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September 17, 2021
Want to Thrive in Your Relationship?
As I see it, a relationship should evolve with experience and maturity just as our preferences in foods and beverages do. Elora Canne: En Route memoir
To explain the quote above, we'll start with loving ice cream and later, with a more health conscious awareness, we turn to frozen yoghurt as a delicious alternative.
As age creeps up and with it a broader perspective, green smoothies become the next best thing to improve our health and meet our flavour needs.
Then time wears on and we try an even healthier option – say kombucha – as our bodies begin the journey into our wisdom years.
Let's Thrive on our Relationship Journey
By and by we realize there really is no magic elixir to prevent life and relationship mishaps, but most importantly of all, the realization hits that all of these beverages we’ve enjoyed along our relationship journey have one thing in common – they have been primarily mixed with water.
Bland, tasteless, colorless water.
And that is exactly what our relationships are made of too.
🚰 You have to see the flavorless banality as part of your togetherness if you’re going to make a go of loving this soul you have chosen to be your life partner.
🍦 It can’t only be about rich and creamy ice cream or flavorsome kombucha.
👥 No, you and your partner are both human beings designed to experience the whole gamut of life and its emotions; and essentially the majority of the being that you are, is made up of that boring yet life-giving water.
🧊 Love that stuff in you, your partner and your life because your very life and love depend on it!
📜 In the following article, you'll find actual steps to take to start improving your relationship today: Bring your relationship back from the brink
What’s new on the blog?
Guest bloggers for the month of October! They'll be sharing their relationship expertise with us.
I have an exciting line-up of articles which I’ll share in next week's blog post.
I’m excited to read some new perspectives on relationships, whether intimate, platonic or self-love.
Talking of fresh perspectives, my book is shaping the lives of many couples for the better. You should give it a go too. Your relationship will thrive! Grab it at the link: Creating Sparks That Last
If you're looking to set the mood while you read Creating Sparks That Last with your love, I have the perfect love songs playlist for you: Date Night In
As always, I'd love to get involved in a conversation about different ways to sharpen our relationships so drop a comment below and let's start a conversation.
September 16, 2021
Want to Thrive in Your Relationship?
As I see it, a relationship should evolve with experience and maturity just as our preferences in foods and beverages do. Elora Canne: En Route memoir
To explain the quote above, we'll start with loving ice cream and later, with a more health conscious awareness, we turn to frozen yoghurt as a delicious alternative.
As age creeps up and with it a broader perspective, green smoothies become the next best thing to improve our health and meet our flavour needs.
Then time wears on and we try an even healthier option – say kombucha – as our bodies begin the journey into our wisdom years.
https://unsplash.com/@noellejleeLet's Thrive on our Relationship Journey
By and by we realize there really is no magic elixir to prevent life and relationship mishaps, but most importantly of all, the realization hits that all of these beverages we’ve enjoyed along our relationship journey have one thing in common – they have been primarily mixed with water.
Bland, tasteless, colorless water.
And that is exactly what our relationships are made of too.
🚰 You have to see the flavorless banality as part of your togetherness if you’re going to make a go of loving this soul you have chosen to be your life partner.
🍦 It can’t only be about rich and creamy ice cream or flavorsome kombucha.
👥 No, you and your partner are both human beings designed to experience the whole gamut of life and its emotions; and essentially the majority of the being that you are, is made up of that boring yet life-giving water.
🧊 Love that stuff in you, your partner and your life because your very life and love depend on it!
📜 In the following article, you'll find actual steps to take to start improving your relationship today: Bring your relationship back from the brink
Guest bloggers for the month of October! They'll be sharing their relationship expertise with us.
I have an exciting line-up of articles which I’ll share in next week's blog post.
I’m excited to read some new perspectives on relationships, whether intimate, platonic or self-love.
Talking of fresh perspectives, my book is shaping the lives of many couples for the better. You should give it a go too. Your relationship will thrive! Grab it at the link: Creating Sparks That Last
https://unsplash.com/@woodwatchIf you're looking to set the mood while you read Creating Sparks That Last with your love, I have the perfect love songs playlist for you: Date Night In
As always, I'd love to get involved in a conversation about different ways to sharpen our relationships so drop a comment below and let's start a conversation.
What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.September 9, 2021
The Kind of Life You Want
https://unsplash.com/@jennymarvinCommitting to a life-long marriage through difficult times takes a lot of courage. I had to define for myself the kind of life I wanted. Was I willing to forgo some of my identity to take on the characteristics of a partner who, just 30 years ago, was a complete stranger to me? Had I really got to know him at all? In this life that we share, how deeply had we truly got to know each other?
Not so deeply at all, I was to learn. In spite of the many epiphanies through our year-long travel escapade, what we did on a daily basis in the humdrum of a nine to five lifestyle eroded the lessons learnt and the coping mechanisms we had adopted. Outwardly we have a wonderfully marvelous life, yet our invisible introspection, unseen by those around us, slowly dims the light in both of our eyes. Old habits took over as we forgot to create special moments together. Our lives became mechanical.
Learning to redefine the meaning of love after 30 years means learning to redefine boundaries that no longer have any meaning. Boundaries that were significant to a 17- and 22-year-old couple madly in love are worlds apart from the boundaries of a 50- and 55-year-old couple at odds with each other’s idea of mid-life contentment. Finding a compromise that makes both partners happy is ongoing if you are to make a permanent home together.
https://unsplash.com/@laurenraderphoto The outcome depends largely on how much you are prepared to give of yourself to make another human being happy whilst maintaining your own happiness.
It does not mean, however, that you have to throw in the proverbial towel on your relationship. It just means you have to work together to find your way back to a common path that will lead you side-by-side to an ever-evolving landscape of sharing and cherishing each other’s dreams and strengths. My head swirls sometimes with the thought that it is up to me to make a difference, but really, it is not. That is another altruistic untruth I had to uncover – if we want something to change, we have to change ourselves first. It is only up to me to make a difference if I am the only one wanting things to be different, but if the feeling is mutual, then both parties need to make the effort.
And so, after 31 years of marriage (at the time of writing), we found ourselves living with the awkwardness of new partners rediscovering a set of guidelines to live by in which we could both flourish. We share platitudes like ‘How are you, How did you sleep, and How was your day?’ These are mindless banalities like ‘What would you like for breakfast?’ or ‘What would you like to do today?’
https://unsplash.com/@maierfotoConversely, ‘How are you?’ is completely different to ‘How do you feel?’ I’m not saying that we should rely on each other to make ourselves happy. Quite the opposite. I am happy and content to be a loner within the walls of marriage, but James would like to share more time together. Was I going to choose to love myself with complete self-indulgence or was I going to compromise and find ways in which I could both indulge in my own space and share in his preferences as well?
After sharing our youth and middle-age together, I certainly didn’t want old patterns to re-emerge in a never-ending loop, so we had to find ways to renew our interest in each other without the distraction of worldly travels and work to blur the layers of love and companionship.
We had to learn new ways of connecting in a new era instead of going full circle and repeating past mistakes. That’s not to say we wouldn’t make new mistakes because I certainly know by now that a relationship never reaches ‘perfect’ status – perfect does not, and should not, exist.
To be perfect means to stagnate.
❤ This is a closing extract from my memoir, En Route: The best is yet to be. It is a deeply introspective view of my relationship with myself in respect to my relationship with those who influence my connection to life.
❤ It will be released in February 2022 which is a delay from my original release date of October 2021 - this is purely because we have gone ahead with our decision for a skychange. I can't call it a treechange or seachange because James and I are complete opposites in that regard, but skychange embraces us both.
❤ I'm curious to know if you would like to register your interest in being notified of the exact release date for my memoir?
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September 2, 2021
You're Just 1 Hour from Better Loving
There she is! Introducing my book baby, which, just by the way, hit the No.1 Best Seller list in it's category on launch day!
The category is One-Hour Relationships Short Reads! That's it - in just one hour you could be on your way to a whole new way of life.
Imagine how good that will be. You and your partner can be reading TONIGHT, together and start living your best lives as a couple madly, deeply in love.
Grab your chance HERE!
Wake Up Tomorrow Morning With a Clean Slate
https://unsplash.com/@matheusferreroHere's how my book, Creating Sparks that Last, has helped other couples just like you:
Don’t you just LOVE that this reader is so inspired to create new sparks, new memories and renewed connection, in her marriage? I do!
This next reader just blew me away with her enthusiasm for her husband to read the book:
You’re just an hour away from living your romantic dream, and at just $.99c, I’d say that’s real value.
Don’t delay: Grab it today.
Come back in an hour and let me know what you thought. I’m all ears!What would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
August 26, 2021
Meh to Amazing!
https://unsplash.com/@whynottogoforitIt seems improbable that a relationship can maintain it's passion through decades of wear and tear from life's ups and downs. But I'm here to tell you that it is possible.
Not easy.
But possible.
It's not the same passion as newly falling in love, as we've discussed before, but I can testify that it is even better than that dizzy feeling of heading into a relationship with uncertainty for the future. Because by now, I'm in the future of my relationship.
Three and a half decades later of being with the same partner has brought some sobering perspectives to our outlook. The comfort of knowing each other relatively well; knowing that your are loved; knowing how to love in return - these are the joys of longevity in a relationship.
It Just Keeps Getting BetterIt’s important to remember that nothing stays the same. Not even when you've been together seemingly forever.
We still have to work on maintaining respectful companionship for each other as we, ourselves, evolve with time.We have to remember to nurture our compassion for each other as we navigate our emotions through the trials of life and subsequent health hurdles. And compromise is never far from any successful relationship, weathering the storms of different opinions and desires, is ongoing.Take your relationship from meh to amazing with this short manifesto-style ebook about our game-changing date year. In it, you will read how my husband and I have upheld our respect for each other through three+ decades together.
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August 19, 2021
How Far Would You Go to Create Your Best Relationship?
https://unsplash.com/@heftibaThere are many reasons to stay home for a cozy date night in.TiredLockdownToo coldKidsCouldn’t be bothered.That last one is a real doozy! If you can’t be bothered to make an effort, you need to ask yourself why. But that’s a post for another day.
Date Night InThe beauty is that it can be as glamorous or as casual as you want it to be. I've made some suggestions below, but of course, imagination is your only limit.
https://unsplash.com/@joshstyleDance night - thanks to my happily married cousin, this has become a hit in our household. I've curated a carefully selected range of songs for a quiet night in: Date Night InLounge floor picnic - rugs, cushions, classical music; who says picnics are for the outdoors only!DIY Day - revamp a dull corner of your home, and your relationship with a bit of titillating. As seen in the bright yellow image above - if that's your thing!Board Game night or Escape Room game online TOGETHER of course. DISCLAIMER: I have not tried the games at this link: Free digital escape rooms But I have played both EXIT The Abandoned Cabin board game and Virtual Escape Room online. Loved them both!Read together. This comes as a recommendation from another triple-decade happily married couple. They share snippets of the books they're reading and they read the same book together. My date year book, Creating Sparks that Last is a book to share with your partner. It comes chock-full of date ideas and expands on relationship growth through each date experience. Available on preorder; live on 1 September 2021: Show me the goods!
https://unsplash.com/@heftibaWhat are some date experiences you've tried at home? I'm always looking for new ideas so click that comment button and let me know your best Date Night In.
If you're looking for an interesting read to share with your partner this weekend, have a look at Gretchen Rubin's Dating Tendencies list and see which one you each fit into. Guaranteed you'll see each other in a new light: The Three Dating TendenciesWhat would it feel like to have a happier relationship? Request your free PDF download in the comments.
August 13, 2021
Something Exciting is Happening
https://unsplash.com/@valentinantonucciIt's the sequel to my memoir, out later this year, but gives the backstory to our tumultuous young beginnings and into keeping the spark alive through three and a half decades together. It has the same title as the blog, Creating Sparks that Last by Elora Canne.
It's available for preorder today, at the link below.
Here's a Cheeky Joke to Make You SmileIt's an old joke that people tell: Women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place. - From Tonja Vallin in her article The Surprising Benefits of Holding Hands - Including Better Sex
Here's the full article if you're interested It's an informative look at the differences in the way males and females perceive connection.
In Other NewsHere on the blog, my subscription provider, Feedburner, is undergoing maintenance and there is a chance that my loyal readers will be lost to me. As noted in the image below, their notification states the distinct possibility of losing my blog family.
For that reason, I am requesting your permission to add my registered subscribers to my Mailerlite account. Please comment below, or privately in the menu bar, whether you agree or not - and if not, no hard feelings, we all need to look after ourselves as best we know how, so I understand completely.
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August 5, 2021
My Secret Weapon
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“We do not see the world as it is, we see it as we are.”Anaïs Nin
You are your own secret weapon in every relationship you encounter.
The deeper you know yourself, the happier your relationships will be.
Know you triggers.
Know your boundaries.
Know your deal breakers.
If you know those things intimately about yourself, you have the power to steer your choices in the direction of your happiness.
When you know yourself so well, you understand your own perspective more clearly. You understand why you are hurt by someone’s words or actions because it originates in your psyche. Your thoughts about that situation.I’m not discounting the fact that there are hurtful people in the world, I am exemplifying your strength of character to navigate your perspective inwards.
Understand that you can only be hurt if you believe the perspective of the other.
If you, or someone you know, is struggling with self-esteem or struggling in a relationship, please reach out for help. I’ve attached a worldwide link for anyone across the globe.Befrienders Worldwide
To learn more about my 35 year marriage success, join me here Elora Canne, on Instagram so we can chat there.
Or if you’d prefer, ask me any questions you have about relationship success, in the comments below.
I look forward to connecting with you.
Stay true and always be you ❤
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July 29, 2021
Show Yourself a Little Love
https://unsplash.com/@taiamint[The last in our Self-Love mini-series]
“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.” Diane Von Furstenberg
Last week our post was a little on the long side. I really didn’t want to leave anything out because I felt it was all so important for our wellbeing.
This week though, we have a 1 minute self-care video to watch. Enjoy the soothing music and simple self-care suggestions.
If you’d like to read last week’s post in snatches, here’s the link:
The Art of Restorative Self-Love
https://unsplash.com/@avasolHow do you know when you're starting to need a little extra self-care? For example, I get very sweary and I don't normally speak like that, so I know that it's time to pay attention to my stressors and find healthy ways to eliminate them.Do you have a self-care routine or ritual?
July 22, 2021
Can Your Relationship Survive Lockdown?
Yes, you have responsibilities and commitments and people who depend on you, BUT, you have to care for yourself first if you are to have anything left to give - Elora Canne
https://unsplash.com/@quincoetzeeI wrote the following article to help with my recovery, after an out-of-the-blue mental breakdown at work. So I know that the tiny steps I have outlined WORK. They will significantly impact your mental state positively and your outlook for the day ahead:
The Art of Restorative Self-Love
As a recovering Meltdown Survivor, this is what I’ve learnt.
No-one can love another, male or female, until you love yourself entirely. Not with the vanity of feeling better than anyone else and not by exerting power over another. Self-love involves being gentle with yourself in all interactions, even when you are gently letting go of a person who no longer embraces your desire to live calmly.
No human being has the capacity to love other beings wholly until self-love is mastered.
You cannot express yourself fully to empathise with others if you aren’t aware of your own understandings of your inner workings.
Love yourself well. Not in the adjective sense, but in the verb sense. In other words, love yourself into health – physically and emotionally. Never to the detriment of another, never selfishly; but with consideration for your surroundings and those within it.
Let’s start with the very first minutes of your day:
*you may have an alarm bleating at you
*you may have youngsters, pets or an amorous partner already crowding your space
*perhaps you have woken hours before you needed to and are forced to relinquish any hopes of falling back to sleep
All of these situations are salvageable.
Every single one of them.
Even those unique to you which I have not mentioned. But take a moment. Just 30 seconds, to show yourself some love, before anyone else: don’t worry, this is not a deep breathing, meditation program, although there is a place for that if you’re into it. Instead, this is a step-by-step practical guide to 30 seconds of conscious acknowledgement of you, yourself.
♥ don’t pick up any electronic devices
♥ DON’T
♥ if you have already, put them down, right now, in this very moment
♥ on your bedside table or floor, not on your lap or stomach or chest
https://unsplash.com/@heftibaLet’s begin:
♥ rub your thumbnails with your index finger. Notice any ridges on your nails; the length of your nails; feel the cuticle where nail meets nail bed. What shape does it form? Are they rough, smooth, sticking up at the edges? Feel the pleasant tickling sensation on your nails and the skin of your index fingers. How soothing does that feel?
There! You’ve just given yourself 30 seconds of total mindful love. Staying in the moment, focusing ALL your attention on yourself.
If you have a small horde clambering over you, you can still show yourself some tender loving:
♥ massage inside the top of your mouth with your tongue. Never mind the morning breath you might be reeling from, this will actually help the health of your mouth and your mind. Run the tip of your tongue along the centre of your palate, feeling the line dividing the two halves; left and right. Trace the edges of your teeth with your tongue as they surround your mouth. Back to your palate; notice the contrast between soft skin and hard enamel of your teeth.
Congratulations! Once again you’ve afforded yourself a quick 30 second respite before the busy day carries you away.
If for whatever reason your day has already carried you away, fear not, there are many inconspicuous areas of your body where you can self-settle (and by inconspicuous, I don’t mean you can get frisky, alright!). Your wrists are another comforting spot to massage, as is the space behind your ears. I find a gentle massage up behind my ears particularly calming. I mention inconspicuous because if you really truly can’t spare 30 seconds before you set foot out of bed, then on the loo, in the shower, on your commute or at your workplace, are highly beneficial as well.
♥ lean your elbows on your desk, table or just rest your jaw line in your hands as you caress the soothing space behind your ears, no-one will notice, but you will benefit enormously. Taking just 30 seconds to reset your thoughts and bring your attention to your own comfort, will set you on the path to a more vibrant outlook for the moment you are encountering
♥ likewise, with your wrists; rub them softly no matter what public space you are in, this is perfectly socially acceptable behaviour. The feel of smooth skin under your fingertips works wonders in reminding you of the life force within you to cope with any situation.
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https://unsplash.com/@brigittetohmOnce your day has begun, your self-love doesn’t stop:
If you’re a coffee in the morning kind of person, as am I, by all means go ahead and have your cuppa. Now I am no nutritionist so if you’re banned or simply don’t drink coffee, please don’t start now.
Mmm. Finished? Good.
♥ Now chase it down with a tall glass of water
Remember how I said ‘love yourself well’? Water is your well of health.
If you’re a fitness kind of person, hats off to you and off you go to do your thing. If you’re not, don’t worry I am not here to convert you. Although my claim to fame is one 90km grueling ultra marathon, I am actually not a fitness fanatic. I do, however, like to keep limber.
Don’t Care?
Excellent!
♥ give your shoulders 5 shrugs of disdain
Still don’t care?
Fantastic!
♥ wiggle your hands and wrists in childlike retribution
Starting to smile?
Brilliant!
♥ keeping both feet firmly on the ground, lift the heel of one foot at a time, alternating 5 times each
As before, I am not a personal trainer so this is by no means a fitness program. All you’re aiming to do here is give your circulation a little whirl to get the blood flow going, whilst taking your mind off the gargantuan tasks of the day ahead of you. Every 30 seconds of self-love you dedicate to yourself is another 30 seconds towards a brighter minute, hour, day, year, life!
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Your morning routine should be well underway by now, so at this point you need to be reminding yourself to focus. To be aware of your output. Is it meaningful? Is it self-deprecating? Or worse, narcissistic?
Let’s take stock:♥ what did you achieve in your first hour of work or your day? Yes home bodies, I’m talking to you too.
Congratulate yourself on even the smallest achievement, if you can’t think of anything bigger.
Sent an email? ✅
Answered a call? ✅
Completed your presentation/load of washing/cup of coffee? ✅
If those tasks are still waiting for completion, all is not lost. You simply require 30 seconds of deep self-love in whichever way you choose.
https://unsplash.com/@brookecagleLet’s have a second look:
♥ what obstacles have you overcome by mid-morning?
Cranky boss/customer/child? Kudo’s to you!
Deadlines/deliveries/rush hour? You made it!
And if you didn’t, the Earth did not collapse into itself, did it now? The hour is now, you can still overcome these obstacles. Just take 30 seconds to placate yourself with a handy massage and regroup.
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By now you could be reaching for morning tea or lunch. Does that include a cigarette? STOP. Are you taking steps towards loving yourself well?
♥ reach for a soothing glass of water instead of that rasping death-stick
♥ eat a healthy meal – include something green – no, not skittles or choc-mint slab!
♥ chase it down with a life-giving glass of water. If you already drink 2L of water daily – you are a Superstar.
For now, back to the busy-ness of your day. Sometimes giving back can be a form of self-love too. When we make someone feel good about themselves, it feels like a pat on the back for us too.
♥ who have you mentored by early afternoon? Maybe yourself, your children or someone vulnerable needing guidance?
♥ have you assisted anyone, or yourself, to accomplish a difficult talk? If it’s yourself you’re trying to assist – never be afraid of asking for help. Ever! You hear me? We learn by asking questions, so go on, show yourself some kindness and ask that big ass scary question.
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Your afternoon might be winding down or perhaps you’ve got back to back meetings. Maybe you’re hustling a sales pitch. Whatever it is that you’re in the midst of...
WAIT
https://unsplash.com/@jonecohenHave you checked in with yourself? If you’re in a public space, simply take a few uplifting breaths – don’t worry, not a meditative moment – bring your awareness back to your surroundings. Listen to the noises around you. Birds? Cars? Air-conditioner? Chatter? Tinnitus? Yup that’s what I hear when the silence engulfs my senses. Sensory overload can trigger a small dose of anxiety. Let’s use our senses to engage our clarity and drown out the anxiety.
♥ if you’re feeling frazzled, flick your fingers on one hand, or both hands if you can. Place your thumb over each fingernail one by one, flick away from your thumb one finger at a time. Spring each finger away from your thumb. Notice your skin. Is it dry? Sweaty? Are your fingertips freezing?
♥ repeat as many times as needed until you feel restful. Count each time you flick a finger forwards:
1, 2, 3, 4
Relax.
Calm.
Begin anew.
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What active movements have you had in the past short while? I’m not talking bowel movements here, tmi. If not, can you stand up where you are? If not, seated is fine too.
♥ hands on hips gently sway your shoulders back and forth. Feel the movement of your hips under your hands. Notice the gentle rise and fall of each hip as you sway. Bring your attention to your body.
♥ keeping both feet planted on the ground, lift your toes alternating each foot, in sync with your shoulder swaying.
If that’s too much, just do each movement separately.
Another self-love offering under your belt.
♥ smile – smiling has been proven to improve one’s positive outlook.
If you have nothing to smile about, if your day is simply too stressful to manufacture a laugh, or perhaps you’re going through a trying time, try to recall a pleasant memory. A picnic, movie, song. Even a moment of laughing at yourself doing something silly will improve your positivity – if your colleagues or fellow passengers see you smiling, that’s good too because it’s very contagious. Even momentary lightness can create a shift in your mood or frame of mind. If you have the opportunity to cheer someone else up with a Dad or Nan joke, you’re doubling the reward for yourself and for them. Shared laughter is a sure-fire elixir to self-care.
So go on, conjure up a smile – it’s good for you and it's calorie free!
https://unsplash.com/@eyeforebonyAs your day starts to wind down, let’s reflect on strategies you can implement to ease into the rest of the week more pleasurably.
♥ do you have a system to help you with your routine? Work in/work out station? Port allocations for mail, loose change, keys? Chores or delegated tasks others can share to create smoother transitions for all involved?
♥ plan for the following day before you wrap-up this day. Giving yourself clarity is a self-care tactic that takes away uncertainty. Lock in meetings or appointments to create fluid momentum and greater success.
♥ once you’re back home or settled in for the evening, remember to plate up a nutritious meal. Nutrients not only feed our physical body, but our mind as well. Healthy food equals healthy attitude.
♥ chase it down with a tall glass of purifying water
♥ as you prepare for sleep, switch off electronic devices, read a book – a real one whose pages you can actually feel in your hands, magazine or try journaling if you’re so inclined.
♥ if your sleeping partner will indulge you – no no don’t get excited – move your feet from side to side simultaneously like windscreen wipers, then toes together then heels together. Feel the sheets under you heels. Are they cold? Soft? Noisy? What does the material on your toes feel like? Smooth? Silky?
That’s another 30 seconds of mindful indulgence under wraps.
♥ curl up or stretch out into your favourite sleeping position. Feel your head heavy on your pillow.
♥It is well with your soul♥
Did you try any of these strategies? Which ones worked best for you?
How do you practice self-soothing?
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