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The Relationship in Your Head

In my last post, I wrote about strategies to build meaningful relationships. I want to continue this theme today by sharing a way for you to improve your relationships by taking responsibility for the relationship in your head.

Be Proactive

But first I want to say that responsibility means you’re proactive. You’re not waiting for others to be a certain way or even give you what you want. You don’t get caught up in judging, keeping score, or paying attention to what others are doing or not doing...

Five Strategies to Build Meaningful Relationships

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There’s a lot of evidence that positive relationships are the most important factor in our happiness and well-being. And I want to suggest that building meaningful relationships requires intentionality on our part. They don’t happen by magic. Nor do they happen by waiting for others to take the initiative. Happy people take responsibility for their relationships. So, in this post I want to talk about five strategies for building meaningful relationships wi...

Winter Sale-Incredible Prices!

Hi my friend,

I wanted to reach out to you and offer you the lowest prices on all of my online courses. Just scroll down and click on a subject that interests you. (You don’t even have to start the course right away. You own it for a lifetime and can come back to it at your convenience.)

By the way, these are incredible prices. Most online video courses that are the length and quality sell for $200.00 to $400.00. But today through February 5th at 9:00 p.m. PDT, you can get them for a fraction o...

How Would You Rate Your Social Connections?

If you’ve been following me for long, you know that I write about the ABCs of happiness—appreciating, becoming and connecting. From my study of the topic of happiness for many years now, I’ve reduced happiness to these three themes. Beginning today, I want to share some thoughts and also research about the third part of the ABCs-connecting as well as invite you to consider and rate your social connections.

Science teaches that, hands down, the happiest people have the best social relationships....

My Ideal Self, 10 Years in the Future

This is the time of year when many of us set goals. In fact, I spend the first few days of the new year thinking through my personal and professional goals. It was a useful exercise and I’ve come away with clarity and enthusiasm for this upcoming year.

In general, our goals have to do with what we want to do and accomplish. But I want to suggest that another type of visioning has to do with who we are becoming.

Who am I becoming as I journey through this life?What inner qualities of being do ...

Tips to Feel More Peace During the Holidays

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We look forward to this season as “the most wonderful time of the year” and yet we may privately dread the disruption of our normal routines as well as the heightened demands and expectations (shopping, cleaning, decorating, cooking, gathering, entertaining) inherent in the holiday season.

Isn’t it ironic that a holiday rooted in religious traditions of peace and goodwill (for billions of people worldwide) should beget such unwelcome guests as anxiety, dis...

How to Give Feedback to Poor Performing People

 

I’m excited to announce that my course entitled “How to Give Feedback to Poor Performing, Difficult People” has just been added to the Udemy for Business collection.

This matters because of the exclusive nature of the Udemy for Business content (~5% of all courses published on Udemy).

What the Course is About

My experience is that many leaders, managers, and supervisors do a poor job of giving feedback or confronting problem performance or behavior. Doing so is challenging and it often seems ...

New Course – Thinking Like a CEO

Thinking Like a CEO

I want to let you know I that just launched a new course entitled “Thinking Like a CEO.” The course is for any of you who lead others or even work for a company or organization (including volunteer organization) and want to better understand and even speak about your organization in a smarter, more enlightened way. The course is designed around the “Transformation Model,” which my business partner, Preston Pond, and I developed a number of years ago to help people assess and ...

Giving Thanks for the Whole of Life

Son and grand daughter at a cross-country race

The Thanksgiving holiday, which we’re celebrating in the US this week, has always been a favorite of mine. Not only is it less commercialized than other holidays, but it invites peaceful reflection and giving thanks for the good things in our lives.

We often offer our thanks around a dinner table with family and friends. It may sound like, “I’m thankful for this… or I’m thankful for that…” Sometimes my expressions are pretty surface. Sometimes I try...

Finding Meaning in Goal-Setting

If you go back a few months, you know that I’ve been talking about the B part of the ABCs of happiness—Becoming. I’ve shared a number of strategies for becoming that include spending time in nature, getting exercise and building fun and recreation into your life. We’ve looked at quieting yourself through different practices of breathing, mindfulness, savoring and meditation. And in my last post, I talked about finding meaning by defining your purpose. People who have a sense of purpose are much...