeles published a study

This study demonstrated that children’s social skills improved immediately just a few days after abstaining from using electronic gadgets. Children are being quickly dumbed down. Depression for kids is on the rise. I wish we had more low-tech schools for children. I occasionally enjoy AI; it has many uses (some good – some bad), but it is another way to dumb us down. There is no need to use critical thinking if AI is thinking and doing the work for you. Nature does not dumb us down. Nature teaches us the importance of living and loving life. We all need to spend more time in her embrace, marveling at her magnificent, abundant nature and the lessons she provides free of charge.

Many children are growing up without the joy and memories of what we elders call ‘back in the day’ activities

I remember mom used to call us in for dinner, and boy, did we resist leaving our outdoor activities. Riding our bikes, playing baseball and games, building forts, climbing trees, or anything we could do outside in nature to stir our imagination and creativity. Many kids are into indoor activity on cell phones, iPads, computers, or gaming in our modern world. Under blue light, that affects every aspect of their physiology, causing untold damage to their cellular growth, hormones, and the development of crucial brain activity. It’s the same for adults. Damage is damage.

One significant protection tip from me to you: Blue-blocking glasses make a huge difference. Make sure the blue blocking material goes all the way through the glass – NOT a coating. Mine are clear and cost more than the cheap coated ones. Wear them when on any device and under any non-native EMF, which = indoor lighting. It’s a wise investment to make in yourself and your family.

Please take the time to find out about the devices you use and the energy around them

You can take many preventative measures to protect yourself, your family, and your home. More research comes out daily about the adverse effects of technology on our body, mind, and spirit. Most people will not take the time to learn about this, but having the courage to speak up, as many people are doing, can make for a brighter future for everyone.

Technology is here to stay; use it responsibly

We can’t live without it, but we can learn to protect ourselves as best we can. Disease is on the rise, and people are dying faster than we have ever seen. Hospitals are expanding in every country to handle the influx of patients. Money, money, mo money! There are reasons all of this is happening, and if you want answers, do your homework. Be the CEO of YOU. I don’t know about you, but I have a low tolerance for being lied to, particularly by people I had trusted and put my faith in—just my way of thinking. Thanks for listening.

Evolving Your Future Self: Severing Ties

What? Sever ties you say!

You may ask, “Why consider the dramatic move of severing ties?” However, ponder this: holding onto outdated thoughts and actions is akin to clinging to a flip phone in the age of smartphones. Sure, we’re all aware of the potential drawbacks of the latest and greatest, but you get my drift. Flip phones don’t serve a purpose for most of us in this modern world. At times, I catch myself clinging to outdated thoughts and habits, my own mental equivalent of that flip phone. I must admit, on rare occasions I think about my old flip phone – there was a simplicity to it, and there was a great deal of satisfaction in flipping it shut!

Smartphones aside

Consider that clinging to old thoughts and actions can lead to thinking and behaving in ways that no longer benefit us, or anyone else for that matter. It’s like trying to navigate a bustling city with a paper map – charmingly nostalgic, but not the most practical approach in our contemporary world. It’s a personal challenge for anyone to evaluate and let go of those mental relics. Severing ties with outdated thoughts and actions – opens doors. Make space for growth, embrace clarity of purpose, and a mindset that aligns with you – whatever that may be, in this present moment and into the future.

 Ground hog day or school of life?

Learning to let go, much equivalent to pitching out my old flip phone. I find myself happily deep in investigation mode, delving into topics that were foreign to me. At times I feel like a child re-learning how to walk. Life is schooling me in ways I couldn’t have imagined. I’m done clutching onto outdated thoughts and actions that no longer support my life. I know I was holding onto mental habits and people, just for the sake of what’s familiar, even if they no longer served my personal efficiency or effectiveness. I think of this time as a mental upgrade. Persisting with thoughts and actions that may have once had a purpose, now feel like weights holding me back.

Have a thinkWhat ways of thinking, being, acting and doing no longer supports your life? Habits die hard. Many of you are familiar with these words…HabitI am here alwaysI can make or break youI can motivate you to greatness or stifle your growthI am difficult to create and even harder to breakI work on impulse and have little directionI have a good memory and am repeatableI am the most valued asset of the professionalI am the greatest burden of the weakUse me as a weapon against mediocrityUse me as your map on the road to excellenceWith me, you will own the competitionI am PRECISEWhat am I?A Habit