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April 25, 2019
What Do You Say to Your Friend on Mother’s Day After the Loss of Her Baby or Child?
Mother’s Day is quickly approaching. What are you going to say to your friend who is struggling with grief? How will you reach out and offer words of hope and healing?
While Moms who have suffered a miscarriage, stillbirth, or the loss of a baby or child appreciate and need extra care and support, one of the most common occurrences on Mother’s Day is the worst one … in an effort to avoid blunders friends say nothing at all.
That hurts.
And it’s why Jessie and I created seven Mother’s Day Videos and Tip Sheets, designed to help you share compassionate, caring, personal messages of remembrance and support that promote healing and grief relief.
In Video #3 of this Mother’s Day series, Jessie and I talk about what you can say to your friends on Mother’s Day, after the passing of their baby or child.
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April 22, 2019
What Do You Say to Your Partner in Life on Mother’s Day After the Loss of Your Baby or Child?
Mother’s Day is often a mix of happy and sad feelings for moms who have experienced the passing of a baby or a child.
Other than perhaps the anniversary of her loss, there is no day of the year that a Mom is more keenly aware of her great sadness than Mother’s Day. It can be a time of reflection, love, and remembrance but also a time of profound grief and the need for loving support.
While Moms who have suffered a miscarriage, stillbirth, or the loss of a baby or child appreciate remembrances and support from friends and family, one of the most common occurrences on Mother’s Day is the worst one … in an effort to avoid blunders people say nothing at all.
Jessie and I created seven Mother’s Day Videos and Tip Sheets, designed to help you share compassionate, caring, personal messages of remembrance and support that promote healing and grief relief.
In Video #2 of this Mother’s Day series, Jessie and I and her husband, Chris, discuss what a partner in life can say on Mother’s Day, after the loss of their baby or child.
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April 12, 2019
What Do You Say on Mother’s Day to the Mom Whose Baby or Child Passed Away?
Is it better to distract her with a nice gift or a special outing that helps keep her mind off her sadness? Or to mention her loss and risk triggering her grief?
During the last thirty years that I’ve been a therapist, I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve heard these questions. Caring people, like you, genuinely want to know the best thing to say to their family members who are hurting.
It’s difficult to know what to say on Mother’s Day to a mom who has lost her baby or child. It doesn’t matter if it is a spouse, a parent, a sibling, a grandparent or a good friend, everyone wants to know what to say to support the mother and honor their loss, without fumbling over words and saying something that creates more pain.
When I talk to patients and parents who have suffered a miscarriage, stillbirth, loss of a baby or child, they all tell me that they can sense when the people around them want to say something, but don’t know what to say. Those awkward moments are uncomfortable for everyone.
That’s why my daughter, Jessie Vredevelt Schultz, and I decided to create a series of seven gift videos to help open conversations of hope and healing. Jessie experienced the loss of two babies to miscarriage in the last year. She brings a unique perspective to the conversation as many forget that expectant mothers left with empty arms, deeply grieve over babies that don’t come to term
Other than perhaps the anniversary of her baby or child’s passing, there is no day of the year that a Mom is more keenly aware of her losses and great sadness. It can be a time of reflection, love, and remembrance but also a time of profound grief and the need for loving support.
While Moms who have suffered a miscarriage, stillbirth, loss of a baby or child appreciate remembrance and support from friends and family, one of the most common occurrences on Mother’s Day is the worst one … in an effort to avoid blunders people say nothing at all.
The video series covers seven unique conversations that a variety of family members, friends, and community leaders can communicate to Moms on Mother’s Day. Each video also includes sample messages that may be written in a card or simply said to the Mother who is missing their baby or child.
These videos are designed to share compassionate, caring, personal messages of remembrance and support on Mom’s favorite day. Our hope is that anyone can use the tips we cover to open heartfelt conversations that promote healing and grief relief.
Our hope is that people will share these resources and to help pave the way for meaningful conversations that bring hope and healing to Moms.”
The 7 videos are free to watch and share
Downloadable Tip Sheets and Gift Printables are included with conversation starters and sample phrases for writing the perfect personalized message in a card or note.
In Video #1 of this Mother’s Day Series, Jessie and I cover important tips about the Do’s and Don’ts of What a Mom and Dad can say on Mother’s Day to their daughter or daughter-in-law after the loss of her baby or child.
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April 4, 2019
Letting Go of Frustration and Anger with these Expert Anger Management Tips – Emotional Freedom Video – Episode 9
Have you ever been confused by the intensity of your anger? Or by how quickly your fuse can be lit?
Today I’m talking with Dr. Warner Swarner, MD, a nationally renowned Psychiatrist, who has taught physicians nationwide about the magnificent intricacies of the brain, and effective interventions based on brain science.
In this anger management video, Dr. Swarner and I cover important tips on where to start, and what you can do to better understand your emotions and manage your typical behaviors when you are angry.
Important Tips to Understand Your Emotions
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March 30, 2019
Letting Go of Frustration and Anger with these Expert Anger Management Tips – Emotional Freedom Video – Episode 8
Did you know that the more you rehearse an angry thought and feeling, the more it burns circuits into the brain, and the more likely you are to repeat those thoughts and feelings?
Neurons that fire together, wire together.
Today I’m talking with Dr. Warner Swarner, MD, a nationally renowned Psychiatrist, who has taught physicians nationwide about the magnificent intricacies of the brain, and effective interventions based on brain science.
In this anger management video, Dr Swarner and I cover important tips on where to start, and what you can do to better understand and manage your emotions and reactions.
Manage Your Emotions and Reactions
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March 15, 2019
Letting Go of Anger and Frustration with these Expert Anger Management Tips – Emotional Freedom Video – Episode 7
Are your kids driving you up the wall? Are you fed up with their bickering in their back talk?
Is there a co-worker who’s getting on your nerves day after day, who you’d like to give a nasty piece of your mind?
Today we’ll cover a quick tip on how to quickly regain your emotional balance and keep your peace.
If you’re ready for some good anger management tips on how to master your frustrations so they don’t master you, be sure to tune into this series.
Emotional Freedom Video – Episode 7
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Manage Your Emotions
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Letting Go of Anger and Frustration – Episode 7
Are your kids driving you up the wall? Are you fed up with their bickering in their back talk?
Is there a co-worker who’s getting on your nerves day after day, who you’d like to give a nasty piece of your mind?
Today we’ll cover a quick tip on how to quickly regain your emotional balance and keep your peace.
If you’re ready for some good anger management tips on how to master your frustrations so they don’t master you, be sure to tune into this series.
Emotional Freedom Video – Episode 7
https://pamvredevelt.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/Episode-7-Letting-Go-of-Frustration-and-Anger-_-Expert-Anger-Management-Series.mp4
Manage Your Emotions
What is your take-away from this episode? Share something with us that you found interesting or helpful.
Subscribe to Pam’s YouTube channel to get instant notifications when new videos are available.
Leave a comment below and let me know what questions you have and/or which tip we covered today makes a difference for you.
Share this post with others so they can get the inside scoop on video marketing. Simply click the social media sharing buttons below to impact some lives now!
Have a topic you’d like me to share tips about? Click here and let me know! I’d love to hear from you!
You can find Pam Vredevelt’s premium course Healing Your Empty Arms: A Transformation Experience for Emotional Healing, Personal Growth, and Spiritual Renewal After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Loss of Your Baby or Child at www.HealingYourEmptyArms.com
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March 5, 2019
Does God Even Care?
There is no such thing as darkness with you.
The night, to you, is as bright as the day.
Ps. 139:11,12 TPT
Are you trudging through a seemingly endless dark night of the soul?
Is despair trying to convince you that life is meaningless and God doesn’t care?
Ten years ago today, March 5th, I entered the darkest season of my life. Our sixteen-year-old son, Nathan, was accidentally hit by a car on the freeway. Four days later he relocated to heaven.
In the merciless grip of grief, I seriously wondered if my light had been snuffed out for good. Being a stranger to this kind of blinding pain, I questioned whether or not I’d survive.
Gerald May’s words come back to me.
Maybe, sometimes, in the midst of things going terribly wrong, something is going just right.
I think Mr. May is on to something.
Six months after Nathan left us, I retired for the night. It was September 6th, the evening before Nathan’s first birthday away from us. Memories of the good times we shared together randomly surfaced on my way into sleep.
We affectionately nicknamed Nathan our unguided missile and little escape artist, when he was around 4 years old. He had an incredible knack for silently slipping out of the house without telling anyone. It was his creative twist on hide and seek.
Those secret wild adventures put us on a first name basis with the city Police Search and Rescue Teams. I’ve lost count of the number of times I called in a panic to report our lost little boy. Yes, we had extra locks and buzzers on the doors 
February 22, 2019
Letting Go of Frustration and Anger with these Expert Anger Management Tips – Emotional Freedom Video – Episode 6
Do you ever find yourself snapping at your spouse, yelling at your kids, wanting to bolt from a relationship or fight back with verbal grenades?
Frustration can slowly and subtly take on a life of its own and become a habit – your go-to autopilot or default mode. Ongoing frustrations rob you of your God-given right to peace, and negatively effects your health and your most important relationships.
In this anger management video, I cover one of the top reasons your fuse may be short and what you can do about it.
If you’re ready for some good anger management tips on how to master your frustrations so they don’t master you, be sure to tune into this series.
Ongoing Frustrations
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February 15, 2019
Letting Go of Frustration and Anger with These Expert Anger Management Tips – Episode 5
Anger is more about me than it is about you.
You don’t make me mad.
I make me mad – depending on how I am viewing a situation. What suddenly sends one person into a rage, maybe calmly shrugged off by another.
Unspoken expectations have a way of fueling slow simmering anger just beneath the surface. Before you let them make your blood boil, try this anger management tip that will help you keep your cool.
Frustration and Anger
What is one small step you can take to meet an unresolved need this week?
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