Elora Canne's Blog, page 9
April 7, 2022
Your Body is Your Home
How Do You Portray Yourself to the World?Your body is your home. Have you ever wondered what compels you to return home at the end of each day? What draws you into that space? What magnetism attracts you to the energy there?
Whilst I can’t answer on your behalf, here’s what I know from someone who has lived in 2 countries, semi-permanently lived in a third and travelled for a year without a place to call home yet feeling ‘at home’ in each accommodation.
Self-awareness in your space:You are with yourself constantly. How do you perceive yourself? Does that align with how the world sees you? How you wish the world to see you?
I’ve noticed that the things that bring me peace are the very things that define me. They denote that eternal question of ‘Who am I?’ Not in a career or relationship perspective, just me, in my own space and not what the world sees from the outside.
So what are these things that bring me peace, and how do they relate to who I am and how I portray myself to the world?
Sight: Both introspective and visual
It’s taken a long time for me to ‘see’ myself in a positive light. I finally understand that my negative self-talk is harmful.
Externally I have learnt to focus on my positives instead of dwell on the negatives. Because we’re human, I’m not going to try and pretend the negatives don’t exist because it’s my belief that we all struggle with that from time to time and in some way or another - not necessarily in the same way as each other and not only in body image, but personality, accomplishments and the like.
What positives can you highlight about yourself?
Smell:
When I’m feeling stressed, nothing lifts me more than the aroma of my diffuser infusing my space with essential oil of my choice for that particular day.
I used to think that such things were taboo! Can you imagine? Depriving myself of such peace because I didn’t want to be considered esoteric! I’ve come a long way.
Definition of esoteric according to Merriam-Webster definition: of special, rare, or unusual interest
This is me. This is who I am. Why shouldn’t I portray myself to the world as such?
Do you have a special scent that elicits a sense of peace within?
Touch:
Warm bath water. Enough said. No bubbles, no bath salts, no extras. Just luxuriating in a warm bath brings me SO MUCH PEACE. It’s taken a very long time, but my family finally understands that this is my bliss and they are not to disturb me.
What brings you a sense of luxury in contact with your skin?
Taste:
You’ve probably realized by now that I’m going through each of our five senses. Quite simply that is what defines each one of us - every thought, and subsequent action, starts with our senses.
It’s difficult to determine a sense of peace from ‘taste’ and my first instinct was to say coffee because it’s a big love in my life. But I was intrigued by my dinner selection just last night.
I’ve not been well this week with C19 and it just so happens that I’ve spent the week alone as my husband is in iso in a hotel room in a different state from me so I’ve been feeling a little fragile.
Anyway, back to taste. As it turns out I couldn’t stomach a single sip of coffee yesterday! And come dinner time, all I felt like eating was a gem squash - a vegetable only grown in my home country. So that’s what I had and it brought me so much comfort, which, in my opinion, is pretty close to peace.
Do you have a favourite comfort food or non-alcoholic beverage? I hasten to add non-alcoholic because the sensation it brings is not akin to peace.
Sound:
Be it music, nature sounds, silence or guided meditation, what sounds bring you peace? For me, and I’m sure for most, it’s a combination of all of the above.
Depending on the circumstance; except for me it’s never silence, because, well, tinnitus…yeah not fun so I invariably have background music playing or nature sounds. Of course nothing beats the natural sound of birds chirping or leaves rustling in the wind and especially heavy rain falling on the rooftop.
I do love a guided meditation to bring me to a peaceful place as well, and again, it felt taboo for a very long time because of its spiritual connotations! Honestly, I can’t believe how many of us deprive ourselves because we think it is taboo to feel at peace our way.
Which sound best fills your soul with peaceful ambience?
So my question remains, ‘Does the way you portray yourself to the world truly align with who you really are?’
What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
Whilst I can’t answer on your behalf, here’s what I know from someone who has lived in 2 countries, semi-permanently lived in a third and travelled for a year without a place to call home yet feeling ‘at home’ in each accommodation.
Self-awareness in your space:You are with yourself constantly. How do you perceive yourself? Does that align with how the world sees you? How you wish the world to see you?
I’ve noticed that the things that bring me peace are the very things that define me. They denote that eternal question of ‘Who am I?’ Not in a career or relationship perspective, just me, in my own space and not what the world sees from the outside.
So what are these things that bring me peace, and how do they relate to who I am and how I portray myself to the world?
Sight: Both introspective and visual
It’s taken a long time for me to ‘see’ myself in a positive light. I finally understand that my negative self-talk is harmful.
Externally I have learnt to focus on my positives instead of dwell on the negatives. Because we’re human, I’m not going to try and pretend the negatives don’t exist because it’s my belief that we all struggle with that from time to time and in some way or another - not necessarily in the same way as each other and not only in body image, but personality, accomplishments and the like.
What positives can you highlight about yourself?
Smell:
When I’m feeling stressed, nothing lifts me more than the aroma of my diffuser infusing my space with essential oil of my choice for that particular day.
I used to think that such things were taboo! Can you imagine? Depriving myself of such peace because I didn’t want to be considered esoteric! I’ve come a long way.
Definition of esoteric according to Merriam-Webster definition: of special, rare, or unusual interest
This is me. This is who I am. Why shouldn’t I portray myself to the world as such?
Do you have a special scent that elicits a sense of peace within?
Touch:
Warm bath water. Enough said. No bubbles, no bath salts, no extras. Just luxuriating in a warm bath brings me SO MUCH PEACE. It’s taken a very long time, but my family finally understands that this is my bliss and they are not to disturb me.
What brings you a sense of luxury in contact with your skin?
Taste:
You’ve probably realized by now that I’m going through each of our five senses. Quite simply that is what defines each one of us - every thought, and subsequent action, starts with our senses.
It’s difficult to determine a sense of peace from ‘taste’ and my first instinct was to say coffee because it’s a big love in my life. But I was intrigued by my dinner selection just last night.
I’ve not been well this week with C19 and it just so happens that I’ve spent the week alone as my husband is in iso in a hotel room in a different state from me so I’ve been feeling a little fragile.
Anyway, back to taste. As it turns out I couldn’t stomach a single sip of coffee yesterday! And come dinner time, all I felt like eating was a gem squash - a vegetable only grown in my home country. So that’s what I had and it brought me so much comfort, which, in my opinion, is pretty close to peace.
Do you have a favourite comfort food or non-alcoholic beverage? I hasten to add non-alcoholic because the sensation it brings is not akin to peace.
Sound:
Be it music, nature sounds, silence or guided meditation, what sounds bring you peace? For me, and I’m sure for most, it’s a combination of all of the above.
Depending on the circumstance; except for me it’s never silence, because, well, tinnitus…yeah not fun so I invariably have background music playing or nature sounds. Of course nothing beats the natural sound of birds chirping or leaves rustling in the wind and especially heavy rain falling on the rooftop.
I do love a guided meditation to bring me to a peaceful place as well, and again, it felt taboo for a very long time because of its spiritual connotations! Honestly, I can’t believe how many of us deprive ourselves because we think it is taboo to feel at peace our way.
Which sound best fills your soul with peaceful ambience?
So my question remains, ‘Does the way you portray yourself to the world truly align with who you really are?’
What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
March 31, 2022
Friday Favourites
Yours Choices Reflect Your Personality
Happy by Turia Pitt
My favourite book has recently changed, as in this week kind of recently. Reason being, it created the tiniest of pivot’s in my thinking that has turned my outlook upside down and right way up with such an improved view on life!
Available here (I am in no way affiliated)
I used to always name, ‘Expecting Adam’ as my favourite book because it too, turned my viewpoint right around, so it kind of scaffolded me to my current favourite. ‘Expecting Adam’ had been my fave for decades and I’ve read a lot more of Martha Beck’s books which I also loved.
Available here (Not affiliated)
Pay it Forward movie
The takeaway message for me has always been that “people are too scared to try.” This has catapulted me forwards on so many occasions! But beware, if you do watch it, it is a tearjerker.
Separate Bathrooms Podcast
I only discovered this podcast late last year. It covers all aspects of relationships in a real and relatable way. Intimate, emotional, funny and realistic, it has something for everyone.
Listen to it here
Mantra
This is also a recent discovery. In a conversation with my sister, she posed the question, “What would love do?” So after our conversation I thought about it and felt it to be a bit vague, so I dug deeper. ‘What would love say?’ came to mind as something more tangible that I could put into effect. Next time you feel annoyed with your partner, consider this mantra before letting lose on a flurry of colourful words.
Now your turn:
📗 It could be a book or genre. 🎥 Movie or series.🎙 Podcast,YouTube or Clubhouse room or even a song.🗣 Mantra, quote, question or affirmation.
It’s important to have positive things that we use each of our senses for to elicit different responses in various situations. That way we always have something positive to fallback on, no matter the situation.
Remember to comment your selections below, you might inspire someone else with your choices or even BE inspired by someone else’s choices. And remember to subscribe for more motivational posts like this.
For more resources, some of which are free, click this link: Resources for you
What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
Happy by Turia Pitt
My favourite book has recently changed, as in this week kind of recently. Reason being, it created the tiniest of pivot’s in my thinking that has turned my outlook upside down and right way up with such an improved view on life!
Available here (I am in no way affiliated)
I used to always name, ‘Expecting Adam’ as my favourite book because it too, turned my viewpoint right around, so it kind of scaffolded me to my current favourite. ‘Expecting Adam’ had been my fave for decades and I’ve read a lot more of Martha Beck’s books which I also loved.
Available here (Not affiliated)
Pay it Forward movie
The takeaway message for me has always been that “people are too scared to try.” This has catapulted me forwards on so many occasions! But beware, if you do watch it, it is a tearjerker.
Separate Bathrooms Podcast
I only discovered this podcast late last year. It covers all aspects of relationships in a real and relatable way. Intimate, emotional, funny and realistic, it has something for everyone.
Listen to it here
Mantra
This is also a recent discovery. In a conversation with my sister, she posed the question, “What would love do?” So after our conversation I thought about it and felt it to be a bit vague, so I dug deeper. ‘What would love say?’ came to mind as something more tangible that I could put into effect. Next time you feel annoyed with your partner, consider this mantra before letting lose on a flurry of colourful words.
Now your turn:
📗 It could be a book or genre. 🎥 Movie or series.🎙 Podcast,YouTube or Clubhouse room or even a song.🗣 Mantra, quote, question or affirmation.
It’s important to have positive things that we use each of our senses for to elicit different responses in various situations. That way we always have something positive to fallback on, no matter the situation.
Remember to comment your selections below, you might inspire someone else with your choices or even BE inspired by someone else’s choices. And remember to subscribe for more motivational posts like this.
For more resources, some of which are free, click this link: Resources for you
What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
March 24, 2022
The Nature of Relationships
Let's Dig In
https://unsplash.com/@eliomendesMy cat is a very typical one and does things that are typically, well, cat-like. Her most annoying cat-like characteristic is to wake up at 4am, most days, on other days it's more like 2am!
This particular morning I considered myself lucky, I got an extra 20 minutes of sleep in, as the meowy alarm only went off at 4.20am! Success, kind of.
Wednesday's are walking group days for me, but on the Wednesday in question, I was without a car at home for various reasons of family travel or work or whatever. Since I'd had hours of pre-dawn reading time (which is my very favourite thing to do, so kitty is all forgiven anyway), I got particularly comfortable in bed with my book, my steaming mug of coffee and no-one in the house to disturb me. Bliss! Even kitty had gone back to sleep since her tummy was now full.
By 6.30am I remembered my resolve to go to my walking group regardless of not having a car. It's only 2.5km away to the meeting point and it is a walking group after all, you know? Reluctantly I closed my book, savoured my last sip of coffee and dragged on my walking clothes. Walking is good for you. Or so I kept telling myself.
Fast forward to the very LAST 5 minutes of my walk with the group, and I had paired up with an older lady just before I branched off to walk the 2.5km back home. People!
This was the reason for my walk today.
It happened to be her Birthday that day (no I didn't ask her age because that's just rude, right?), so I asked her what her plans for the day were, to celebrate. She told me about her favourite Black Forest Cake from the best bakery in town, and the meal of prawns her husband was going to cook for her with a candlit dinner on their best china - her words.
Stay with me here, it gets so much better that this.
This dear lady, well near 80 years of age, continued to tell me that EVERY. SINGLE. SATURDAY of their lives, she cooks a special dinner for the two of them and serves it on their best china with candles lit on the table. PEOPLE!!!
This literally stopped me in my tracks. I placed my hand on my heart and exclaimed that that was the most romantic thing I had ever heard. She went on to add that it is important for their relationship to make something special out of ordinary occasions.
Goosebumps.
I want to make it very clear here that she has no idea that I am an author of all things relationships. I don't feel the need to bring that into my walking group because it's a separate interest - at least I thought it was until now, BUT I STILL DIDN'T TELL HER - this was her moment, not mine.
So yes! Walking is good for you, in so very many ways. Not only for our health but for our social connection as well. It would have been so easy for me to stay snuggled up in bed with my book and a third, I mean, second mug of coffee, but WOW am I glad I listened to my intuition. I would have missed that absolute gem of information from a couple who know how to make a relationship. Period.
Dear readers, please go and get the special dinner service and candles out of the cupboard and put them on the table. Even if you're having pizza/macaroni and cheese/salad/sausages - I don't care what it is, just serve it on your best china. Please.
That is all.
https://unsplash.com/@montatipBONUS pics of kitty in question: Maisie Moonlight
Now for the million dollar question: Since you’ve read this far down, you get to weigh in…
😸 Cat person?🐶 Dog person?😸🐶 Or both?
Let me know in the comments and post a pic of your pet and your special dinner - hopefully not in the same pic LOL!
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March 17, 2022
How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship
Healthier and Happier Together3 Best Tips for a Healthy Relationship
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You wake up in the same bed every morning (or the spare bed if the snoring is unbearable, am I right?), eat the same cereal for breakfast every morning and drag yourself to work either home-office or workplace and wonder to yourself, "Is this It?"
No, I can attest that 'this is not it'.
This is how I know:
If we want things to change, we have to BE the changeNow this doesn't mean that all the relationship work is up to you, it simply means that if you are the one who wants things to be different, you have to be the one to do things differently.
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- Scent from a diffuser, candle, baking or simple air freshener is known to activate memories, just make sure they're happy ones.
- Sensory input such as warm or glowing lighting, softens the harshness of bright aggravating lights: candles, lamps, salt lamps are all gentle lighting options.
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Freshen your outlook to freshen your partner's outlook.When we see the world with new eyes we see each other with new eyes too. - Change the linen - towels, tablecloths, bedding, even the kitchen towels if you want to start small.
- Open the windows, blinds, curtains to let some fresh air and natural light in.
- Buy some fresh flowers or pick some fresh herbs for a jug on the kitchen windowsill.
There are a myriad different small touches we can do that make a BIG difference in our daily lives.It takes effort yes, but the results of a happier and healthier relationship are so worthwhile.
https://unsplash.com/@jeremybanksYou wake up in the same bed every morning (or the spare bed if the snoring is unbearable, am I right?), eat the same cereal for breakfast every morning and drag yourself to work either home-office or workplace and wonder to yourself, "Is this It?"
No, I can attest that 'this is not it'.
This is how I know:
If we want things to change, we have to BE the changeNow this doesn't mean that all the relationship work is up to you, it simply means that if you are the one who wants things to be different, you have to be the one to do things differently.
- Shake routines up a little, maybe cook a tasty breakfast to have together on a weekday
- Bring your partner a fruit and dip snack for morning tea if you both work from home
- Pack them a home baked (or store bought) muffin to take to work if they're in the office
Notice the surprise in their eyes when you appear in front of them with something different to enjoy.
Notice the pleasure in the small smile when they thank you for the spoils.
Notice the warm fuzzy feeling you get, knowing you've made your partner a little happier.
https://unsplash.com/@sjcbrn
- Scent from a diffuser, candle, baking or simple air freshener is known to activate memories, just make sure they're happy ones.
- Sensory input such as warm or glowing lighting, softens the harshness of bright aggravating lights: candles, lamps, salt lamps are all gentle lighting options.
https://unsplash.com/@manuelmeurisseFreshen your outlook to freshen your partner's outlook.When we see the world with new eyes we see each other with new eyes too. - Change the linen - towels, tablecloths, bedding, even the kitchen towels if you want to start small.
- Open the windows, blinds, curtains to let some fresh air and natural light in.
- Buy some fresh flowers or pick some fresh herbs for a jug on the kitchen windowsill.
There are a myriad different small touches we can do that make a BIG difference in our daily lives.It takes effort yes, but the results of a happier and healthier relationship are so worthwhile.
Share your ideas with me in the comments and let me know what changes you have made in your daily life, or which of the above ideas you might try.
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What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.March 10, 2022
It's Time to Celebrate YOU!
Because It's All About You
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Thank you for your patience while my book launch was happening.Now it’s time to celebrate YOU!
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https://unsplash.com/@adaliabothaThank you for your patience while my book launch was happening.Now it’s time to celebrate YOU!
I want to know what you've been up to. I've been so embroiled in the details of launching that I lost sight of the world around me. So much so that I took a little digi-detox time for reflection.
Now I want to know a little more about you. You know enough about me and my life.
What accomplishment are you most proud of? What goal have you set out to achieve this month? What characteristic do you LOVE about yourself? If you're not comfortable with that, then ask someone else to describe a characteristic they love about you; or reflect on your general characteristics in a journal or note-taking app.
https://unsplash.com/@itsmiki5If you need a little help settling on a characteristic you love about yourself, I've included this article to help you: Characteristics list
What I discovered on my mini digi-detox is that everything begins with ourselves. And when we are comfortable with who we see in the mirror, we are comfortable with the world around us. Then we can take a deep sigh of relief because, once we're comfortable with our reflection, both physically and emotionally, we need no longer fear rejection.
Have a great weekend and I look SO forward to reading your reflections in the comments.
March 3, 2022
Real Relationship Tips that Work!
5 Tips for a Loving Relationship
5 Tips for a Loving Relationship
Often we know what we're supposed to do to make our relationship work, but we don't know how.
In the video link above, I've outlined some really easy tips you can do today to make a positive difference in your relationship.
The video is just 45 seconds long, so in no time at all you'll have the relationship tricks that you need for a loving partnership, right at your fingertips. Or if you'd prefer to read the notes, click Real Relationship Tips that Work.
For a lighthearted look at positive ways to impact your relationships, I'll be offering my dating diaries eBook for free for a few days from 6 March 2022. It's a quick read that you can enjoy together, as a couple, or by yourself if you're looking for ways to improve your relationship dynamics.
Here's the link, but remember it's only free for a few days from 6 March 2022: Creating Sparks that Last eBook
The time zones are a little tricky to navigate; the offer begins at 7pm AEDT which is Amazon's prerequisite of midnight PST. I'd recommend a quick Google of Pacific Standard Time to your time zone if need be.
Creating Sparks that Last
As always, there are a multitude of resources to help enhance your relationship at the links below:
💝 I have a 12 month Dating Ideas giveaway for you;💕 Plus a Date Night In playlist of songs for your romantic date night, in the comfort of your own home.
Date Year Ideas (No email or subscription required)
Date Night In Playlist - give it a 'like' on Spotify so others can benefit from listening too.
Finally I have some really BIG NEWS to share.
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I spent 10 years of blood, sweat and tears pumping my memoir out. It was tough getting all my emotions out of my head and onto paper/screen.
I feel it's a worthwhile adventure to share, not only as an entertaining travel memoir, but as a thought-provoking self-development manifest as well. It's about living with no regrets, speaking your truth and finding hope that the best is yet to be - that there are even better things to come. Better than you could ever have imagined for yourself!
Click the link here: EN ROUTE: The Best Is Yet To Be for your FREE copy!
Also just for a few days from 6 March 2022; also from 7pm AEDT as per Amazon's requirements.
That 's a whole lot of free goodies for you to live the life you long for! If you feel so inclined, I would appreciate a share or review of any of the items that you have chosen to download and I look SO forward to your feedback.
EN ROUTE: The Best Is Yet To Be
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5 Tips for a Loving Relationship
Often we know what we're supposed to do to make our relationship work, but we don't know how.
In the video link above, I've outlined some really easy tips you can do today to make a positive difference in your relationship.
The video is just 45 seconds long, so in no time at all you'll have the relationship tricks that you need for a loving partnership, right at your fingertips. Or if you'd prefer to read the notes, click Real Relationship Tips that Work.
For a lighthearted look at positive ways to impact your relationships, I'll be offering my dating diaries eBook for free for a few days from 6 March 2022. It's a quick read that you can enjoy together, as a couple, or by yourself if you're looking for ways to improve your relationship dynamics.
Here's the link, but remember it's only free for a few days from 6 March 2022: Creating Sparks that Last eBook
The time zones are a little tricky to navigate; the offer begins at 7pm AEDT which is Amazon's prerequisite of midnight PST. I'd recommend a quick Google of Pacific Standard Time to your time zone if need be.
Creating Sparks that LastAs always, there are a multitude of resources to help enhance your relationship at the links below:
💝 I have a 12 month Dating Ideas giveaway for you;💕 Plus a Date Night In playlist of songs for your romantic date night, in the comfort of your own home.
Date Year Ideas (No email or subscription required)
Date Night In Playlist - give it a 'like' on Spotify so others can benefit from listening too.
Finally I have some really BIG NEWS to share.
https://unsplash.com/@anthonydelanoixI spent 10 years of blood, sweat and tears pumping my memoir out. It was tough getting all my emotions out of my head and onto paper/screen.
I feel it's a worthwhile adventure to share, not only as an entertaining travel memoir, but as a thought-provoking self-development manifest as well. It's about living with no regrets, speaking your truth and finding hope that the best is yet to be - that there are even better things to come. Better than you could ever have imagined for yourself!
Click the link here: EN ROUTE: The Best Is Yet To Be for your FREE copy!
Also just for a few days from 6 March 2022; also from 7pm AEDT as per Amazon's requirements.
That 's a whole lot of free goodies for you to live the life you long for! If you feel so inclined, I would appreciate a share or review of any of the items that you have chosen to download and I look SO forward to your feedback.
Live the life you long for!
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February 24, 2022
How Well do You Know Yourself?
Nobody Perceives You the Way You Perceive Yourself
Frida Kahlo
Cover image from the book;Frida Kahlo's Garden
~ Last snippet of information (sorry, I am just so fascinated with her perceptions): If you look closely at the image above, you will see that she has transformed both thistle and zinnia flowers into flying insects, closely resembling either dragonfly or butterfly - although I am not an artistic creative, I do love how she blends her love of nature and the natural, into her paintings.
Image credit: https://www.radicalteatowel.com
Further research into our relationship with ourselves, led me to explore the work of Virginia Woolf. Although I was surprised to discover that she, like Frida Kahlo, was also a painter of light and dark, it was her written work that drew me to reflect on her stance regarding self-knowledge and how that transferred into her relationships. She, like Frida Kahlo, experimented with bisexuality.
Woolf often employed the painterly technique of chiaroscuro, the use of strong contrasts between light and dark. Quoted from AnOther Magazine here: Virginia Woolf
The longevity of Woolf's writing is as inspirational today as it was long ago. Her insight into our emotions, feelings and thought processes shows a complex understanding of human nature. - Gina Wisker.
In her book, To the Lighthouse, Woolf explores the ramifications of people influencing each other and attempting to understand each other. Again, in similarity to Frida, Woolf draws her conclusions from nature, describing the differences between the logical brain and the intuitive. She decides that, although the flowers are real, they are also symbolic - their colours represent the different ways in which Mr and Mrs Ramsay appreciate life itself. To him they are simply categorisable by colour, while she feels involved and warm towards them. - Adapted from Virginia Woolf A Beginner's Guide by Gina Wisker. This leads to her astute understanding that we make different assessments of self and others based on individual thoughts. So, once again, the deeper we know ourselves the greater our freedom of expression, confirming my belief that nobody perceives you the way you perceive yourself.
The Fifth Agreementby Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz
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Herein lies my greatest study in the knowing of myself. I simply am who I am and that is okay. Better than okay. It is my greatest achievement.
The book is way too full of wisdom for me to be able to paraphrase all of it, but here is the crux of self-study: Ruiz is imploring us to use our imagination and imagine we are seeing ourselves on a movie screen - Now you can see the way your beloved perceives you, and the character is completely different from the one who was in your movie. You can see the way your beloved wants to project him- or herself, and it's not the way you perceive your beloved at all.
The self-mastery in The Fifth Agreement is worth exploring further
I am not affiliated with any of these authors, books or publishers, in fact, they were recommended to me by friends who share the same curiosity as me.
So, my question is, how well do you know yourself? I mean deeply. Not just your likes and dislikes, but the way and the why of your reactions, triggers and self-embodiment?
Take a good hard look in the mirrorand let me know what you find.
Suggested further reading on the discovery of self:
En Route: The best is yet to be
Creating Sparks that Last
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Frida Kahlo
Cover image from the book;Frida Kahlo's GardenI am the person I know best.
Quote from Frida Kahlo regarding her self portraits.
I have been fascinated by Frida Kahlo's expression of self for many years. Her use of light and shadow in her creativity depicts, closely, her awareness of shadow and brightness in herself. Light and shadow that each of us have. The quote above is preceded by deeper reflection: I paint self-portraits because I am so often alone, because I am the person I know best.
For me, alone time has always been paramount to me thriving in a noisy, busy world. Alone but not lonely, which I think is what tormented Frida somewhat. That opinion is my own based on the fact that she divorced her husband, Diego Rivera and ended her longtime affair with photographer Nickolas Muray in the same year. Anyway, this is not a study on Frida Kahlo, merely a reflection of how well she knew herself and how that led to her owning exactly who she was. (Incidentally she re-married Diego Rivera some time later).~ Last snippet of information (sorry, I am just so fascinated with her perceptions): If you look closely at the image above, you will see that she has transformed both thistle and zinnia flowers into flying insects, closely resembling either dragonfly or butterfly - although I am not an artistic creative, I do love how she blends her love of nature and the natural, into her paintings.
Virginia Woolf
Image credit: https://www.radicalteatowel.comFurther research into our relationship with ourselves, led me to explore the work of Virginia Woolf. Although I was surprised to discover that she, like Frida Kahlo, was also a painter of light and dark, it was her written work that drew me to reflect on her stance regarding self-knowledge and how that transferred into her relationships. She, like Frida Kahlo, experimented with bisexuality.
Woolf often employed the painterly technique of chiaroscuro, the use of strong contrasts between light and dark. Quoted from AnOther Magazine here: Virginia Woolf
It appears to me that those who delve deep into knowing themselves have greater freedom in expressing themselves and living their life on their terms.
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The longevity of Woolf's writing is as inspirational today as it was long ago. Her insight into our emotions, feelings and thought processes shows a complex understanding of human nature. - Gina Wisker.
In her book, To the Lighthouse, Woolf explores the ramifications of people influencing each other and attempting to understand each other. Again, in similarity to Frida, Woolf draws her conclusions from nature, describing the differences between the logical brain and the intuitive. She decides that, although the flowers are real, they are also symbolic - their colours represent the different ways in which Mr and Mrs Ramsay appreciate life itself. To him they are simply categorisable by colour, while she feels involved and warm towards them. - Adapted from Virginia Woolf A Beginner's Guide by Gina Wisker. This leads to her astute understanding that we make different assessments of self and others based on individual thoughts. So, once again, the deeper we know ourselves the greater our freedom of expression, confirming my belief that nobody perceives you the way you perceive yourself.
The Fifth Agreementby Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz
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Herein lies my greatest study in the knowing of myself. I simply am who I am and that is okay. Better than okay. It is my greatest achievement.
The book is way too full of wisdom for me to be able to paraphrase all of it, but here is the crux of self-study: Ruiz is imploring us to use our imagination and imagine we are seeing ourselves on a movie screen - Now you can see the way your beloved perceives you, and the character is completely different from the one who was in your movie. You can see the way your beloved wants to project him- or herself, and it's not the way you perceive your beloved at all.
The self-mastery in The Fifth Agreement is worth exploring further
I am not affiliated with any of these authors, books or publishers, in fact, they were recommended to me by friends who share the same curiosity as me.
So, my question is, how well do you know yourself? I mean deeply. Not just your likes and dislikes, but the way and the why of your reactions, triggers and self-embodiment?
Take a good hard look in the mirrorand let me know what you find.
It's time to go forwards and discover your true self.Elora Canne
Suggested further reading on the discovery of self:
En Route: The best is yet to be
Creating Sparks that Last
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February 17, 2022
How Do Relationships Shape Us?
How Do They Shape Our Identity?
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I’ve been thinking long and hard about this question over the years. I mean, change is inevitable, but how much of that change is influenced by our partners?
How much of our core self remains untouched?
Do you know?
Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? 20 Years ago? No, of course you aren’t, because growth changes our perspective of everything.
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So how do you maintain the you whom you have crafted so hard to forge, while evolving with adaptations to reality? There are 6 questions below that will help you find the answer.
Examining your morals and ethics goes a long way to observing the person within that you want to portray to the world.
To help keep your identity intact within the framework of a relationship, I’ve created a fun, anonymous survey that’ll help you define your beliefs. No email required!
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It’s a blend of thoughtful, deep questions and fun, cheeky ones. Enjoy and if you have any feedback, I would love to know.
Here’s your survey: How Do Relationships Shape Us:
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There's a whole lot of different ways to develop the quality of your relationship. You'll find some great ideas here: Growing better together
What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
https://unsplash.com/@sagefriedmanI’ve been thinking long and hard about this question over the years. I mean, change is inevitable, but how much of that change is influenced by our partners?
How much of our core self remains untouched?
Do you know?
Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? 20 Years ago? No, of course you aren’t, because growth changes our perspective of everything.
https://unsplash.com/@anthonytoriSo how do you maintain the you whom you have crafted so hard to forge, while evolving with adaptations to reality? There are 6 questions below that will help you find the answer.
Examining your morals and ethics goes a long way to observing the person within that you want to portray to the world.
To help keep your identity intact within the framework of a relationship, I’ve created a fun, anonymous survey that’ll help you define your beliefs. No email required!
caleb-george-VL9ugqp_mko-unsplashIt’s a blend of thoughtful, deep questions and fun, cheeky ones. Enjoy and if you have any feedback, I would love to know.
Here’s your survey: How Do Relationships Shape Us:
https://unsplash.com/@joshuaearleThere's a whole lot of different ways to develop the quality of your relationship. You'll find some great ideas here: Growing better together
What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
February 11, 2022
When Inspiration Hits
Walk Your Talk
I was recently interviewed by the talented fantasy fiction author, Ash Oldfield, who released The Rachaya Series second edition this week! Talk about the dragon within!
What follows is the transcript of highlights from our interview with the full interview at the link below:
Q: What is your schedule like when you’re writing a book?
A: I’m an early bird, it’s when I do my best work. But I’m also a spontaneous note scribbler when inspiration hits.
Q: What advice would you give to a writer working on their first book?
A: Just write everything down. Don’t stop.
To read more of Elora Canne's interview go to www.asholdfield.com or follow the interview link below:
EN ROUTEThe Best Is Yet To Be
Be your own Valentine, buy the gift of self-love for YOU at this link.What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
I was recently interviewed by the talented fantasy fiction author, Ash Oldfield, who released The Rachaya Series second edition this week! Talk about the dragon within!
What follows is the transcript of highlights from our interview with the full interview at the link below:
~ Elora Canne has written two children’s books and, more recently, her memoir, EN ROUTE: The Best Is Yet To Be.
As a retired Childcare Educator of 20+ years, having so much free time was just what she needed to put pen to paper. Her memoir spans a period of roughly 10 years, including her inward and outward travels as a midlife gap year helped her handle her internal struggles and re-ignite her decades-long marriage.
Q: What is your schedule like when you’re writing a book?
A: I’m an early bird, it’s when I do my best work. But I’m also a spontaneous note scribbler when inspiration hits.
Q: What advice would you give to a writer working on their first book?
A: Just write everything down. Don’t stop.
To read more of Elora Canne's interview go to www.asholdfield.com or follow the interview link below:
https://www.asholdfield.com/2022/02/author-interview-elora- canne.html
EN ROUTEThe Best Is Yet To Be
Be your own Valentine, buy the gift of self-love for YOU at this link.What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
January 31, 2022
Bursting Ping Pong Balls
Are You Sitting Down?I interrupt your week with this early edition of the blog so you can share in my excitement with me!
After 10 years from idea to implementation, my memoir is finally here!
I am bursting ping pong balls of joy and fear at the thought of bearing my life in the pages of a book for ALL the world to read.
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But, my message is one of finding inner-strength so I had to practice what I preach as it were, and put myself out there.
Direct link: EN ROUTE: The Best Is Yet To Be - eBook 📲
Direct link: EN ROUTE: The Best Is Yet To Be - Paperback 📚
In a unique blend of inner and outward travel I have combined my personal growth with that of a year-long trip around the world. So let's unravel the complexities of human nature together, while taking in the grandeur of the natural world.
Click this link for video footage: Travel with me as we explore who we are and how we fit into the world.
I am both petrified and excited to hear what you thought of my memoir. Let me know in the comments - please be kind 🙏 - just kidding 🤣 Honest reviews are ALWAYS welcome.
To celebrate the release of my memoir, I am offering my dating diaries, Creating Sparks that Last, for free for the next 24 hours only. It's just in time for you to plan Valentine's Day and will take only an hour or two to read.
Available at the link: Creating Sparks that Last
What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
After 10 years from idea to implementation, my memoir is finally here!
I am bursting ping pong balls of joy and fear at the thought of bearing my life in the pages of a book for ALL the world to read.
Instagram @elora_canne
But, my message is one of finding inner-strength so I had to practice what I preach as it were, and put myself out there.
Direct link: EN ROUTE: The Best Is Yet To Be - eBook 📲
Direct link: EN ROUTE: The Best Is Yet To Be - Paperback 📚
In a unique blend of inner and outward travel I have combined my personal growth with that of a year-long trip around the world. So let's unravel the complexities of human nature together, while taking in the grandeur of the natural world.
Click this link for video footage: Travel with me as we explore who we are and how we fit into the world.
I am both petrified and excited to hear what you thought of my memoir. Let me know in the comments - please be kind 🙏 - just kidding 🤣 Honest reviews are ALWAYS welcome.
To celebrate the release of my memoir, I am offering my dating diaries, Creating Sparks that Last, for free for the next 24 hours only. It's just in time for you to plan Valentine's Day and will take only an hour or two to read.
Available at the link: Creating Sparks that Last
Through new experiences Do we learn new traits About ourselves and those we love
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I'll see you next week; until then, have a fabulous February 💕
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