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December 29, 2022

A Tale of Two Cats

I recently heard an interesting story about two cats.

The first cat was kind, loving, and the picture of domestic pethood. She loved being a part of the home and gave as much love as she received.

The second cat, introduced into the household several years later as part of a now-defunct relationship, is feral and disrespectful of limits. She is known to attack others, especially the more docile cat.

Even though the human relationship ended, the second cat remains and continues to be a scoundrel.

How does it serve anyone, including the second cat, to remain in the home?

When something or someone is disrespectful, threatening, and uncooperative, it is never a moral imperative that they continue to live in your environment. Perhaps this cat was not born to be in a domestic setting. This cat may prefer to live in a barn where she can attack mice and other vermin to her heart���s content.

Set the cat free. Set yourself free.

As you enter the new year, what might you let go of and release yourself from a false sense of obligation? How can you make your world more peaceful while allowing others to be more fully who they are?

Want some help? I���m here for you.

Mary
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Published on December 29, 2022 16:40

December 26, 2022

What are new year goals without reflection?

Yes, we need to set goals and lay out some plans for the coming year. Not necessarily resolutions, but some focus is always helpful.

It helps, too, to reflect on the year���s end. More than how you did against goals, reflecting can reveal some lessons you didn���t know you needed, some strength you found when you most needed it, and the community that supported you.

When I review this year, one thing I find is how much more patient I have become.

The older we get, the narrower our community becomes. Hopefully, because you have found so much more strength within yourself. It is important to take some time to reflect and incorporate what you���ve learned into your plans for moving forward.

If you���re stuck���

If all you can see is what didn���t go right���

If the world seemed against you at every turn��� that, too, can be worthy of reflection. Is it true? Are you really a victim (the answer can be yes), and can you see a way through?

My clients amaze me at what they can find that is right and good in their life, even at their lowest points, whether through coaching, hypnotherapy, or psychic reading. I am here to help you feel your growth. Be stronger. For you to take control of your life.

Take a moment to reflect and see what you most need to take with you from this year into 2023.

I wish you much peace and joy that comes from reflecting. And remember to be kind to yourself.

Mary
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Published on December 26, 2022 15:01

December 15, 2022

Waiting for the Pod to Arrive

Wishing you a very merry holiday season!

2022 was filled with sad goodbyes and new beginnings. 2023 holds so many wonderful possibilities and I am grateful for the opportunity to share them with you.

Our big move to another state was overall very successful.

Yet like with any big event, there���s always that one bugaboo that can keep things from being perfectly smooth.

By the end of the packing, it was clear some things would not fit on the truck. We agreed to get a Pod and have the remainder shipped separately. Problem solved!

Except that the Pod takes weeks to arrive.

So, here we are in our new home with all our clothes, bookshelves, garage shelves, and most important belongings. Unfortunately, the Pod contains all the clothes hangers and brackets to connect the shelves. Hence, many boxes still need to be unpacked.

It feels discombobulating, especially this time of year.

How good it will feel when all the pieces come together!

This move is like those times when we feel like we���ve done the very best we could, and still, things don���t come together as hoped. It can feel like pieces of us are missing.

In truth, we have all the pieces. We are whole.

If you feel otherwise, let���s spend time together to unearth the hidden Pods in your life and unite the missing pieces.

Let���s start 2023 moving in the right direction.

Mary

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Published on December 15, 2022 14:10

December 11, 2022

In Times of Change, You Need an Anchor

Even the most exciting, planned-for, anticipated transitions are hard.

We have been planning our move from Washington to Nevada for almost a year. Last week, the day finally came. And now, I find myself needing a system for even the simplest tasks.

It will take time. We will adjust. Until then, it���s just plain hard.

Are you starting at something new? A job, relationship, living arrangement? Whatever it is, it impacts anything that was once familiar and requires time and guidance to assimilate and become the new norm.

These transitions can make you feel adrift.

Find an anchor.

In our new house, we know where the coffee, tea, and cups are, regardless of unpacked boxes. We start our day with one consistent action that anchors us in the familiar.

What is your anchor?

Maybe it���s journaling or going for a run. The important thing is that it is something familiar that can keep you feeling in control.

There are a lot of new things coming my way in 2023. Still, I always have time to work with my clients, so if you need an anchor, you can continue to count on me. My calendar is open for coaching calls, hypnotherapy sessions, and psychic readings.

Thank you for being one of the constants in my changing landscape.

Mary

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Published on December 11, 2022 12:39

November 12, 2022

Boundaries are sexy! – Robin Arzon –

The best part about boundaries is that they tell me who my people are and who they are not.

If someone has boundaries that I don���t appreciate, it is a sure sign that they know their limits. How great is that?

It is not my job to like them, only to respect them. If their situation changes and they decide to change their limits great, but until then, that is their limit.

So how sexy are you?

Do you know your limits and stick to them?

When my kids were in youth group, they discussed permeable boundaries. They know their limits and yet remained open to new information and new decisions about their limits.

Here���s how to tell if you have good boundaries:

Do you feel like a martyr or victim?Do you say yes when you should say no?Do you believe that if it weren���t for you, others would fail?

Some of these are the result of past experiences or beliefs. None of them are sexy.

Ready to get sexy?

Ready to set firm boundaries with confidence and follow through?

I am here for you. You can find my calendar availability and boundaries below. Looking forward to talking with you.

Mary

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Published on November 12, 2022 11:07

November 7, 2022

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Personally, I am a Phillies fan. Regardless, I love stories like this.

During the 2020 baseball shutdown, Cristian Javier was playing in a field in the Dominican Republic, to keep building on his skills and never letting his dream fade. COVID provided no excuses.

Today, Cristian Javier is a starting pitcher for the Houston Astros in the World Series!

That���s not because he is young or because he got special assistance, or anything less than a solid dream and tenacity.

He had a vision that aligned with his natural talents and gifts, and he pursued it.

How does your vision align with the real you and your future?

Are you on a path to realizing that future?

Too often, my clients’ dreams are uninspiring, hoping for the best, and settling for feeling safe.

Boring.

A vision is:

BOLD!Speaks to the best parts of youInspires you

I am guessing that two years ago, Cristian Javier didn���t know his dreams would come true so quickly, only that they would.

Regardless of age or situation, what is your vision for the future?

My 90-year-old mother’s vision is to live to be 100, stay in good physical shape, and continue learning new things. It informs what she needs to do every day.

Your vision is critical to your intuition. Once you are focused, your intuition will help you move toward your goals and avoid distractions or pitfalls��� if you listen to it.

Let’s get you focused!

Mary

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Published on November 07, 2022 19:47

October 31, 2022

Details! Details! Details!

My Myers Briggs confirms that details are not my strong suit. I love the big picture, happy to delegate the rest.
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As we prepare to move to Nevada, there is so much planning before, during, and after, from packing and unpacking to finding a doctor to finding a decent hairdresser to signing up for a Nevada driver���s license. (Written test required!) And let���s not forget all the people we want to see before we go.
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Details may not be my strong suit, but it���s important for me to remember that I��can��handle them. I need to stop any mind chatter that says I can���t. It���s more that constant fear of dropping the ball or forgetting something important that nags at the pit of my stomach.
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My thoughts can spiral until I���ve blown everything up into something big that needn���t be.
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Can you relate?
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Here���s my humble strategy:

make a listassign a completion dateand — here���s the big one ��� remember to check ithope for the best

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Honestly, there is nothing on my list that, if not done or not done on time, will end my world as I know it. It may cause inconvenience or a late fee but nothing too acute.
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What���s on your list that is not your strong suit? How do you get around it, especially when you cannot delegate?
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Don���t let your process spiral out of control. Keep the solution simple, and be mindful of the messages you give yourself.
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Happy to be of service if you want to know more.

Mary

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Published on October 31, 2022 12:33

October 24, 2022

Change is in the air!���

Change is coming��in a big way!

We have sold our home of 23 years, a bittersweet celebration. We love our home, but it is too much space for two people ��� time for another young family to enjoy.

As we say goodbye, I am filled with gratitude for what was, what is, and what will be.

Our new house is almost half the size we have grown accustomed to, so it also means saying goodbye to quite a few cherished items. It is a Marie Kondo project all the way! 

The next stop (as of December 1) is Mesquite, NV, on the border of Utah and Arizona, where we will be taking a lot of trips through red rock territory, the place where my soul truly aligns with Spirit.

We will have a new home, a new state, and a new way of being.

What ISN���T changing��is my ability to work with my coaching clients since online sessions are the norm. I am grateful to technology that allows me to spread my wings while remaining accessible.

I remain available if you are thinking about Executive Intuition Coaching or need a psychic reading or hypnotherapy session.

Mary

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Published on October 24, 2022 14:50

October 17, 2022

You must surrender to where you are in order to move forward.

I first heard this idea of surrendering to make progress during a workout.

I could not merely will myself to get to the next level without injury unless I surrendered to my current fitness level. I want to use the 25lb weights yet the 12lb weights are still a challenge.

This is an excellent analogy for so many pursuits. One doesn���t arrive at a happy marriage, magnificent career, and enormous wealth without acknowledging your starting point and incrementally working on it.

There are no shortcuts.

Surrender. Take an honest assessment of where you are starting.Set a goal. Be honest on what���s reasonable in a specific timeframe.Work toward your goal incrementally and at your pace.

It sounds so basic, but in our overachieving culture, it is not where we tend to start. Too often, it���s ���Yes, I can do that,��� followed by panic. That���s when the anxiety and feelings of failure begin to overtake the journey.

Where are you right now? Where do you want to be? What do you need to get there?

Let���s get you there!

Mary

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Published on October 17, 2022 12:27

October 10, 2022

The path to success is not a straight line.

When starting my career, I felt with every promotion that I was indeed on my way up, up, up.

It was a fabulous feeling.

Then the inevitable happened. The path became curved, forked, and at times dipped below where I thought it would lead.

I felt like a failure.

I wasn���t. It was the learning curve, the lesson plan. It was indeed the course of my path.

The best part about these trials was learning what not to do in the future and what pieces I would not change because they are my strengths and cannot be compromised. I learned how to find settings more in alignment with who I am and what I want to become and less about pleasing others for what I thought was success.

Today, I am successful in every way as I continue to learn, grow, and become more of myself as I live into my strengths.

I can help you do the same: less failure, more strengths.

If you want to (re)write the meaning of success in your life, I can help you with a proven strategy based on your vision, values, and strengths.

Let���s get started removing the barriers to your success!

Mary

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Published on October 10, 2022 13:45