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No Playback!

In the latest edition of Cosmo for Latinas, there’s an article that offers six ways for women to feel sexier in bed. These include wearing sexy clothes, taking charge in the bedroom and fantasizing. But there’s one that just didn’t resonate with me, and I want to know is it because I’m not a woman, because I’m not Latina, or is it just because it’s me?

The article says to tap into the sounds of sex, and Sheri Meyers, the expert quoted in this portion of the piece suggests “…recording a sex session and playing it as background music next time you make love.”

What!? Am I just a prude or would this kill the mood for you, too? Look, when people make love, there are some funky sounds that emenate from their lips, not to mention some of the most cliche seventies porn statements that are often hoped to be forgotten. When going at it again, I don’t want to be taken out of that moment to hear how stupid I sounded last time I was in the moment, hence ruining this moment as well as the memory of the last one.

Sounds are great. Moan, groan, growl if you want. Talking dirty can have it’s place. Go with the moment and say what you are thinking. That can really add excitement to the moment, but please do not record it, at least if you are with me. I don’t need a recording of that floating around and ruining my chance at being the next Republican candidate for V.P. 

And, by all means, please don’t ever play it. I don’t want you to hear it. I don’t want to hear it. To be perfectly honest, I don’t even want you to tell me what I said four minutes after the post-coital snooze.

If I am in the minority on this, by all means chime in. Prove me wrong. But, if you are with me, let me know and then tell [image error] to keep the recording devices at bay.

No Sex and a Separation

Ripa and Consuelos: Against the Odds

Having stayed married for 17 years really isn’t a feat so impressive that I would do back flips. Yes, I kow, many marriages don’t last that long, but the truth is many last even longer. And, if the wedding took place in one of those 24-hour Vegas chapels, sure, seventeen years is even less likely. And, if there was relatively no engagemnt, then I start to be a bit surprised at the longevity of the nuptuals. But, what gets me is when it’s a Hollywood couple, a Hollywood couple where both partners are attractive, successful and still in the limelight.

That’s the case with Mark Consuelos and Kelly Ripa. These two celebs have made it where many other Hollywood couples have failed… the seventeen year mark while avoiding scandals and infidelity. I want to know what makes them different than the common Hollywood couple. Why can they succeed with no engagement, getting hitched in Vegas and being hounded by the paparazzi.

I’m sure they follow many of the basic steps for a successful relationship that couples around hte world follow: communication, trust, date nights, intimacy, yada yada. The thing is, these two are not like most couples around the world. In the world of Hollywood couples, these two are phenoms. So, what is it that makes them different than most of the rest?

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If you have any insights, please share!

No Need for Thanks, Miley and Liam

Thank God someone listens to me! Back in July of last year I posted a piece on Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth and their engagement (http://couplescommittedtolove.com/a/2...). I implored the couple to pospone the wedding and not rush into marriage like so many other young Hollywood couples.[image error]

At the end of last month, it was announced that the wedding plans were off. Some sources say the two are splitting, while others are stating that the couple is just listening to America’s Relationship Guru and are giving themselves more time to deepen their relationship (okay, the part about me was never officially stated, but we all know where they got the idea from).

I’m proud of the couple. Instead of forcing it, they are realizing that it’s either time to go their separate ways or that they can date a bit more before making anything official. If more Hollywood couples did this, I think we’d see less divorce in the industry. And, when celebrities start taking commitment a bit more seriously, there’s a good chance, many of us will follow suit. For some reason, we believe if the young, famous and rich do it, then it’s okay for us, too.

Enjoy dating each other, Miley and Liam, and you can send the thank you gift basket to my U.S. address!

It’s Complicated

She Doesn’t Want to Be Pleasured

Insecurity

Hold Your Partner After the Bombing

The Oklahoma City Bombing, 911, the Kennedy assassination, and now the Boston Marathon: these are all moments when we as a society feel vulnerable and feel the need to cling to one another for strength. These are also the times when we can feel afraid, angry and frustrated, and we tend to take out those emotions on the ones we care about most.

Be aware of what you feel and be aware of what you need. Then, be aware of eh loved ones that you suuround yourself with. Remember, they are probably experienceing similar emotions as you. Be each other’s rocks, instead of targets of frustration.

Be happy that you have your partner. Let him know how much you love him. Tell her how important she is to you. Hold each other nad appreicate that you have one another after yet another atrocity.

These calamities can drive us apart, but they can also bring us to[image error]gether. Avoid taking it out on the one you love. Embrace the fact that you have someone to embrace.

How to Fix a Broken Relationship After Cheating and Lying

 

Relationships are very fragile and can break with a small waft of cruel air. They need to be
maintained with great care and are based on the two main underlying assumptions of trusts and
faith in the each other. If you do not trust your partner your existence with them is as good as null
and void. There is no real beginning and end to this relationship. In case, today, you are in a position
of a freshly broken cord and desire to rebuild it with good faith, then there is some hope for you,
however, minuscule the hope maybe , a hope is a hope. Here are some tried and tested measures
that you can try to string in the correct place to play the harmonious sounds of love music again. Try
it; there is no guarantee of success as we still don’t know the intensity of your lies, dishonesty and
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First Tale, True Tale

First and foremost, stop doing the things that caused your relationship to break. Stop lying and
stop cheating. Stop doing what took you down this guilt trip as only that will get you the confidence
to move ahead to woo your mate again. Start facing reality and start practicing your real story in
your head. Be prepared to face the truths you were trying to cover up with your set of lies that you
repeatedly told your partner. If the gamut of lies still remains strong in your head, you will not be
able to take the point straight forward to your partner.

Accept Your Flaws

Before talking to your partner about the scope you see after the bad day in your relationship you
need to make a list of your lies and cheat scene and need to accept them before anything else.
It’s time to face the truth and know that tomorrow, when you go to your partner begging them to
forgive you, you cannot be in denial of the crimes committed. If you think you are innocent or just
fail to accept your part of the game that turned sour, then it’s time you stop thinking about your
partner ever being willing to forgive you for your atrocious crimes.

You Owe Your Partner All the Answers

After having said and done the deal, it’s now time you meet your partner. Prep up for this moment
and beware because your partner is going to be very angry at you. Assumption to be made, your
partner does not want to forgive you. Your task is to convince them to forgive you. Hence, with the
justifications and story you tell to pacify will be splashed with horrible and tough questions for you.
You should make sure you do not lose your control, because honestly, you really cannot afford to!
You owe ever single answer to the partner who is completely questioning your integrity.

Proving your worth again to a partner who lost it because of your own crimes is an uphill task.
However, trying your luck with a sincere heart and repentance for all done ills may surprise you with
forgiveness.

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The above post is written by freelance writer, Himanshu Sharma. To learn more about tips regarding relationships, family and love, you can visit his site.

You Can’t Pay Me Enough!

On my local radio station, the morning team asked what it was that 46% of women have paid their husbands to do. It wasn’t chores. Had nothing to do with sex. Wasn’t associated with gifts or time away with friends. Nearly half of married women have paid, not asked, but paid their husbands to attend a kid’s birthday party. Now, the DJ’s didn’t go into details, if it was their own kid’s party, if it was to accompany the mom to the party or if was to go in their stead.

I have two daughters. And, I have een to plenty of birthday parties. The ones for my girls I didn’t mind, because they were generally at my home. Family was there. We provided the food. And, I got to see the joy in my daughter’s eyes. But, it was the parties of my daughters’ friends that sometimes was like pulling teeth: dozens of screaming kids I didn’t know, parents who I didn’t know that wanted to talk to me about things I didn’t care to talk about, bad cake and activities that lacked creativity.

If I could have gotten out of these parties, I guess I would have. I went anyway, probably because my wife couldn’t make it and I didn’t want to leave my four-year old with a bunch of people I didn’t know. Obviously, there are guys who feel the way I do, but on a much higher level, unwilling to attend the party at all unless Mom pays him (come to think of it, the DJs never mentioned that payment had to be cash…hmmm). 

So, here’s something pretty simple that we fellas can do to make our partners happy…go to the damn parties…. without payment. Look, it’s okay to express to her that you really don’t want to go, but then after saying it, tell her that because you love her and your child, go anyway. Your wife will see you as the man she married, a provider and a good father. Yes, you’ll have to put up with two hours of little ones in a jumper, cheese pizza, cake with too much white icing, a cheap pinata with bad candy and coming home with a goodie bag filled with cheap, plastic choking hazards made in China, but it will be worth it in the long-run for your marriage, not to mention your connection with your kid.

And, I would bet that you will still get paid in another way as a token of your wife’s appreciation.[image error]