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Four Styles of Communication in Marriage

I’ve written a lot of articles, in the last several months, about how to create a happy and loving marriage or relationship with your life partner. A common theme throughout has been the importance of doing things, intentionally and proactively, to foster a climate of positive rather than negative sentiment. Sure, there will always be conflict and hard times. But the bottom line is that marriages thrive as couples nurture mutual respect and friendship.

 The Role of Communication

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Communication in Marriage-Growth into Mature Love

I’ve written a lot of articles, in the last several months, about how to create a happy and loving marriage or relationship with your life partner. A common theme throughout has been the importance of doing things, intentionally and proactively, to foster a climate of positive rather than negative sentiment. Sure, there will always be conflict and hard times. But the bottom line is that marriages thrive as couples nurture mutual respect and friendship.

 The Role of Communication

Now I want to t...

A New Year, A New Kind of Resolution

Here we are at the start of 2022—a new year, a new beginning, a new kind of resolution.

Our brains like new starts. A 2014 study from the Wharton business school called it “the fresh start effect.” They defined this as a landmark moment in which we take an accounting of ourselves. We relegate imperfections to the past, take a big picture view of our lives, and come up with new, aspirational behaviors.

The new year is one such landmark moment (as may be the start of a new day, week, month, and s...

Getting the Top Online Psychological Counseling for Your Sour Relationship

Is your relationship sour with your spouse? Do not feel dejected! Prepare yourself for online psychological counseling. It will remove all the bitterness between you and your spouse, and you will be able to bring happiness once again to your life.

What is an Online Psychological Counseling? And How Does It Help You?When you are experiencing problems either alone or with your spouse, you cannot resolve them on your own. Nor any ordinary person can resolve it. You need to seek the counseling of...

Getting Along with Family and Bringing More Joy to the Holidays

In just a few days we’ll be celebrating one of my favorite holidays—Thanksgiving. I love the holiday for two primary reasons.

First, it’s a day to pause and give thanks for the bounty and abundance of our lives. We know from science that people who make gratitude a part of their everyday lives are happier, sense more control, feel greater self-acceptance, and are better able to cope with life’s difficulties. As a matter of fact, a thankful heart is more highly linked with mental health and well...

Black Friday Comes Early

Hi my friend,

In anticipation of Black Friday, I’m offering you an opportunity to buy any of my online courses at the lowest price possible until Sunday morning, November 21st at 9:00 a.m. PST.

Just click on a link and you’ll automatically get the course at the discounted price, an incredible deal for the hours of content you get.

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Creating a Happy Marria...

Sexuality and Romance

In past blog posts, I’ve talked about a lot of different dimensions of a successful relationship. I now want to talk about sexuality and romance, another critical aspect of marriage.

Although we have many close relationships with family members and friends in which we support one another, share our thoughts and feelings, and have fun together, sexual interactions, in a healthy relationship, are reserved for our marriage partner. Sex sets this relationship apart and makes it unique and more spec...

How to Increase Play and Recreation in Marriage

A big strategy that gets at the heart of building positive feelings and friendship in your relationship with your partner is play and recreation. By this I mean doing activities that are fun and which you can do together.

Number One Factor in Marital Happiness

Marriage researchers at the University of Denver did a search for happy couples to include in a study of marriage. After identifying these couples, the researchers called them “super marriages” and asked them to share their secrets of suc...

The Breathing Room—a Way to Practice Mindfulness at Home

Below is a passage from a book of one of my favorite authors, Thich Nhat Hanh. It’s a powerful way to practice mindfulness at home, within your marriage and family relationships.

The Breathing Room

We have a room for everything—eating, sleeping, watching TV—but we have no room for mindfulness.

I recommend that we set up a small room in our homes and call it a breathing room where we can be alone and practice just breathing and smiling, at least in difficult moments. (If you don’t have a room, t...

The Little Things That Make a Big Difference-Caring Days

Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash

In my last article I talked about how we respond to one another’s bids. Do we turn toward, away, or against? As we learn to turn towards our partners, we’re putting deposits into their love accounts. Closely related is an idea called “Caring Days” which is a way to build friendship by restoring feelings of love and goodwill in your relationship.

The concept was originally developed by a psychologist by the name of Richard Stuart in his book Helping Couples Chang...