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October 3, 2014
Talking Kink ‘n Seduction – Etiquette of Sir by the Growling Guru
Being new guest writers here, My Baby Boy and I have been attempting to first go over just some rudimentary basic intros into the world of bondage and kink. Trying to decide what should come first is a bit like juggling pots and pans. Not really but doing so is one of my fonder ways of torturing my subbie. Beba decko did a good job with the first two blogs so I will leave his kitchenware alone for now. But I decided that the topic of Sir etiquette was a good one to go over.
I see this frequently on facebook and Fetlife discussed in the different pages or groups for BDSM fans, Players and Lifestylers. The question is often always worded the same:
“Do you call other Doms Sir when you meet or are talking to them?”
How it is worded of course directs the question mostly to the submissives for their input. But on occasions I have seen a few Doms/Dommes answer as well. The irony is the majority type answer that comes across.
Now I don’t know if this brat higher-than-thou subbie attitude I often see is stemming from the increase of online D/s relationships that outnumber the RL relationships or if it’s from the fans of the popular books 50 Shades of Grey that has recently made BDSM the latest hot sex tip? What I do know is that if I take my beba decko out to a social and I heard any kind of disrespecting attitude come from his lips that I often see online he would rightly so find himself over my knee in a public spanking for the disrespected Dom to have ring side seat view of.
Now before you stomp your feet and throw your fists at your side. I will coach you as to why.
Ego has no place in the BDSM Lifestyle or in its scenes.
In most circumstances should you and your Dom be out and meet up with another Dom, it’s likely that you’re at a munch or other Lifestyler social.
So in regards of one of the most common answers to the above question; “I don’t call anyone Sir until they’ve earned it with me.”
He/She isn’t your Dom/Domme; they don’t need to prove anything to you, however you are at a social or event of common like people, They earned the invitation just as you did. Act like you belong there by being polite.
Another common response: “I don’t call anyone but my Dom Sir no matter what.”
This sort of insubordinate remark makes others think perhaps your Dom hasn’t trained you to behave very well and maybe you need some more time on His/Her knee until you do learn. At any social of your community, the sub is a reflection of a Dom’s control, and guidance. Act like a snotty brat and it looks poorly on your Dom.
Now three VERY important things here:
1 - This does not mean you actually have to use the word Sir/Mistress to each and every Dom you meet. At a social or event, no one, certainly not a proper Dom/Domme, is going to insist that you do. But it’s polite to do so, at least the first time you are introduced. It doesn’t have to have the same reverence of your Sir but a proper sir would go far to make your Dom look good among His/Her peers as well as you being a well behaved subbie/pet/little. Save the tantrums for private time and the ego for when you hang your collar up for the night. But a word of advice, at least use titles for the Host/Hostess or you may not find your name on the next invite if you don’t.
2 - If in a scene with your Dom and another Dom of His and your choosing, and you have consented to the scene, than Sir/Mistress is expected. Not doing so will likely result in a punishment for disrespecting the Doms in the scene with you.
3 - It is not expected for you to be perfect every time at every social. But if you’re feeling brattish, getting jealous over something, or feeling pushed or disrespected by someone else: it is NOT your place to handle it. Take it to your Dom and let Him/Her take care of it. This isn’t the grocery store where you can read them the riot act just to show you can. You are at a Lifestyler/Players social event; roles are adhered to.
**NOTE: This only pertains to actual social events: Munch, collaring ceremony, Socials, or private members clubs, etc… something you were invited to or are a member of that community. This does not include any type of online internet encounter. Different protocals for online.
The thing to remember is when out meeting/making friends, part of why you are there is because your Dom delights in showing you off. So don’t let Him/Her down. Put on your best behavior to show them how well He/She has trained you and make Him/Her look good. If you are a brat, rather than a sub, then put on your best vixen muzzle. Sir/Mistress when used in kind is not going to harm your D/s bond. If doing so does, some serious communication is needed, and maybe you and your Dom aren’t ready for social mingling yet. For those who are, the rewards for making your Dom highly admired will be well worth learning to put your ego away.
The Growling Guru
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October 2, 2014
Oct 7th book release – Domming the Heiress
OCT 7th the feisty red-head Amelia Quinneth meets her match with a Head-Master picked special to handle her by the Dominus Trenton Leos.
Available for only $2.99 while on pre-order. Sale ends Oct 8th
Domming the Heiress: Dominion of Brothers Series: Book 1.5
Written by Talon p.s. & Princess S.O.
MF / BDSM – D/s / Erotic Romance
You can’t depend on your eyes, when your desire is out of focus.”
Heiress Amelia Quinneth had always been known for topping from the bottom. Being Vice-President of the family fortune and firm makes letting go of control more than just complicated. Nevertheless, submission is the one thing she desires most at the end of the day and no amount of control over her life can get her to that unobtainable bliss. That is until frustrated by lack of satisfaction; she finally reached out to Dominus Trenton Leos to be paired up with a Dom that could take charge and satisfy her needs.
However despite her request, she never expected she would have to meet her new Dom, while remaining blindfolded for the next thirty-six hours with him.
Amelia’s Dom turns out to be a Head-Master who quickly shows her who is in charge and strips away every layer of hers, one by one, until she found the true euphoria that comes from understanding her surrender.
Her very walls that she kept to define her fantasies have been torn down, but in order to find out who her new Master is, there is one more wall she must let go of and she’s not sure she can.
DOMINION OF BROTHERS SERIES:
~Chronological Order of titles available now~
Book 1: Becoming His Slave
Book 1.5: Domming the Heiress {available Oct 7th 2014}
Book 2: A Place for Cliff
Book 3: Rough Attraction
US:
http://www.amazon.com/DOMMING-HEIRESS-Dominion-Brothers-Book-ebook/dp/B00N2YX87S
Canada:
http://www.amazon.ca/DOMMING-HEIRESS-Dominion-Brothers-Book-ebook/dp/B00N2YX87S
UK:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/DOMMING-HEIRESS-Dominion-Brothers-Book-ebook/dp/B00N2YX87S
AUSTRALIA:
http://www.amazon.com.au/DOMMING-HEIRESS-Dominion-Brothers-Book-ebook/dp/B00N2YX87S
FRANCE:
http://www.amazon.fr/DOMMING-HEIRESS-Dominion-Brothers-English-ebook/dp/B00N2YX87S
TEASER
Rashawn’s eyes shifted to her, pinning her in place, everything seemed to slip away and she fell into the dark pools of his eyes, “She does exist.” He spoke the words softly and directly at her.
Amelia didn’t say a word. She felt dizzy, and frightened. Because she was that kind of woman.
The two men continuing in the debate of her existence as if being heard from under water. It became hard to breathe. To come face to face with a man who desired what she had wept and cried from because she wanted to let go of everything, just for a moment, an hour, a day, a second, just please take it away, and hold her, kiss her forehead— croon dirty words to her, and make her cum until she cried for other reasons. Why of all the men she could hear it come from was it spoken from a man so much younger than her? Life was so cruel.
“And how will you find such a woman?” Cardiff asked his son, never even noticing the panic she feared was lit in her eyes.
“I will know her by the beauty I could only dream of and within her fire which ignites an uncontrollable urge of desire I cannot live without.”
“And if you do not find such a woman? What becomes of you then?”
“It’s not finding that one a Dominant should be afraid of, its finding her and not being able to touch her because she isn’t ready. There is no greater torment for him.”
October 1, 2014
Two Writers Rambing – PeaCOCK Proudly… but don’t trip over your own tail feathers
Here is some etiquette about using bestselling titles. Take it with a grain of salt, mull it over or ignore it. It’s up to you.
While its still only the opinion of Talon and myself, we feel its important we, as authors, don’t over use or water down what it means to be a bestseller. However, there has been the wide spread usage of the title: Best Seller. This isn’t to say that everyone who uses the phrase hasn’t earned it. Many have. But let’s get down to the meat and potatoes of what is really considered a Best Selling Book/Series/Author and whether or not you should be decorating your books covers with it.
Regardless of your personal take on the Indy vs Tradition pub’d authors, the rift is there and argued and scrutinized from both sides. But we forget that the readers see this too and have their own take on it. The term ‘Best Selling’ usually means New York Best Selling list or USA Today’s Best Seller. But Amazon has gotten pretty big over the years and they have their own bestselling lists. Actually they have a bunch of them, but realize it or not they are not there to boost the ego of the author; they are there to supplement the ‘Don’t-have-time-to-browse’ Shoppers. A large percentage of buyers often take advantage of Amazon’s bestselling lists as the ‘lazy’ means to find what is hot. {I use the term ‘lazy’ loosely, because a large sum of shoppers don’t look past the second page – totally different discussion} Hence why there are so many list to browse. There is a best seller list for most every genre and popular subgenres. This is all marketing design so that shoppers can find what’s hot in a certain topic easily. This is actually very good for authors (most of the time), if you can make the list, but some lists are harder than others. The other thing to remember is these lists update ever hour.
Now while making the top 100 on Amazon is something to be proud of. We’ve been giddy to tears on the few list landings ourselves. But given the flux, making it on a list is less substantial than the phrase ‘here today gone tomorrow’.
What makes me bring this up is, some time ago Talon actually got involved in a discussion where he saw one author, whose first book out made it to #97 once, posted a question in a discussion group for feedback. She wanted to redesign the cover of her book (still the first one) to say “Best Selling Author” on it and was looking for supportive agreement. He made a gentle comment, way down in the thread, about “Be proud and happy for your accomplishment but don’t over flaunt it.” Well let me get out the ruler so I can measure up just how deep the crap got after that. Needless to say he left without a thread to cover his ass with. And no amount of kosher explaining would chill down the over heated authors who were very vocal as to how pissed they were he would suggest such a thing. How dare he take away someone’s trophy.
The thing about getting the bestselling lists is, it doesn’t always take a lot of sales to reach the top. It depends on what else is on the market, what’s new, and that number of incoming titles to that genre or subgenre. There is also some suggestions that Amazon tends to fudge the ranks up from time to time. But aside that to give an example, when Becoming His Slave came out, we made #5 in Bdsm and #9 in erotica. It took nearly a thousand books sales to make it and it was impossible to get higher as the book couldn’t knock either of the three 50 Shades titles out of rank. Later when A Place of Cliff and Rough Attraction were released they too both made the bestselling list in Gay Erotica, but it only took a couple hundred for them. When Keeping His Destiny was released it made it to #14 in the post-apocalyptic genre, a very small genre and no new headliners to compete against so it only took 65 sales to make that one. So you see… making a list is a fickle thing, it may mean you sold a lot of books to get there but sometimes you don’t when the timing is in your favor.
Another thing to consider is how long a book stays on the list.
So after all the math, you’re probably thinking I am trying to snatch the rug out from under you… not at all.
MAKING ANY BEST SELLING LIST (Amazon, All Romance ebooks, or your publisher’s) THEY ALL COUNT AS AN ACCOMPLISHMENT TO BE DAMN PROUD OF.
We’re proud of ours so should you be elated about yours.
But it doesn’t mean you should have the label installed in neon light on your jacket or book cover.
And here’s why…
THE PLASTIC TROPHY FOR SHOWING UP SYNDROME
It’s become too regular for new Indy authors to nab and hang onto that title ‘Best Seller’ and they plaster it on their walls, blogs, and book covers.
Readers see this and ‘maybe’ they go take a look based on that claim, [remember: lazy shopper marketing ploy – don’t dismiss it, Amazon makes bank on this]. But, your book only has 2 or more reviews. Instant reaction from shopper is “hmmmm something seems to be a tad aloof here.”
Guess what they do next? They move on without buying your book. YOU just lost a SALE, because you were too quick to be all about that 5 hour fame and set on display in neon advertisement.
But that’s not all, Traditional Authors, who are often quick to point out how amateurism we Indies are, will (even when we are not), and shoppers pick up on that and it sticks. What they see is you’ve misled them and readers are very unforgiving when it comes to spending their money.
Like it or not, if you have only made the bestseller list once and for only a short time DONT put that banner over your head. It will hurt you in the bottom end.
Make the list and be happy, do a shout out on your wall. Even include a screen cap. Do the happy dance with friends and fans, maybe treat yourself to a bottle of wine or a double dipped ice cream. And DO a sticker or star on your blog where you have all your books on display. Thats the best place to add a Best seller label along with so and so’s book of the month when you get those. Then move on.
Now in case some of you are asking: “Why should I care what you do?”
What many Indies don’t realize is you are all shareholders in a market. If you treat it like a low budget inn, that’s all it will ever be for all of us. Over embarking a title, makes a new author look like an amateur and that is not advantageous to your overall goal. Best seller book for a day does not make you an actual Bestselling Author. It does make you feel good, so go ahead and peacock for a day, just don’t step on your feathers.
ABOUT THESE AUTHORS
Princess so and her twin, Talon ps love to torment their editor with a nefarious world of foreign-lang, slang, local dialect, stretched/outside-of-the-box definitions, and have even been known to throw in some con-lang at times. This, of course, is all thrown in there with the dyslexia soup stock they both suffer from that makes editing with them a joy {joy: n see mental illness}. But the final product comes out as richly detailed holographic worlds of Paranormal, Sci-fi, and Gay/MM Erotic Romance; War-time Romances; and along with Prin’s favorite works of Post-Apocalyptic Dark Fantasies.
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September 30, 2014
BOOKS ‘n COZY SPOTS BOOK REVIEWS – Training Lady Townsend by Annabel Joseph
4 STARS !!
Review for Training Lady Townsend by Annabel Joseph
Reviewed by Jaycee ~ for Books ‘N Cozy Spots Book Reviews, www.Talon-ps.com
Erotic Romance/Historical/DD/Spanking/Light BDSM
Purchased at Amazon.com
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Take a rousing romp through 1790s England with this first of four Properly Spanked novels…
The Lady Aurelia has been promised in marriage to the Marquess of Townsend since she was four and he was fourteen. Unfortunately, she grew up into a pillar of propriety while her betrothed grew up into a renowned rake. Of course, no one would expect such an unsuitable match to go forward…which is why they find themselves at a loss when circumstances force them to the altar and into each other’s arms.
Hunter, the beleaguered marquess, believes he’ll survive the uneven match by continuing to frequent his well-trained coterie of whores and courtesans, but Aurelia’s powerful father has other ideas. When he blocks Hunter’s access to the only women shameless enough to cater to his decadent desires, the marquess informs his new wife that something will have to be done.
That “something” will be the immediate commencement of her erotic training…whether she wants it or not.
http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/training-lady-townsend-annabel-joseph/1120406176?ean=2940150489752
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I had pretty much stopped reading historical novels, for a couple of reasons: one, I’d rather look forward than back. Second, when an historical novel was well researched and written, it drove me crazy wondering how the human race ever managed to survive! But Annabel Joseph writes compelling stories and so, one-click it was…
The story, overall, has all the elements that a good historical needs: the setting, the behaviours versus the attitudes, and the most difficult for me, the dressed-up lingo. The latter of course, speaks to the “attitudes vs. behaviours” aspect and also serves to blatantly highlight the worlds-apart that were “Lady Dormouse” Aurelia and Marquess Hunter Townsend.
Setting and character properly and gratifyingly, succinctly established, the tale becomes a delightful romp through double-standard to arrive at self-discovery, courage of convictions and of course, abiding love. In this case, The Mighty (Townsend) didn’t so much fall, as he did rise to the occasion, and The Mouse (Aurelia) didn’t so much acquiesce as she did…self-actualize. Not a new concept or process by any means, but so entertaining in this instance because Townsend began as a (note: Amazon-approved lingo applied here) nether-regions orifice of epic proportions such that he was utterly unlikable, and without changing at his core, grew up and grew into an outwardly admirable peer of the realm. Okay, admittedly, Marquess also possessed some seriously mad skills that no peer would admit to…
For her part Aurelia, the erstwhile “Dormouse”, forced into a marriage with her polar opposite, grew into, or at least woke up to the person and passions at her own core.
Ms. Joseph seamlessly integrates the spanking dynamic with the historical setting and mindset. Historical seems a perfect fit, but in fact, is merely the ability of a supremely authentic author to create a warm and nurturing relationship in any place in time. I enjoyed the romp and look forward to watching the other rich and entertaining secondary characters find their own balance.
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TRAINING LADY TOWNSEND also received the following ratings:
ROMANCE FACTOR ~ 4 HEARTS
HEAT FACTOR ~ 3 Flames
STING FACTOR ~ 4 PADDLES
Books ‘n Cozy Spots Book Rreviews: First Time for Everything (Anthology) – Courting Billy Roth by Nick Hasse
5 ~ Stars!
Review of ~ FIRST TIME FOR EVERYTHING (anthology) – COURTING BILLY ROTH by Nick Hasse
Romance / YA / Contemporary / m/m
(copy purchased from amazon)
Reviewed by Terry ~ for Books ‘N Cozy Spots Book Reviews, www.Talon-ps.com
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There’s nothing like the first time. Whether it’s a first crush, first date, first kiss, or finding tolerance and approval for the first time, for gay, lesbian, bi, and trans teens—or those still exploring and discovering their sexuality and identity—these important firsts can shape the rest of their lives. Gathering the courage to come out to their families, admit their feelings to a friend, or go to school presenting as the people they really are can be a struggle. But with the support of their allies and their own inner strength, the brave young people in these stories take the first steps toward happiness and living on their own terms. From sweet stories of newly discovered love, humorous accounts of awkward dinners and dances, to fights for acceptance and even survival, the teens in this anthology must face new challenges and rise to meet them. These are the first times they’ll never forget.
http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/first-time-for-everything-anne-regan/1120287041?ean=9781632164476
http://www.dreamspinnerpress.com/store/product_info.php?products_id=5397
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I admit I usually stay away from anthologies but when I found out Nick Hasse was one of the authors I one clicked First Time for Everything.
This is the second book Nick Hasse has published. Once again he has used words to not only tell a story but also paint us a picture of Billy and Toby as they experience their first love. One of the things I love about Nicks writing is he can bring your senses into play with his words. You will see, feel, smell and maybe even taste this story as it unfolds.
Nick has done this so well that after you read this story if you have already experienced your first love your mind and heart will revisit that time. If you have not had this nerve racking, heart pounding, glorious event yet happen, you will be looking forward to it even more.
If you would like to read more from Nick Hasse check out his first book “Danny’s Dom”. I will advise you this story is not a YA story it is for the 18+ crowd. This story is a Contemporary meets Paranormal M/m, BDSM. I do look forward to more stories from Nick Hasse!
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COURTING BILLY ROTH also received the following ratings:
ROMANCE FACTOR ~ 4 Hearts
HEAT FACTOR ~ 2 Flames a flame for each of our young men because the first time you fall in love you feel like you’re going to go up in flames
TWIST FACTOR ~ 2 for This could ruin their HEA!!
BONUS FACTOR ~ a small box of chocolates, movie popcorn and soda, a basketball going in the basket, a pic of holding hands
Some times when you buy an anthology you buy it because of one author. (I bought this one because Nick Hasse had a story in it.) So you get one good story and a collection of so-so or not so good stories. That is not the case with this anthology. There are many good stories for you to enjoy. So….
A big Thank You for Harmony Ink / Dreamspinner Press for putting together a wonderful anthology!
September 29, 2014
ManCandy Mondays – men in suits part II
How about MORE suit Porn or that moment when the suit falls open: loose and unlovely as sails waiting to catch the wind… or your breath in this case….
KEEP TUNING IN EVERY MONDAY
Themes to look for this fall:
THE DOMINION OF BROTHERS
Jean & Dress Shirts
Rugged & Raw
the Work Out
ManSkirts
Leather Touch
I see right through to you
Have a naughty request?
Leave a comment and let us know what flavor of ManCandy you’d like to see on Monday
September 28, 2014
September 26, 2014
Talking Kink ‘n Seduction – Gaining a new dictionary
Growling Guru & Baby Boy
I’ve learned a lot in the last decade in which I have been involved in the Lifestyle, much of which is that there exists an entire slew of words we use. Ordinary words, unique words, colloquialisms, vulgarities; living and knowing about the Lifestyle will give you a brand new dictionary you won’t always find in Webster’s or Oxford’s inscriptions.
To start, there are two categories of people who use BDSM, both equally important.
Players- People who ONLY use bdsm, in the bedroom or in the context of a scene.
Lifestylers- People who use bdsm outside of a scene or in everyday life. May or may not be 24/7.
In a scene1 there are two active parties. Tops and Bottoms.
Tops are the ones who physically inflict or carry out a scene.
Bottoms are the ones Tops inflict upon.
Then there’s the way we define ourselves. Doms and Subs.
Doms (Dommes-feminine) are people who take mental control of the entire scene, but they can be broken down into lots of categories:
Some are Sadistic, enjoying a more forceful rule of the scene, delivering harsh (often painful) punishments or (sometimes equally painful) rewards.
Some are Masochistic, where they enjoy having pain inflicted upon them. If they are in control of the means, quantity, and quality of pain they receive, they are still Doms.
Some are called Daddies/Mommies or Daddy/Mommy Doms. Typically paired with a sub called a Little, DDs/MDs can be sadistic or not, but are always (some may consider overly) nurturing, protective and indulgent of their subbie counterparts.
Subs are the people within a scene who give up mental and/or emotional control of a scene and can likewise we categorized many ways.
Sadistic subs are a bit of a rare breed, but are complementary to Masochistic Doms. They enjoy inflicting pain but would rather not control the scene.
Masochistic subs are much more common and are the stereotypically depicted submissives.
Littles (boy or girl) can be masochistic or not. These are the subs who enjoy things many would consider childish (i.e., cartoons, coloring books, stuffed animals, etc.)
Pets may or may not be into humiliation play2, but typically enjoy being refered to or characterized as a type of animal. Kittens and Puppies are most common, though I have met some Alpha Subs who preferred predatory species.
Alpha Subs are submissives that are willing to perform acts on other subs AS DELEGATED by their Dom. (This is where things start getting tricky but trust me, Poly-groups are some of the most fun people I’ve met.) Alpha Subs tend to enjoy the feeling of “extra-ness” by being able to complete their tasks and help their Dom.
Omegas are the last type of sub I will discuss, and are the supplement to the Alpha Sub. These are the ones who prefer to be the low person on the totem pole, so to speak. (Most Omegas I know have been into Humiliation play, but there are no absolutes in our world.)
In another category altogether you have Switches who are really quite hard to define and so are lumped into one umbrella-term. Switches are people who are willing to perform either (or both, in a group) as Dom or Sub to varying degrees. Switches can be Sadistic, Masochistic or neither.
Another term you will hear thrown around sometimes is Alpha. (This is not to be confused with Alpha Subs.) Alphas are people who may or may not consciously live the lifestyle, but are generally known to be in control. IF they are in the Lifestyle, they usually are Doms. Alpha Doms may or may not be willing to work a scene with other Doms, but are not truly satisfied unless they are the ones truly in charge of the scene. (My experience with Alphas is that they tend to micromanage, very Type-A personality, some are downright assholes but we love them sometimes in spite of, but usually because of it all.)
And Lastly, I have saved the most important words of all, Limits and Safewords.
Limits are something that you and your partner must sit and discuss before ANY kind of foray into this word should occur. They are an outline of what you each will and will NOT be consenting to during the course of the scene or relationship. Limits are a fluid thing that can and will change as you grow, learn and experience but they should be considered an ongoing discussion between you and your partner. Do not allow your partner to bully you past your limits, but DO allow yourself to explore as far as your comfortable and talk to your partner about why they push that limit.
Safewords are special words that you and your partner agree will be used to stop or slow a scene, should you be too close to your limits. Many have UNIQUE safewords, like “Butterfly,” to be used because of some personally special reason. There are also UNIVERSAL safewords that many clubs (and people) use.
Green (or Blue)- is the universal word that means “Yes, everything is fine to continue as agreed upon.”
Yellow (or Orange) – is the universal word to slow a scene or change course. At this point responsible partners should communicate about WHY a safeword was called, and the Dom(me) will decide whether to slow or change the scene as needed.
RED – Means stop.
No matter what safeword is given, partners should listen and respect the decision as responsible adults. There is no shame in safewording. If you are afraid to safeword, you should reevaluate your mentality and your relationship to see where the problem lies. Likewise, you should not use a safeword as a “get out of jail free” card. All aftercare, and punishments that have been agreed upon should then be given.
Why do we use safewords? Why can’t we say No or Stop? For safety. Quite simply, the three most common detrimental words are No, Don’t, and Stop. Whether in pain or pleasure, “No… Don’t…. Stop” is panted just the same and nothing spoils a great orgasm than your partner backing off because YOU ACCIDENTALLY TOLD THEM TO!
Now, this is only scratching the surface because there are so many labels we all use to define ourselves. The biggest thing to remember is that ONE person’s definition may not be identical to yours, so please take the time to get to know someone before making any kind of committing decision.
1 Scene- Any isolated situation in which bdsm is used.
2 Humilation play – Scenes that focus on deriding or otherwise shaming the bottom, sometimes publically.
Thanks again for reading! Any questions or comments, leave in the comments section below.
September 24, 2014
STOP! Those words don’t go with those shoes. A defense of artisans of the word media
Do you think anyone ever looked at a painting by Pablo Picasso and said: “I can’t believe he used pink that way. I mean, the nerve. How dare he use it like that? It’s not even a real pink.”
Mmm probably not, while like any artist I doubt he was repose from critics, as I recall many had outwardly spoken against him, that he should be ashamed of himself for stepping into and marring the beauty that is art with the peddling of such displays that even a toddler could do better at drawing with crayons.
While I may not be a guru on the timeline of his art works or at what point he went out of his way to prove them wrong, I’m not sure. But he did eventual shut them up and went on to be famous for the abstraction he is best at. Perhaps you missed it, for all the above images are works of no one but Pablo Picasso. Including the one that looks like a Claude Monet painted of a dude playing golf or the sketch of matador Luis Miguel Dominguin to show he really did know how to draw.
Of course, now, they are revered like most all his paintings but they weren’t the ones that made him stand out.
The point of this is while he and all other artists are subject to criticism, I can’t recall a time when anyone was ever criticized for their media. Painters are allowed to use every color of the universal vast spectrum… sculptors are free to use metal, plaster, wood, ice, watermelons and even garbage… pretty much whatever they can get their hands on.
So why is it, a Writer isn’t allowed to use words so freely?
It is most flummoxing to me. That according to these critics I’m not allowed to do this.
I mean seriously, words are our media. And I am not talking about being allowed to get away with grammar misspellings or type-o’s… but certainly if the 15 year teenage punk is allowed to make up a new word that everyone uses to such a degree that TWERKING just got indicted into the hall of fame of Webster listings, while Lascivious is still sitting out in the cold despite support from literary support and acceptance.
Words get changed, altered and made up every day, the language of using them evolves with ever generation. If it didn’t we’d still be reading: Thou’st make thine lips come true with rouge from such succulent kiss upon mine.
So if language is fate to always change, flux, be convoluted into such bastardization of meaning and vision until it become mainstream only to be altered again, then WHY CANT AN AUTHOR whose media is the word itself be the frontier of such exquisite explorations?
One would think a story teller would be far craftier at creating new words that some kid who hasn’t even finished school yet. Not only are authors often ridiculed to the nines about using slang or EEEK… god forbidden, a FOREIGN WORD…. But we’re not even allowed to stretch the boundaries of an already existent word’s meaning. One of our fortes’ for me and Talon.
Take THECA for example. We’re probably the only 2 people on the planet to use it in erotic lit. That’s a difficult crown to capture, but we have, so back off bee’tchess. But Theca is such an awesome word. It was a treasure to find. But wow do we get shit for it. “That doesn’t even fit there!”
Well, yeah, actually it DOES>
THECA – the vulva, area of seeding in a plant or to describe the womb if the female anatomy
Synonym – THECA – n. (urban dictionary included) – Pussy, Cunt, Twat, Vulva, Vagina, Hoohoo, Mound, Entrance, Lady Bits, Nethers, Pudendum, Silk Walls, Heaven Box, Down There, Pink Parts, Garden of Eden,
I could go on, but they just head down the hill toward ridiculousness or to the side which succumbs to the pit of vulgarism.
For a writer of erotica, the above choices leave the palate a bit dry. Yet when faced with a novel size story with considerable explicitness, one must delve down deep into the bargain bend for alternative words to break up the mainstream of verbiage. Even if it means using some orally gift retrofitting. We love the word Theca
“Th…eh…cah…”
It rolls off the tongue in a warm whisper to kiss the back of your neck. It’s soft and polite and can be used most anytime of the scene where as Cunt is usually reserved for the raw fuck me moments and angry sex. Pussy is usually the one over used… O.o… but for us we tend to savor it for when super wet is acceptable… Lady Bits can be amusing and polite in mixed company. Vagina we’ll leave to the gynecologists. Down There is for those who play naively naughty but don’t want to get caught with their fingers in the cookie jar.
When reading one of our books, pack a lunch, we’re not shy one bit and we plan to have you on the edge of euphoria for a page or two. Edging is a favorite sport of ours.
Nethers and Pudendum seem fitting when it’s DEEP. But Theca is our favorite of them all. It whispers against your lips like naughty poetry that will make you blush in more than one place in a most provocatively delicious way.
Theca won its place in our work because Hoohoo….???
we rest our case.
V for Vendetta
written by Andy Wachowski & Larry Wachowski, from characters created by Alan Moore & David Lloyd
V: Voilà! In view, a humble vaudevillian veteran, cast vicariously as both victim and villian by the vicissitudes of Fate. This visage, no mere veneer of vanity, is a vestige of the vox populi, now vacant, vanished. However, this valorous visitation of a by-gone vexation, stands vivified and has vowed to vanquish these venal and virulent vermin vanguarding vice and vouchsafing the violently vicious and voracious violation of volition. (he carves a “V” into a sign) The only verdict is vengence; a vendetta, held as a votive, not in vain, for the value and veracity of such shall one day vindicate the vigilant and the virtuous. (giggles) Verily, this vichyssoise of verbiage veers most verbose, so let me simply add that it is my very good honor to meet you and you may call me V.
Evey: Are you like a crazy person?
V: I’m quite sure they will say so.
STOP! those words dont go with those shoes….
Do you think anyone ever looked at a painting by Pablo Picasso and said: “I can’t believe he used pink that way. I mean, the nerve. How dare he use it like that? It’s not even a real pink.”
Mmm probably not, while like any artist I doubt he was repose from critics, as I recall many had outwardly spoken against him, that he should be ashamed of himself for stepping into and marring the beauty that is art with the peddling of such displays that even a toddler could do better at drawing with crayons.
While I may not be a guru on the timeline of his art works or at what point he went out of his way to prove them wrong, I’m not sure. But he did eventual shut them up and went on to be famous for the abstraction he is best at. Perhaps you missed it, for all the above images are works of no one but Pablo Picasso. Including the one that looks like a Claude Monet painted of a dude playing golf or the sketch of matador Luis Miguel Dominguin to show he really did know how to draw.
Of course, now, they are revered like most all his paintings but they weren’t the ones that made him stand out.
The point of this is while he and all other artists are subject to criticism, I can’t recall a time when anyone was ever criticized for their media. Painters are allowed to use every color of the universal vast spectrum… sculptors are free to use metal, plaster, wood, ice, watermelons and even garbage… pretty much whatever they can get their hands on.
So why is it, a Writer isn’t allowed to use words so freely?
It is most flummoxing to me. That according to these critics I’m not allowed to do this.
I mean seriously, words are our media. And I am not talking about being allowed to get away with grammar misspellings or type-o’s… but certainly if the 15 year teenage punk is allowed to make up a new word that everyone uses to such a degree that TWERKING just got indicted into the hall of fame of Webster listings, while Lascivious is still sitting out in the cold despite support from literary support and acceptance.
Words get changed, altered and made up every day, the language of using them evolves with ever generation. If it didn’t we’d still be reading: Thou’st make thine lips come true with rouge from such succulent kiss upon mine.
So if language is fate to always change, flux, be convoluted into such bastardization of meaning and vision until it become mainstream only to be altered again, then WHY CANT AN AUTHOR whose media is the word itself be the frontier of such exquisite explorations?
One would think a story teller would be far craftier at creating new words that some kid who hasn’t even finished school yet. Not only are authors often ridiculed to the nines about using slang or EEEK… god forbidden, a FOREIGN WORD…. But we’re not even allowed to stretch the boundaries of an already existent word’s meaning. One of our fortes’ for me and Talon.
Take THECA for example. We’re probably the only 2 people on the planet to use it in erotic lit. That’s a difficult crown to capture, but we have, so back off bee’tchess. But Theca is such an awesome word. It was a treasure to find. But wow do we get shit for it. “That doesn’t even fit there!”
Well, yeah, actually it DOES>
THECA – the vulva, area of seeding in a plant or to describe the womb if the female anatomy
Synonym – THECA – n. (urban dictionary included) – Pussy, Cunt, Twat, Vulva, Vagina, Hoohoo, Mound, Entrance, Lady Bits, Nethers, Pudendum, Silk Walls, Heaven Box, Down There, Pink Parts, Garden of Eden,
I could go on, but they just head down the hill toward ridiculousness or to the side which succumbs to the pit of vulgarism.
For a writer of erotica, the above choices leave the palate a bit dry. Yet when faced with a novel size story with considerable explicitness, one must delve down deep into the bargain bend for alternative words to break up the mainstream of verbiage. Even if it means using some orally gift retrofitting. We love the word Theca
“Th…eh…cah…”
It rolls off the tongue in a warm whisper to kiss the back of your neck. It’s soft and polite and can be used most anytime of the scene where as Cunt is usually reserved for the raw fuck me moments and angry sex. Pussy is usually the one over used… O.o… but for us we tend to savor it for when super wet is acceptable… Lady Bits can be amusing and polite in mixed company. Vagina we’ll leave to the gynecologists. Down There is for those who play naively naughty but don’t want to get caught with their fingers in the cookie jar.
When reading one of our books, pack a lunch, we’re not shy one bit and we plan to have you on the edge of euphoria for a page or two. Edging is a favorite sport of ours.
Nethers and Pudendum seem fitting when it’s DEEP. But Theca is our favorite of them all. It whispers against your lips like naughty poetry that will make you blush in more than one place in a most provocatively delicious way.
Theca won its place in our work because Hoohoo….???
we rest our case.
V for Vendetta
written by Andy Wachowski & Larry Wachowski, from characters created by Alan Moore & David Lloyd
V: Voilà! In view, a humble vaudevillian veteran, cast vicariously as both victim and villian by the vicissitudes of Fate. This visage, no mere veneer of vanity, is a vestige of the vox populi, now vacant, vanished. However, this valorous visitation of a by-gone vexation, stands vivified and has vowed to vanquish these venal and virulent vermin vanguarding vice and vouchsafing the violently vicious and voracious violation of volition. (he carves a “V” into a sign) The only verdict is vengence; a vendetta, held as a votive, not in vain, for the value and veracity of such shall one day vindicate the vigilant and the virtuous. (giggles) Verily, this vichyssoise of verbiage veers most verbose, so let me simply add that it is my very good honor to meet you and you may call me V.
Evey: Are you like a crazy person?
V: I’m quite sure they will say so.
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