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Frozen Love: Are You An Anna or an Elsa?

Who doesn’t love the film Frozen? It doesn’t matter if you’re six or sixty – people warm to this story about two estranged sisters as well as its hit song ‘Let it Go’. But Frozen has a lot of teach us on a soul level about relationships as Anna and Elsa both represent common traps we can all fall into that instead of getting us the love we want, end up driving people away or leaving us abandoned and defensive instead.

Anna and Elsa represent two different ‘attachment’ styles. This is the term psychologists use to describe how we perceive our relationships (most often the romantic ones!), of meeting our needs. When we have negative expectations around relationships we can evolve what is known as an ‘anxious’ attachment style. If we have this we have a deep fear of abandonment and rejection – yet our insecurities can lead to us driving people away. So this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. At the heart of this we are usually lonely and feel we do not deserve to be loved. In Frozen Anna is ‘anxiously’ attached. Her parents death and her sister’s abandonment has left her alone and desperate to be loved.

So desperate in fact that she agrees to marry a man immediately upon meeting him without bothering to find out anything about him. In her relationships with Elsa – when Elsa distances herself, Anna continues to pursue her – driving Elsa further away.  If we have this kind of attachment issue we can engage in this sort of behaviour with anyone close to us – a sibling, a friend but most especially, a lover.

Have you ever felt someone withdraw and so have ‘turned up the heat’ in contacting or pursuing them? People with anxious attachment issues can often behave this way because they feel that the person they are attached to is their sole source of love and reassurance. Do you see an Anna anywhere in your relationship history?

Elsa however has what is known as an ‘avoidant’ attachment style. As a child she was told she most ‘conceal, don’t feel’ her magical gifts. This meant she grew up thinking herself unlovable and unacceptable the way she was. Because she has hurt her sister, she pulls away and becomes fearful of emotional closeness. Avoidant attachment sufferers can become very independent, do not want to rely on others and shun demonstrations of affection whether physical or verbal. They can find it very difficult to share their feelings – in fact their feelings may frighten them so they can appear cold.

They can also become extremely defensive even when there is no need to be. We see this in Elsa when she lashes out at Anna when she confronts her about her lack of feeling – despite the fact that she clearly has very deep feelings. Even when Anna offers to help her, Elsa insists she wants to remain alone. People with this kind of attachment issue find it very difficult to ask for the help they desperately need. Another example of this kind of avoidant attachment style is the Sandra Bullock character in the film 28 Days. Sandra Bullock plays an alcoholic who must either choose between jail time or rehab. During her rehab it emerges she cannot ask for help – not even from her sister. This film also plays on the same dynamic as Frozen.

If any of this rings a bell and you identify with either Anna or Elsa, what’s your best way to thaw out your love future – or any relationship for that matter? Very often just like in Frozen, if we are an anxious attachment person we end up attracting an avoidant attachment partner in an effort probably on the part of both, to resolve the issue within the relationship. Anna and Elsa ‘unfroze’ their relationship when they started to empathise with each other and share their feelings. Understanding why you and the other party behaves the way they do, and getting past the fear of communicating about it, is your first step.

If you are not currently in a relationship but have realised that you may fit into the Anna or the Elsa mould, take heart! If you’re an Anna work on feeling secure in yourself and knowing you do not need anyone to ‘complete’ you. Look at all the connections that you already have that love and support you – family and friends, colleagues. You are surrounded by all the love you need. A partner can only add to this love – they cannot take it away. You have managed fine without them and should the relationship not work out, you will be fine again. Above all, take your time getting to know a prospective partner. You already have all the love in the world – so you have all the time in the world to make your mind up about love.

If you identify with Elsa know you are loveable just as you are. You do not need to pretend to be anyone else or hide any aspects of your personality which you believe are unlovable. Do you want a relationship based on honesty or one based on you pretending to be something you are not? You know the answer to that! If someone cannot accept you for all the magical things you are, then this is not real love. Learn to love all those bits of you that have been suppressed or denied or you feel are unacceptable to others, because just like Elsa – this is where your power is!

Once you integrate these something magical happens – all your barriers come down because you now love yourself unconditionally. It is only when we can do this that we can open up to love and also not fear rejection. Our self-love is not dependent on anyone’s validation. We know we are loveable. If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love somebody else. Work on that love and the other kind will follow and please, if you’re stuck – ask for help even if that means talking to a professional about this. People love helping other people as it’s a way of showing love. Think about that.

There are loads of articles here on MK for you about self-love and how to connect to that deep well of it inside which enables you to manifest what you need in the outer world. So, whether you are an Anna or an Elsa – get ready for the love thaw!

end on a high! your powerful end of year horoscope

Aries 

At the end of the year you tend to come into your own and are determined to see any projects that are still hanging around through to the end Other signs may feel a bit exhausted by the year but you are gathering a last blast of pizzazz and optimism. The only down side is you can be a little unpredictable and even more spontaneous than usual! Expect an unusual love interest and your love life being reignited. Neptune is going direct on the 19th November and you feel as if you have surfaced from a very peculiar dream. No longer haunted by the past you are free to move on!

Uranus who has certainly made your life interesting over the past couple of years, is also moving direct so instead of wading through chaos from the past, you have genius ideas and opportunity. An intense Pentagram has the (some might say) dodgy but certainly feisty Goddess Eris in your sign, you will not handle rejection well but make sure you aren’t being paranoid. In fact this Pentagram can free you of many insecurities if you let it. There are restrictions to surmount sure, thanks to Saturn in your expansion zone but the upside of this is that once surmounted by refusing to see these as nothing more than learning opportunities, success awaits on the other side! The Full Moon on Xmas day is in your family sector so fingers crossed you could have a cosy, close and warm day.

Taurus 

The end of this year is a time to step into your significant power. If you have misplaced your mojo, lost your confidence or experienced  heartache  you are analysing it like crazy but also laying foundations to move on. Not only is there a depth of wisdom pouring to the surface but also a growing fluttering in your heart as you sense something is shifting in your love life. A secret talk with a deep soul has you a little confused but also intrigued. New cooperative ventures are highlighted on the work front and if you are seeking to change your job, you will find yourself in good company quite literally. This also applies to those taking a temporary job for the festive season – you may discover it may lead to something less temporary as you slide like a square peg into the correct shaped hole. Your ruler Venus is giving you a loving December and you are feeling strong and yet open. There are adventures and mysterious soul connections as well as confessions but all are designed to bring you closer together.. A Pentagram on the 24th December brings it all together and you may touch the very core of someone. Real authentic relationships are lit up. The Full Moon on Xmas day makes you intensely grateful for what you have. Give the gift of your heart, it will be reciprocated.

Gemini 

The end of the year is your very own Full Moon (on the 25th November). This is your time to come into your psychic, emotional and soul power. You are gathering your dreams and preparing for the next step of the journey. Relationship dynamics are shifting and you should be considering a commitment of some kind, a commitment which could be around for a long time. Make sure you commit to yourself! Remember, all our outer relationships reflect our inner foundations of love and with Saturn now in your 7th, this is what you are being asked to establish. ‘As within, so without’. Neptune now direct in your long term career sector should lend inspiration and also clarity of path and purpose when it comes to your career, so please don’t be diverted. A mysterious and deeply resonant Pentagram on the 24th December has your name at its emotional heart. The Moon is making you emotional and keen to speak your authentic truth. You are about to talk about the past in a truly honest way. The Full Moon on Xmas day is giving you strength, emotional support and grounding as you embrace the day. You’re being asked to look closely at what you share – and what is shared with you. Remember this can be intangible things as well as those gifts under that tree!

Cancer

You’re heading for a huge blast of fun in November just before you head into a time of deep reflection and contemplation. Joyful times, connection with family and then a chance to really balance your life and take care of yourself. Funnily enough you are taking care of yourself so that very soon you can have even more fun, soul connections, romance and a deeper sort of intimacy. The Full Moon in November has you drawn to examining the meaning of your life so far. If that wasn’t enough December brings you more possible treats a powerful Pentagram on the 24th December  which could see a relationship sorted out once and for all. Emotions (probably good ones) come to the surface and someone tells you how they really feel. What you have achieved, what you have learned and seen of the world is also at the forefront of your mind now Neptune has gone direct again in your 9th. You may be planning something big for 2016 – that trip you’ve always wanted to take or that course of study – or maybe that big business idea you’ve yet to launch? Prepare as the year winds down for expansion experiences in the new one. If you’re in the right job you’ll know it but if you are in the wrong one nothing is going to keep you there in 2016. The big news is the Full Moon in your sign on Christmas day. If you have close family you should have one of the best Christmases ever but even if you are on your own you have the chance to nurture and heal yourself. Make sure you spoil yourself as well as everyone else!

Leo 

You may have been led astray by old passions and strange desires of late, but fortunately things change mid November and you can sniff out an illusion from 100 yards away – and the fakes be they people of that handbag! If anyone has been trying to pull the wool over your eyes you catch them out and detach. You are feeling your strength rising. Happiness, play, joy are the key words for the end of the year as the talk turns to love and flirtation and it could just turn serious. There’s every chance you encounter love while enjoying all the fun of the part season and perhaps it is someone radically different in some way who catches your eye. Finally you are rediscovering your freedom and that includes the freedom to be who you are without taking yourself too seriously. An intense Pentagram on the 24th December has all sorts of opportunities coming your way, the choice is yours, but make sure it is a choice that your soul sings to you. If it doesn’t ignite passion and fill you with excitement it’s not the right choice! The Full Moon on Christmas Day feels nostalgic and other worldly as you slip into memories of Christmas past. Remember, it is in your power to not only recreate the magic you recall – but make it better for yourself in doing so. No matter what Christmas held for you in the past – it’s never too late to have a happy one!

Virgo

You may have been idealising an ex lover and jeopardising a current or future love. The rose tinted Raybans are falling off and you have a chance to lay solid foundations. Some things need to be said and you are ready to say them. Relationships get more solid, honest and realistic and therefore have every chance of going the distance – which you are prepared to do now. Your home life and where you live features and you may be thinking of making changes to your environment or even moving and a bigger and better residence may be part of the continuation of the incredible cycle of expansion and opportunity you’ve been experiencing since September and which will continue on into 2016. This is no time to limit your thinking about what you can achieve and no matter what successes you may have already enjoyed, don’t stop the flow just by telling yourself that must be it! An incredible Pentagram has your name written on it on 24th December. Jupiter the Planet of good fortune is caught up in it all and could possibly bring you an answer to surmounting your most sticky blocks or problems which could now be revealed for what they are – minor speed bumps in your path and learning curves at that.. The Xmas Full Moon may make you feel overwhelmed with emotion and insight, especially into other peoples’ motives. You step into another’s shoes – with amazing results in one-to-one connecting.

Libra 

Dance into a new cycle of security and forging new pathways to happiness. Venus your ruler and Mars are finally sorting out your love life as they enter and then join forces in your sign. You should feel confident and radiant, the mojo is glowing like a prehistoric firefly and attracting like a powerful magnet. Has your image become a little lacklustre of late? When it comes to your seasonal generosity and your love of giving people gifts that you’d adore to receive yourself- take a page out of your own book and treat yourself to something that ups your appearance in some way. Be your own Santa now. That structured red velvet dress could be just the thing to send seasonal temperatures soaring. Mercury is ensuring that people are listening to you and you can really build on some of your ideas. A powerful Pentagram on the 24th is showing you your soul contracts, especially with lovers or ex lovers. You cannot ignore the truth of your heart. The Full Moon on Christmas day has you planning your future when it comes to setting your intentions for professional achievements next year. Don’t sell yourself short – or think that goal is beyond you. Contracts can be cemented now – and that may just be the contract you have with yourself.

Scorpio

Your New Moon on the 11th November marks the start of the New Year for you, Scorpio – just a little bit earlier than the other signs! Time to set those emotional goals (and practical ones) as its time to adjust your image and ensure it reflects those fresh thoughts you’re thinking. Hopefully, this is accompanied by a massive sense of relief as you let go of al the rubble of the past 12 months and walk into your very own New Year with your head held high and several soul pounds lighter! This frees you to concentrate on the things that really matter. Your ready for some fun and you are approaching a time where you will dig some very stable foundations, but only after a couple of interesting opportunities and possible adventures. However, don’t allow you desire for fun and seasonal romance blind you to reality. You are usually one of the most perceptive signs – especially when it comes to knowing if someone is on the level or not. All that glitters may be nothing more than a Christmas tree bauble now so ensure that you only give your heart to someone who is solid gold. Venus in her ruling house in your chart this December wants to ring in love and other soul-boosting gifts for you. Extra cash could just be one of these but don’t blow it all on the pursuit of pleasure – and ensure others deserve your generosity. A powerful Pentagram on the 24th gives you the opportunity to be truly honest with your soul and leap into who or what you love. The Christmas Day Full Moon is making you unusually blunt and direct, especially emotionally. Is it because you are feeling left out in some way? Why not just say that? Funny how people who ask what they want usually get it – so don’t be afraid to ask for emotional gifts and support from others.

Sagittarius 

With the Sun, Mercury and Saturn all conjunct in your sign on the 23rd you have the chance to steer yourself on to a solid path of your choosing. There is something mysterious stirring in you, a desire for stability and commitment. You have regained your voice and will draw to you people who are keen to listen. The November Full Moon brings about unique intuition about your love life and an answer rises to the surface. This is all about knowing yourself – and once you know that, you can fully know another too. December and your birthday season sees relationships beautifully highlighted and fingers crossed you could be on an emotional high with opportunities for joy, connection and renewed love. Venus enters your sign on the 30th just in time to lead you into 2016 surrounded by love opportunities and more. You want to create and connect and in fact, connections will prove to be your best asset in the coming year whether they are romantic ones or other kinds. By now you should have realised that your work ambitions will not be realised overnight but that’s fine now. You’re willing to do whatever it takes – and if that includes maintaining a long distance view so be it. You’re living a large soul journey in 2016 – and it’s by no means over yet!

Capricorn 

Funnily enough the end of this year is making you soft, open and desiring something ’other’ – something intense, mysterious and deeply soul connecting. Keep your feet on the ground however as you may be lured towards something or someone who is not what or who they first appear to be which will result in self-doubts – and nobody needs those! Trust your heart and your spirit but analyse it as you would anything practical – that way you can’t go wrong.  If you ignore your own intuition you could end up in an addictive or destructive relationship or a situation that tramples on your boundaries. Stay away from anyone with addictions of any kind, substance abuse problems or who may be mentally unstable or you will get drawn into their drama. By the time the Sun moves into your sign however, you will see things clearly again. You end the year pushing forward with those career ambitions and possibly gaining supporters as you do so. You can balance furthering your own goals and keeping others on-side as you project leadership qualities in the workplace. Take action and take more responsibility if offered. Above all however, guard your image and reputation especially during the party season or you could undo all your amazing progress and be left red-faced as well. An intense Pentagram on 24th December could bring about a family reconciliation and a magical time in your home. The Full Moon on Christmas is brilliant for emotional connections and relationships so open up and show everyone what a big softie you are and melt some hearts at the same time.

Aquarius 

Before the year ends you’re keen to get connected and spread your ideas. Look out for powerful collaborations and if you’re single someone meaningful might spring up when you are out with a group of people. Socialise, expand your ideas and allow yourself to join forces with others. Big ambitions are stirring inside of you and 2016 may show you that when it comes to achieving them it’s not just what you know but who. Uranus, your ruler goes direct on the 26th December just in time for you to celebrate getting your confidence back when it comes to making the right decisions. News could set you off on a fresh course for 2016 – but this may require you to opt for a different choice than normal.  A unique Pentagram on the 24th gives you wonderful insight into your career and financial situations, providing you with breakthrough insights if you listen to your intuition. The Full Moon on Christmas day sees you wanting to draw loved ones, family and friends close. You’ll be reflecting on your values, on what is really important to you and above all, what you need to sustain this feeling of belonging (or else to create one) for 2016. Remember, if we are not born into our soul family, we can create that for ourselves – they are called friends. That’s why the end of the year is so connected-focussed for you. This Christmas – don’t wish for more ‘things’ – wish for the present of the presence of like-minded souls. That’s your secret to success.

Pisces 

Most of you will have heaved a sigh of relief as ruler Neptune finally heads direct in your sign on 19th November. Or is there still a mystery hanging around wanting to be solved? You should feel much more yourself and while life had been a bit of a magical mystery tour of late, you should at the very least have emerged from this period with greater insight into your own needs and motivations – if not into others. Perhaps people have been behaving strangely or not sticking to their commitments? Or has it seemed as if even loved ones were deliberately misunderstanding you? Don’t blame them, blame Neptune who was trying to get you to focus on the past and healing old soul wounds. Hopefully healing within results in clarity without – especially when it comes to connections. You don’t just know what you want from others now, you know what you want from life and from your career. Those who have underestimated you in the past may be left reeling in your wake as you demonstrate a new professionalism and determination would could set you on course for a big career achievement in 2016. Partnerships continue to be highlighted with a bigger love – or bigger collaboration with someone highlighted. A powerful Pentagram on the 24th December and a radiant Full Moon on Christmas day catapults you to the next important phase of this journey. Expect a huge revelation of the heart.

Your weekly astrology video 26th October 2015

Halloween Special

I love Halloween and how it’s become so popular over the years. We tend to make it a big deal at our house by having a big party, but this also includes honouring and connecting with loved ones that have passed on. In the ancient Celtic calendar, October 31st marked the division of the year and end of the season of light and the start of winter and is also known as Samhain. It’s the night the barrier between our world and the spirit world is at its thinnest. So, Halloween or All Hallow’s Eve, is the perfect time to deepen your medium skills if you have them.

On the actual day of Samhain/Halloween I put out the photos of my loved ones, my mother, my best friend Caroline and anyone I want to call close. We prepare a special meal and set the table with a table cloth, candles and flowers and lay places at the table for those who have gone before – including an egg cup sized crystal glass of wine or spirits depending on what they preferred. We also try to play some of their favourite music and we celebrate our connections by reliving their memory. It is a deeply important ritual for me and I do believe the spirits of our departed loved ones pop in and visit us at this time. Trick or treating comes from the tradition of leaving food out for hungry ghosts who were thought to roam on this night – and also for sharing it with the poor, so I see this new tradition as a natural progression of the old.

Originally to avoid being visited by evil spirits, people wore masks and costumes – and this is where our modern tradition of Halloween costumes began. I love this modern take and you can often seen me running around dressed as a vampire or zombie – usually the weekend after Halloween, when friends come over and we scare ourselves silly and decorate the whole house like a haunted castle.

With the advent of Christianity, Halloween like many pagan traditions, was incorporated into the Christian calendar and became All Saints on November 1 and All Souls on November 2 and in Latin America the Day of the Dead.

Irish immigrants in America first started using pumpkin lanterns at Halloween to ward of wandering ghosts and a spirit known as ‘Stingy Jack’ – hence the term ‘Jack O’ Lantern’ although in Ireland pumpkins did not exist and the original Jack lanterns were made from potatoes, turnips and beats. Orange and black are the traditional colours of Halloween because orange represents the colour of the harvest and black the winter nights

As an astrologer, I have to point out that the original and ‘Old Halloween’ in the Wiccan calendar is actually the day when the Sun is at 15 degrees of Scorpio and the one celebrated by serious practitioners. Whether you favour October 31st and the Celtic calendar or ‘Old Halloween’ – any visualisation or psychic ritual performed on these dates always seems to have that little extra bit of power or magic about it and the spirit of departed friends and ancestors may be present.

If you want to conduct your own ritual, perhaps in order to answer a question about what is coming up for you in the coming year – which is particularly suited to Halloween, then ensure that you won’t be disturbed by trick or treaters! The best time to do this is late on the 31st or on the astrological Halloween. You might want to incorporate orange, black or autumn colours into your ritual. Candles are a must although carving a pumpkin is optional. If you are especially curious you can also use a mirror for this meditation. Set the candles to one side of the mirror and place it so you can look into it. Turn off all other lights aside from the candles.

Set up a sacred space and decorate it with leaves, flowers, fruit, candles and a mirror if you want. Light your candles. You can close your eyes and visualise a door or a barrier between you and the spirit world. Imagine that door opening or the barrier dissolving. Now, you can either say out loud or to yourself ‘The doors between this world and the next are now open. I now invite in wisdom and understanding and anyone who has crossed over with a message for me’. If you have a specific question you can start this or merely say ‘I am now open to any thing I need to know to facilitate my soul’s journey and growth’.

You may get the feeling you are no longer alone or you may just get intuitive insights into your question. If you are brave you can open your eyes and look in the mirror. Some people report seeing a faint presence reflected in the mirror while others see reflections of people or events that have yet to appear. Essentially this is scrying and it works a bit like a crystal ball.

When you are ready you can end the ritual simply by thanking the universe/ spirit for any insights you have received and blow out the candles and ponder the mysteries of this wonderful pagan holiday that has been totally embraced by the mainstream!

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Your Weekly Astro Tarot Forecast October 26

Aries:  Page of Swords. Initiate those ideas which restore balance in your relationship. Others could see a child or young person who embodies the qualities of your opposite sign of Libra deliver an important message about relating. It’s time no matter what to let those ideas and feelings take flight.

Taurus: 10 of Wands. A project nears completion but are you shouldering too much of the responsibility? On a more personal note, it may be time to let go and allow others to assume their fair share. They may not do it the same as you, but hat’s not the point. Let go and let them learn.

Gemini: Knight of Cups. A serious offer could be made this week – either for your heart or your skills. If romance appears then act with integrity as the other party is wearing their heart on their sleeve. That job prospect? Take that seriously too even if it looks different to what you expected. Opportunity comes in many guises.

Cancer: Queen of Cups. You could be in need of some nurturing yourself while being called upon to offer the same to others. Your intuition softly peaks giving you insights into your own feelings as well as others. Don’t become a martyr however. Let others know yes, you are a font of support – and you need the same in return.

Leo: Six of Cups. Memories or something from the past returns with fresh relevance. If you’ve been feeling that life is all work and no play, a situation arises to reconnect to joy and the child within.  Don’t opt for a lover who always want to be the grown-up. You need that blend of responsibility and playfulness that’s been lacking.

Virgo: Knight of Swords. Take the initiative this week as fortune favours the bold, the brave and those prepared to act on their ideas. You’ve the mental agility and cut-through now to go straight to the heart of the matter – especially if it’s around a work project. Vulcan? Your logic can show Spock a thing or two. Follow the facts.

Libra: Four of Cups: I call this the ‘Meh!’ card. Things are sort-of-okay but somehow fall short of expectations or of making your heart beat faster. Look within now as it’s not so much about external events or people but what you are prepared to settle for. And ‘settling’ for something just isn’t your style.

Scorpio: Strength.  Become a whisperer this week especially when dealing with difficult people or those who either won’t take ‘No’ for an answer or continually breach your boundaries. There is no use losing your temper as this will just feed them. Maintaining a cool demeanour and refusing to react the way they expect gets results.

Sagittarius: Page of Pentacles. A business or money making venture beings to show promise although financial rewards may trickle in to begin with. Others could see a new job offer or source of income appear in time for the holiday season paving the way to paying your way out of debt.

Capricorn: Seven of Cups:  All the sevens are highly esoteric cards as they contain potential but with choices attached and there is the risk of making the wrong one. You could be faced with such a multiple choice situation this week. The one which calls to your heart the strongest, is the correct choice now.

Aquarius: Six of Pentacles. Others could be about to benefit from the extra cash that is headed your way. You can afford to be generous now and share but ensure you are not trying to buy the wrong thing – such as giving presents to shore up a flagging relationship – otherwise the cost is more than you want to pay in the long term.

Pisces: Wheel of Fortune. An offer or opportunity has all the hallmarks of fate unfolding. Your task is to hop on board the wheel and have faith that it will deposit you where you need to be even if that is not clear right now. Lucky breaks don’t always look the way we thought they would.

 

 

Five Soul Hacks to Heal a Broken Heart – That Actually Work!

Many of our clients phone for a psychic reading to navigate a broken heart. There’s nothing worse than heartbreak. The feelings of rejection, regret, abandonment, sadness and often self-blame can not only overwhelm us psychically and mentally, but can also manifest as actual physical pain. When our hearts are shattered it feels as if we will be trapped in an abyss of grief forever. We lose sight of the bigger picture and if we’re not careful can sink into depression and self-recrimination.

Don’t despair as you’re not alone here. Rejection and loss are part of everyone’s soul journey at some point or another and you only have to dip into the latest celebrity news to see that no-one – no matter how rich, famous or beautiful – is immune. That being said, there are ways we can speed up the healing process, reconnect to joy again while allowing our hearts to grieve – and they work! So, if you are currently nursing that broken heart (and the broken soul that often accompanies this), try these five simple soul saving hacks.

1) Feel, don’t block your loss. What we resist, persists. This is a time to be gentle to yourself and that means allowing yourself to feel whatever it is you feel without judgement or without telling yourself you should ‘Get over it’. Many bad decisions can be made when we block or deny our process. Loss and grief cloud our judgement and we can become so desperate for relief from our pain we jump into a situation that ends up putting us in a worse place than before such as getting into another relationship too soon without getting to know the other person, or else we create an even more toxic situation for ourselves by attempting to self-medicate – food, alcohol, shopping – the list is endless. Don’t be afraid of your feelings.

2) Ask Your Intuition. Our higher self always knows what is best for us and what is really going on. Although this may be difficult take time out to meditate, turn on your psychic Satnav and ask your higher self, your guides or your intuition – whatever you call that still, calm voice within that is always the eye of the storm – what is really going on and what you need to know. Be patient, be open minded and if nothing comes through at first, don’t worry. If thoughts and ideas surface, write them all down in your journal. Eventually out of this process will come answers and clarity which will allow you to place what has happened into perspective. Once you are able to do this, the healing process will accelerate.

3) Try the Tarot. If you feel that you cannot access your intuition via meditation right now, use your Tarot cards instead. Shuffle your deck and pick one card to tell you what you need to know RIGHT NOW about your situation. Write down every single thought or impression that comes to you. You can repeat this exercise daily and again, you will be amazed at what healing guidance emerges.

4) Do stuff in spite of your sadness. No, I am not contradicting myself here as I know in step one I warned against self-medicating by rushing into a new connection or over-indulging in something we find enjoyable in an attempt to sooth ourselves. I am talking about ‘doing’ stuff and perhaps reconnecting to something we enjoy that we may have let lapse. This can be anything from picking up an old hobby, going to the bookshop and buying self-help books, listening to music you love (and perhaps your ex didn’t like!), watching those click-flicks, painting, journaling walking – it does not need to be expensive and again, you should probably steer clear of anything that is. Chances are if you don’t normally attend a gym, that membership may prove the be a waste of money once you begin to feel better. Even if you only spend 10 minutes a day at first doing something, increase it a little every day and you will find yourself looking forward to your new ‘me’ time as enjoyment returns to your life.

5) Guilt, Self-Recrimination and Beating Yourself Up Have No Place in Your Life. We have all done this to some extent or another at some point following a break-up. Your loss is no reflection of your value as a person or in any way reflects your ability to love and be loved. ‘I always *%!k it up’, ‘It’s my fault – I should have been more understanding/less demanding/thinner/prettier’, ‘Why didn’t I see that coming? My judgement is crap!’. First of all – own your stuff but be aware that there were TWO people in the relationship and nobody owns 100% of it. Secondly – you were fine before the person entered your life. You will be fine again without them. When we are experiencing loss, we cannot help the thoughts that surface and many of these will revolve around blaming ourselves. We can however control how we respond to these thoughts. As I’ve said – what we resist persists. If a self-blame thought appears instead of agreeing with it or shoving it aside so it can continue to fester – instead think to yourself ‘That’s interesting. Why I am thinking about it that way?’.

This simple way of looking at it instantly re-frames it, changes your mindset and kick-starts your intuition which immediately goes looking for the answer as to why you do think that! When you receive your answer -which can sometimes be instantaneous – write it down. Very often this reveals mindsets and beliefs that may not be our own or else go way back and have been unwittingly sabotaging us all along. Once we see them for what they are, we not only heal our present situation, but we go a long way to ensuring that history no longer repeats itself.

Know that you are loveable just the way you are. And also know that while time heals all wounds, these five simple hacks can shorten that time considerably!

Numerology for those born on the 18th and 27th

Numerology – Secrets of Your Birthday – Soul Power Information for those born on the 18thor 27th day of any month

If you were born on the 18thor 27th day of any month you should have already read the section which governs your Life Path Master Number which is a 9. However, those of you born under ‘double digits’ which reduce down to an 9 have the additional influence of your double number which reveals information about your Soul Power and Soul Path. So, if your birthday falls on either the 18thor 27th – read on.

Soul Power Number 18

If you look at the Tarot card of The Moon you will begin to understand your birth date. Look closely at the card and you will see a crayfish emerging from the water. The water represents all you have experienced in this life, all your memories, challenges, trails and tribulations. You may have had times where you loved and lost, tried and failed or become too afraid to continue or got side tracked. However, you can emerge from this as the crayfish is doing.

Very often if you are born under an 18 you are your own worst enemy. You can be beset by fears – the card of The Moon rules our dreams and imagination and don’t forget, our imagination can come up with brilliant ideas but also fears that hold us back. The message here is that although you may think wolves are howling at your door – they are not real. To succeed in life you need to focus on the next step on the road ahead. Just one step at a time. If you do this, you will succeed and free yourself of any restrictions that hold you back whether they are self-imposed fears or otherwise. Develop your courage and confidence as both these can be lacking. There are hidden forces at work in your life but this doesn’t mean you should be afraid of taking a chance.  You are highly sensitive and can become easily upset and sometimes when this happens you are unable to think straight. You need to take time out especially from making big decisions when you get like this. Read uplifting books, listen to music and meditate if you can.

This number indicates divorce and separations – and this can be from family and friends as well as partners. Learn to be open about your feelings as sometimes your sensitivity and fears mean you can be hurt where no hurt is intended by the other party. If you learn to share your inner fears with those closest to you, you will not only prevent unnecessary separations and personal suffering, but you will get the emotional reassurance you need.

Soul Power Number 27

One of the most fortunate birth numbers, 27 blesses those born under it with ‘abundant grace’. Naturally this does not mean you won’t face some challenges on life’s path but what it does mean is that success is guaranteed in the end as this is another number of karmic reward. If you were born on the 27th you have been rewarded with a keen mind and amazing intellect and this is what you are here to use. You will get the most benefits by focussing your intellect on one thing at a time. Yours is the number of the specialist in some kind of endeavour. If you believe in yourself and if you apply your mind, you will rise to the very top of whatever field you choose and you will receive all the rewards that go with that. Chances are as a child you were a keen student and excited about what you were learning. If you’ve lost your soul path (rare for a 27 but it can happen!), look back at the subject that excited you most at school and focus on that as that is your path.

When you achieve success, which you will, please don’t rest on your laurels. Yours is the number of the trailblazer so treat any success as just another milestone – and then set off towards the next one filled with confidence in your ability to achieve your goals. You can make learning and achieving a lifetime commitment and you are likely to continue to increase your knowledge and experience long after others would have retired. Once you have found your path it won’t seem like work at all, just what you live to do and while you are alive you will continue to do it.

How to find your soul path.

Our psychic Helen gives you 5 tips to discovering your soul path.

Do you look with envy at those people you know who just seem to know what their soul path or purpose is from the beginning? We’ve all met them – from an early age they just seem sure of their calling and maintain a focussed determination as they go through school and then university to be just that. For most of us however, finding what we are here to do involves a lot of trial and error. Very often we can leave school or even university, with absolutely no idea where our true gifts really lie or what we have been sent here to do. We take a job – any job and years later are still stuck doing it and wondering ‘Is that it?’.

It doesn’t matter if you are just entering the workforce for the first time or have been working for a while and trying to figure out where your purpose lies. There are some easy hacks you can do right now that can help guide you towards your purpose and put you on the path to work and soul satisfaction.

1: See what you are doing right now as part of the journey. So, you may not be in your dream job right now – or you have no idea what career path you should be following. But the first step towards it begins right now – with whatever you are doing. See your present circumstances as a step in the right direction no matter what they are. By cultivating a positive mindset – even if you are unemployed, you change your energy and infuse yourself with power.

2: Maintain a learning mindset. Be open minded and enthusiastic even if you don’t like your current job. What are you learning from it? Chances are there are skills no matter how insignificant that will help you get something better. Don’t act like you know it all – be curious and take any opportunity, no matter how small, to build your skill base. People respond to enthusiasm and those who ask questions. At the very least, you will be setting yourself up for a good reference from your present employer or come across as someone eager to learn and be ‘hands on’ if you don’t have a job. Also, when you meet people, ask them about what their jobs entail especially if you have not met anyone doing something similar before. You may discover a new area that really calls to you and even make a valuable contact in the process.

3: Make friends and contacts from all professions and all walks of life. Which follows on from #2. Very often we get stuck in one work/social group. Yes, we have people who know and understanus, but if we are seeking our soul path this can also limit our options. The fact is, as studies by psychologists such as Paul Wiseman have proved, people who get ‘lucky’ breaks are those with many, many connections from diverse professions, ages and walks of life, who send opportunities their way and who introduce them to wider circles. Make an active effort to connect to people, join different groups such as Toastmasters or specialist interest groups as you will make friends from all walks of life. Remember, it’s often not what you know, but who you know that counts.

4: Research all areas you are drawn to. Did you used to dream of being something specific? What would you need to do to still follow that path? What courses would you need to attend? Where are they? How much would they cost? Contact the university, professional association or governing body. Make yourself known. Ask questions. Perhaps the area you are interested in doesn’t require specific qualifications but requires talent and skills. Practice. Find out where people working in this field hang out and if you are too shy to go there on your own, take a more confident friend with you. Strike up conversations. If it all seems impossible, break down what you need to do to be what you want to be into baby steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed or hopeless. Also, very often we are born with knowing what we are here to do but get discouraged from pursuing it by others. Look at what you used to love to do as a child – chances are this contains the seeds to your soul purpose. Bear in mind that no matter how funky, obscure or off-beat your interests may be, they can usually be turned into a way to earn a living and chances are if you do your research you will discover others doing just that!

5: Grab any opportunity that is a step up. Sometimes our dream career or big break doesn’t look exactly how we thought it would. It’s important to know that the universe has a plan and is guiding you towards it once you set the process in motion. If someone offers you an opportunity that is better than your current situation, but doesn’t look exactly like the job you wanted, take it. It may lead to your dream career or it may turn into it. It’s important to keep an open mind. Also, bear in mind that if someone offers you an opportunity and you turn it down, they will never offer another one.

Remember, in some cases your dream career may not exist yet. Think back 20 years. Many of the careers that exist now didn’t back then. This is why it is important to keep an open mind and see yourself on a soul path discovery journey rather than heading for just one destination. But it’s important to enjoy yourself as much as possible while you do so. You have a purpose. Start the journey towards it with these five simple hacks.

 

Are You A Multi-Dimensional Psychic?

Have you ever thought that maybe it’s not just the future psychics can tune in to? Perhaps we can be the crafters of our destiny rather than the pawns? If you have read any of my articles on Quantum Creating you will know that I firmly believe in the ability to transform our lives and I also have a fascination with science. Scientists are encouraged to make all sorts of speculations about the meaning of life.  Yet, if anyone in the spiritual sphere does the same thing they can be labelled nuts or kooky by the scientific sceptics but do we really see things that differently?

If we look at some of the current scientific theories there are some striking parallels (excuse the pun!) between psychic and paranormal beliefs and scientific theory. For instance If we believe in the latest cutting edge scientific theory of the multiverse ( in a nutshell that we exist in many dimensions and parallel Universes.)  then doesn’t it make sense that psychics or even any one whose imagination can transcend our world, is connected to it? If we look back at history, we’ve always explored the idea of other dimensions – even the Bible does this with heaven and hell and other belief systems follow suit. In Norse mythology there is Valhalla. In Greek mythology there is Olympus and well as the underworld.

All these are concepts of other dimensions. One of the first people to explore the concept of even more diemsions was of course the author H.G.Wells in 1895 when his book The Time Machine was first published, introducing us to the concept of the fourth dimension.

Since then we have seen Quantum physics open up the idea of even more dimensions – and universes existing alongside our own. Are you one of the people able to ‘tune in’ to these? Is it possible to connect to other dimensions? Have we been doing it without even noticing? Are you a Multi-dimensional psychic? Perhaps it’s more common than we think?

1: How often have you lost something and turned the house upside down looking for it? Then it turns up in plain sight days or even weeks later. Just like sub-atomic particles appear to cross from one dimension to the other, some parapsychologists speculate that when this happens the object has slipped into another dimension while missing!

2: Have you been out and about on your usual routine but suddenly felt you no longer know where you are or that you are somewhere else entirely? Some people say this is a sign of you remote viewing either a distant location or one in another dimension.

3:  Shall we play a game? If you play computer or consol games then these were the first form of mass home entertainment to embrace the concept of putting the player into other dimensions and also allowing them to control the action. They could be a reflection of the theory that our consciousness is located elsewhere and inhabits various ‘avatars’ of us in various parallel universes. Hence, we may be able to access these lives either via lucid dreams or meditation.

4:  You swear you saw someone you know but the next moment – they’re not there. This is called a ‘living apparition’. If you see someone you know and they vanish and you then discover they were definitely somewhere else at the time, this usually means you or they have accidentally ‘slipped’ between dimensions and you have either tuned in to a life they are living in another part of the multiverse – or they are tuning in to yours!

5: Have you noticed how often fiction becomes reality? Creative people dream up concepts and then further down the road they become real inventions – such as we often see in science fiction. One explanation is that these ideas are being channelled from dimensions where they already exist.

6: Astral projection or out-of-body experiences are a well-documented example of being able to move between dimensions.

 

 

7: Time slip! One of the most common ways of slipping into another dimension is to suddenly notice people wearing old fashioned clothes or even the presence of old cars, horse drawn vehicles or old buildings where they are usually none. If you experience this you are tuning in to the memory stored in either the buildings or the area itself.

8: Stephen Hawking has proposed there may be as many as 11 to 26 dimensions. If you see or experience something you cannot explain, it may be you have turned in to one science has yet to discover. Think about the character Matthew McConaughy played in Interstellar. In the film he discovers that not only are there other dimensions but that the ‘higher beings’ sending humanity the worm-hole and on a personal level, him the messages, were human beings and himself, transcending time and dimensions in doing so.

Obviously this is all speculation but remember, meta-physics literally means ‘beyond physics’ – or what we know about physics at present. Insights you receive or events you cannot explain may be down to dimensional physics – and you may be a multi-dimensional psychic without even realising it!

 

Tarot – The mind reading spread.

You don’t have to take my word for the fact that the Tarot is so much more than just a divination tool. Carl Jung, the father of modern psychology, believed Tarot could give important insights into a person’s psyche. He realised that the images depicted in the Tarot mirror the archetypal human experiences which have been with us from the dawn of time. We are all familiar with the hero, the mother, the wise old man and even the trickster for example. Jung realised that the major arcana depicts a journey – from the Fool taking the first step to the accomplishment in the final card of The World, in between the Tarot illustrates the changes we all go through in life.

Jung believed that the Tarot linked us to what he referred to as the collective unconscious – part of the universal conscious mind we are all linked to. So, by going deeper into the images shown in the Tarot and understanding how these related to our journey and that of others, we can literally go directly to what’s going on with someone – or in our own heads for that matter! Very often we self-sabotage without even realising it. The Tarot offers us the gift of amazing mind-reading skills so we can better understand ourselves – and others.

So, are you ready to begin reading minds? First as in all Tarot exercises ensure you won’t be interrupted and have your Tarot journal to hand. Take your Tarot cards and separate out the major arcana cards. Set the rest of the deck aside and shuffle the major arcana cards until you feel they are ready to give you the information you seek. As you shuffle, you need to be focussing your mind into one of four key areas to get the best from this.

1: What you need or what you need to do. This can be related to a specific area such as discovering your soul path or the kind of person you need to be with for relationship success.

2: What you don’t need. This can be a behaviour you need to ditch, something that has been standing between you and success which you cannot see, or a toxic relationships pattern.

3: What a specific person is thinking or what a situation requires from you that you need to know about. This may amaze you and enable you to deal more successfully with others as where they are coming from can often be a total revelation.

4: What that person or situation does not need from you. Areas where you need to let go or take a ‘hands off’ approach. This can be somewhat confronting as often we think we are doing the right thing but in the other party’s eyes this is not what they need. However, this kind of insight can free both sides from stalemate.

When you have finished shuffling the cards and concentrating on one of these four areas, spread them face down in a fan shape and allow your intuition to guide your hand and choose a card. Turn it face up and then spend as long as you need to record the thoughts and impressions that come up. Write them down and do not censor them. The trick here is that the act of writing them down allows the card to act as a mirror, reflecting back at you either your true feelings or another’s. This may take some time to really master which is why it is important to write everything down but when you look back you will be able to see how accurate you have been when it comes to tuning in to someone else’s feelings or what was going to happen in a situation. You will see in your own life where perhaps you went into a situation unprepared, you worried about nothing or else you thought someone was thinking one thing only to discover they were coming from another place entirely!

Obviously, when it comes to tuning in to another person’s thoughts or soul journey, we have to act responsibly and respect their privacy. We need to know we cannot change them, that soul contracts can be changed at any time and that if we are asking question 4 – what they do NOT need from us, we need to take that on board! However, we can come from a new place of understanding with them if we phrase things like ‘I get the feeling you may be thinking/felling so-and-so which hadn’t occurred to me until now’ shows that we are prepared to step into their shoes and see things from their perspective.

Above all, understanding the reasons why we think, say or do things ourselves leads to us being more empowered and making better choices for ourselves. So, do a little mind reading – into your own first, and see how knowing what you are really thinking helps you understand what others are thinking too!