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Why Write?

I believe everyone will benefit from writing. No matter if you publish your writings or not.

Speaking is wonderful and it has its own purpose. But there is something magical about writing that can go deep down into a soul.

Writing allows you to know who you are. More like understand yourself, cause you can never fully know yourself. Absolute knowingness means endness.

Get a journal and fill the pages. Write without thinking. Put whatever comes up on the pages and know that it’s leaving your mind-body and soul. Writing is a way of letting go of the traumas, blockages, ideas, thoughts that you didn’t even know existed in you.

Writing is a form of letting go of the letting go.

Writing is your soul’s way to communicate. It is your way to open the door for your soul. To let your true self introduce itself.

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Don’t Do What You Want

“What do I want?” is a question I have been asking to myself daily.

But you know what? It got tricky, because sometimes what I think I want isn’t the best thing for me.

So here’s the better question;

“What do I need?”

This morning my old subconscious programming, “old tapes” started to play. I didn’t want to go through my morning routine and do my workout.

When I asked myself if I want to do my workout the answer was “No” and seemed so real.

Then I asked myself better question “What do I need?”

The answer was obvious. I needed to do that workout because I would have felt so much better afterward. And so it happened.

But if the same thing happened on my period my need would have been to relax and lay down.

It’s all about listening to ourselves and our bodies and also being able to differentiate our wants from needs.

“Wants” can get tricky but “Needs” don’t lie.

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In Order to Heal and transform yourself, you need to Ask the Right Questions

Our mind is like a computer and the thoughts we think are the orders we give to our brain.

When you want to change and transform your life you need to ask the right questions, rather than wondering why your life is the way it is.

If you want to become more positive write down or ask out loud “how can I be more positive?”

Say out loud “I invite positivity into my being”.

And watch yourself slowly you will start to attract people, books youtube videos, and tips that will help you achieve your desired goal.

If you want to lose some weight don’t just keep saying so. Ask yourself “How can I improve my diet? How can I start a healthier lifestyle? How can I start moving and exercising?”

Say out loud as often as possible “I’m making better choices in my life, I’m making healthier choices in my life. My weight comes off easily, quickly, and smoothly as I start to consistently feed my mind-body, and soul with healthier food, information, and exercises.”

When you want the change focus on the solution not on the problem.

Whatever you focus on you will get more of it.

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The new Normal. How to have High Energy all day long

It is not normal to be drained at the end of the day.

Your energy get’s drained because you do the things you don’t enjoy.

Observe kids, they get more and more energy as the day goes by. That’s normal. That’s the way we should be.

Take a pen and paper and make 2 lists:

10 things that boost my energy (write down all the things you enjoy doing/creating)10 things that drain my energy (write down all the things that you dislike/dread doing)

Here we go. You have your magical list.

Now go and do more of the things that boost your energy and eliminate as many things from the second list as possible.

Before you start lying that you “have” to do something that you hate doing I will tell you this. There is nothing you HAVE to do. Everything you are doing you choose to do so. Even if you hate your job, but it’s the only way (from your perception) to feed your kids, you are still choosing to do so, because you care about your kids.

Don’t say that you have to do something, it takes your power away from you.

Say “I choose to” or “I get to ” so you get your power back.

When your power is in your hands you become in charge of your life. So you get to change and transform your life.

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How to Get More From Life

There is a saying in my country; Whatever you give is yours, whatever not is lost.

But is it a truth though?

Once upon a time, I thought that giving was the key to life. But after becoming drained and empty from all the giving I had a realization.

Balancing giving and receiving is the key to life. We not only have to give but be open and receptive to receiving.

You get a breath you give a breath. You inhale and exhale. Everything in this universe is a perfect balance of giving and receiving.

We are co-dependent relational beings. We aren’t self-sufficient. We need to receive as much love and connection as we give. We need to receive back what we give to others, in all sorts of different ways.

“Whatever you give is yours” when you are open for receiving the energy back.

It is like a boomerang.

You get what you give.

And if you give enough of value, you will get it back, maybe even multiplied. 

It doesn’t mean you give $20 and you get $20 back. It’s about energy. You get back the same energy as you give and share.

The universe loves all the people equally but cherishes those people the most who try to match their frequency to the universe’s energetical frequency. 

Try to mimic life and try to work how life works.

Because you are life.

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How To Fill Up Your Energy Tank

There are people who naturally preserve their energy. They nor take or give, they stay contained.

But then there are people like me who give and take. And if this energy exchange is not done equally, my peace and energy tank becomes out of balance. 

I used to give my energy. I used to give it to everyone. 

Then I got drained and depressed.

See, when you give energy, especially to the people who aren’t able to cherish it, you get drained.

Instead what you can do is to share your energy. 

I think one of the most important steps to do is to evaluate the people in your life, their role, and most importantly the effect they have on your, your well-being, your energy, and your whole life.

Sigmund Freud said; Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not surrounded by idiots.

Some people just drain others by their presence, others complain because they want to be seen as a victim. Find your people. People who will appreciate your time, words, and energy and share those with them. 

My life drastically changed when I started to practice OQP as Les Brown says. It means to have Only Quality People in your life. I let go of every person that was having a negative influence on me and was draining my life force, including my husband’s family.

Before I tell you how I let those people go from my life, I want to tell you something immensely important. Make sure you aren’t being the negative person yourself, make sure you don’t drain other’s energy, make sure you yourself bring positive change and impact to others. Make sure you are being the best version of yourself with your surroundings. And if you are, if you work on being the best you can be with your friends, family members, etc then you have the right to surround yourself with Only Quality People. 

And when I say I let them go, I mean I literally stopped seeing and communicating with the people that scattered my energy field. I removed every one of them from my social media and I let them go from my mind. I’m very straight forward so I told those people what I was doing and why I was doing it. If it isn’t your style just do it. You don’t owe an explanation to anyone. The majority of the people aren’t confrontational anyways, so no one will ask you any questions. And if you know that someone is confrontational just find a way to let them know that you are prioritizing your happiness and well-being, no need to defend yourself just let them know.

If you don’t take any lesson from this blog. remember this;

Until you become a quality person yourself, you can’t attract quality people. You attract what you are. 

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The Key to Happiness

Our lives have become routine.

Every day we wake up tired, already distracted, unsatisfied with life. 

Even going out and having fun looks like the same.

We have everything we need. Sure not everything we want.

For most of us, privileged people, all our needs are satisfied; Food, shelter, human touch…

We are still unhappy. 

But Why?

We simply choose to focus on what’s not working, rather than what’s actually working in our life.

When you focus on what’s working you become grateful for your life, you feel the gratitude.

When you are grateful for what you have your happiness level raises. When you become happier you vibrate on a higher frequency. When your energy frequency raises you just become an energetical match for better things to come.

You get what you are.

Whatever you focus on you get more of it.

When you are grateful for what you have you get more things to be grateful for.

Some of the happiest people I observed choose to focus on what they can change, on what they have control over, and choose to focus on what’s working in their lives. They do get hurt, they do feel the pain, but they transform all the pain into happiness.

They transform pain into happiness through gratitude. 

Live with the attitude of gratitude.

For me to have the attitude of gratitude means to wake up every day knowing that all things could go “wrong”, but still to consciously choose to focus on what goes well, what you have control over, what you like in your surroundings, what you love about your life, and what works.

I believe being unhappy is the easiest thing you can do. I believe one of the strongest people, are people who choose to be happy.

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There Is no Perfect Place To Be

Once I lived in a van and traveled around the Island. That means staying on different campsites. Every campsite I would go to was almost perfect. There was this one thing everywhere, that didn’t let that place be perfect, so it stayed almost perfect.

One campsite had mosquitos, another a lot of flies, one of them didn’t have showers, another was very windy. And the list can go on and on. 

We, humans, are the masters of finding what doesn’t work for us. Imagine if we were that good at searching and focusing on what’s working in our lives.

At that point I was already aware of human nature, so I was observing myself and I was aware of my thinking. I would even joke before exploring a new place to stay “Let’s see what is that one thing that will annoy me here”. 

When someone goes on a beautiful vacation and they come back, people ask them how it was and the answer is usually “Oh it was amazing, this and that” and here it goes we hear the glorious word “BUT”. “But the hotel didn’t have a pool, or kids couldn’t adjust to a time change or the birds were too noisy”. 

It is not natural for us human beings to be delighted and to say that it was perfect, because perfection doesn’t exist.

No one, including me and you, is fully satisfied with their lives and experiences. 

We have this expectation that we buy a house, rent it or go to a new place to explore and everything will go as planned. That all will be perfect and easy.

The majority of people want to run away from their city and to go explore all those “beautiful places” when they haven’t even explored their own town or city. People complain that they can’t afford to travel when if they were to drive few blocks they might stumble upon a place or a park that looks like heaven, a beautiful building they never noticed was there, a gallery, cafe, or a yoga place. 

There really isn’t a perfect place unless you let that place be perfect.

When you focus on what’s working, what you like, what you enjoy, what went as planned, what brought you the joy you will automatically have a great experience, everywhere you go.

There is always something that works, goes according to our plans something that we enjoy. Shift your focus on that, focus on what you like and you will attract more things you can enjoy. Rather if you focus on what’s not working, you will manifest more things to be anxious about.

Energy flows where focus goes.

I believe that our superpower as humans is our ability to shift our focus as we want to. Whatever we focus on will determine how we would feel and live. So whenever you can please focus on what’s working in your life rather than what’s not.

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How To Avoid Forgetting and How To Actually Remember

How many times have you said to yourself “I don’t want to forget/do/say/bring/eat something” and you have still forgotten? I’m pretty sure many times.

You have said, “I don’t want to eat pizza anymore, I don’t want to meet this person anymore, I don’t want to smoke, curse… etc.”

So why is it happening that even though you repeat it many times you still forget it? 

Here’s the reason; 

We give our brain the wrong order. Our subconscious mind can’t process the word “don’t”. When we think about something our mind’s job is to create pictures in our head about whatever we think. Then comes feelings and emotions. Emotion is also a reaction to a thought.

Let Play a Game and Let Me Ask You Something

Don’t think about the first time you kissed a girl/boy, don’t think about the most delicious meal you have ever eaten, don’t think about the most beautiful place you have ever been, don’t think about the recent rejection you got from the person you love.

SEE? Even though I told you not to think about all those things your mind still made images in your head about all of it.

Our minds can’t create a picture around the word “don’t”.

Now that you see why it isn’t working let’s change it with what’s actually working.

If I want to remember about an important task I need to complete this is what I ask my mind “Please remind me to call my friend tomorrow at 3 pm” “I want to remember to bring the snacks for my son”, “I want to wake up at 6 am tomorrow so please wake me up at 6 am tomorrow morning”.

This way my mind has a clear image of what it should do. The body is a servant of the mind and the mind should be a servant of us. We have control over our minds we just need to give it the exact, clear, and right orders.

The most common mistake around this topic we make with our kids;

“Don’t paint on the couch, don’t look at that person, don’t talk to strangers, don’t have unprotected sex, don’t eat with your hands, don’t sit on the ground, don’t play with the food and etc.”

This is how we should say those things so it actually works; We have to tell them what they should do instead of what not to do

“please paint on the paper, Can you please look at me or at this thing instead of looking at that person? Talk only to the people that you know, please have protected sex, eat with your fork please, sit on the couch it is warmer, food goes into your mouth and then into your belly and etc.” 

It not only works for kids but for everyone for you, for your spouse, for your employees, family members, friends.

Instead of telling yourself and your surroundings what not to do, Start to tell yourself what you actually need/want to do.

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Your Own Thoughts Can Kill You

I haven’t gotten cold or sick for the last 1 year and a half.

 If I would have gotten a soar throat I would have started cleaning and clearing myself energetically and the next day I would have felt perfectly healthy. 

Before when my son or his dad would have gotten cold I was always getting it from them. One day I literally said Enough, no more. I don’t have to be sick when they are sick. And that was the day I stopped getting sick. Quite a few times they had a cold and I was feeling wonderful, no matter how much my son coughed or sneezed into my face. (Because he’s a 3-year-old and all they want is to be hugged when they don’t feel well)

Up until recently, I haven’t had a long term health imbalance. And the only thing that has changed was my thinking.

My son had a cold. And my thinking wasn’t as positive as usual. I had a big awakening (yet again) so I was feeling very down, which is usual at that time. When you become aware of your life patterns, habits, and where they come from, when your whole childhood makes sense to you and you can finally fully connect it to your adulthood and to your adult choices, the first reaction is to fall mentally and physically. At that time a person’s whole perception dies and new is born. It’s a death and a reborn in a way.

When he got cold, I was lying next to him as he was falling asleep and he coughed in my face I was already so discouraged from going through my death and reborn cycle that I felt fear. It wasn’t like a strong belief of There is no way I’m getting anything, it became I shouldn’t breathe his cough so I don’t get it. And boom that was it, I got it. I willingly opened the door for the “disease”, I let fear inside of me so it brought all the “fun stuff” with him. 

Even when I got it, I gave up. I didn’t have the mental strength to start clearing and cleaning all the blockages from my energy centers, to stay present with it. So I willingly stayed in that unhealthy physical state for days.

Our beliefs shape our lives. What I believe will always become true to me and what you believe will become true to you. So make sure your beliefs are up to date.

Beliefs are also moldable and removable. 

The only thing you need to change the belief is 1. The awareness 2. The willingness to change and 3. Actually taking necessary steps for changing and transforming them. There also is a 4th step that is often overlooked but is equally important as the other three. 4. Have in mind that no matter how hard you try there might be a moment where you fall and do not let that moment define the whole experience and do not let that moment of weakness be the final one. Let yourself be enough and stand up whenever you find the strength to do so. Do not let your story end there you might start a completely different chapter, your whole road might change but at least you aren’t giving up on yourself and you aren’t going to stay static. 

Life always moves forward and if you choose to stay static then you aren’t moving along your life.

Everything in your life is determined by your beliefs and faith. While faith is a deep knowing in the body it’s also a belief in the mind, the strongest one in my opinion.

If you want to transform your life, start by transforming your beliefs.

People die because they give up on their lives. People get diseases because they think they are vulnerable to them. Healthy People aren’t able to have children because of some belief that was formed at some point in their lives. There are people who get cancer and say No way, I’m not going to die so they live when others accept the reality of having cancer so they die.

Here is one way you can work on improving your beliefs.

Every limiting belief was created in you as a negative affirmation. It was told to you by your surroundings over and over until it becomes the belief for you. On the other hand, positive affirmations tend to create beliefs that bring value to our lives. But the thing is that we hear way fewer positive affirmations than negative ones.

Carve out at least 30 min to an hour for yourself and for you to be able to have a more happy fulfilling life:

Take a paper and a pen: Write down all the beliefs that you have about money, health, relationships, career, life, love, family, faith. You can do it all together or choose a specific topic and write about it first before you move onto another. When you write everything down know this; that paper holds the key for your life. Now you can see what drives you and your life exactly. And why you are who you are and why you are wherever you are.

Read each belief out loud and remember where it came from. Question every single belief that you wrote down and ask yourself a question every time you read a new one Is this true to me and why yes or why no. Now ask yourself to replace every outdated limiting belief with the new one. And from the outdated belief system create a new system that is up to date. You can choose to do it step by step, you can do it at the same time. The only thing I would suggest is to first write down all the beliefs together so you can see them clearly. Next, you can question and replace them at the same time or do it in 2 steps. The choice is all yours.

The last step and one of the most important ones is to make sure to internalize the updated belief system and let go of the old one.

You can internalize the new belief system by affirming it every day. By repeating affirmations you can reprogram your mind. Say it out loud every single day, write it every single day. Not 2 and 3 times but as many times as possible. Reprogramming your mind needs a consistent repetition of new beliefs and the way to that is an affirmation.

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