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Tarot bad boys – The Tower

There are certain Tarot cards that even the most seasoned Tarot babe will shudder when pulling. Why do certain cards scare the pyjamas off of us and should we be afraid? This is a series of blogs exploring the bad boys of Tarot. Hopefully, in the end, teaching you to embrace and rejoice in their direct and forthright messages.

I’m going to start with a card that has popped up a lot in my life, The Tower. On the surface, The Tower is somewhat of a nemesis. It is the agent of change and a warning of imminent upheaval. When I pluck The Tower from my well worn deck, I know that something is coming and it won’t be a subtle message from the Universe but more an earth shattering shock, a slap in the kisser and like the card depicts, a bolt out of the blue. Yikes!

‘Henry! Henry! I can’t find Dorothy! She’s

somewhere out in the storm! Dorothy!’ The Wizard of O

One only has to look at the card to get a feel of the energy coming . (Here I’ll use my favourite deck the Rider-Waite.) We see two people being flung into the abyss while lightning and flames burn down The Tower. The two people do not look like happy bunnies and have a totally freaked out expression. On the surface this card is drama city and deeply unsettling. One minute you’re snuggling under the purple velvet duvet of life, high in the clouds, the next minute you’re plummeting out the window with no clue where you’re going to land.

Probably one of the reasons people fear this card is that the sudden chaos or change that is coming is likely impossible to avoid. Nobody likes to be powerless and at the whim of fate, HOWEVER, the positive about this card is that the energy usually vanishes as quickly as it appears and we move on to the next energy of the deck and our souls journey.

On top of that, The Tower can be necessary for our development and future happiness. The Tower is usually an ivory tower, a tower built on insecure foundations. Most things that are swept away by The Tower are illusions and once they have been exposed we are free to heal. It’s no coincidence that The Star is the next card in the deck. The Star is the calm after the storm and brings us divine healing and inspiration. We can find true peace when the truth is out.

The Tower is a great liberator and sets us free, especially if we are in a self imposed prison. It may indicate a revelation around a relationship, a sudden change in circumstances or a sweeping away of something we assumed was stable. If this sounds a bit grim, just take a look back to the times in your life when Tower energy has happened, usually it ends up being for our greater good. It frees us from something that was holding us back and chaining us (just like in the card that precedes it that other bad boy The Devil). It allows us to step into a new journey and perhaps one we knew we had to make but did not have the courage to do so.

This card also urges you to watch your temper. The Tower can be a release of pent up energy, anger can be very destructive if not expressed with love and compassion and some things said in anger can never be taken back.

There’s no place like home

Buried within the plot of the Wizard of Oz is a perfect analogy for the Tower.  The heroine Dorothy and her trusty toto are unhappy in Kansas, feeling unappreciated and unloved.  They are sucked into heart of a Tornado, monochrome and a seemingly disappointing Kansas disappears from sight and the intrepid two land unceremoniously in a new technicolour land, inhabited by characters who all feel they are lacking an essential part of themselves, a heart, courage, a brain, a home. Together they begin a quest to find themselves, their missing parts. Dorothy finds strength, friends and is empowered and discovers that ‘there is no place like home,’ and happiness exudes from within.  If the traumatic experience of the  tornado had never happened her life might always have been in black and white!

I believe we have a lot to be grateful for when The Tower strikes. OK, at the time not so much, but when we have had time to reflect on what ‘ivory towers’ were knocked down we will soon come to realise we can now build something solid and true.

If you pull this card

1/ Have a long hard look at all aspects of your life. Is there something you are denying to yourself? Do you have a gut feeling about someone or something that you are ignoring?

2/ Know that ‘this too shall pass. Whatever drama, crisis or upheaval is afoot, it will pass and clear the way for a new reality.

3/ Look to the cards around The Tower to see clues on where the chaos may be coming from. Often it is our reaction to events that let’s loose The Tower. Whatever occurs be grounded and calm as often it is not what it seems.

4/ If you are angry about something, punch a cushion, talk to a friend and stop winding yourself up. There are many ways to deal with injustice and often the most powerful way to react when angry is to take space, calm down and use reason and logic to win the day. If people are poking your buttons they probably want you to be angry and loose the argument. Rise above it and channel your anger in another direction

 

Your weekly astrology video 14th September 2015

 

 

Are you dating a psychic vampire?

“What do you think your mother would say if she knew you were dating a vampire?” The Vampire Diaries

Before I go any further, this article isn’t about blaming or shaming those who we feel suck the very life juice out of us. It’s not about anyone feeling better than or worse than anyone else, as ultimately we are all equal souls with unlimited potential. I use the term Psychic Vampire as a useful analogy. In reality if we see people as a label the energy we fear tends to get worse not better. Often there is an important reason we attract such souls. It’s a chance to discover our true strength.

You may be dating a psychic vampire if…

1  You’re usually full of the joys of Spring and feel excited about life, yet every time you hang out with your lover you’re left insecure, drained and sluggish.

2  You start to feel not good enough and may suffer panic attacks or sleepless nights

3  You feel excessively fearful and feel you have lost your faith in your life path.

4  You feel oddly disconnected from your intuition and wonder if you’re being paranoid

5 You have put on weight in a short space of time since you have met them

6  You feel like a shadow of your former self.

On top of that you discover your mojo has packed up and left you leaving a note saying ‘Hasta la vista baby’. Your friends are giving you concerned looks and constantly texting you uplifting Gifs of Unicorns with the words ‘Run like the wind’.

“I allowed myself to forget how totally I had fallen in love with Lestat’s iridescent eyes, that I’d sold my soul for a many-coloured and luminescent thing”  Interview with a Vampire

When we met our PV we were probably on a high, we felt complimented, boosted up and as if we were seen for the first time. These mysterious lovers are great at hooking attention. We probably felt they were way more attractive to us than any of our other partners. Brad Pitt in Interview with a Vampire had nothing on them, at least initially. There was a mysterious, mesmerising magnetic force between us, as if we had known them for eternity.

The sexual chemistry probably felt it was mixed in Einsteins very own test tube and was utterly addictive. However, as the weeks roll by we start to feel tired all the time. The relationship is either full on or they play cat and mouse. They are constantly wanting to know where you are, even if you just nip to the shops or else they blow hot and cold and don’t ring or turn up when they say they will, making us confused. There is usually no middle ground with a psychic vampire.

Curiously, as we get more exhausted, they seem to be getting stronger and stronger. The deeper it goes the more we feel like we have totally lost our sense of self and start to feel that no one else will ever love us and that we are unworthy. They seem to slowly freeze us out with the occasional burst of warmth while they slowly creep into the dusty hidden crypt of themselves. We might put on weight, get sallow skin and look like an extra from the walking dead. The good times get further and further apart and last for shorter duration.

There are different types of vampiric energy snatchers. Some will manipulate us so that we feel weak in order that they can feel strong. Others are lost souls that have no clue that they are stealing our energy, as well as the psychic vampires who have a powerful charismatic personality. The draining of our life force is the common denominator.

“I used to think the worst feeling in the world is losing someone you love. But I was wrong the worst feeling in the world is the moment that you realize you’ve lost yourself.”  The Vampire Diaries

Into the light/look in the mirror

It’s essential to check to make sure that our pattern is not that of being a victim. If all our lovers, friends and relationships have ended up with us feeling victimised, it is time to step into our own power and to reach out to a counsellor or therapist who can help us break the pattern, otherwise, unwittingly we might have become a vampire!

Have you a fear of not being lovable or not being good enough?  Has your belief system in the past been distorted by a family dynamic? Was one of your parents a vampire? Being self aware and being honest with yourself is half the battle. When we confront our part in the dynamic and understand what led us to this connection we can step into the sunlight and a new dawn.

Beware your own shadow (has it got fangs?)

We all have a shadow, so if we want to break the spell it’s important we are hyper aware of our own. Remember it is not helpful to label ourselves or anyone else, as people will often live up to the role we are casting them in, and our job is to transcend the drama. To do this we need to look within and also know that each of us has access to universal love and wisdom if we choose to.

If this is the first time you have met what appears to be a psychic vampire, look at what is going on in your belief system right now. What are your core beliefs about love and relationships? If you want to give your lover a chance, establish if your partner is willing to look at the relationship dynamic, and if not, it may be time to plot your escape?

Once away from a psychic vampire, energy levels should return to normal. However it’s essential to understand that we are lovable and to examine our own patterns or we may attract another one in a different guise. Vampires don’t find us by accident, so let it be a key to your liberation.

Do you really love yourself? Take this quiz and find out!

Lot’s of people come for a psychic reading to work on their relationships with other people. One of the greatest pieces of wisdom I have learned is that when we love ourselves everything externally can transform. We all know in theory that it’s important to love ourselves and we can do things like positive affirmations til the cows come home,  but do you show up for you when it counts?

Often it’s easy not to take time out to see how we feel about ourselves or get in touch with our true intuition and emotions. Once we know where we are in our most important relationship, the one with ourselves, we can then transform it and in turn transform and heal our outer experience.

Take this quiz and find out where you are at!

You’re absolutely exhausted and looking forward to an evening in your PJs with a box set of DVDs when someone calls with gossip you don’t want to hear about someone you don’t know that well.  Do you

a) Write off your downtime, put the DVDs to one side and give them your best attention.

b) Say, ‘Would it be okay to talk about this tomorrow?’  and then when you’re rested, gently explain that you’d rather not hear any gossip.

c) Say, ‘I’m really tired and actually I don’t care.  You need to get a life instead of going around trashing people.’

A friend who’s borrowed money before and never returned it asks to borrow the deposit for a holiday.  You’ve just about got enough to get to your next pay cheque.  Do you

a) Lend it to them and pray they repay you on time.

b) Say, ‘I’d love to help you out but I don’t have any to spare right now.  Actually, I was kind of hoping you’d be able to pay me the money you borrowed before…’

c) Say, ‘Are you for real?  You didn’t pay me back last time and now you want to borrow more? For a holiday?  You need to get yourself together.’

You’re going through a dating dry spell and someone with ‘trouble’ tattooed on their forehead asks you out.  Do you

a) Accept in case that’s the last offer you’ll ever get because you can’t bear the idea of ending up alone.

b) Tell them how flattered you are but say a graceful no.

c) Look them up and down slowly, snort and say ‘You are joking, aren’t you?  Me go out with you?’

A colleague is burning the candle at both ends and expects you to pull their weight at work.  Do you

a) Take on their tasks and hope someone steps in to rescue you before you buckle.

b) Suggest a chat where you help them work out how they can balance their personal life with work.

c) Storm off, march in and demand that your boss does something.

You comfort eat under pressure.  After a bad day at work, a chocolate cake brought back by someone you share your home with is screaming your name.  Do you

a) Eat the lot and buy them two to make up for it.  And then eat them too.

b) Run yourself a hot bath, chuck rose petals in it, light some candles and don’t come out until you’re human again.

c) Eat the cake and accuse your flatmate of trying to sabotage you.

You drop a plate and break it.  Do you

a) Berate yourself for being clumsy, stupid, useless….

b) Clear it up and buy a new one.

c) Immediately try and think whose fault it could be.

Mostly A

When push comes to shove, you tend to sacrifice your own needs for others.  This is where understanding what loving yourself really means comes in.  It’s not about thinking that you are the bees knees or more important than anyone else.  It’s about acting in a way that is takes care of you and shows compassion to others at the same time.  If you love yourself, that comes second nature.  If you don’t, you could start by getting curious about what you would do differently if you were behaving towards yourself as though you really were your own best friend rather than someone who would sell you down the river in the blink of an eye.  Act as if you do love yourself, and you’ll grow into it.  Astonishingly, you’ll discover you actually have more to give.

Mostly B

However you’ve done it, you’ve managed to arrive at a place where you are able to be loving to yourself and hold on to your connection and compassion for others.  You can make choices that support what you need in the moment and you can do it in a way that respects that we are all on our own individual journeys and still connected in spiritual and practical ways.  This is what healthy self love looks like.  You can say no and ask for your needs to be met without expectation or blaming and shaming others.  You can take care of you in a way that doesn’t snatch from anyone else.

Mostly C

You are desperately trying to take care of yourself, but you’re doing it in a way that is most likely to create a ripple effect of negative consequences that are probably the last things you want to set in motion.  It might be because you feel desperately overwhelmed.  It could be because oddly enough, you’ve cut yourself off from understanding we’re all on our own journey of evolution that we take in connection to the whole.  As part of that journey, others can step over the line and our boundaries in all sorts of ways for all sorts of reasons. Understanding that they are doing the best they can and loving yourself through doing the same will transform your life – and you will be doing your bit to evolve the whole to boot.  Work on developing true compassion and forgiveness for yourself and others and you’ll see miracles.

loads of love,

Michele x

In case you missed it some vintage Michele on the subject!

 

Be Your Own Psychic – 5 Steps To Give Yourself A Psychic Reading

DIY psychic reading: 5 steps

Tarot cards, crystals and pendulums can all help you develop your psychic skills, but the most direct and powerful way to connect with your intuition is to go direct to the source – your own mind.

If you’re serious about connecting with your higher-self, you need to create some time for yourself. That means, entirely for yourself: no TV or radio on in the background, no looming work schedule, no children or pets about to pounce. Just you and a peaceful environment where you will not be disturbed.

Do whatever feels right to make yourself comfortable. Some people find that incense or evocative music helps, where others find it too distracting. You’ll know what feels right.

1. Centre yourself

Before you start using your psychic skills it is important that you clear your mind of any lingering thoughts of feelings that might be holding you back or needlessly distracting your focus.

One useful technique here is to focus on an imaginary spot in the centre of your head, or in the middle of your brain. This is a stable, grounding place where everything is level and harmonious. Remain in this headspace until any negative, or exciting, thoughts and feelings are levelled out.

Imagine your consciousness is a soft light that you have turned on, illuminating this level, calm place. When you feel centred and equalised you can move to the next level.

2. Ask your psychic self

What do you want to know? This is the point when you should think about what you need from your life right now and form a question in your mind. It’s better to have a clear idea of what you want to know, so that you will understand when your question is answered. For example ask, “What’s my perfect job.” Vague questions will produce unclear answers. Try to keep it fairly simple at first, as you are initially looking for a starting place that you can explore further later on.

Whatever your question, imagine that the ‘you’ asking the question is separate from the psychic part of you. Like you are the one visiting a wonderfully gifted psychic.

3. Scan yourself

You might be lucky and get some impressions as soon as you ask your question but if you are drawing a blank, don’t worry, give it a bit of time to work, especially if it’s the first time you’ve tried it. If it helps, imagine a screen inside your mind where images appear, these might just be colours or abstract shapes, some memories from the past might pop up on there, too.

Voices, sounds and music are the next things to concentrate on – is someone speaking to you? What’s their tone of voice? Is the voice yours or someone you know? What are they saying? Perhaps they are singing or perhaps you can hear music. Has a song or a tune popped into your mind?

Another thing to pay attention to is your body and your emotions. Do you feel unexplained sensations in your body or are you experiencing an unexpected emotional reaction? Note any odd or pleasant feelings and think about what these might be trying to tell you.

Naturally, occasionally you will just instantly know the answer to your question. You might have had absolutely no idea what the answer could be then instantly, you just know. It’s hard to describe, but when it happens there’s no doubt, it’s just a pure flash of psychic insight.

4. Taking it further

If you already have your answer, you might want to start all over again. But usually you’ll wish to explore the impressions you have already received, to flesh out the bones a little more. You’ll benefit from asking further questions about the impressions, sounds, feelings and images that have come to you in the last step.

Ask more about what you have already discovered. For example in asking about your perfect job, you saw a garden centre, or heard the word “animals”, or felt a ‘ping’ around your throat chakra… it’s time to open those impressions up so they reveal more information.

Ask where the garden centre is, what kind of animals, or what job could engage your throat chakra. Then do the same again… when more impressions come, ask more questions of them until you are satisfied with what you have.

If you know that you hear sounds easier than you see images, ask your question based primarily on sounds, “what does this job sound like”, or “what noise does the animal make”.

Don’t worry if you have nothing. Sometimes it does take practice, especially if you’re not used to looking inside yourself in this way. Don’t stretch yourself either, as you need to keep as tranquil as possible so that your own thoughts and feelings don’t interfere with your psychic impressions.

5. Back to the centre

When you have enough information, or feel it’s time to leave, you should thank your higher self for its assistance and return to your safe, centred spot in your mind. Stay there for as long as you like and when you feel equalised and ready to return to your world, do so by gently stretching or moving, feeling grounded and stable, back into your day.

If you still don’t have the direct answer you were looking for it can help to write down what you remember from your experience, even if it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense right now, you may be surprised at how many coincidences will point you back to the things you have picked up – and these will also help you paint a fuller picture of the answer you seek.

Tarot Secrets – be The Fool and change your life

(click the play button to watch Michele’s video)

I don’t think I am being controversial in saying that The Fool embodies all gender. Traditionally The Fool in Tarot is referred to as a ‘he’ but really ‘he’ is at the very least androgynous. Sadly there is no language to describe androgyny/intersex/fluid gender like he or she otherwise I would probably use that word.

The Fool also always represents us in a reading so the gender of The Fool should refer to yourself. In truth The Fool is like our soul in-between worlds genderless and a pool of unconditional pure love. On that note in this article I am going to refer to The Fool as she.

I adore The Fool because in my mind it embodies all of the complex principles of magical manifestation in one swagger. When The Fool shows up in a Tarot reading,  some people might say that it refers to risky, rash behaviour, or a kind of naive optimism.  But she’s a lot more than that.   The Fool carries the building blocks of the entire universe in her little knapsack and when she turns up in a Tarot reading, it’s really an invitation to tap into the secrets only she knows.

If you just look at the card you see a young man/woman who looks like she’s about to step off a cliff. That’s does seem foolish and reckless until you understand the nature of the creative process.  All creation means bringing something that wasn’t there before into being.  So The Fool steps off into nothing – but she is sure that the ground will materialise beneath her feet.  That’s the kind of leap of faith we take when we start to paint or write, launch a business, open a shop or set our intention to do something magnificent.

I know of a school caretaker who took it upon himself to build an orphanage in Romania.  That is a true Fool’s errand.  At the start he had nothing but faith and intention.  Along with his hard work, the right people showed up to pitch in and the tools and materials he needed materialised along the way.

I always say that The Fool’s behaviour is right out at the edge of anything known, safe or comfortable, but it’s not rash because she’s already enlightened.  She isn’t attached to any one thing turning up.  The treasures she seeks are the alchemy of experience.    That means she is truly liberated from obsessing, grasping or holding.  If you are trying to manifest anything and you get too hung up on when it’s going to arrive and exactly what form it’s going to take, a million magical opportunities could fly by and you won’t see them, but The Fool will.

Along with that, The Fool is the unique soul of the Major Arcana.  She walks to the beat of her own drum, on her own path.  She isn’t seeking permission or approval from anyone to be her authentic self.  Her amazing powers of manifestation flow from that one aspect of this card.

So if she does show up in a Tarot reading, how can you embrace her message?

Examine your fears and the limitations you have placed on yourself.   Imagine how you would respond or what you might do if you had no fear, saw no limitations and believed that you could find a way through or around any obstacle in your path.  And then see if you can bridge any gaps between that unlimited realm of imagination and what you think, feel and do.

Devote time and energy into delving into your unique and authentic self and coaxing it out into the world.  Do things that stretch and inspire you.  Seek out those who are already at the edge of where you want to head.

Learn to discern true danger from the things that the ego fears.  Jumping off a cliff is reckless, but being true to your authentic self and encountering a smattering of ridicule for that might smart, but it really can’t hurt you.  And especially when you understand the way that we can all act as each other’s mirrors in this world.  If someone attacks you for going after your dream, it may be because deep down they have squashed theirs’ out of fear.

Know that you are perfect in your imperfections, unique and lovable as you are.  Einstein said that the only thing we really have to work out is whether the universe we live in is safe or unsafe.  Know that it is abundant and trust in every step of your journey. Then you too can be as wise as The Fool.

loads of love,

Michele x

 

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A good psychic reading or just another psychic cliche?

The cheesy but fabulous image above of a steryotype psychic reminds us that just the word psychic can conjure up all sorts of negative reactions. Cliches abound about how psychics work and let’s face it the psychic world is a minefield. Trying to find an honest psychic can be like looking for a needle in a haystack.

The psychic industry often gets much needed flack for sometimes keeping people dependent on psychic readings or actually disempowering people. I find it horrendous that some companies encourage dependency and make their readers sign a contract which encourages clients to stay on the phone for hours on end! One way unscrupulous psychics do this is to keep focusing on the problem rather than encouraging personal empowerment.

Things can be different though and as psychics we have the responsibility of not only giving an honest and ethical psychic reading but also going further and actually put the power back in the clients hands.

I believe a great psychic reading is one in which the reader uses their intuitive gifts to empower the person having the reading.  To be very specific about the past with no prompting,  to show a link but not to keep the client stuck in negative patterns. It’s very important as a psychic to give detailed information first so that the client knows that it is a genuine psychic link.

People have psychic readings for all sorts of reasons, but often they choose to have a reading when they are tussling with an issue in their life and are so immersed in it that they can’t see the way forward.

I believe that we are all powerful creators and magicians within our own lives. Just like the Magician in the major arcanna, we have all the tools at our disposal to manifest our intentions into material reality.  Our spiritual journey involves waking up to that power that we all have. Knowing that everyone can tune into their own intuition and become their own powerful psychic.

As a psychic reader, our job is never to tell a person what to do.  That actually diminishes people’s power and can create dependency.

We start by understanding that everyone is already doing the best they can with what they know.  Most people are pretty familiar with how things are working – or not – in their lives.  Intuitively picking up what the problem is and reflecting it during the reading reassures the person having the reading that you are making a true psychic connection.  For example, you might pick up that they are single and left longing for an ex to return.  But that’s just the beginning.

In a psychic reading, our role is to use our intuition to delve into the psychic patterns and beliefs that are holding the person having the reading back from connecting with their own power.

For example, if someone is having a psychic reading because they want to know if an ex is coming back, you may intuitively pick up that their heartbreak in the present taps into a much deeper pattern of low self worth or fear of abandonment that actually has its roots way back in the past.

As a psychic reader, we can develop and use our psychic skills to give people crucial pointers into the next step of a soul’s journey, how they can transform whatever is lingering from their past or creating patterns in their present.

In a nutshell, that might mean that someone begins a psychic reading by asking whether their ex will come back, but it ends with the person having the reading going away with a lot more insight into their deeper feelings and what drives them and are much more confident that they can attract the love that is right for them.

That might be their ex, or it could be someone even better.  They may even decide that they don’t actually want their ex back at all!

That does demand a whole different understanding of how people work, how we can step into our power and how to help someone else step into theirs, but for me that is exactly what marks out a great psychic reading.

Loads of love,

Michele x

Healing upheaval and surviving sudden change

Some people come for a reading with one of our psychics when they are going through sudden change. It can often be hard when our life takes an unexpected turn so I thought it would be a good to share some tips on how to deal with difficult experiences .

While we can talk about the positive effects of change and the need to initiate change in our lives in order to move forward, unwanted change is something entirely different.

You only have to ask anyone who is going through a loss – of a partner, a job, a relative or close friendship, to understand how devastating its effects can be.

Very often, we have no warning the change is about to happen and it blindsides us, leaving us adrift, grief stricken and feeling that nothing including the ground we stand on, is solid in our lives.

Despite all that is written about our reactions to change, these are situations that we not only cannot control but we often cannot control our emotional reaction to them when they are happening.

Many New Age teachings can be superficial when it comes to talk of creating our reality and give us spiritual seekers a feeling of guilt, as if painful things are our fault and we created them. This is not true!  While we do have the power to transform and create our reality we do not live in a vacuum, many other people and society at large have an impact on our thoughts and our life experience. We have not reached the stage where we are living Gods (although I do believe we have it in us!) just yet.

Although, while we are in a moment of crisis it can feel horrendous it can also sometimes lead us into a more beautiful life. Of course there are other times in life where we may experience suffering or health problems or people we love go through trauma and it doesn’t feel like the promised happy ending at all.

We have all been in this situation at some point in our lives – and often we find ourselves re-visiting the situation several times during our lifetime. The fact is, unwanted change is at some point inevitable. So, when you find yourself experiencing unwanted change, what can you do to ease the often harsh and painful experience?

First – don’t resist it. Denial is one of the stages of grief and when we are in this stage unfortunately we resist the truth of what is going on. The more we resist it and therefore fail to change the situation, the more pain we create for ourselves. Very often if the change involves a loss that is not a death of a person but say the death of a relationship, we forget we need time to grieve. Grief is a process that has no statute of limitations on it and will be different for all of us.

Give yourself permission to take as much time as you need to work through the process and please don’t listen to people who tell you that you should be ‘over it’ by now. Although if you feel it is blocking your life it might be good to get some therapy to resolve the residue emotions. Also, you need to give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you are feeling – whether this involves sadness, loss or even intense anger. Remember – what we resist, persists.

Second, we often try to change the situation or outcome and this is also part of the grieving process called negotiation. Now, sometimes in the case of a relationship breakdown, this can work but only if both parties are open to negotiation. However, often the situation is best served by you stepping away and taking a ‘what will be, will be’ approach. Know when you are banging your head against a brick wall and need to do this as again, this will save you more pain.

Many of the worst experiences I have had (especially around betrayal in love) have led me to 10 fold future happiness but it doesn’t always make sense in the moment. We all like to cling to the familiar. Have faith in your souls journey and most importantly love and nurture yourself as if you were your own best friend. What would you advice your best friend to do in any change you are going through now?

No matter what the short term impact of the unwanted change is, try to future project and ask yourself whether or not this will matter ten years down the track? Sometimes in the case of a relationship breakdown, that person you thought you could not live without turns into a very lucky escape when you meet someone new.

While losing your current job brings up feelings of worthlessness and financial anxiety, you know sooner or later you may get another one and again, even two years down the track you may find this was the catalyst for a new and more satisfying career path.

Lastly, think back to the times when unwanted change and loss has happened. See how you coped back then. This allows you to keep this period in perspective as you can call on past coping skills and understand that you will emerge from this time – just as you did before.

Life is a cycle of life, death and rebirth and this cycle is also an emotional one. We are in a constant cycle of change in all ways but the joy of this is that positive change and love can also come into our life when we least expect it.

My thoughts are with all of you going through an unwanted change but believe me when I say you are stronger than you know and you will emerge on the other side where life is sweet once more.

 

 

Your weekly astrology video 7th September 2015

 

Tarot Magic! What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do

We’ve all been in situations where we’re just not sure of the best course of action, feel we have tried everything to no success or even are frozen with indecision as we fear whatever we do is going to be the wrong choice! If you are facing that kind of dilemma right now the good news is that the Tarot is there to help you and get you moving again by opening you up to new ideas, possibilities, solutions and directions you can take.

How does this work? Well, the Tarot contains symbols that activate our unconscious mind and link us to our higher self – but in a way we can understand. Yes, our higher self is constantly sending us messages but we can doubt this or the message just gets drowned out in the chatter and busy-ness of our everyday lives. By using the Tarot we tune out the static and open a clear channel to higher wisdom.

As usual with any kind of spiritual work -turn off your phone and ensure you will not be disturbed during this exercise. Have your Tarot journal to hand as well as you will need it to record your impressions. Shuffle your cards and as you do so think about the area or issue where you are stuck. Say to yourself: ‘I now open myself up to new ways of thinking about and dealing with this issue. The universe is alive with possibilities which is now presents to me’.

 When you are ready, draw out just one card at random. If a card drops out while you are shuffling, this is your card. But you only need pick one.

Look at your card. Now describe it out loud to yourself in as much details as possible without naming the card. For example, let’s say you picked The Moon. You would not say ‘The card of The Moon shows . . .’. Instead focus on the images and imagine you are describing the card to someone who cannot see it. ‘A full Moon appears in the night sky and dogs howl at it. Two pillars stand at either side and a lobster emerges from the water. A path leads off into the distance towards some mountains . . ‘  Now you have described the card, describe it as if YOU were in it. ‘I look up at the full Moon shining down on m. I am standing at the water’s edge and looking down a lighted pathway that leads away into the distance. Dogs are howling close by and there are two towers or pillars marking the start of the road . . ‘. Trust that whatever comes to mind is related in some way to your present situation. Start to write all these impressions down – anything including the colours, ideas or thoughts that occur to you. You might for example think ‘That road wants to lead me on a journey’ or even a song lyric or a well-known phrase – don’t censor yourself whatever you do!

When you have finished you should have a list of words, phrases and images you have associated with the card. Now, think about your situation and look at your list and see what words or phrases jump out at you. Make a shorter list of these – they do not have to appear important but they could turn out to be. If you do this exercise first thing in the morning then be on the lookout during the day for signs, people, synchronicities and events that are related to your card. If you are doing the exercise at night, then be on the look out the following day. What is happening is that your subconscious mind is now on the look out for connections to make between these and your problem to nudge you in a more creative direction to solving the issue.

Keep an open mind and trust that it’s all in the creativity and hearing your inner voice more clearly. The Tarot really can open you up to alternatives when it comes to dealing with life’s problems which is why Tarot is so much more than just a predictive tool!